Transforming Us Podcast

Enneagram 7: Finding Joy and Connection in Your Relationship with Christa Hardin, MA

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we dive into the vibrant world of the Enneagram 7, exploring how these adventurous spirits find joy and connection in their relationships. We sit down with relationship expert Christa Hardin, MA, who brings over 20 years of experience in clinical psychology and marriage research to the table.

Christa shares insights from her "Glow Theory," explaining the fascinating patterns that emerge when couples' numbers come together. We discuss what happens when a pairing moves into "Glow"—operating from a place of health and connection—versus falling into "Shadow" dynamics. Christa also introduces an exciting new quiz designed for couples to explore their Enneagram types and instincts within the context of marriage. This is a fantastic addition to her best-selling book The Enneagram in Marriage.

Whether she is writing, teaching, coaching, or vacationing with her family, Christa brings a sense of adventure and joy to everything she does. Integrating decades of work in the therapy room with deep Enneagram knowledge, she offers practical, faith-informed tools to help you understand your personality dynamics and build a lasting, meaningful connection.

About Christa Hardin:

Christa Hardin, MA, is a relationship expert and author of the best-selling book, The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing, which details all 45 possible Enneagram pairings. A graduate of Wheaton College, she is the host of the Enneagram & Marriage Podcast—with over one million downloads—and will soon be releasing her second book focusing on the "Three Desires."

Here are the links to connect with Christa Hardin and explore her resources:

Website: EnneagramandMarriage.com
Apple Podcast: Enneagram & Marriage Podcast (also available on Spotify and other major platforms)
Quiz for Couples: QuizForCouples.com
Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage

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Enneagram 9: Moving Beyond the Numbers to Center with Marilyn Vancil

Wed, 25 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we explore the intersection of Christian spirituality and the Enneagram with spiritual director Marilyn Vancil. The conversation centers on the transformative journey from the Adapted Self—the version of us shaped by external expectations—to the Authentic Self, our true identity as a reflection of God’s image. Marilyn explains that the Enneagram is not a restrictive label but a powerful tool for inner freedom, helping us move beyond ego-driven patterns and toward a life centered with God.

A significant focus is placed on the Enneagram Nine, specifically their struggle with self-identity and the vital role of emotional awareness. Marilyn highlights how acknowledging suppressed anger is a key catalyst for Nines to reclaim their presence. Through practices like centering prayer, listeners are invited to move beyond surface-level traits into a state of drawing toward the center of the enneagram. This process of recognition and formation allows for a more grounded life where our seeds can shed, then sprout and grow.

The episode explores how these dynamics revolutionize our relationships. By recognizing the "adapted" versions of ourselves and others, we can navigate conflict with greater compassion and empathy. Marilyn outlines the stages of spiritual growth, illustrating how the Enneagram serves as a map for moving through patterns toward an integrated way of being. Whether seeking deeper self-discovery or a closer connection with Christ, this episode offers a roadmap for finding your true, authentic self.

Connect with Marilyn: www.marilynvancil.com

Her books: Self to Lose Self to Find & Beyond the Enneagram

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Enneagram 3: Navigating the Harmony Triad and Spiritual Rest with Rev Clare Loughrige

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Have you ever felt like your worth is entirely tied to your last big win or how well you’re "performing" for the people around you? In this episode of Transforming Us, Jess sits down with the incredible Reverend Clare Loughrige to tackle that exact tension. For many of us—especially those who identify with the Enneagram Three—identity can easily get tangled up in what we do rather than who we are. Clare introduces us to the Enneagram Harmony Triad, a powerful tool that helps us move out of that trap by balancing our head, heart, and gut intelligence. This is Enneagram Harmony and integration.

But how do we actually heal those deep-seated patterns that make us feel like we have to perform? Jess and Clare dive into the world of Attachment Theory and the wisdom of St. Ignatius to find wisdom. By approaching our past with compassion and curiosity, we can begin to see the Enneagram not just as a personality test, but as a sacred map for relational healing and soul-care.

What if the most productive thing you could do for your spiritual life was actually to stop working? It sounds counterintuitive, but Clare argues that the radical practice of the Sabbath is the ultimate antidote to the pressure of constant productivity that a 3 feels. We wrap up the conversation by exploring how rest acts as a vital spiritual discipline for remembering who we truly are apart from our enneagram “edge” as she calls our false self patterns..

About Our Guest: Rev. Clare Loughrige, MMin, is an author, IEA Accredited Enneagram professional, and Founder of Crossroads Soul Resources School of Spiritual Direction. A contemplative-activist and Lead Pastor since 1991, she integrates spiritual rhythms and justice advocacy to help leaders move toward interior freedom and their God-given design.

Websites

https://clareloughrige.com

https://ccmonline.org

Enneagram certification

https://scottandclareloughrige.org/enneagram-certification/

Spiritual Direction School

https://scottandclareloughrige.org/school-of-spiritual-direction-2/

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Enneagram 5: From Observation to Embodiment in Work and Relationships with Katy Beckham

Wed, 25 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

Today, Jess interviews Katy Beckham. She is a GIS Analyst, biologist, and certified Enneagram coach with two decades of experience. She hosts the We Are All Human Podcast and writes on Substack under the tag We Are All Human, focusing on the intersection of story, faith, and personal growth. Based in South Carolina, Katy is a wife and mother of three who is deeply dedicated to connecting with others through storytelling.

