This conversation is especially meaningful to me because learning how to face the unknown without fear was one of the reasons I created this podcast in the first place. During my cancer journey and other difficult seasons of life, I realized that discomfort with an end date feels manageable, but suffering without a timeline can shake our faith, our emotions, and even our physical well being.

In this episode, I explore why uncertainty creates anxiety from both a spiritual and scientific perspective. I share how our brains respond to unpredictability, why waiting feels so heavy, and how God meets us in seasons where answers do not come quickly.

I reflect on powerful parallels between childbirth and chemotherapy, two experiences that teach us what it means to endure pain without knowing when relief will come. Through both personal testimony and biblical truth, I discuss how God designs us to endure more than we think we can and how He often softens our memories of suffering while strengthening our faith through it.

We also look at biblical stories of waiting without timelines, including Joseph’s years in prison, the Israelites wandering in the wilderness, and the woman who waited twelve years for healing. These stories remind us that God is always working behind the scenes, even when nothing appears to be changing.

I also share research on resilience and mental endurance, showing how meaning, faith, and focusing on daily faithfulness help us navigate uncertainty. Finally, I offer practical tools you can begin using today to calm fear, anchor your heart in truth, and trust God one step at a time instead of trying to carry the entire future.

If you are in a season where you keep asking God how long, this episode is an encouragement that your waiting is not wasted. God is present in the unknown, and your story is still moving forward even when you cannot see the ending yet.

In This Episode We Discuss

Why uncertainty often feels harder than pain itself

How the brain responds to unpredictable suffering

What childbirth teaches us about endurance and hope

My personal experience navigating chemotherapy and fear of the unknown

Biblical examples of waiting seasons without clear timelines

What God may be doing during seasons of waiting

Research backed insights on resilience and faith

Practical ways to handle fear when you cannot see the finish line

Scripture References

Psalm 13:1

Isaiah 66:9

2 Corinthians 4:17

Genesis 50:20

Luke 8:48

Matthew 6:34

Romans 8:28

Key Encouragement

You may not know when relief is coming, but God always knows the ending. Faith is not trusting a timeline. Faith is trusting the One who holds it.

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Stephanie opens her heart about the pain of missing her child, the daily surrender required to trust God in unanswered prayers, and how she continues to faithfully pray for restoration and reunion. Holding tightly to the biblical story of the prodigal son, she chooses hope over despair, believing that God’s timing and promises are still at work, even in seasons that feel unbearably long.

While waiting, Stephanie discovered an unexpected place of healing: baking.

What began as a therapeutic outlet became a sacred space where grief met creativity. Inspired by memories of watching her own mother bake, Stephanie found comfort in creating desserts that bless others. That small act of obedience and healing has now grown into a business, For The Love of Sweets, where she shares both her gifts and her story through something sweet.

This episode is a powerful reminder that:

1. God is present in the waiting.
2. Prayer is never wasted.
3. Purpose can grow even in pain.
4. Healing sometimes begins with simply using the gifts God placed in our hands.

If you are trusting God for restoration, reconciliation, or breakthrough in a difficult season, this conversation will encourage your heart to keep believing.

In This Episode We Talk About:

1. Navigating the heartbreak of separation from a child
2. Trusting God’s promises when prayers feel unanswered
3. The hope found in the prodigal son story
4. Finding therapy and healing through creativity
5. Turning pain into purpose and passion into business
6. Waiting faithfully while trusting God’s timing

Scripture Encouragement

Luke 15:20 — “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him…”

A reminder that God sees, God waits, and God restores.

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1. Share it with a friend who needs hope in a waiting season
2. Subscribe to Thrive Through the Fire
3. Leave a review to help others find faith-filled encouragement

When I was first diagnosed, I assumed I would lose weight during chemotherapy. I think a lot of people believe that’s what happens. You picture constant nausea and no appetite. But my oncologist surprised me when he said most people actually gain weight during chemo. Between steroids, anti-nausea medications, water retention, inflammation, and reduced activity, weight gain is common. Research even shows many women gain between 5–15 pounds during treatment.

I experienced that firsthand. In the beginning, I looked swollen and inflamed. My face was round from steroids. My body held fluid. I didn’t recognize myself. And if you’re walking through that right now, I want you to know that it does not mean you are failing. It does not mean you are unhealthy. It means your body is under stress and fighting hard.

Early in my diagnosis, I chose to pursue integrative support alongside conventional treatment. I hired a naturopath to help guide me nutritionally. Not instead of chemo. Not instead of my oncologist. But in addition to it.

She gave me clear food and drink guidelines aimed at reducing inflammation and supporting detox pathways. Some of the foods I focused on included:

1. Dark leafy greens like spinach, kale, and arugula
2. Cruciferous vegetables such as broccoli, cauliflower, and Brussels sprouts
3. Berries, especially blueberries and raspberries
4. Organic lean proteins like wild-caught fish and pasture-raised chicken
5. Grass-fed beef
6. Garlic and onions
7. Turmeric with black pepper
8. Ginger
9. Flax seeds and chia seeds
10. Avocado and olive oil

For drinks, I prioritized:

1. Filtered water
2. Warm lemon water in the morning
3. Green tea
4. Herbal teas like ginger and dandelion root
5. Fresh vegetable juices that were mostly greens

I reduced or avoided refined sugar, processed foods, artificial dyes, excess dairy, seed oils, and alcohol.

There is no magic cancer-fighting food. Food was not my cure. But food was my support. Research consistently shows that diets high in vegetables and fiber help reduce inflammation, and chronic inflammation is linked to disease progression. Green tea contains antioxidant compounds that have been studied for cancer prevention. Cruciferous vegetables contain sulforaphane, which has been studied for detox support. While none of these replace medical treatment, nourishment matters.

I also share the biblical perspective that shaped my mindset around food and stewardship. In Genesis 1:29, God gives seed-bearing plants and fruit for food. In 1 Corinthians 6:19–20, we’re reminded that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit and we are called to honor God with them. Taking care of our bodies is not vanity. It is stewardship.

I reflect on the story of Elijah in 1 Kings 19. After a great spiritual battle, he was exhausted and discouraged. The first thing God did was feed him. Physical nourishment mattered. Sometimes what we need most is rest and food before anything else.

I also talk about the shift that happened in me during treatment. In the beginning, I looked sick. But over time, something changed. My spirit settled. I experienced deep peace. People began to say I looked radiant. That glow was not just my body stabilizing. It was the peace of God.

In Exodus 34, Moses’ face shines after being in the presence of the Lord. In Proverbs 17:22, we’re told that a joyful heart is good medicine. And in Philippians 4:7, we are promised a peace that surpasses understanding. That peace changes your countenance. It radiates.

If you are in treatment right now, here is what I want you to know:

Do not panic if you gain weight.

Do not obsess over the scale.

Do not compare your journey to someone else’s.

Nourish your body.

Hydrate well.

Reduce inflammation where you can.

Seek integrative support if it aligns with your care plan.

And most importantly, feed your spirit.

Cancer is not just physical. It is emotional, mental, and spiritual. You can eat the cleanest diet in the world and still feel anxious. But peace is supernatural.

If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who may need it. And if you are walking through treatment, know that I am praying for you. Your body is fighting. Your spirit is growing. God is near.

You are not just surviving. You are learning how to thrive through the fire.

As colorectal cancer rates rise, especially in younger adults, awareness matters more than ever. But this episode is about more than statistics. It’s about stewardship. It’s about obedience. It’s about using the story God allowed me to walk through to help someone else walk through theirs.

When I was diagnosed, I had no idea how public my journey would become. My cancer experience included overwhelming doctor appointments, scans, surgeries, recovery, and waking up with an ostomy bag. None of it was glamorous. None of it was Instagram-perfect. It was raw, uncomfortable, and very real.

Learning to live with an ostomy bag as a young woman and mom was humbling. There were questions no one talks about openly — what it feels like, how to dress, how to navigate confidence, intimacy, church, public spaces, and everyday life. Those conversations are rarely on a stage, but they matter deeply when you’re the one living them.

Early on, I made the decision not to hide. I chose to share my appointments, my surgeries, my fears, and even my ostomy experience publicly. Not for attention. Not for sympathy. But because I believe stories heal.

Sharing became cathartic. It helped me process what I was walking through. It helped remove shame. Silence creates isolation, but conversation creates connection.

I was blessed to have people I could talk to during my journey. One friend in particular became a lifeline for me because she also had an ostomy bag. From one young woman to another, we talked honestly about what life really looked like. I could text her questions that felt vulnerable. I could ask what was normal. I could admit when I felt overwhelmed. That kind of connection steadied me.

Even now, years later, people still reach out. They remember what I shared. They message me when they or someone they love is facing a diagnosis. They ask about surgery, recovery, ostomies, fear, and faith. And I answer — because I remember needing someone who had already been there.

This episode explains why I share boldly. I believe God created me that way. Not everyone is called to speak publicly about their hardest seasons, but I am. If He carried me through hospital rooms, through surgeries, through the physical and emotional weight of cancer, then I don’t want to waste the testimony.

Revelation reminds us that we overcome by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony. Testimony is not always polished. Sometimes it includes scars. Sometimes it includes medical devices. Sometimes it includes moments that feel anything but attractive. But when we bring those things into the light, they lose their power to isolate us.

This conversation is not about fear. It is about awareness. It is about listening to your body. It is about getting screened. It is about advocating for your health. And it is about reminding anyone facing a diagnosis that they are not alone.

If my willingness to talk about doctor appointments, surgeries, and an ostomy bag helps one person seek care sooner, ask better questions, or feel less ashamed — then it is worth it.

God wastes nothing. Not even the hard parts.

If this episode speaks to you, share it with someone who may need encouragement or a push to schedule that appointment. Awareness saves lives, and testimony builds bridges.

You are not alone in your journey. And together, we can learn how to thrive through the fire.

This conversation was shaped deeply by my cancer journey. I share how I was offered support groups and advice from many well-meaning people, but had to be intentional about what voices I allowed in. Not because support is bad, but because not all advice is wise for every season. I knew I couldn’t carry other people’s fear, worst-case stories, or experiences that weren’t meant for me.

I also talk about the weight of decision-making during cancer, from choosing doctors to treatment plans, and how a trusted reminder helped me realize that the hardest part was the uncertainty. Once a plan was in place, peace came through simply walking it out one day at a time.

We dive into how fear often disguises itself as wisdom, why approval-seeking can keep us stuck, and how Scripture calls us to live with discernment instead of anxiety. I share biblical examples of obedience over opinion, and why doing what’s best for you is not selfish, but stewardship.