We discuss how Enneagram 5s can move from "detached observation" to active participation in life. In this episode, Katy shares her journey of navigating the world through the lens of Type 5 Patterns. We explore the 5’s core fear of depletion and how resource management impacts high-demand seasons of motherhood and marriage. Katy offers a raw look at the Withdrawn Stance, providing strategies for remaining emotionally available for family while protecting the essential inner castle.

We dive into Enneagram relationship patterns and attachment styles, discussing how her disorganized attachment has become secure in marriage, while building emotional security with her kids. We break down the Type 5 stress and growth arrows, learn how nature growth for a 5 is embodiment through nature and exercise helps Head Types bridge the gap between intellect and emotion, shifting from a posture of "avarice" to a trust in God’s presence. You don’t want to miss this episode packed with wisdom from Katy.

Connect with Kay Beckham:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/weareallhumanpodcast/
Substack (Podcast & Writing) https://substack.com/@weareallhumanpodcast
Watch the We Are All Human Podcast: YouTube http://www.youtube.com/@weareallhumanpodcast
Listen to the We Are All Human Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-are-all-human/id1495864942

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Enneagram 8: Finding the Heart in Leadership, and Avoidant Attachment with Travis Vangsnes

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Jess sits down with her husband, Travis Vangsnes, for an honest and deep-diving conversation into the inner world of an Enneagram 8. As a father of five and a passionate advocate within the foster care system, Travis opens up about the "big energy" that defines the Challenger and the constant internal battle with the Type 8 core lie: the belief that it is not okay to be weak or vulnerable. For any Eight searching for a way to lead without overwhelming others, or for those who love an Eight and want to understand the "why" behind the intensity, this episode serves as a roadmap for transformation.

Jess and Travis explore the fascinating intersection of the Enneagram and Attachment Theory, specifically looking at how a Fearful-Avoidant attachment style can create a unique tug-of-war between a fierce need for independence and a deep longing for intimacy. They discuss the nuances of the One-to-one Subtype for an 8 and how that intense energy manifests in leadership, parenting, and their own marriage. This episode provides a rare look into the Type 4 and Type 8 relationship dynamic, highlighting how they navigate conflict, find balance, and move toward a secure connection by embracing vulnerability as a strength.

The journey toward growth for an Eight involves shifting from a place of confrontation to a place of deep emotional awareness. Travis shares the spiritual practices that are currently transforming him, and the realization that he no longer has to be his own protector by leaning into the spiritual truth that he is safe in God’s care.

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That’s So Rad https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-so-rad/id1810887342
Cultivate the Ordinary https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cultivate-the-ordinary/id1725656621
Foster Friendly Podcast. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-foster-friendly-podcast/id1755210067

Read one of Trav’s books:

Redemptions Echo https://a.co/d/g8rDp6H
Shiny Eyes https://a.co/d/9kslwY3

Connect with Travis: If you are a man (or know a man) who is looking for coaching to help navigate leadership patterns, Enneagram growth, or relationship dynamics, Travis works with individuals and leaders to help them find clarity and strength. You can reach him directly for coaching inquiries at travisvangsnes@gmail.com.

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Enneagram 4: Finding Freedom in Both (And) While Welcoming the Authentic Self with Janine Westlund, Spiritual Director

Wed, 28 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode, hosts Tamara and Jess sit down with spiritual director Janine Westlund for a deep dive into the journey of transformation and self-discovery. Janine shares her 15-year Enneagram journey, including the pivotal moment five years ago when she realized her true authentic self as an Enneagram 4.

For many Fours, the search for identity is often clouded by a core lie: the belief that they possess a "fatal flaw" or are fundamentally deficient. Janine opens up about the struggle of being misunderstood for uniqueness and the exhausting cycle of feeling like you are too much while simultaneously fearing you are not enough.

In this deep-dive conversation, we explore the path of transformation by first dismantling the "fatal flaw," helping listeners navigate the deep-seated shame and the "core lie" of deficiency that often haunts the Type 4 soul. Janine, Tamara, and Jess discuss the powerful intersection of personality and attachment theory, shedding light on how our early relational patterns directly shape our spiritual formation. Janine advocates for the practice of "soul care" and spiritual direction as vital tools for dismantling old, self-limiting scripts and moving toward the True Self. We also walk through the Welcoming Prayer, a spiritual practice for releasing the need for control and welcoming to the presence and movement of God, which ultimately leads to the gift of the "Both/And." By moving away from the exhaustion of feeling like you are too much or the compulsion to "fix" ourselves, we open the door to authentic connection and the freedom of being misunderstood for uniqueness without losing our sense of belonging.

Connect with Janine Westlund:

Spiritual Direction & Soul Care: https://anamcara.com/
Or email Janine at both.and.janine@gmail.com
Follow Janine on Instagram: @jaywest1802

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

The 40-Day Devotionals per Enneagram Type: https://www.amazon.com/Enneagram-Series-9-book-series/dp/B08VGPJTX6 – A targeted resource for Enneagram 4s (or other numbers) looking to integrate their faith and personality.
The Soul Care Institute: https://www.soulcareinstitute.com/ – A community and curriculum focused on the rhythms of spiritual formation.
The Welcoming Prayer: https://youtu.be/yIZexGqxiXQ?feature=shared – A practice of opening and consenting to God’s presence and action within.

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Enneagram 1: Goodness, Inner Critic & Anxious Attachment Patterns with Anna Palmer

Wed, 14 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

What happens when your internal drive for perfection meets a deep-seated fear of disconnection? In this episode, we sit down with Anna to pull back the curtain on the complex internal world of an Enneagram Type One navigating an Anxious-Preoccupied attachment style, as well as working toward security.