This episode is an encouragement for anyone standing at a crossroads, feeling overwhelmed by outside voices, or struggling to trust their own discernment. We talk about how to filter advice, why peace is a powerful guide, and how God’s Word anchors us when everything feels uncertain.

If you’re navigating a big decision, a hard season, or a moment where everyone seems to have an opinion about your life, my prayer is that this episode helps you quiet the noise, lean into God’s voice, and walk forward in peace.

Thank you for being here, and for walking this journey with me on Thrive Through the Fire.

This conversation was inspired by Session 4 of Megan Fate Marshman’s Bible study Relaxed, where she addresses grief and mistakes in a way that stopped me in my tracks. It helped me realize that grief shows up in far more places than we like to admit. It can be the loss of health, relationships, dreams, identity, seasons of life, or even versions of ourselves we assumed would always exist.

I share honestly about my own journey with grief after cancer and how I didn’t realize I needed to grieve the life I had before. The body I trusted. The sense of safety I carried. The predictability I assumed was guaranteed. I talk about how a friend gently helped me see that survival and gratitude do not cancel out the need to grieve, and how unacknowledged grief often shows up as exhaustion, frustration, or sadness we cannot quite explain.

We look at what Scripture says about grief and why the Bible never rushes people through it. From Jesus weeping at Lazarus’s tomb, to David’s raw honesty in the Psalms, to Peter’s restoration after deep regret, we see that grief and faith are not opposites. God meets us in loss, in mistakes, and in sorrow, not after we get over it, but right in the middle of it.

I also talk about common misconceptions around grief, why we try to rush healing, and how grief is not something to conquer but something to walk through with God. We look at Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane and what it teaches us about surrendering pain without denying it.

This episode offers practical encouragement for walking through grief in real life. I share simple, honest ways to acknowledge loss, stop comparing pain, bring your full emotions to God, avoid isolation, and allow grief to soften you rather than harden you.

If you are grieving something today, whether it feels big or small, I want you to know this. You are not weak. You are not failing God. Grief is not a lack of faith. It is evidence of love. And God is not asking you to hurry your healing. He is walking with you through it.

My prayer is that this episode helps you feel less alone, more understood, and more aware of God’s nearness in the middle of your grief.

Thank you for being here and for walking this journey with me on Thrive Through the Fire.

I share how Proverbs 3:5–6 has been reshaping my understanding of peace and trust, especially through my current Bible study, Relaxed by Megan Marshman. The more I sit with this passage, the more I see how closely peace is tied to surrender and how exhausting it is to lean on my own understanding instead of trusting God.

We talk about the difference between worldly peace and biblical peace. Worldly peace depends on circumstances being calm and predictable. Biblical peace is rooted in relationship with God and remains steady even when life feels uncertain or overwhelming. I explain how Scripture defines peace through the idea of shalom, meaning wholeness, stability, and completeness that comes from God’s presence rather than life going according to plan.

I also share why so many of us say we want peace, but what we’re really chasing is control. Using biblical examples like Jesus sleeping through the storm, I talk about how peace doesn’t come from the storm stopping, but from knowing who is sovereign over it.

This episode includes practical ways to pursue peace in everyday life, such as identifying what’s stealing your peace, releasing the need for answers God hasn’t given, being mindful of the voices you’re listening to, and anchoring your day in Scripture instead of circumstances. I also offer encouragement for anyone who feels anxious or discouraged, reminding you that peace is learned, practiced, and grown over time through trust.

I close by sharing what God has been teaching me in this season, that peace isn’t something we find, it’s someone we follow. My prayer is that you would stop striving for peace and start surrendering into it, trusting that God’s presence is enough even when life feels unsettled.

Thank you for being here and walking this journey with me on Thrive Through the Fire.

Sara shares how her struggle with addiction didn’t begin with drugs or alcohol, but much earlier, through relationships, validation, and looking for worth in the wrong places. Over time, those patterns led her into substance abuse, brokenness, and a life that felt far from who she was created to be.

What makes Sara’s story so powerful is not just where she’s been, but how clearly she sees God’s hand through it all. We talk about how God doesn’t wait for us to clean ourselves up before He steps in. He meets us exactly where we are, in the middle of the mess, the addiction, the confusion, and the shame.

This episode is a real conversation about sanctification. Not the polished version we sometimes hear about, but the slow, daily work of God transforming a heart over time. We talk about grace, accountability, healing, and what it looks like to walk forward even when the past feels heavy.

If you’ve ever struggled with addiction, unhealthy patterns, or believing that your story somehow disqualifies you from God’s love, I hope this conversation reminds you that nothing is wasted. God is patient. God is present. And God is faithful to finish the work He starts.

I’m so grateful Sara trusted us with her story, and I believe her honesty will encourage anyone who feels stuck, ashamed, or unsure of their next step.

Thank you for being here and for listening. My prayer is that this episode helps you see yourself the way God sees you, fully known, fully loved, and never beyond His reach.

I share why this conversation was inspired by something my grandma used to say and how, as an adult, I’ve come to understand the wisdom behind it. We talk honestly about the feeling of being overwhelmed, unseen, or forgotten and how quickly that feeling can turn into isolation, resentment, or silence if we aren’t careful.

I unpack what people usually mean when they say nobody cares and why it’s often not that people don’t care, but that they are human, limited, tired, distracted, and carrying their own burdens. I share stories from my own life and reflect on how unrealistic expectations of others can leave us disappointed, even when those people love us.

This episode also looks closely at what the Bible says about being seen, known, and cared for. I talk about how scripture reminds us that while people are limited, God is not. We explore passages that speak to casting our cares on the Lord, understanding weakness as a place where God’s strength shows up, and why God is the only one capable of sustaining us fully.

I also open up about sharing pain, especially on social media, and why vulnerability must be paired with wisdom and boundaries. I explain how I decide what to share, what I keep private, and why sharing from a place of healing is very different from sharing from a place of wounding.

Finally, I offer practical steps for what to do when it feels like nobody cares. I talk about naming your feelings honestly, choosing safe people, lowering expectations without lowering boundaries, bringing your complaints to God first, and becoming the kind of presence you wish you had. We close with encouragement and a reminder that your worth is not measured by how many people show up perfectly, but by the faithfulness of a God who never leaves.

If you’ve been feeling overlooked, emotionally exhausted, or like you’re carrying too much alone, this episode is for you.

I also share a little about why I took a break from recording over the holidays and why rest and resetting are sometimes necessary, especially in full and demanding seasons of life. Pausing does not mean quitting or falling behind. Sometimes it is exactly what we need to move forward in a healthier way.

In this episode, I unpack why we are drawn to the idea of starting fresh, why starting over is not always the answer, and how chasing reinvention can sometimes cause us to miss refinement. I explore what Scripture actually says about new beginnings, reminding us that God offers renewal daily, not just once a year. His mercies are new every morning, not just every January.

We talk about the difference between resolutions and spiritual growth, and why self fixing often leads to burnout while God following leads to transformation. I reflect on how Jesus calls us into relationship rather than perfection and how real change happens through abiding, not striving.

I also share practical and realistic ways to approach the new year with intention and grace. This includes taking inventory instead of making endless lists, choosing rhythms over resolutions, setting intentions that align with who you are becoming, and remembering that growth is often quiet and unseen.

If you are entering this year feeling weary, behind, or disappointed with how the last season went, this episode is for you. Starting fresh does not mean starting over. Sometimes it simply means continuing forward with more wisdom, humility, and trust than before.

My prayer is that as we move into this new year, you would feel less pressure and more peace, less striving and more clarity, and a deeper awareness that God is walking with you right where you are.

Thank you for being here and for stepping into another season with me.

In this episode, I share my own story of what it feels like to go through something challenging during the holidays and how isolating it can be. I open up about what it is like to be in a room full of people who seem joyful when inside you feel broken or overwhelmed. I talk about how it affects you personally and how it affects the people around you who do not always know what to say or how to support you.

I also explore several stories from Scripture about people who wrestled with heavy emotions while the world around them was celebrating. Hannah is one of those people. Every year she traveled with her family to what was essentially a joyful holiday celebration, yet she carried deep grief and disappointment. While others were celebrating, she was weeping bitterly before God, and He met her right there.

I also talk about David, a man who felt deeply and honestly. His writings in the Psalms are full of emotional ups and downs that mirror the emotional whiplash so many of us experience during the holidays. One moment he was full of praise and the next he was overwhelmed with fear or sadness. His honesty reminds me that I do not have to hide my feelings from God.

I share about Elijah who reached a point of emotional and physical exhaustion after a major victory. He told God he had nothing left to give. Instead of correcting him, God sent rest, nourishment, and comfort. Elijah’s story mirrors exactly what many of us feel when we are burnt out or depleted during the holiday season.

I also reflect on Jesus who understood emotion better than anyone. He experienced grief, exhaustion, pressure, and sorrow. When Lazarus died, Jesus wept even though He knew resurrection was coming. He shows me that God does not rush my healing. He sits with me in my sorrow before He leads me toward joy.

These biblical stories remind me that the people in Scripture were not spiritual superheroes. They were people who felt the full weight of human emotion, just like we do. Their lives show me that God always meets us where we are, including during the messy, complicated, emotional moments we experience around the holidays.

I offer practical advice in this episode for anyone navigating a hard season. I share how to set gentle expectations for yourself, how to make space for rest, how to communicate your needs, and how to hold room for both joy and sorrow at the same time. I also talk about the importance of having a small support system who can walk with you through the season without judgment or pressure.

My prayer is that this episode helps you feel seen and understood. If the holidays feel heavy for you, you are not alone. God is not offended by your sadness or overwhelmed by your emotions. He draws near to the brokenhearted and He promises to give rest to the weary. You do not have to pretend. You do not have to perform. You can show up exactly as you are, and God will meet you there.

Take a breath. Slow down. Let yourself feel what you feel. And trust that God is with you in every part of this season.

I explain how naturopaths look at the whole body instead of treating symptoms in isolation and how their approach focuses on finding the root cause, supporting the body's natural ability to heal, and addressing lifestyle factors like stress, sleep, nutrition, and hormones. I also talk about why people often turn to naturopaths when they need deeper answers, longer conversations, and a more complete picture of what their body is going through.

I share the space to tell my own story of working with a naturopath during my cancer recovery and how her wisdom opened my eyes to rest, melatonin, nutrition, and the importance of slowing down so my body could actually heal.

I also connect this topic to Scripture, showing how God designed our bodies with intention and how Jesus consistently cared for both the physical and emotional needs of the people He met. Rest, stewardship, and whole-person healing are all woven throughout the Bible, and this episode ties that spiritual layer into the conversation.

I wrap up with signs that you may benefit from working with a naturopath and encouragement to explore this type of support if you feel unheard, overwhelmed, or unsure where to turn next in your wellness journey.

If you are curious about holistic health, struggling with unexplained symptoms, recovering from illness, or simply wanting to understand your body better, this episode will give you insight, encouragement, and permission to pursue deeper healing.

I share how I’ve come to understand that our bodies aren’t built to live in constant stress. When we stay in survival mode, we can’t heal. Physically, rest allows our bodies to repair, balance hormones, and strengthen our immune system. Spiritually, rest gives space for God to speak, restore, and renew us.

You’ll hear about my own struggles with rest, what my naturopath taught me about the healing power of melatonin and sleep, and how stress can keep us from feeling well. I also talk about how even in Scripture, God modeled rest from the very beginning, from Genesis to Jesus sleeping in the storm.

We’ll look at stories like Elijah in 1 Kings 19, who was so exhausted that God simply told him to eat and rest before continuing his journey. And we’ll explore what it means when Isaiah 30:15 says, “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength.”

This episode is a reminder that rest is not lazy, it’s obedience. It’s where healing happens, physically and spiritually.

Key Takeaways:

• Our bodies cannot heal in survival mode.
• God designed rest as part of His rhythm for our lives.
• Rest is not a reward for finishing your work — it’s what equips you to keep going.
• Healing happens in stillness, in surrender, and in trusting that God is still working when we’re not.

Practical Tips:

• Schedule rest and treat it like an appointment.
• Redefine productivity to include recovery.
• Turn off the noise and allow your mind to breathe.
• Invite God into your rest and model it for your family.

If you’ve been feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, or stuck in survival mode, this episode will remind you that it’s okay to slow down. Rest isn’t something we earn — it’s something we were created for. And when we finally stop striving, that’s when real healing begins.

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I talk about what I’ve learned as both a nurse and a believer, that church, like a hospital, is meant to be a place where the hurting can come for treatment. Mark 2:17 reminds us that Jesus came for the sick, not the healthy, and that we’re all in recovery from the brokenness of this world.

I also share a bit of what life looks like for me now, three years after chemo. From PTSD to constant screenings to kids struggling with anxiety and autoimmune disease, we’re still walking through hard things in our home. But it’s only through Jesus that I don’t look like what I’ve been through, and that same grace holds every person sitting beside me on Sunday morning.

We’ll also talk about the story of the Prodigal Son and how it reminds us that it’s never too late to come home. You are never too far gone for God to reach you, and church is exactly where you go when you’re broken, not when you’ve fixed yourself.

If you’ve been hesitant to walk back into church or feel like you don’t belong, this episode is for you. Church isn’t for perfect people. It’s for the ones who know they can’t do life without Jesus.

Key Scriptures:

Mark 2:17

2 Corinthians 4:8–9

Luke 15:20

Psalm 34:18

I talk about how trauma lingers in the body and mind, how I sometimes manifests symptoms out of anxiety, and how I'm learning to surrender those moments back to God. Through Scripture, personal reflection, and biblical stories, I remind listeners that while fear is a liar, it can also be a signal, showing us where we need to give God control again.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• The emotional and spiritual triggers that come with medical follow-ups
• How fear distorts truth and how to redirect your thoughts toward God’s promises
• Biblical encouragement from 2 Timothy 1:7, 2 Corinthians 10:5, and Daniel 3
• Reflections on faith through the stories of Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego, and Job
• Practical tools for walking through anxious or uncertain weeks with peace

Practical Takeaways:

• Anchor yourself in Scripture: Psalm 91, Psalm 27, Isaiah 41:10
• Pray out loud or with someone you trust
• Limit online searching and focus instead on God’s Word
• Talk about your fears with others who can pray over you
• Worship through the worry — fear and worship can’t coexist

I close with encouragement for anyone facing a “follow-up week” of their own: God hasn’t changed since the last time He showed up. Even if tomorrow brings the unexpected, He’s already there. The same God who carried you through the fire before will do it again.

As a mom, wife, and stage 3 cancer survivor, I’ve wrestled deeply with the tension between faith and pain. Today, I’m diving into what Scripture says about suffering, what I’ve learned through my own battle with cancer, and how we can hold on when God feels silent.

Together, we’ll explore:

• What suffering really is and why it challenges our faith
• Biblical stories that show God’s presence in pain — from Job, to David, to Jesus Himself
• My personal journey of wrestling with fear, loss of control, and finding hope again
• Practical ways to cling to God when answers don’t come quickly — through honesty, Scripture, community, and surrender

If you’re in a season of waiting or wondering where God is, I pray this conversation meets you there. You’re not alone.

Join me as we walk through the fire — and find the God who still meets us in it.

Evelyn shares her beautiful perspective on trusting God completely, even when life doesn’t make sense. She talks about what it means to truly see God as our Father, one who loves us, cares for us, and provides for every need. Her gentle wisdom and unwavering faith will leave you feeling encouraged and seen, no matter what season you’re in.

We talk about:

How God uses ordinary moments and people to reveal His extraordinary love

What it means to trust God as a Father, not just as a distant figure

Finding peace and purpose when life feels uncertain

How simple acts of kindness can become divine appointments

Whether you’re walking through a storm or basking in a season of peace, Evelyn’s story is a tender reminder that God’s love never stops pursuing us — and sometimes, it comes through the hands of a friend at the church door.

Section 1: Why We Fast — Biblical Foundations

Fasting isn’t just skipping meals, it’s a posture of humility that says, “God, I need You more than I need food.” Scripture gives us several examples:

• Moses fasted 40 days on Mount Sinai while receiving the Ten Commandments (Exodus 34:28).
• Daniel fasted from certain foods as he sought wisdom and favor (Daniel 10:2–3).
• Esther called her people to fast before approaching the king (Esther 4:16).
• Jesus Himself fasted 40 days in the wilderness before beginning His ministry (Matthew 4:1–2).

Jesus didn’t say if you fast — He said when you fast (Matthew 6:16–18). It’s expected, sacred, and meant to align our spirit with God’s will.

For me, fasting became less about trying to earn God’s favor and more about quieting the noise — the constant worry, the need to control, and the fear that came with my health journey.

Before my faith deepened, I fasted purely for health and detox reasons. I often did 48–72 hour fasts, motivated by the physical benefits — weight loss, detoxing, and resetting my body. But fasting as a mom and caregiver wasn’t easy, especially while still preparing meals for my family. Back then, my focus was physical; now, I understand fasting’s spiritual purpose.

Section 2: Fasting and the Body — Health Benefits

Here’s where faith and science meet. God designed our bodies with an incredible ability to heal — and fasting activates that design.

• Cellular repair: Around 12 hours into fasting, your body starts a process called autophagy, clearing out damaged cells and toxins.
• Reduced inflammation: Fasting lowers inflammation markers linked to chronic disease, including cancer.
• Balanced insulin and hormones: Fasting gives your system time to reset, reducing insulin resistance.
• Improved immunity: Studies show fasting before chemotherapy can protect healthy cells and even improve treatment outcomes.

Fasting isn’t a cure, but it’s a way God allows the body to rest, repair, and reset. He built this healing rhythm into us for a reason.

When I began learning about fasting’s health benefits, I tried to do it monthly. I loved how it made me feel — lighter, clearer, more energized. When I was diagnosed with cancer, I read about fasting’s potential to support treatment, and it became an even greater focus.

Section 3: Fasting to Hear God Clearly

Beyond the physical, fasting opens your heart to hear from God more clearly. When you remove distractions — food, social media, noise — you make room for His whisper.

Isaiah 58:6 says,“Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen: to loose the chains of injustice and untie the cords of the yoke, to set the oppressed free…”

True fasting is about release — releasing fear, control, anxiety, or even the need for answers.

Not everyone will have a huge spiritual moment while fasting. You might not see a vision or hear God’s voice — and that’s okay. Sometimes fasting isn’t about hearing something; it’s about clearing space. It’s making room for God to move in ways we may not recognize right away.

I’ve had friends fasting for months without clear answers, but they’re seeing blessings in other areas — peace, opportunities, unexpected strength. God often speaks through silence, peace, or timing.

Psalm 46:10 says, “Be still, and know that I am God.”

It doesn’t say hear Me right now — it says know.

Isaiah 30:18 reminds us, “Therefore the Lord waits to be gracious to you… blessed are all those who wait for Him.” Waiting isn’t punishment; it’s preparation.

If you’re fasting and wondering why you haven’t heard from God, maybe the silence is the answer. God may be building something in you before revealing something to you.

Section 4: Practical Ways to Fast

Fasting looks different for everyone. Here are some options:

• Traditional fast: Water or liquids only for a set period.
• Partial fast: Like Daniel’s — fruits, veggies, and simple foods.
• Intermittent fast: Eating within a specific time window each day.
• Soul fast: Taking a break from media, sugar, or anything that’s become a distraction.

If you’re dealing with a health condition or recovering from cancer, always talk to your doctor first. Even fasting from negative thoughts or fear can shift your spirit. Fasting isn’t about deprivation — it’s about devotion.

Personally, this is only my second time fasting in prayer. I’ve realized food isn’t always my biggest distraction — social media is. So moving forward, I plan to do a social media fast to quiet the noise and focus more on God.

When we fast, we’re saying: “God, I trust You with my hunger, my healing, and my hope.”

Whether you’re facing cancer, anxiety, or any tough season — fasting helps you thrive through the fire. Not because it changes God, but because it changes us.

Psalm 63:1 says,“O God, You are my God; earnestly I seek You; my soul thirsts for You; my flesh faints for You, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.”

We’ll talk about what PTSD really is, how it shows up in everyday life, and the biblical examples that remind us God sees and meets us in our struggles. From Elijah’s fear in the wilderness, to David’s cries in the Psalms, to Jesus sweating blood in Gethsemane—Scripture is full of reminders that God doesn’t dismiss trauma. He draws near to the brokenhearted and offers peace where fear tries to take over.

I’ll also share some of the practical and spiritual tools that have helped me—things like prayer, Scripture meditation, worship, community, and professional counseling. These are ways I’ve learned to take steps toward healing and wholeness, even when the memories and fear try to come back.

If PTSD has touched your life, this conversation is for you. My hope is that by the end, you’ll walk away knowing you’re not alone, you’re not broken beyond repair, and there is a God who heals, redeems, and restores even the hardest parts of our story.

Anchor verse for this episode: John 16:33 – “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

I’ll share how my situation was unique—I wasn’t working in the hospital at the time of my diagnosis because I had stepped away to homeschool my kids during the pandemic. Looking back, I see how God’s timing protected me, because I can’t imagine working long shifts while dealing with the side effects of chemo. But not everyone had that luxury. I sat next to people in the infusion chair who went straight back to work the same day because if they didn’t work, they didn’t get paid.