For many "Ones," the world is a series of things to be fixed, but for Anna, that drive for "rightness" often turns inward, manifesting as a relentless inner critic. When you layer that with an anxious attachment style, the stakes of every relationship and parenting decision feel incredibly high.

In this episode, we explore:

The Perfectionist’s Burden: How the Type One "Inner Critic" can turn anger into self-criticism and how that impacts emotional health.
The Anxiety of Disconnection: Navigating the "Anxious-Preoccupied" spiral when relationships feel distant or expectations aren't met.
Parenting with Pressure: The delicate balance of praising a child’s heart versus expecting perfection, and the fear of "getting it wrong."
The Power of the Sabbath for a One: How practicing a literal day of rest has become a transformative tool for surrendering control in a busy, high-pressure life.
A One’s need for physical resources to let go of anger.
Finding "Goodness" in the Mess: Moving from a life of rigid standards to a life of deep connection, play, and spiritual peace.

Whether you’re a fellow "reforming perfectionist" or someone trying to understand the anxious heart of a loved one who lives in the black and white vs gray, this conversation is a gentle reminder that you don't have to be perfect to be worthy of love.

"The journey isn't about silencing the inner critic; it's about learning that even when things aren't 'right,' we are still held."

Interested in signing up for the Soul Care Companions Cohort? Click the link below

https://mailchi.mp/8d2a9df7cca2/soul-care_companions_cohort

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Cultivating an Unhurried Soul in 2026 *A Special Invitation Episode!

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 05:00:00 -0400

A Special Invitation: The Soul Care Companions Cohort 2025

As we launch Season 2, we want to offer you more than just a podcast to listen to—we want to offer you a community to grow with. Today I am just dropping in with this invitation, and we will be sharing our first episode next week with my dear friend Anna Palmer Enneagram 1.

Many of the struggles we discuss today—perfectionism, the need for control, and the feeling of isolation—are exactly what we address in our upcoming Soul Care Companions Cohort. This is a 9-week intentional journey designed to help your "inner being" finally breathe.

What We’ll Practice Together:

The Examen: Finding God’s small gifts in the mundane.
Breath Prayers: Rhythms to find rest when life feels hurried.
Meditative Scripture: Slowing down to see what surfaces when we aren't "performing" for the text.

**The Journey through Henri Nouwen’s Reaching Out:**

Following the wisdom of Henri Nouwen, we will journey through three essential spiritual shifts:

From Loneliness to Solitude: Moving from isolation to a grounded heart.
From Hostility to Hospitality: Moving from "defensive bracing" to a welcoming presence.
From Illusion to Prayer: Letting go of the "illusion of control" and reaching toward God.

The Logistics:

When: Every Friday, Feb 6th – April 3rd (Leading us through the season of Lent).
Where: Online via Zoom at 7:00 PM ET.
Investment: $20 for Week 1 (The total commitment is an additional $160, which can be split into two monthly payments of $80).

How to Register: click here https://mailchi.mp/8d2a9df7cca2/soul-care_companions_cohort

Send your $20 deposit via Venmo to @jessica-vangsnes.

Once confirmed, you will receive the official meeting link and cohort details via email.

"The journey of soul care isn't about adding more to your to-do list; it’s about creating an 'open space' where you are finally free to be loved as you are."

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Being Friends: Remembering the Rhythm of Play in Relationships

Wed, 31 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

The playful spark that started it all often gets buried under life's demands. But what if the key to a healthy, resilient romantic partnership is simply remembering to be friends?

Join Tamara and Jess as they dive into the vital significance of cultivating a rhythm of friendship, play, and laughter within romantic relationships. They discuss why intentional fun and shared adventures aren't just luxuries—they're essential components for nurturing connection, diffusing stress, and deepening joy.

Discover how prioritizing play can act as a powerful stress diffuser, lightening the load for both partners.
Learn practical tips for "scheduling the fun" and being intentional about carving out time for connection, even with low-effort activities.
Hear personal reflections on the magic of laughter and shared novelty ("It re-tricks your brain to like something new") and how simple routine shifts can enhance bonding.

This episode is an encouraging reminder to reclaim the friendship aspect of your partnership, emphasizing that joy and intentionality are the keys to a thriving relationship.

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Being Teammates: Navigating the Mental Load in Relationships

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

The mental load—that constant, invisible list of organizing, planning, and anticipating—is a leading source of strain in modern relationship dynamics, especially as holiday stress peaks this mental load. In this episode, Jess and Tamara unpack the weight of this unseen emotional labor and why it often falls unevenly, leading to feelings of resentment. Hear why invisible labor creates deep resentment and how better communication and empathy are the keys to a healthier partnership. Learn some practical tips on becoming better team mates and looking out for one another. They offer couples strategies for auditing and sharing these responsibilities—a process they call making the invisible >>> visible. Tune in to learn how to transform resentment into effective teamwork and find balancewith margin too, so you can stop asking, "What are you doing with your time?" and start nurturing each other's wellbeing.

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Being Partners: Prioritizing Intimacy and a Connection Rhythm

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Some seasons can often feel like a relationship pressure cooker. In this episode of the Transforming Us podcast, Jess and Tamara tackle the chaos and stress, emphasizing the importance of balancing the need for routines as partners, to maintain relationship satisfaction. They share practical strategies for prioritizing intimacy and connection amidst the holiday hustle. Learn how implementing daily practical rituals, dedicating non-transactional time, and embracing the power of a 30-second practice to release oxytocin and strengthen bonds through physical affection can transform your partnership. Discover how these small micro habits and intentional eye contact or flirting, can communicate, “being close to you is a priority," even when every other conversation seems to be about logistics.

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Stop Fighting & Flighting: 3 Steps to Practice Emotionally Mature Communication

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Are you tired of repeating the same old immature responses in your relationships?

Dive into the transformative world of emotionally mature communication with hosts Tamara and Jess. In this episode, Transforming Communication in Relationships: From Immaturity to Maturity, we give you the tools to ditch reactive, immature communication and embrace a wiser, more secure way of interacting with the people you love.

We explore why we often revert to immature communication styles when we're triggered and how your inner child and attachment styles play a pivotal role in conflict resolution.

Things You'll Learn:

Identify and heal conflicts by recognizing the unmet attachment needs driving harsh or reactive communication.
Learn ways each attachment style shows immature communication and practice ways to flip that toxic script.
Understand the difference between the adaptive child's fight-or-flight response and the wise adult's humility and warmth.
Learn practical strategies like the “STOP Pause” responding to build emotional safety and security.
Discover how maturity involves tending to our inner children and modeling healthy communication for parenting and future generations.
Elevate your connection by practicing emotional attunement and secure relationships.

This journey to emotional intelligence and maturity is ongoing, but as we say, "It's never too late to turn things around." Tune in and start building the deeply connected, safe relationships you deserve.

Mentioned in this episode:

Stop PAUSE Practice: Box Breath Practice… Stop. Think, Observe, Pattern

“Us; Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship” by Terrence Real

“You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting For” by Dr. Richard Schwarts

“Attunement is the mechanism. It is the basis for building trust.”

~ Dr. John Gottman

ATTUNE Practice (Dr. John And Julie Gottman): Awareness, Tolerance, Turning Toward, Understanding, Non-Defensive Listening, And Empathy

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Enneagram 2: Compassionate Presence & Sustainable Transformation with Dr. Mary Filice, PhD

Wed, 03 Dec 2025 05:00:00 -0400

On this week's Transforming Us episode, we dive deep with the amazing Dr. Mary Filice about the profound journey of personal transformation through compassionate presence.

Dr. Mary Shares how she has seen… "Healing happens in relationship."

Dr. Mary Filice is an esteemed educator, scholar, and visionary businesswoman renowned for her pioneering work in personal transformation and healing. She developed Dr. Mary's Method of Transformation® (MOT®), which merges philosophy with science to guide individuals toward realizing their fullest potential. As an International Enneagram Accredited Professional (AP), Dr. Filice integrates her expertise in the Enneagram, Gabor Maté's trauma-informed psychotherapy, and Dr. Siegel's interpersonal neurobiology. She is the original founding member of Enneagram Collaborative Global (ECG) and a co-developer of The Attuned Parent Program (TAPP).

In This Episode: Dr. Filice, an Enneagram type 2, shares how this framework can be a map for understanding ourselves and how our unmet needs obscure our essence—our true God made self.

We explore:

The critical link between brain science and trauma-informed healing.
Why wholeness is relational and the importance of community and collaboration.
How compassionate inquiry can help us meet our past experiences with kindness.
The essential role of awareness in parenting and attachment.

If you're seeking a more compassionate path to healing and stronger relationships, this episode is for you!

Connect with Dr. Mary Filice here: https://www.drmaryllc.com/

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Connection Over Correction: How Soul Care and Play Can Help Cultivate a Secure Family System with Sarah McCrory, MS, LPC-S, RPT

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Are you ready to shift your parenting from reactive correction to intentional connection? Need help cultivating a peaceful family system?

In this transformative episode, Jess welcomes Sarah McCrory, MS, LPC-S, RPT, the founder of Sanctuary Counseling and Wellness in Montgomery, AL. As a Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist, Sarah specializes in healing attachment trauma in children and families using powerful models like TBRI® (Trust-Based Relational Intervention), EMDR, and Theraplay. Sarah, who believes a true sanctuary offers rest and safety, reveals how the triad of TBRI, restorative soul care, and intentional play can fundamentally transform your home environment.

We dive into the core concepts rooted in Dr. Karyn Purvis’s work (The Connected Child) and Sarah’s practical applications (The Connected Parent). Learn why understanding attachment theory is essential to recognizing behavior as communication, and how it leads to profound healing from trauma.

Key Takeaways for Deeper Connection:

TBRI's Core Shift: Discover the mindset change that allows you to choose Connection Over Correction, realizing that "Your child isn't giving you a hard time."
Healing Through Play & Repair: Understand how therapeutic play disarms fear and builds trust, making repair in family dynamics the most potent tool for security and growth.
The Soul Care Priority: Learn practical ways to prioritize your mental health and emotional well-being. Sarah explains ways to recognize energy depleters and infusers.
The Power of Being which frees you from performance pressure in parenting and life.

This episode is a vital resource for anyone seeking a compassionate, evidence-based approach to strengthening their family bonds and becoming a source of healing within their family system.

Mentioned in this episode: Karen Purvis Resources and

Here is a playlist of 43 videos (from Karyn Purvis and some others) that explain many of the concepts of the TBRI model.