We’ll talk about the hidden costs of being sick, from missed work to medication expenses, and how families are forced to make tough decisions. I’ll also share how God provided for me through work-from-home opportunities I had said “yes” to years before—something that became an unexpected safety net for my family.

To give perspective, I’ll also look at biblical stories of people who struggled with both illness and financial hardship, like the woman who spent everything on doctors and only got worse, or the paralyzed man who had no way to provide for himself. These stories remind us that God not only heals, but also restores dignity and provision.

This episode is for anyone who has felt the weight of medical bills, missed paychecks, or the financial uncertainty that comes with sickness. My hope is that you’ll walk away encouraged, reminded that God sees the unseen costs and that He can bring purpose and provision even in the middle of pain.

When I first heard the word “cancer,” it felt like my whole world stopped. Just hearing the name was enough to make my stomach drop. Isn’t it wild how much power a single word can carry? When I started telling people I had cancer, almost everyone’s first question was, “What kind? What stage?” — as if the stage number somehow determined how scared they should be for me. But the truth is, people can pass away from the most basic forms of cancer, and others survive the most advanced. These labels — stage, type, grade — aren’t the whole story.

For me, cancer became the tool God used to change my name. I went from being the overly-controlling planner who thought she had to hold it all together to someone who slowed down, trusted God, and let Him take the wheel. It wasn’t easy, but God doesn’t waste pain — He uses it with purpose.

Today, I want to give you hope that whatever label you’re carrying — cancer patient, divorced, unemployed — doesn’t define you. You are who God says you are, and He has a way of using even your hardest seasons to shape your future.

I’ll also share practical tips on not letting a diagnosis or situation dictate your peace, and how you can start speaking life over yourself instead of fear.

We dive into why it’s so important to practice Sabbath and truly unplug , not just from work, but from technology , so we can be present with our families and recharge spiritually. We talk about the idea of a technology fast and how it helps us realign our priorities and quiet the noise. And Stephanie shares a season where God encouraged her to turn off the radio (and noise) in the car and sit quietly with her thoughts and in the presence of God.

Stephanie also shares how God has been reminding her that her testimony matters, and how sharing it not only strengthens her own faith but encourages her daughters to live boldly and confidently in theirs. And the importance of asking people if they are willing to give their life to Jesus.

We discuss the deep human desire to feel needed and why community matters so much. Friendship is a big part of this conversation, how we can lift each other up, rally together, and encourage one another when life feels heavy. Stephanie shares how she organized an event for our kids this summer and gathered so many volunteers so that they could feel a sense of being needed and collaborate by sharing their strengths.

We even talk about those moments when we ask God “why,” and why sometimes simply bringing that question to Him is more important than having an answer. And Stephanie shares her life verse Matthew 6:33 "But seek first His kingdom and righteousness and all will be given to you as well", and the importance of putting God first above all things.

If you’re looking for encouragement to be bold in your faith, to slow down and rest, and to surround yourself with people who make you better, this episode will speak to you.

I share my own story of how I began seeking God before my cancer diagnosis and how that made all the difference when my world was turned upside down. My testimony didn’t feel dramatic at first—it was simply me loving Jesus in the middle of ordinary life. But when crisis hit, I learned the power of already having a relationship with God instead of waiting until I was desperate to seek Him.

We’ll dig into what the Bible says about suffering, why bad things happen, and how God’s presence shows up in the middle of it all. I’ll share how I knew He was with me in my hardest season, plus practical ways you can grow your own relationship with Him so you recognize His voice even when life doesn’t make sense.

Some of the scriptures I share in this episode:

• Romans 8:22 – Creation groaning under the weight of sin
• Genesis 50:20 – God bringing good out of Joseph’s suffering
• 2 Corinthians 12:7–10 – God’s power made perfect in weakness
• John 10:27 – Recognizing the Shepherd’s voice
• Hebrews 13:8 – Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever
• James 1:22 – Do what the Word says
• Psalm 34:18 – God is close to the brokenhearted
• John 11:35 – Jesus wept with His friends in their grief
• Romans 8:28 – God works all things for good

If you’ve ever wondered whether your story with God “counts,” I want to remind you that every testimony matters because God is always the hero. And if you’ve only known facts about Him but haven’t yet experienced a real relationship, this episode will give you encouragement and practical steps to take that next step of faith.

Thanks for joining me. If this episode encouraged you, I’d love for you to share it with someone who needs to hear that knowing God is about more than head knowledge—it’s about a relationship that brings peace, strength, and hope in the fire.

I truly believe that what we feed our minds matters. When we’re in the middle of a waiting season—whether it’s in an infusion center, at the bedside of a loved one, or just walking through uncertainty—having the right words, truth, and encouragement can help anchor us.

I’ll be talking through a handful of books that have personally impacted me and sharing why I think they’re worth adding to your reading list. My hope is that these resources give you strength, comfort, and maybe even a fresh perspective for your own journey.

Books Mentioned in This Episode:

Life Without Limits - Nick Vujicic

The Tears That Taught Me- Morgan Richard Oliver

God So Close- Becky Thompson

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry- John Mark Comer

What Women Fear- Angie Smith

Fruit- Alabastor Company

You’ll find some more bible study recommendations HERE on my website.

I talk through my experience with Oxaliplatin, the side effects I never saw coming, and the practical things I wish I had known before I started treatment. More importantly, I share how my faith sustained me when my body was weak and my spirit was weary, along with the scriptures that carried me through the hardest days.

You’ll hear:

• What chemotherapy actually does and why the side effects happen
• My personal journey with Oxaliplatin and how I managed the unexpected
• The verses and biblical encouragement that gave me strength when I felt powerless
• Practical ways to prepare emotionally, physically, and spiritually for treatment
• Why you are never truly alone, even on the hardest days

My hope is that this episode equips you with tools, encouragement, and truth — whether you’re facing chemo yourself, walking alongside a loved one, or simply wanting to understand more deeply what this journey is like.

If this episode encouraged you, would you share it with someone who needs hope today? And if you haven’t yet, subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future episodes where we’ll continue to walk together through life’s fires with faith, hope, and grit.

We’ll look at biblical examples of unfairness—Cain and Abel, Leah and Rachel, Joseph, David, Asaph, even Peter—and how each of their stories reminds us that God is still working even when things don’t make sense. I’ll also offer some practical encouragement on how to reframe our pain through a Kingdom lens, including how to worship instead of worry and fix our eyes on the eternal.

If you’ve ever asked, “Why them and not me?” or “Where is God in all of this?”—this episode is for you.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• Why the feeling of “unfair” starts young and follows us into adulthood
• How seemingly small comparisons turn into deeper wounds when real life gets hard
• Raw, personal stories from my own walk through health battles and unanswered prayers
• Biblical stories that prove we aren’t the first to struggle with “unfair”
• The danger of comparison and the freedom that comes when we trust God’s story for us
• Practical encouragement for what to do when life just doesn’t make sense
• Why worship is stronger than worry
• How to fix your eyes on what’s eternal—even when what’s visible hurts

Key Scriptures from This Episode:

• Psalm 73:4,13 – “They have no struggles… Surely in vain I have kept my heart pure.”
• John 21:22 – “What is that to you? You follow Me.”
• Romans 8:28 – “In all things God works for the good of those who love Him…”
• 2 Corinthians 4:17–18 – “…our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory…”
• Psalm 34:18 – “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
• Philippians 4:6–7 – “The peace of God… will guard your hearts and your minds…”

Takeaways:

• Fairness isn’t the foundation of faith—dependence is.
• Comparison may be human, but trust is holy.
• God doesn’t waste your pain—even when the process feels cruel.
• Worship shifts your heart to remember who God is when the “what” feels heavy.
• You’re allowed to be honest with God. He can handle your questions.

Let’s Stay Connected:

If this episode encouraged you, would you take a moment to share it or leave a review? And if you haven’t already, follow me on Instagram so we can keep walking through this faith journey together. Your story matters, and you’re never walking alone. Check me out HERE

Bob shares his powerful testimony of hitting financial rock bottom and how that desperation led him to cry out to God, and hear Him clearly. Linda opens up about her own financial challenges and how God brought the two of them together not only in marriage, but in mission.

Together, Bob and Linda walk us through the heart behind Simple Money, Rich Life and how God's plan for our money is far less complicated, and far more freeing than we often realize. We talk about practical financial tools grounded in biblical truth, and they share what it’s like to be 7-figure givers who don’t chase wealth but chase God’s will.

This conversation dives into:

• What it means to be a good steward without falling into legalism or guilt
• How surrendering our finances brings peace and clarity
• The difference between the poverty gospel, prosperity gospel, and biblical balance
• Why generosity isn’t just about tithing, it’s about trusting

We also talk about the lies many of us believe when it comes to money, worthiness, and God’s involvement in our everyday lives. Bob reminds us that we’re not too far gone, not too messy, and not too late to bring God into our money story. And to close the episode, he offers a heartfelt prayer over everyone walking through financial uncertainty.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your financial situation or unsure of how to honor God with your money, this episode will speak to your heart.

Want a copy of Bob’s book? Visit seedtime.com/free to grab Simple Money, Rich Life. The book is Free for a limited time, all you have to do is cover the cost of shipping. Find Bob and Linda on Instagram and check out their Podcast Seedtime Money, anywhere you listen to podcasts.

As a cancer survivor, I know firsthand what it’s like to come out of a life-altering experience and feel overwhelmed by the world’s demands. After treatment, everyone wanted my time again—but I wasn’t ready. I had to learn to protect what God was restoring in me. That’s what this episode is all about.

I share what the Bible says about peace, how Jesus modeled boundaries, and how we can set our own without guilt or shame. Whether you’re recovering from illness, grief, burnout, or just trying to keep your head above water—you are not alone, and your peace matters.

What You'll Hear in This Episode:

• Why peace is more than just quiet—it’s a promise and a practice
• How Jesus modeled healthy boundaries, even in ministry
• The difference between biblical boundaries and culture’s version
• How to set boundaries in a way that honors God and others
• Practical steps for protecting your energy, time, and healing
• Encouragement to let go of guilt and stop apologizing for rest
• Stories from my own journey with cancer, including how I learned (sometimes the hard way) to say no

I also explore biblical examples like Nehemiah and Moses, and reference Rick Warren’s powerful reminder: You have just enough time to do God’s will.

If you’ve ever struggled to say no… if you’ve ever felt guilty for needing space… if you’re in a season of rebuilding—this one is for you.