The Connected Child and The Connected Parent are both rooted in TBRI® and beautifully complement each other—but they serve different roles. The Connected Child lays the foundation. The Connected Parent bridges theory and practice, with each chapter pairing expert insight (Dr. Karyn Purvis) with real-life parenting experience

Order the The Connected Child

Order the The Connected Parent

Connect with Sarah McCrory:

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Learn Your Paths to Security Using the Enneagram Instincts, Wings, and Arrows

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Dive into a transformative conversation with Jess and Tamara on Transforming Us as they explore the deep connection between attachment security in relationships and the powerful framework of the Enneagram. This episode, Learn Your Paths to Security Using the Enneagram Instincts, Wings, and Arrows, is your guide to authentic personal growth and lasting mental health.

We all want to feel secure—but what does that actually look like? In this deep-dive, we break down the crucial role of recognizing and regulating your emotional states. Learn how to identify hyperarousal (that feeling of being anxious and overwhelmed) and hypoarousal (the numbness and disconnection) and discover practical steps toward better emotional regulation.

Jess and Tamara shine a light on the three main instincts—self-preservation, social, and one-to-one—and how integrating them is key to true growth. We also discuss how the Enneagram wings provide vital resources for balance and how following the arrows helps you navigate paths of stress and integration.

This episode emphasizes the significance of somatic awareness—tuning into your body's signals—as a fundamental tool for feeling safe and in control. Whether you're focused on improving your relationships, committing to self-care, or exploring trauma-informed coaching principles, this conversation will equip you with a new lens for understanding your inner world.

Are you too hot? Are you too cold? Stop letting your emotional thermostat control you. Start your traveling, your path to security and wholeness.

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How Christians Can Use the Enneagram for Pastoring, Parenting, and Becoming Present with Tyler Zach (3w4)

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

How does the Enneagram Three (The Achiever) navigate the demands of ministry, the vulnerability of parenting, and the intimacy of partnering? As the author of the popular Gospel For Enneagram devotional series and creator of the most helpful Enneasummits, Tyler gets real about his patterns!

In this episode, Tyler Zach, certified Enneagram coach, spiritual director, and former pastor, Type 3, offers a window into how the Type 3’s drive for success and image management impacts his roles as a counseling pastor, a husband, and a father to two adopted sons. We explore the transformative power of the Enneagram as a tool, detailing how recognizing the core motivations helps him move past the pitfalls of performance and towards authentic connection. Tyler shares his thorough research on the origins of the enneagram and lays to rest common fears Christians have about using it.

We will discuss takeaways for growth, regardless of your type:

The surprising role of curiosity in moving from achievement to genuine spiritual growth in all relationships.
How the Enneagram and attachment theory integrate to help accelerate the power of the gospel in your life.
Practical strategies for parenting with the Enneagram to prioritize compassion and authenticity over performance.
The importance of slowing down to counteract the Three's tendency for busyness, especially during midlife.
How the Enneagram helps us all identify the 'personal lies' we believe, fostering a healthier foundation for ministry and Christian community.

Don't miss Tyler's valuable wisdom on making the Enneagram a practical tool for becoming a better spouse, parent, and leader. He also highlights the resources available through the NES summits.

How to find Tyler:

Web: https://www.tylerzach.com
Instagram: @gospelforenneagram
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gospelforenneagram

Free Enneagram Resources from Tyler:

Freebies (Self-Typing Guide & 5-Day Devotional): http://www.tylerzach.com/free
Get a 40-Day Devotional for your Enneagram Type: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08VGPJTX6

Should Christians Use the Enneagram? (another resource)

https://gospelforenneagram.com/christian-enneagram/

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Exploring Your Relational Pattern Overlaps: Attachment Theory & The Enneagram

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Tired of the same old relationship struggles? Want to understand the "why" behind your connection patterns? In this episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jessie and Tamara dive deep into the helpful intersection of the Enneagram and Attachment Theory. This is the essential conversation for anyone seeking to finally decode the complex relationship dynamics of their connections, their parenting approach, and their overall personal growth.

We explore how your attachment style (Secure, Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment-Dismissive, Fearful-Avoidant), profoundly shapes your core Enneagram patterns, influencing everything from your routine interactions to how you manage conflict and vulnerability. We unpack specific challenges for each type, providing insights into their unique insecurities and core relationship needs. Always giving tips to grow more secure wherever you are now.

The conversation emphasizes that building a strong sense of self-compassion and developing emotional intelligence is the cornerstone of fostering healthier connections. This is a must-listen for anyone in coaching or seeking better mental health and transformation!

Episode Takeaways

How combining the Enneagram and Attachment Theory clarifies deep-seated relationship dynamics.
A breakdown of the unique insecurities and relationship needs of each Enneagram type.
The critical role of building a strong sense of self for healthy intimate relationships.
Why avoidance of emotional vulnerability is one ditch, and avoidance of self-leadership is the other.
Better understanding of which Enneagram patterns display certain insecurities.
How issues of self-worth can lead to withdrawal and disengagement.
Becoming aware of some numbers with knowing, and asserting their needs.

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A Basic Guide to Understanding the Enneagram: A Tool for Transformation

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Join Jessie and Tamara as they dive deep into the Enneagram, the helpful psychological framework for transformation. This episode is your essential guide to understanding the nine distinct personality patterns—not as static labels, but as a dynamic roadmap for self-awareness and greater emotional intelligence.

In this foundational primer, you'll discover:

The System's Structure: We break down the historical context and explain the profound connection between the Enneagram and attachment theory.
The "Why" Behind Your Actions: Learn how your core emotions and Centers of Intelligence (Head, Heart, and Body) shape your worldview and drive your behavior.
A Blueprint for Change: Explore the unique strengths and challenges of each type, along with practical growth tips you can use right now.
Transformation for Life: Whether you're seeking to enhance your communication, navigate conflicts, or deepen your relationship coaching skills, learning your Enneagram type is the key to embracing your complexity and moving toward genuine self-discovery.

Tune in to learn how the Enneagram can be the catalyst for the personal and relational transformation you've been seeking!

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Processing Pain and the Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence with Scott Allender

Wed, 22 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Navigating pain and leading with emotional intelligence are critical skills for any leader. On this episode of the Transforming Us Podcast, host Jess Vangsnes sits down with award-winning leadership development professional and author Scott Allender, to explore the profound connection between the Enneagram, emotional intelligence, and leadership with some personal stories of transformation along the way.

In this very real conversation, Scott, author of "The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success", shares how the Enneagram can be a powerful tool for self-awareness, helping you understand your unique emotional patterns and pain points. He shares how, in his book, he has overlapped the Enneagram with 5 metrics of Emotional intelligence. You'll discover why organizations often prioritize emotional regulation over the deeper work of truly understanding emotions in relationships. The episode also explores the link between the Enneagram and Attachment Theory, revealing how your personal history shapes your Enneagram number and leadership style.

Scott introduces the Enneaflip, a practical resource for applying Enneagram insights in your daily life alongside the patterns in your relationships at work or at home. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to become a more effective and compassionate leader.

Key Topics:

Enneagram and Emotional Intelligence: Learn how the Enneagram can help you identify and process pain, leading to greater self-awareness and emotional intelligence.
Leadership and Personal Growth: Understand how healing yourself and embracing your personal growth journey directly impacts your leadership and relationships.
Attachment Theory & The Enneagram: Explore the fascinating intersection of these two frameworks and how they influence your personal dynamics.

Scott’s Resources:

https://www.scottallender.com/

The Evolving Leader Podcast

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Fearful Avoidant: How to Navigate the Push-Pull of Intimacy

Wed, 15 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Do you feel caught in a constant push-pull between wanting close relationships and pushing people away? In this powerful episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara dive deep into the complexities of the fearful avoidant attachment patterns. We’re getting to the heart of what drives this unique and often misunderstood relationship dynamic, rooted in deep-seated childhood wounds of broken trust and hyper-sensativity.

In This Episode, We Explore:

The Fearful Avoidant Map: Unpack the mix of anxious and avoidant behaviors that define this attachment style. Understand the high levels of anxiety, the struggle with trust and vulnerability, and the self-sabotaging tendencies that can make stable relationships feel impossible.
Security Through Regulation: Discover the vital roles of emotional regulation and co-regulation in managing intense emotional reactions. Jess and Tamara share practical strategies for building emotional health, from positive self-talk to creating an evidence journal to combat negative biases.
Communication & Boundaries: Learn how inconsistent boundaries can impact your relationships and how to build a foundation of open communication. The hosts emphasize the importance of communicating your needs and finding safe, supportive relationships that allow you to grow without fear.
The Path to Secure Attachment: This episode highlights the significance of therapy and personal growth in confronting past wounds. Join us as we discuss how a willingness to be vulnerable and a commitment to self-discovery can transform your attachment style and help you build the healthy, secure relationships you truly desire.

If you’re ready to break the cycle and find a sense of peace in your relationships, this episode is your guide.

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Dismissive Avoidant: How to Embrace Vulnerability and Emotional Connection

Wed, 08 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Are you in a relationship with someone who seems distant or emotionally unavailable? Or do you recognize these patterns in yourself? In this insightful episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara do a deep dive into the dismissive avoidant attachment style. We're exploring the core reasons behind the desire for autonomy and the struggle with vulnerability that defines this relational pattern.

In This Episode, We'll Explore:

The Avoidant Map: Understand why individuals with this attachment style may feel committed at the beginning of relationships, only to become overwhelmed as emotional intimacy deepens. We'll uncover the link between trauma and the tendency to repress strong emotional responses like sadness and anger.
Communication & Connection: Learn why communication is often a significant challenge for dismissive avoidants, leading to misunderstandings and feelings of inadequacy. We'll discuss how to navigate rigid boundaries and the fear of vulnerability that can push partners away, often through self-sabotage.
The Path to Security: Discover how dismissive avoidants can work towards better emotional regulation and find a balance between independence and connection. Jess and Tamara provide valuable tips for personal growth and co-regulation, highlighting how self-awareness and supportive relationships can lead to greater attachment security.

This episode is for anyone seeking to understand the complexities of dismissive avoidant patterns—whether in a partner or in themselves. Join us to learn how to transform emotional distance into a journey of healing and growth.

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Anxious Preoccupied: How to Feel More Calm in Your Relationships

Wed, 01 Oct 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Are you tired of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with anxious preoccupied attachment? In this episode of the Transforming Us podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara get real about the anxious preoccupied attachment style. We're diving deep into the inner workings of this relational pattern, from its roots in childhood wounds to its impact on your relationship dynamics today.

In This Episode, You'll Discover:

The Anxious Preoccupied Map: Unpack the core characteristics of this attachment style, including the constant need for emotional connection and validation, the fear of abandonment, and the tendency to self-sabotage healthy relationships.
Healing & Growth: We share authentic stories and practical insights on how to navigate the challenges of low self-esteem and difficulty setting boundaries. Learn how to break the cycle and start your journey of personal growth towards a more secure attachment.
Real Talk on Relationships: Understand why you might overshare your feelings or feel anxious when disconnected from your partner. We'll show you how to build a sense of security from within and create balanced, mutually-supportive relationships.