Takeaway Question:

What’s one boundary you can set this week to protect your peace?

Scripture References:

• Galatians 5:22–23
• Philippians 4:7
• John 14:27
• Luke 5:16
• John 5:19
• Mark 6:31
• Nehemiah 6:3
• Exodus 18
• Psalm 23:2
• Romans 12:2
• Ephesians 4:2
• Philippians 2:3–4

Healing isn’t just about getting better—it’s about getting whole. God is not rushing you. Rest is holy. Boundaries are biblical. And peace is your inheritance.

Tune in now, and let’s walk this road of recovery together—with wisdom, grace, and the peace of Christ guarding every step.

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I’m diving into the power of our words—specifically the ones we say to ourselves.

We all know how important it is to use kind words with others. But how often do we forget to speak kind words to ourselves? Words carry weight. They create. They shape our mindset, our health, and our hope.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• What Scripture says about the power of life and death in the tongue
• How our thoughts and self-talk impact our faith and even our physical bodies
• My personal story of navigating cancer and the panic-inducing “what if” thoughts
• How to identify the lies we speak over ourselves and replace them with truth
• Biblical examples of people who spoke life in hard seasons
• Five practical ways you can begin speaking life over yourself today

I’ll walk you through how I used Scripture like Jeremiah 29:11 to anchor my soul during a season of fear and uncertainty—and how I still go back to those promises when the enemy whispers lies.

If you’ve ever struggled with negative self-talk, fear, or feeling like you're not enough—this episode is especially for you. My prayer is that by the end of it, you’ll be equipped to speak God’s truth over your life with boldness and peace.

This isn’t just encouragement—it’s a mindset shift rooted in Scripture.

Let’s speak life, even in the fire. Especially in the fire.

Scriptures mentioned:

• Proverbs 18:21
• Genesis 1
• Jeremiah 29:11
• Romans 12:2
• Psalm 42:11
• Luke 8:43–48
• Matthew 4
• 2 Corinthians 12:9
• Psalm 139:14
• Philippians 4:13
• Ephesians 1:4–7
• Isaiah 41:10
• Romans 8:28
• Psalm 138:8
• Proverbs 3:5–6
• 2 Corinthians 5:17
• 1 Corinthians 2:16
• Romans 8:37

Resources + Next Steps:

• Write out your scripture affirmations on post it notes and put them around your house.
• Want to connect or share your story? DM me on Instagram @Thrive_through_the_fire
• Check out my website for more resources and tools, CLICK HERE.

Thanks for being here. Let’s keep walking through the fire—together.

This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present.

And if you’re feeling dry, distracted, or disconnected—I see you, and I’ve been there.

In This Episode, We’ll Cover:

• Why your soul needs a sacred rhythm in today’s fast-paced world
• What the Bible says about daily connection with God
• How Jesus consistently pulled away for time with the Father
• A simple 4-step daily routine you can adapt to your own life
• What my personal morning quiet time looks like—and how it’s kept me grounded through illness, uncertainty, and healing
• Encouragement if you’re just starting out or struggling to stay consistent

Key Scriptures Referenced:

• Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
• Psalm 46:10 – “Be still and know that I am God.”
• Luke 5:16 – “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”
• Mark 1:35 – “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up… and prayed.”
• Matthew 4:4 – “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.”
• Philippians 4:6 – “Do not be anxious about anything…”
• Isaiah 26:3 – “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”

Resources I Mentioned:

• Bible Verse Mapping (journals & guides available online)
• ACTS Prayer Model (Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, Supplication)
• Rick Warren’s Daily Hope Devotional Podcast
• The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

Practical Faith Routine Outline (Start With 15 Minutes):

1. Stillness – Quiet your mind and welcome God into your day
2. Scripture – Read a short passage and reflect on its meaning
3. Prayer – Talk to God honestly and simply
4. Worship or Listen – Play a worship song or short devotional

My Encouragement to You:

Don’t wait for a crisis to create your rhythm. Build your spiritual foundation now so when the fire comes, you’re already rooted in God’s presence.

God doesn’t want your perfection—He wants your attention.

Call to Action:

This week, create your own 15-minute daily routine. Write it down, keep it somewhere visible, and start tomorrow.

If you need help figuring out what that looks like or want someone to pray with you, I’m just a message away. You don’t have to walk through this alone.

We talked about what it looks like to bring Jesus into mental health spaces, the power of sharing your story, and how biblical truth can ground us in seasons of emotional and spiritual struggle. If you've ever felt alone in your pain or unsure of how to support someone walking through it—this conversation will encourage you, equip you, and point you back to the Healer.

Topics We Covered:

• Paula’s personal testimony: from religion to relationship with Jesus
• Her teenage battle with depression and the surprising gift of music as healing
• The supernatural encounter that changed everything during the pandemic
• Why Christian counseling matters—and how to find one
• Practical ways to support someone in emotional distress
• Using Scripture to combat shame, isolation, and fear
• How to integrate faith, psychology, and spiritual disciplines
• Paula’s recommended resources for biblical counseling and soul care

Scriptures We Mentioned:

• 2 Timothy 3:16–17 – On using God’s Word to equip and counsel
• Job’s story – A reminder that presence often matters more than solutions
• Philippians 4:7 – The peace of God that surpasses understanding

Resources Paula Recommends:

• Boundaries for the Soul by Dr. Alison Cook
• Theology, Spirituality, and Psychology by Dr. Stephen P. Greggo
• Jackie Hill Perry's Bible teaching
• Faith-based podcasts and worship playlists
• Meditation on Scripture and the Holy Spirit (not just secular mindfulness)

Final Thoughts:

You don’t need to have it all together to seek help. Paula reminds us that Jesus meets us in the mess and uses our pain for purpose. If you’re in a season of struggle, don’t stay silent. You’re not alone—and healing is possible.

Need someone to talk to? Reach out. DM me, or use the links below to find a Christian counselor near you.

Connect with Paula:

• Psychology Today Profile
• Website: [Coming Soon]

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Together, we explore what the Bible says about vulnerability, how Jesus modeled it, and why embracing our own brokenness opens the door to real connection and healing. I share a personal story about my cancer journey and how learning to be vulnerable transformed not only my faith but the way I connect with others.

In This Episode, I Cover:

• What vulnerability really means through a biblical lens
• How Jesus modeled honest emotion and deep humanity
• Why showing up honestly creates deeper healing and connection
• The power of your testimony and why your story matters
• Practical ways to be vulnerable without oversharing
• How God can use your pain for His purpose
• A few personal stories from my own walk through faith, fear, and finding my voice

Scriptures Mentioned:

• 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 – “My power is made perfect in weakness…”
• John 11:35 – “Jesus wept.”
• Matthew 27:46 – “My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?”
• Revelation 12:11 – “They overcame… by the word of their testimony.”
• Psalm 62:8 – “Pour out your hearts to Him…”

Practical Takeaways:

1. Start with God – Be honest in your prayer life. He can handle your fears, doubts, and questions.
2. Find Safe People – Share with those who will point you back to truth and not shame.
3. Share From Scars, Not Open Wounds – Process privately first when needed, then share as you're led.

Your Challenge This Week:

Tell the truth to one person about something that’s been heavy on your heart. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. It just has to be real. And if you don’t have someone safe to talk to, DM me. I’m here to pray with you.

Connect with Me:

If this episode spoke to you, would you share it with a friend? It might be exactly what they need today.

You can also find me on Instagram or at Tools 2 Thrive for encouragement, resources, and more ways to live out your faith through the fire.

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I’ll walk through:

• Why your story matters—even if you think it doesn’t
• What Scripture says about the power of your testimony
• How to share your story with confidence, not fear
• My own journey with opening up about my cancer diagnosis and how God met me in the middle of it
• A few practical tips to help you start telling your story today

We’ll also look at some amazing biblical examples—from the woman at the well to the man born blind—who simply shared what Jesus had done in their lives, and lives were changed because of it.

If you’ve been feeling like your voice doesn’t matter, or like you don’t have the words to explain what you’ve gone through, this episode will encourage you to speak anyway. Your story could be the bridge that helps someone meet Jesus. And if you’re still in the middle of your journey, that’s okay too—because testimonies aren’t about having it all together. They’re about pointing to the One who holds it all together.

Plus, I’ll tell you more about the testimony journal I created to help you write out your story, organize your thoughts, and find clarity and confidence in sharing what God has done in your life. Check the show notes for the link.

Scriptures we explore in this episode:

• Revelation 12:11
• John 4:39
• John 9:25
• 2 Corinthians 1:3–4
• Romans 10:17

If this episode encouraged you or you’re ready to share your story, I’d love to hear from you. Reach out and let’s talk. And if you know someone who needs this message, send it their way.

God doesn’t waste anything—not your pain, not your past, not even your process.

If your looking for a tool to help you write your testimony, CLICK HERE for my recommendation.

Let’s thrive through the fire together.

When I started my own cancer journey, I was overwhelmed and scared. Radiation felt like a mystery, and I couldn’t find anyone who could walk me through it from a patient’s perspective. So that’s what I’m doing for you today.

Whether you’re facing radiation yourself, caring for someone who is, or just want to understand more—this episode is packed with real talk, practical tips, and encouragement to help you through.

In this episode, I share:

• What radiation therapy is and how it works (in simple, relatable terms)
• The different types of radiation treatment and which one I received
• A step-by-step overview of what to expect during treatment
• Common side effects like fatigue, skin irritation, and emotional exhaustion—and what helped me manage them
• My personal experience going through 25 radiation treatments for colorectal cancer
• A few natural tips I used (always check with your doctor)
• Encouragement and scripture that anchored me through the process

Key Scriptures:

• Isaiah 40:29 – “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.”
• Deuteronomy 31:8 – “The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.”

My heart behind this episode:

You are not alone. And no matter how intimidating this process feels, I want you to know that God walks with you into every waiting room and onto every treatment table. I’ve been there. I’ve cried. I’ve prayed. And I’ve come out stronger, more grounded in faith, and more certain than ever that we don’t walk through the fire alone.

If this episode encourages you, I’d love for you to share it with someone who might be walking through something similar.

Listen now on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

And if your looking for resources to help with through your cancer journey, check out my Ebook.

Let’s keep walking through the fire together—with courage, honesty, and hope.

Let’s be real. Most people have no idea what to do when a friend or loved one is struggling. We want to help, but we freeze. We overthink. We say things we didn’t mean or say nothing at all. And often, we do more harm than good—even when we’re trying our best.

As someone who went through cancer and experienced both amazing support and some awkward moments, I want to help you avoid the common mistakes and start loving people better.