Whether you're looking to understand your own patterns or a partner's, this episode is a powerful guide to pinpointing the anxious map. Join us as we explore what it truly takes to transform an anxious attachment and build the healthy, stable relationships you deserve.

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Decode Your Relationship Patterns: A Basic Guide to Attachment Theory

Wed, 24 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Hey friends, welcome back to Transforming Us Podcast. This week, we're finally getting into the world of relational attachment, and let's just say, it's getting a little personal. We are getting honest about our own journeys with different attachment styles. Are you ready to transform your relationships and break free from old, painful patterns? In this episode, we offer a basic overview and guide to the world of attachment theory with a focus on how your early experiences shape your adult relationships. Whether you're in a romantic relationship or on a journey of personal growth and becoming more relational, this episode is packed with foundational insights you won't want to miss.

Key Topics Covered:

Attachment Theory Explained: We'll break down the four main attachment styles: secure attachment, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant. Learn how to identify your own style and understand the behaviors that come with it.
Healing Insecure Attachments: Discover practical strategies for moving from an insecure to a more secure style. We discuss the importance of emotional regulation and self-soothing to manage anxiety and prevent trauma responses in relationships.
Communication Skills for Deeper Connections: Learn how to improve your communication skills to foster vulnerability and create a safe space for true intimacy. We'll explore how fear of abandonment can drive anxious behaviors and how to navigate the challenges of emotional intimacy with a dismissive avoidant partner.
The Path to Personal Growth: This episode is a guide to understanding yourself and your relational triggers. By decoding the attachment cycle, you can begin the journey of healing and growth, leading to healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Don't let your past map dictate your future path. Tune in to learn how to break old relational patterns and build the loving, secure relationships you deserve. Once you know your patterns, join us for the next three episodes, where we will dive deeper into each of the insecure attachment styles: anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant.

So, grab your coffee, get comfy, or take a walk and let's explore how we can all move a little closer to secure attachment, one honest conversation at a time.

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How to Begin Healing What’s Within with Dr. Chuck DeGroat

Wed, 17 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Join us for a profound conversation with author, therapist, and professor Dr. Chuck DeGroat on a very special episode of the Transforming Us podcast. Dr. DeGroat's new book, Healing What's Within, dives deep into how our unhealed pain can impact our relationships with ourselves, others, and God. We explore the powerful idea that what isn't transformed is transmitted and discuss how we can break free from cycles of hurt.

Discover how to use tools like the Enneagram wisely for deep self-understanding, why paying attention to your body and nervous system is crucial for true healing, and the transformative power of "communities of redemptive remembering." Dr. DeGroat shares practical wisdom on navigating developmental trauma, moving toward "realized security," and how three powerful questions from Genesis can guide us toward wholeness. This episode is for anyone seeking to heal what’s within and find hope in their journey toward a more secure and connected life.

Learn More & Connect with Dr. Chuck DeGroat:

Website: https://www.chuckdegroat.net
Books: https://www.chuckdegroat.net/books
Social Platforms: @chuckdegroat (Instagram, X, Facebook, Substack)

Key Takeaways

Healing Our Wounds: Unhealed pain is transmitted to others unconsciously. This episode helps us stop the cycle and find wholeness.
The Divided Self: We explore how trauma can create a "divided self" and impact our relationships.
Beyond Personality: The Enneagram is more than a personality test; it's a tool for deep self-understanding and healing a darker side of our patterns.
The Body Holds the Story: Real healing requires listening to our body and nervous system, not just our intellect.
Find Secure Connection: You can build "realized security," even with a shaky past when you begin to get curious about your desires, needs and beliefs.
Three Guiding Questions: Learn how three questions from Genesis can help you understand what's happening within.
Create Safe Spaces: We discuss what it means to build "communities of redemptive remembering" where people feel truly seen.

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7 Essential Skills to Shift: Simple Practices Designed for Wholeness

Wed, 10 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this practical episode of The Transforming Us Podcast, hosts Jess and Tamara share seven essential skills to help you build healthier relationships and improve your overall well-being. Using a holistic approach, they connect key concepts from trauma, attachment theory, and the Enneagram to give you a clear roadmap for personal growth.

You'll get actionable tools and techniques for:

Learning to be aware of subconscious patterns is crucial for personal growth.
Mindfulness & Overthinking: Learn to identify and shift negative thought patterns to manage anxiety and overthinking.
Emotional Regulation: Discover the power of emotional and somatic awareness to release stored stress and trauma from the body.
Communication Skills: Improve your communication by expanding your emotional vocabulary and learning effective verbal processing.
Self-Compassion: Practice soft resilience to be kinder to yourself and reframe negative self-talk. Becoming more flexible.
By the end of this episode, you’ll have a guide to building healthier daily practices that can transform your relationships and help you feel more balanced.

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Your Connection Tapestry: Pulling Threads of Attachment Security

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 05:00:00 -0400

Hey there Beautiful souls! In this powerful episode of Transforming Us, we're diving into one of the most fundamental human needs: connection. Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns? Or why some bonds feel so strong and others are fragile? The answer often lies in your attachment story.

Jessie and Tamara break down the science of relational attachment, exploring how our earliest experiences with parents, caregivers, and even adoption, create a blueprint for our adult relationships. We’ll talk about what "good enough" parenting really means and how attunement and deep emotional bonds are the building blocks for secure attachment and long-term resilience.

This episode is a journey of self-discovery. We’ll guide you through understanding your own attachment style and how tools like the Enneagram can illuminate ingrained patterns you might not even be aware of. We’ll also be honest about the tough stuff—like navigating the cognitive dissonance that comes with personal growth and the challenge of shedding old, protective parts of yourself to make room for healing.

Takeaways:

Relational attachment starts from infancy and shapes our adult relationships.
Secure attachment is not about perfection but about being attuned to a child's needs and repairing when necessary.
Emotional bonds are crucial for resilience and strength in relationships.
Healing unhealthy patterns requires self-awareness and effort.
The Enneagram can provide insights into attachment styles and relationship dynamics.
Transforming protective parts of ourselves is essential for growth.
Understanding oneself is intertwined with knowing God.
Loneliness can have severe chronic health implications.
Repairing within intimate relationships is a normal part of the process.

Ultimately, this is about more than just your relationships with others. It's about a deeper understanding of yourself, which in turn leads to a more profound connection with God. Join us as we explore how healing our attachment wounds can disrupt old patterns and pave the way for a life of healthier, more secure connections.

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Compassionate Self-Care: Building Soft Resilience With Inner Kindness

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In Episode 3 of Transforming Us, Jessie and Tamara delve into the essential practices of self-compassion and self-care, illuminating their profound impact on personal growth and emotional well-being. Join them as they explore how cultivating kindness towards yourself can transform your approach to relationship challenges.

This episode unpacks the vital role of emotional safety in building strong, healthy relationships, and how your faith can enhance your capacity for self-compassion. Discover how having grace for yourself fosters humility and authenticity, and how integrating difficult experiences builds true resilience.

Jessie and Tamara discuss the transformative power of self-care but also the necessary path to self-awareness. The episode highlights how understanding your emotional triggers and needs is crucial for personal development. They explore practical strategies for setting healthy boundaries and improving communication, connecting how growth often stems from facing hard truths. Learn how a growth mindset can help you embrace vulnerability and create new softer responses.

Takeaways:

Self-compassion is essential for personal growth.
Emotional safety is crucial in relationships.
Resilience is built through self-compassion.
Transformation often feels worse before it gets better.
Curiosity about oneself leads to deeper understanding.
Effective communication fosters understanding and support.
Setting boundaries is vital for healthy relationships.
Humility allows for authentic breakthroughs.
Nurturing oneself is a key aspect of self-care.
Recognizing one's inherent value is foundational for growth.

Practical Self Compassion: 3Ns

Notice - become aware of thoughts, feelings, body sensations.

Name - begin to name thoughts, emotions, and physical needs.

Nurture - be cared for by yourself or another person, let yourself have needs and emotions.

This conversation emphasizes that transformation in relationships is a continuous journey, requiring patience, practice, and a deep commitment to your own needs. Listen in as Jess and Tamara share personal anecdotes and insights, offering practical tools to cultivate a more compassionate and become more whole. They’ll provide you with the support you need to improve your soft resilience skills and your relationships through compassionate self-care.

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Understanding Your Maps: Attachment, Enneagram, and Beyond

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 05:00:00 -0400

In this episode 2, hosts Jessie and Tamara dive deep into the core of relationship patterns, exploring how our past experiences shape our present connections. Through vulnerable personal stories, they illuminate the power of self-reflection and healing, emphasizing that understanding your attachment style and Enneagram patterns is crucial for relational growth.

Join Jessie and Tamara as they discuss the profound impact of family dynamics and how early experiences can influence our adult relationships. They share insights on navigating conflicts, the importance of communication, and the role of faith in fostering transformation. Discover how recognizing that "hurt people hurt people" can cultivate compassion and pave the way for deeper connections.

This episode isn't just about theory; it's about practical tools and real-life examples. Learn how coaching can guide you on your journey, how celebrating small moments can strengthen your family, and how reconnecting with old friends can reveal shared paths of personal growth. They emphasize that true change comes from doing the inner work, and that self-education is a vital component of transformation.

Whether you're struggling with recurring relationship patterns or simply seeking to deepen your understanding of yourself and others, this episode of Transforming Us offers valuable insights and encouragement. Tune in to discover how you can unlock your relationship blueprint and embark on a journey of lasting transformation. This podcast is here to help you understand your patterns and find a path to a better understanding your relationships and make necessary changes.

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A Relationship Blueprint to Discover Your Patterns

Sun, 22 Jun 2025 09:00:00 -0400

Feeling disconnected and overwhelmed in your relationships? You're not alone. In this teaser for "Transforming Us," hosts Jess and Tamara, trauma-informed relationship coaches, dive into the focus of painful relationship patterns and the mental health crises they can trigger. Get ready to explore how cultivating curiosity and compassion can be your first steps towards healing.

This podcast is a journey of transformation, emphasizing the power of self-reflection and personal growth as the path to security. Discover how trauma-informed approaches can help you redeem old patterns and build healthier connections. Join them as they share new ideas and practices, and the overall vision for the Transforming Us Project.

This is more than just relationship coaching tips; it's a conversation about psycho education, becoming whole, and starting with yourself to create lasting change in your relationships. Grab your coffee and join them as they embark on a journey of understanding “us.” Listen to the trailer now, and get ready for their first full episode coming in mid to late August!

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