Here’s what I walk through in this episode:

• What to say—and not say—when someone you care about is suffering
• What actually helped me in my darkest moments (and what made me cringe)
• Biblical examples of friends who showed up well—and those who didn’t
• Real-life tips that will help you support someone through grief, illness, depression, divorce, or any difficult time
• Why presence matters more than perfection—and how to be the hands and feet of Jesus

You don’t have to fix anything. You don’t need the perfect words. You just need to show up.

I also talk about:

• Why “let me know if you need anything” isn’t as helpful as you think
• How Job’s friends started strong but totally blew it later
• Why Ruth is the ultimate example of loyalty in suffering
• Practical ways to love someone in pain without making it weird

This episode is for anyone who’s ever thought:

• I want to help, but I don’t want to make it worse
• I wish I knew what to say
• I feel awkward around people who are grieving or going through something serious

By the end, you’ll feel more equipped, more confident, and more intentional in how you love people through their hardest seasons.

If you’re the one going through the fire right now—I see you. God sees you. You’re not alone.

Let’s carry each other’s burdens and reflect Jesus in the way we show up for one another.

You’ll also hear:

• My personal story of people bringing meals, leaving coffee on my porch, and just showing up with no expectations
• The power of laughing, normalcy, and treating someone like themselves—not their illness
• A prayer for those in pain and for those standing in the gap to help

Referenced Scripture:

• Galatians 6:2
• Job 2:13
• Ruth 1:16
• Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it—whether they’re in the fire or trying to support someone who is. And if you’ve got your own story of someone showing up well, message me or CLICK HERE—I’d love to hear it.

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In this episode of Thrive Through the Fire, I explore the importance of faith community, especially during difficult seasons. I share my personal journey of navigating life’s challenges, including my battle with cancer, and how a faith community was a source of strength and support.

Episode Highlights

• The Danger of Isolation: I explain how isolation can be a tool of the enemy, making us more vulnerable to fear, anxiety, and despair.
• God’s Design for Community: Scripture reveals that we are meant to thrive together, not alone. Key verses like Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 and Hebrews 10:24-25 highlight the importance of being connected to others.
• Real Community vs. Surface Connections: I distinguish between knowing people at church and truly being part of a faith community. I share how my own experience shifted from feeling disconnected in a traditional church setting to finding genuine connection in a Bible-based church and life groups.
• Biblical Examples of Community: Stories like Moses and Aaron, David and Jonathan, and Jesus with His disciples show the power of having people who support, pray, and encourage each other.
• Practical Ways to Embrace Community: I offer actionable steps to find and build a strong faith community:

1. Seek genuine connections beyond surface-level interactions.
2. Be vulnerable—share your struggles with others.
3. Create your own community if you can’t find one.
4. Serve alongside others to build deeper bonds.

I share how my faith community became a lifeline during my cancer journey. From receiving meals to having friends who prayed with me, I learned firsthand the power of letting people in. I reflect on my transition from a traditional church experience—where I felt unknown—to a vibrant community where I was truly seen and supported.

Scripture References

• Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 - "Two are better than one... If either of them falls down, one can help the other up."
• Hebrews 10:24-25 - "Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together."
• Genesis 2:18 - "It is not good for man to be alone."
• 1 Peter 5:8 - "Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour."

Key Takeaways

• Isolation is a trap that can lead to despair, but community brings strength and hope.
• God created us to live in connection with others, and He uses faith community to encourage, challenge, and support us.
• If you don’t have a faith community yet, don’t give up. Keep praying, keep showing up, and trust that God is bringing you the people you need.

Prayer

Father God, thank You for creating us to walk this life together. I pray for every person listening—may they find the support, encouragement, and love they need. And for those who are feeling isolated right now, show them that they are not alone. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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If you’ve ever wondered what it looks like to fight cancer while serving your country, how to hold onto your faith through a life-threatening illness, or how to find purpose after surviving, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

• What it's like to receive a cancer diagnosis while serving in the military
• The emotional toll of facing a life-threatening illness
• Navigating uncomfortable and vulnerable moments with courage and humor
• Resources and support available for veterans and cancer patients
• How faith and perspective helped Jim get through the darkest days
• The power of hope, purpose, and finding your “new normal” after cancer

Scripture Weaved Throughout:

• Romans 8:28 — "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him..."
• Isaiah 41:10 — "Do not fear, for I am with you..."

You’ll Walk Away With:

• Encouragement if you or a loved one is walking through a cancer diagnosis
• Inspiration from a man who has served, suffered, and survived
• Resources for veterans navigating illness and life after service

AMVETS

Fire Fighter Cancer Support Network

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You’ll learn:

• Bible verses that anchor your soul in times of fear, weakness, and heartbreak
• How real people in scripture endured trials and saw God show up
• Practical steps to apply God's Word when you’re overwhelmed
• The truth about spiritual warfare and how to suit up in the Armor of God

Bible Verses That Brought Strength:

Isaiah 41:10 – God is with you. He strengthens, helps, and upholds.

2 Corinthians 12:9 – His grace is enough. His power shines in your weakness.

Psalm 34:18 – He is close to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed.

Romans 8:28 – God works ALL things for the good of those who love Him.

Truth for the Battle:

When crisis hits, “just trust God” can feel like a cliché—but what you really need is truth to fight with. That’s where spiritual armor comes in. You are in a battle, and God has already given you what you need to stand.

Armor of God (Ephesians 6:10–18):

• Belt of Truth – Hold everything together with what God says, not what the world says.
• Breastplate of Righteousness – Guard your heart. You are covered in Christ’s righteousness, not your performance.
• Shoes of Peace – Stand firm, grounded in peace even when everything shakes.
• Shield of Faith – Block the fiery lies and doubts the enemy throws at you.
• Helmet of Salvation – Protect your mind. Remember who you are and whose you are.
• Sword of the Spirit – This is the Word of God—your weapon. Speak it, pray it, live it.

Real Talk + Practical Application:

• Write these scriptures where you’ll see them daily.
• Speak them out loud when fear creeps in.
• Don’t try to muscle through—lean on the One who never fails.
• Worship is warfare. Let truth be louder than fear.

Final Encouragement:

You are not alone. Your weakness is not a disqualification—it’s where God shows up. Even in the fire, He is working for your good.

“When you feel like you can’t do this, remember: He already did.”

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What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• Debbie’s powerful testimony of infertility, a high-risk pregnancy, and losing her quadruplet sons
• The decision to trust God in the midst of unthinkable grief
• How God exchanged her question of “Why?” with “How do I survive—and thrive?”
• Practical steps for surviving life’s hardest moments, including her BEST strategy: Breathe, Evaluate, Step back, and Take action
• A powerful reminder that joy is Jesus, and that obedience to God leads to peace even in the fire
• How Debbie’s story became the foundation for Anchor Point, a ministry helping families thrive through medical care, maternity housing, parenting education, and recovery programs
• Encouragement for anyone walking through grief, illness, or uncertainty
• Her favorite scripture: Romans 15:13 – a verse that encapsulates hope, joy, peace, and the overflowing power of the Holy Spirit
• A glimpse into her new book, The Heart of Legacy, and how each of us can start living our legacy now

Key Takeaway:

You don’t need to understand your pain to be used by God. If you keep your eyes on Him, He’ll not only sustain you—He’ll multiply your legacy.

Resources Mentioned:

• Debbie’s book: The Heart of Legacy
• Anchor Point Ministry: https://anchorpoint.us
• Debbie’s site: https://thedebbiesimmons.com

Wherever you’re tuning in from today, know this: God sees you, loves you, and is working even in the waiting. Subscribe to Thrive Through the Fire and never miss a story of hope, healing, and faith in action.

In this vulnerable and faith-filled episode, I dive deep into what it really looks like to walk in faith and obedience when life feels anything but easy. As a mom, nurse, and colorectal cancer survivor, I know firsthand the tension between trusting God and asking, "God… are You serious right now?"

From biblical stories of radical obedience to raw moments from her own cancer journey, this episode will remind you that faith doesn’t mean having it all together—and obedience doesn’t always feel convenient. But both are powerful when life feels impossible.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ Why faith actually grows stronger in the fire

✔️ The difference between believing and obeying (and why it matters)

✔️ Real biblical examples of people who obeyed even when it didn’t make sense

✔️ What obedience looks like today when life gets messy and uncertain

✔️ Encouragement if you're wrestling with God or feel like you're falling apart

✔️ Practical ways to hold onto your faith when everything feels shaky

✔️ Powerful scripture to ground you in God’s promises

Hebrews 11:1 – "Faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see."

Hebrews 11:8 – Abraham obeyed even when he didn’t know where he was going.

Job 13:15 – "Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him."

Romans 8:28 – "In all things God works for the good of those who love Him."

Isaiah 41:10 – "Do not fear, for I am with you..."

Biblical Stories Highlighted:

• Abraham stepping out without a roadmap
• Noah building an ark when rain had never come
• Mary saying yes to the impossible
• Jesus surrendering to the cross
• And a powerful look at Job, who lost everything but still chose to trust God

I share how obedience looked during my cancer battle—surrendering control, choosing peace over panic, and finding the courage to share her story publicly to encourage others. She reminds us: “You don’t have to feel strong to obey. You just have to be willing to trust the One who is.”

Practical Encouragement:

✔️ Stay in the Word—even if it’s just one verse a day

✔️ Pray honest prayers (even if they’re messy)

✔️ Journal or note your “God moments” to remind yourself He is near

✔️ Surround yourself with people who will speak truth when you forget it

Quotes from the Episode:

“Faith is easy when life is good—but real obedience shows up when it’s not.”

“God may not ask you to carry a cross, but He may ask you to carry this trial with Him.”

“If you’re in a Job season, know this: God sees you, and He is working behind the scenes.”

If this episode spoke to your heart, don’t keep it to yourself.

✔️ Share it with someone walking through a tough time

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I was 37 years old, healthy, active, and had no family history of colorectal cancer. What started as something minor—a little bleeding I blamed on postpartum hemorrhoids—turned out to be Stage 3 colorectal cancer. And it turned my entire world upside down.

In this episode, we cover:

• What colorectal cancer is and how it starts
• The early symptoms that you should never ignore
• What the testing process and colonoscopy actually look like
• How treatment plans are formed, including surgery, chemo, and more
• My real story—what I went through, what I learned, and where God showed up
• Biblical encouragement and how scripture carried me through the fire
• Practical advice for staying mentally, emotionally, and physically strong

This episode is for anyone facing a diagnosis, supporting someone who is, or just needing to hear truth and encouragement in a season of unknowns.

Important Statistics You Should Know

• Colorectal cancer rates in people under 50 have increased by nearly 50% since the 1990s
• It is now the second leading cause of cancer-related deaths among people under 50 in the U.S.
• About 20% of new colorectal cancer cases are diagnosed in individuals under 55
• Younger patients are more likely to be diagnosed at advanced stages due to delayed detection
• Early detection saves lives—the five-year survival rate is 91% when caught early
• The recommended screening age has been lowered from 50 to 45

The Personal Side of the Journey

I break down everything you might face if you’re walking through colorectal cancer—from what it actually feels like to hear the words “you have cancer” to the awkward realities of testing and procedures. I also talk about how I wore an ostomy bag, endured surgery, and eventually got the news that I was in remission.

None of this was easy. But with my faith and the promises of God as my foundation, I found strength, even in the hardest moments.

Here are a few of the scriptures that held me together:

• Isaiah 41:10 – “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
• 2 Corinthians 12:9 – “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.”
• Romans 8:28 – “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.”

Steps You Can Take Now

• Advocate for yourself—if something feels off, speak up
• Get screened as soon as you're eligible
• Move your body and nourish it well
• Find a supportive community of people who will walk with you
• Ground yourself in truth through worship, prayer, and scripture
• Remember that it’s okay to laugh and cry in the same breath—this is hard, and you don’t have to pretend it’s not

Final Encouragement

You are not your diagnosis.

You are not defined by your symptoms or your scars.

You are loved, known, and seen by a God who promises to walk with you through every part of your journey.

You don’t have to go through this alone. Whether you are battling cancer, supporting a loved one, or simply feeling overwhelmed by health concerns—this episode was created to encourage you, inform you, and help you feel seen and supported.

Call to Action

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• Reach out to me directly with questions or prayer requests—I would love to support you
• Download my free eBook, Tools 2 Thrive – Cancer Edition, at www.tools2thrive.org

Prayer

Father, thank You for each listener today. Whether they are facing a diagnosis, supporting a loved one, or just carrying the fear of the unknown, I pray You would fill their hearts with Your peace. Strengthen their bodies, calm their minds, and remind them that they are never alone. May they know that You are a God who sees, who hears, and who walks with us through the fire. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Hey friend, welcome back to Thrive Through the Fire! If you’re new here, I’m Alyssa Kilgore—a mom, nurse, Jesus-lover, and someone who knows firsthand what it’s like when life doesn’t go according to plan.

I don’t know about you, but I love a good plan. I have multiple calendars, a planner (or three), and a color-coded system for keeping my life organized. I love knowing what’s coming next and being in control.

And then, life happens. And God says, "That’s cute, but I have something else in mind."

What We’re Talking About Today:

What happens when life completely derails your plans.

How to surrender to God’s will—even when it doesn’t make sense.

Biblical examples of people who had their plans flipped upside down.

My own story and the moment I realized I wasn’t in control.

Practical steps to mentally, emotionally, and spiritually surrender.

Encouragement to trust that God’s plan is always better than ours.

We’re getting real, honest, a little snarky, and a whole lot of faith-filled—because this is not about sugar-coated Christianity. This is about learning to let go and trust God even when it feels impossible.

Reality Check: We Are NOT in Control

I thought I had my life figured out.

I was a busy mom of four, balancing work, family, and a never-ending to-do list. And then, at 38 years old, I was diagnosed with stage 3 colorectal cancer—out of nowhere.

I went from being the caregiver to the one needing care. From making plans to realizing I wasn’t the one in charge. God was. (Newsflash: He always was.)

That year, my word became “surrender.” And let me tell you—it was both a smack in the face and the most beautiful lesson all at the same time.

Here’s the thing about surrender:

Most of us don’t do it willingly.

No one wakes up and says, "God, I’d love for You to completely turn my world upside down today!"

Usually, we surrender because we have no other choice. And when we think we’re calling the shots, God humbles us real quick.

Biblical Proof That God’s Plans Are Wild

If you think your life didn’t go as planned, let’s talk about some Bible greats who probably felt the same way.

Mary – The Ultimate "This Wasn’t the Plan" Moment (Luke 1:26-38)

Imagine being a teenage girl, engaged, planning a normal life—and then BAM—an angel shows up and says,

"Oh hey, Mary! You’re going to give birth to the Son of God. Surprise!"

Not exactly part of her wedding vision board.

And yet, her response blows me away:

Luke 1:38 – “I am the Lord’s servant. May your word to me be fulfilled.”

She didn’t argue. She didn’t bargain. She surrendered.

When I was diagnosed with cancer, I did not do that.

I fought. I begged. I cried.

"God, take this away. Please."

And yet Mary’s response? "May your word to me be fulfilled."

That’s a powerful example of surrender.

But if you’re struggling right now, if you’re begging God to take something away, I get it. And God can handle your fears, frustration, and even anger.

Jonah – The Man Who Ran from God’s Plan (Jonah 1-4)

Jonah’s story is both hilarious and relatable because, honestly?

We’ve all been Jonah at some point.

God told him to go to Nineveh and Jonah was like:

"Yeah, no thanks."

So he ran the opposite direction.

And God was like, "That’s cute, Jonah. Here’s a giant fish to swallow you so you can rethink your life choices."

Moral of the story?

You can try to fight God’s plan, but good luck winning.

Paul – The Man Who Had His Entire Life Flipped (Acts 9)

Paul (formerly Saul) had his own plans. He was out there persecuting Christians, thinking he was doing the right thing.

And then—BOOM—Jesus blinds him on the road to Damascus.

Acts 9:15 – “This man is my chosen instrument to proclaim my name to the Gentiles and their kings and to the people of Israel.”

Paul’s plans? Gone.

God’s plan? Way bigger, way better.

My Own Struggle with Surrendering

When I was diagnosed, I was mad.

I wanted to scream:

"Why, God? I’ve been faithful. I’ve been healthy. Why this?"

"What about my kids? What about my life? This wasn’t supposed to happen!"

And then I remembered:

John 16:33 – “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

God never promised life would be easy.

But He did promise He’d be with us.

And let me tell you—He showed up.

In the people who surrounded me with love and support.

In the peace I felt when I should have been falling apart.

In the strength I didn’t have—but somehow, I kept going.

How to Surrender When Life Feels Out of Control

So, how do we actually let go and trust God?

1. Acknowledge You Are NOT in Control.

Hi, my name is Alyssa, and I’m a control addict.

Hi Alyssa.

Step one: Admit it.

2. Pray for Trust—Not Just a Solution.

Sometimes, we pray for God to change our situation, but what we really need is for Him to change our hearts.

3. Surround Yourself with Truth.

Play worship music.

Get in the Word.

Drown out fear with faith.

(P.S. Worship music helped stop my first panic attack. True story.)

4. Let People In.

You were NOT meant to do this alone. Let people help you.

5. Trust That God’s Plan is Always Better.

Romans 8:28 – “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.”

Encouragement for You

If you’re walking through something hard, hear this:

You are not alone.

You are stronger than you think.

God is not done with you yet.

One day, you will look back and see how God was working—even in this.

Call to Action – What’s Next?

Subscribe so you never miss an episode.

Share this with someone who needs encouragement.

Message me—I’d love to hear your story and pray for you.

Check out some of the other resources I have or created for you.

🔥 Until next time, keep walking through the fire—and thriving. 🔥

Hey friend! Welcome back to Thrive Through the Fire. If this is your first time here, I’m Alyssa Kilgore—a mom, a nurse, a believer, and someone who walked through the fire of a stage 3 colorectal cancer diagnosis.

Today’s episode is all about the things I wish I had known before my diagnosis. My goal? To help you feel prepared, not afraid.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

The emotional rollercoaster and why it’s okay to not be okay.

The things no one tells you about treatment and recovery.

How to prepare for the awkward, embarrassing, and weird parts of this journey.

How to advocate for yourself as a patient.

How faith and fear collide—and how God walks with us through it.

The health prevention and early detection steps I want you to take NOW.

The Moment That Changed Everything

It’s crazy how one moment can change everything.

One minute, I was a busy mom of four, feeling great, working hard, volunteering at school and church. The next? I had a cancer diagnosis and a permanent spot in a chemo chair.

I thought I had more time. I was 37 years old—I thought I had more time before I had to worry about my health. More time before I had to deal with a diagnosis that flipped my entire life upside down.

But cancer doesn’t wait until you’re ready.

One day, I was running errands, answering endless "Mom, can I have a snack?" questions, and making sure everyone else was taken care of. And the next? I was the one who needed taking care of.

I ignored my symptoms. My doctor dismissed them, too. That’s the problem with colorectal cancer in young adults—it’s easy to overlook.

When I finally saw a specialist and went through all the awkward, uncomfortable, and invasive tests (hello, camera up my butt), the truth came out.

Stage 3 colorectal cancer.

And suddenly? I wasn’t the caregiver. I was the patient. I was the one waiting for biopsy results, trying to make sense of scary medical terms, wondering if my body was about to betray me completely.

The Hardest Part? The Waiting.

If you’ve ever had to wait for medical results, you know the anxiety that comes with it.

A funny story (which, by the way, means it’s totally a God thing—because I don’t believe in coincidences):

Before my diagnosis, I had hired a mindset coach for my business. (Either you think that’s super cool or you’re rolling your eyes—pretending you’re not rolling your eyes, thanks!)

She was amazing—and when I got my diagnosis, she asked if I wanted to pause our sessions.

I decided to keep going because I needed a distraction. Turns out? God had placed her in my life for a reason.

She had also had a cancer diagnosis at a young age, and she told me something I’ll never forget:

"Alyssa, the waiting is the worst part. Waiting for diagnoses, test results, second opinions—that's the hardest part. But once you have a plan, you just do the plan. Left foot, right foot, breathe."

Psalm 62:5 – "Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in Him."

I wish I had understood how much fear feeds on uncertainty. Looking back, the moments I had the most peace weren’t when I had all the answers, but when I remembered who was walking with me through the unknown.

What I Wish I Knew Before My Diagnosis

And honestly? These lessons apply to more than just cancer.

So take notes. Mentally or literally. Open your Notes app—go ahead, I’ll wait.

Lesson #1: People Want to Help—Let Them.

If someone offers to bring food, take your kids, or sit with you at appointments—let them.

Letting people help doesn’t make you weak. It lets them love you when you need it most.

Galatians 6:2 – "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ."

Lesson #2: Advocate for Yourself—No One Else Will Do It for You.

Ask questions. "What does that mean?" "Can you explain that in plain English?" (Seriously, I copy-paste my test results into ChatGPT and ask it to explain like I’m a kindergartner. You’re welcome!)

Take notes at appointments. Better yet? Record them on your phone.

Get a second opinion. Doctors aren’t offended—this is YOUR life.

Lesson #3: The Waiting is the Hardest Part.

"Waiting for the plan is the worst part. But once you have a plan—you just do the plan."

Psalm 27:14 – "Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord."

Lesson #4: Your Body Will Change—And It’s Okay to Grieve That.

Weight loss, scars, hair changes—it’s all part of the process.

It’s okay to mourn the old you.

But your value is NOT in your appearance.

(*P.S. I told my 5-year-old that my chemo port was my “power-up button.” He thought that was *awesome.**)

Lesson #5: Health Prevention and Early Detection Can Save Your Life.

Don’t ignore symptoms—especially changes in digestion, weight loss, or bleeding.

Know your family history.

Get screened earlier than they tell you to.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 – "Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit... honor God with your body."

Lesson #6: You Will See God Move.

In the people He sends.

In the peace that doesn’t make sense.

In the small miracles that show up when you least expect them.

Romans 8:28 – "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him."

Encouragement for You

If you’re walking through something hard right now, hear this:

You are not alone.

You are stronger than you think.

God is not done with you yet.

One day, you’ll look back and see how God was working—even in this.

Call to Action – What’s Next?

Subscribe so you never miss an episode.

Share this with someone who needs encouragement.

Message me—I’d love to hear your story and pray for you.

Check out some of the other resources I have or created for you.

🔥 Until next time, keep walking through the fire—and thriving. 🔥

Hey friend! Welcome back to Thrive Through the Fire. If life has ever thrown you into the deep end without a floatie, you’re in the right place.

Today’s episode? It might sting a little—because we’re talking about something none of us really want to hear:

God is more concerned with your character than your comfort.

I know, I know. Wouldn’t it be nice if life was just cozy blankets, smooth roads, and never having to wear pants with buttons? But that’s not how God works.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

Why God allows struggles and hardships.

Biblical examples of people who went through chaos—but came out refined.

My own experience with suffering (yes, I questioned God too!).

How to hold onto faith when life is physically, emotionally, or spiritually uncomfortable.

Actionable steps to trust God in the fire.

So if you’ve ever been frustrated with God, or wanted to quit when things got hard—this episode is for you.

The Hard Truth: Growth Hurts

No one signs up for pain. No one’s out here saying, “Lord, please, I’d love a season of suffering. Just go ahead and wreck my life.”

But here’s what I’ve learned—God isn’t in the business of making us comfortable. He’s in the business of making us holy.

James 1:2-4 says:

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything."

Did you catch that? Not “if” but “when.” Hard times aren’t an accident—they’re an assignment.

What We Can Learn From The Bible

1. Joseph – From Favorite Son to Prisoner to Ruler (Genesis 37-50)

Joseph was his dad’s favorite, had big dreams, and a fancy coat. And what happened?

His own brothers threw him in a pit and sold him into slavery.

He ended up in prison for years—for a crime he didn’t commit.

If anyone had the right to ask “God, what are You doing?!”—it was Joseph.

But God wasn’t done. Joseph became second-in-command in Egypt and saved his family from famine. He later told his brothers:

Genesis 50:20 – "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives."

God wasn’t punishing Joseph—He was positioning him.

2. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego – The Ultimate Fire Walkers (Daniel 3)

These three guys refused to worship a king’s golden statue—and were thrown into a literal fire.

But when King Nebuchadnezzar looked inside, he saw four people in the fire. Not three.

Jesus was with them.

Daniel 3:25 – "Look! I see four men walking around in the fire, unbound and unharmed, and the fourth looks like a son of the gods!"

God didn’t keep them out of the fire, but He walked through it with them. And when they came out? They didn’t even smell like smoke.

My Own Story: When God Didn’t Take the Fire Away

When I was diagnosed with stage 3 colorectal cancer at 38, I was doing everything right:

Eating healthy.

Exercising.

Praying.

And yet, there I was—Googling survival rates, scheduling chemo, and learning how to live with an ostomy bag.

Would I have chosen cancer as my personal character development journey? NOPE. Hard pass. But did it humble me, refine me, and strip away all the things I thought I needed? Absolutely.

God wasn’t punishing me—He was preparing me.

How to Trust God in the Fire

Alright, let’s get practical. How do we actually do this?

Let people help you.

When people say, “Let me know if you need anything,” they actually mean it.

Let them bring you a meal, take your kids, sit with you at appointments.

Stay in the Word.

Even when it doesn’t feel like it’s helping, keep reading scripture.

The Word of God is alive and breathing—and it’s where truth drowns out fear.

Talk to God honestly.

You don’t need fancy prayers. Just be real with Him.

Take care of yourself physically.

Your body is already under stress—so hydrate, eat, move your body, and REST.

Remember: This will not last forever.

Even if your circumstances don’t change—you will.

Encouragement & Prayer

Romans 8:28 – "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose."

You are not being abandoned.

You are being refined.

And what feels unbearable now? One day, it will be part of your testimony.

Call to Action – What’s Next?

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🔥 Until next time, keep walking through the fire—and thriving. 🔥

Hey friend! Welcome to the very first episode of Thrive Through the Fire! You know, it’s kind of an unwritten rule that the first episode of a podcast has to start with an introduction—so here we are. Obligatory intro episode. But don’t worry, I promise it won’t be boring!

I’m Alyssa Kilgore—a wife, mom of four, nurse, accidental tech guru, coffee reheater extraordinaire, and stage 3 colorectal cancer survivor. This podcast is for anyone who has ever had life throw them an unexpected curveball—whether it’s a diagnosis, a loss, or just a season that makes you ask, “Seriously, God?”

In this episode, we’re diving into:

My personal journey through a shocking cancer diagnosis.

The fear, uncertainty, and emotions that came with it.

Where I saw God’s presence in my hardest moments.

Scripture, encouragement, and practical advice from a nurse—because let’s be real, there’s a LOT no one tells you.

The awkward, embarrassing, and uncomfortable things we need to talk about.

If you’re going through something hard right now, this episode is for you.

The Moment Everything Changed

One day, I was just a regular mom—running errands, answering endless “Mom, can I have a snack?” questions, and microwaving my coffee for the third time. The next? I was sitting in a doctor’s office hearing the words, “You have cancer.”

I was 38 years old. I was in the best shape of my life. I felt fine. How could this be happening?

Suddenly, I was drowning in fear of the unknown:

What’s going to happen to me?

How bad is this going to get?

Will I ever feel normal again?

And let me tell you—fear thrives in the unknown.

But here’s what I’ve learned: fear loses its power when you know what to expect. That’s why I created this podcast—to help YOU be prepared, not afraid. Because God didn’t bring me through this just to keep it to myself.

The Warning Signs & the Misdiagnosis

Let’s talk about how this started—because colorectal cancer? Not exactly a glamorous diagnosis.

I was bleeding in my stool (yep, we’re going there). I mentioned it to my doctor multiple times, and each time I was told, “It’s probably just hemorrhoids.” But deep down, I knew something was wrong.

That gut feeling? That’s God. Listen to it.

After a very awkward colorectal exam and a colonoscopy, my doctor still reassured me that everything looked fine. Until I got the results.

I opened my patient portal, expecting to see “benign” or “nothing to worry about.” Instead, my eyes landed on words like "Adenocarcinoma" and "Lymphovascular invasion."

I went from not worried at all to Googling my survival rate and assuming I had three months to live.

Hospital tech teams—PLEASE stop putting biopsy results in patient portals before a doctor can explain them. Thank you.

Where Was God in All of This?

I wish I could tell you that I immediately turned to faith. That I heard my diagnosis and thought, "Well, God’s got this!"

But no. I was scared. I was angry. I was begging God to take this away. And for a while? It felt like He was silent.

But looking back, I can see His fingerprints all over my story.

God was with me through every surgery, every chemo treatment.

He showed up in devotionals, in worship songs, in people He placed in my life.

He reminded me—over and over again—that I was not alone.

One of my favorite Bible stories is Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.

Daniel 3:25 says:

"Look! I see four men walking around in the fire, unbound and unharmed, and the fourth looks like a son of the gods!"

That fourth person? Was Jesus.

God didn’t keep them out of the fire—but He was with them IN it. And when they came out? They weren’t even burned.

That story became even more real to me after a conversation with a woman named Joan.

She told me, “Radiation is literally setting yourself on fire from the inside out. But if God could be with those men in the fire, and they walked away unharmed, then He could be with me too.”

That conversation changed everything for me. And years later, I met Joan in person at a completely random church event. Only God could have orchestrated that.

Encouragement & Practical Advice

Jeremiah 29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Friend, if you’re walking through a fire right now—please hear this:

God is still with you.

You are allowed to ask for help—from doctors, from friends, from Him.

You are not alone.

God doesn’t cause our pain—but He uses it for good.

Call to Action – What’s Next?

Subscribe so you never miss an episode.

Share this with someone who needs encouragement.

Message me—I’d love to hear your story and pray for you.

Check out some of the other resources I have or created for you.

You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s step into the fire together—and thrive.

Final Prayer

Father God, I pray for my friend listening right now. I don’t know what battles they are facing, but You do. I pray that they feel Your presence, that they know they are never alone, and that You have plans to prosper them and not to harm them. Give them strength, hope, and peace as they walk through this fire. In Jesus' mighty name, Amen.

🔥 Until next time, keep walking through the fire—and thriving. 🔥

If you’ve ever felt like life threw you straight into the fire—I see you.

I’m Alyssa Kilgore, and at 38 years old, as a mom of four, I was diagnosed with colorectal cancer out of the blue. One moment, life was normal. The next? Everything changed.

And let’s be real—the hardest part of anything isn’t just the battle itself… it’s the unknown.

Not knowing what to expect.

Not knowing how bad it’s going to get.

Not knowing if you’ll ever feel normal again.

That kind of fear? It can be overwhelming.

That’s why I created Thrive Through the Fire—to share my story and the stories of others who have faced the unimaginable, the uncomfortable, and the awkward, so that you never have to fear the unknown.

Whether it’s cancer, loss, uncertainty, or just one of life’s unexpected curveballs, we’re going to talk about it. Truthfully. Authentically. With a little humor, a lot of faith, and real-life wisdom that will actually help you.

Because even in the fire—there is hope.

During my journey, prayer became my lifeline, and the one scripture I held onto with everything in me was Jeremiah 29:11:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Maybe you’ve heard about God before, maybe you haven’t. Maybe you’re not sure what you believe. That’s okay—this space is for you too. My hope is that through this podcast, you’ll see just how good God really is, even in the hardest moments.

Here’s how you can be part of this journey:

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