Unfiltered Family Therapists

Ep 17 - Talking to your kids about Sex

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 02 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode Dr. Mary talks about the importance of talking to your kids about sex and body safety and provides a couple useful resources for parents and kids.

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This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not provide therapy, coaching, or medical advice. Participation does not establish a therapist-client or coach-client relationship. Always consult a licensed provider before making health, medical, or psychological decisions. MindWise Corporation and its hosts do not diagnose, treat, or provide crisis intervention. If you are in distress, contact a licensed professional or call 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We are not responsible for how you interpret or apply this content. By continuing, you acknowledge and accept these terms. All rights to the images, music, clips, and other materials used in this podcast belong to their respective owners. MindWise Corporation retains ownership of this content and its intellectual property.

Ep 16 - Parenting and ADHD

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 02 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this conversation, Dr. Mary discusses the challenges of parenting children with ADHD and shares a couple valuable resources and strategies for parents. She emphasizes the importance of predictability and trust in parenting, highlighting how ADHD kids thrive in predictable environments. She also encourages parents to understand their children's unique needs for trustworthiness in their approach to behavior management.

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Ep 15 - WTF is Feminism? Another DOAC response.

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 25 Jun 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this conversation, Dr. Mary and Jen delve into another DOAC episode, this one about the complexities of feminism. The discussion covers the impact of feminism on men and women, sexual regret, and the impact of cultural conditioning on relationships. They discuss the differences in perspectives on feminism, the role of age in sexual experiences, and the importance of understanding biological drives. The conversation also touches on the challenges men face in modern dating, the effects of generational trauma, and the dynamics of domestic violence. Throughout the discussion, they emphasize the need for education, understanding, and personal growth in navigating relationships and societal expectations. This episode also touches on the Hulu series, 'Dying for Sex'.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Feminism Debate

01:12 Diverse Perspectives on Feminism

03:06 The Impact of Age on Sexual Regret

04:59 The Role of Conditioning in Sexual Experiences

07:15 Cultural Shifts in Sexual Norms

09:31 Men's Experiences in Modern Dating

10:52 Biological Influences on Sexual Behavior

12:57 The Evolution of Relationship Dynamics

16:32 The Intersection of Biology and Social Conditioning

18:30 Reevaluating Patriarchy in Modern Society

21:02 The Ingredients of Successful Relationships

21:51 Understanding Human Connections and Relationships

23:48 The Complexity of Abuse Dynamics

26:14 Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

28:19 The Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships

30:51 Disassociation and Its Effects

34:11 Generational Trauma and Its Legacy

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Ep 14 - Response to DOAC Masculinity & a "Dating Crisis"?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Tue, 08 Apr 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this conversation, the hosts and their guests, Dr. Mary's husband Lonnie and best friend Tisha Jensen, discuss a podcast episode from 'Diary of a CEO' that addresses masculinity and "the dating crisis". They explore various themes such as gender dynamics, the role of testosterone, the impact of fatherless homes, the impact of COVID on male socialization, mental health challenges faced by men, societal expectations, and the nurturing of boys. They explore how women's trauma influences parenting and safety concerns, the societal expectations placed on men, is there value in humor and posture in relationships with men, and who should take initiative in dating. The discussion emphasizes the significance of personal accountability in designing relationships and the actions required to achieve desired outcomes.

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Links:

Diary of a CEO: Masculinity Debate: Are Dating Apps Creating Incels?! Lonely Men Are More Dangerous Than Ever!

https://youtu.be/li70iz1NaDY?si=d1-Ela3nxPkfVJch

Ep 13 - How does the Himalayan Salt Lamp Taste?... and more crap.

Dr. Mary Bowles — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Mary and Jen explore a variety of topics ranging from the taste and mystique of salt lamps to the healing powers of salt water and nature. They delve into the neuroscience behind belief and therapy, discussing the impact of water on mental health and the therapeutic benefits of hot springs. The discussion also touches on the journey of Lonnie, who transitioned from engineering to entrepreneurship, and critiques the limitations of traditional therapy methods. They emphasize the importance of critical thinking in education, the dangers of misinformation in health, and the intersection of AI and mental health. The conversation concludes with reflections on the political climate and its implications for society.

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This podcast is for educational and entertainments purposes only and does not provide therapy, coaching, or medical advice. Participation does not establish a therapist-client or coach-client relationship. Always consult a licensed provider before making individual health, medical, or psychological decisions. MindWise Corporation and its hosts are not providing diagnoses, treatment, or crisis intervention. If you are in distress, contact a licensed professional or call 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). We are not responsible for how you interpret or apply this content. By continuing, you acknowledge and accept these terms. All rights to the images, music, clips, and other materials used in this podcast belong to their respective owners. MindWise Corporation retains ownership of this content and its intellectual property.

Ep 12 - DeFunking Relationship Myths

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 05 Mar 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this conversation, Dr. Mary and Jennifer explore various myths surrounding relationships, emphasizing the importance of curiosity, communication, and understanding in maintaining healthy partnerships. They discuss how mindlessness can lead to misunderstandings and the role of childhood experiences in shaping adult relationships. The conversation also touches on anxiety, its roots, and the necessity of rewiring perceptions to foster better connections with partners. In this engaging conversation, Dr. Mary Bowles and Jennifer Newell explore the evolution of understanding autism and ADHD, emphasizing the importance of recognizing the strengths associated with neurodivergence. They discuss sensory experiences, the impact of smell and taste on behavior, and how to rewire beliefs to overcome fears. The conversation also touches on driving anxiety and the significance of mindfulness practices, including the use of Himalayan salt lamps...or not!

Chapters

00:00 Debunking Relationship Myths

02:59 The Importance of Curiosity in Relationships

05:52 Mindlessness vs. Intentionality in Relationships

08:56 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots

11:55 Rewiring Our Perceptions of Relationships

15:07 The Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships

17:59 Healing from Childhood Baggage

24:17 Evolution of Understanding Autism and ADHD

27:41 Sensory Experiences and Neurodivergence

30:14 The Impact of Smell and Taste on Behavior

33:53 Rewiring Beliefs and Overcoming Fears

39:02 Driving Anxiety and Overcoming Trauma

41:53 The Value of Himalayan Salt Lamps and Mindfulness

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Ep 11 - WTF is an Ep 10 Pullout?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 05:15:00 -0500

Well first off, what's a pullout? It's like a flyer in a magazine...but maybe you were intrigued by another term that might have come to mind! This is why meaning's don't match between 2 people's realities. So here's my pullout (or sidebar) on our discussion from episode 10! Specifically, I address accountability, intent, assertive communication, and making movement on problems vs problem solving.

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Ep 10 - WTF is Narcissism and Empathy in Pop Culture?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Thu, 06 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -0500

This discussion began as part 2 of our Pop Culture discussion and quickly turned to a discussion on narcissism and empathy as well as how interpretations of intent interfere with any 2 people's differing realities.

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All rights to the images, music, clips, and other materials used in this podcast belong to their respective owners. MindWise Corporation retains ownership of this content and its intellectual property.

Ep 9 - WTF is this Pop Psychology Crap?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Tue, 04 Feb 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode we discuss and debunk multiple pop psychology statements that are perpetuated in society.

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All rights to the images, music, clips, and other materials used belong to their respective owners. As the creator of this content, MindWise Corporation retains ownership of this intellectual property.

Please note, this podcast and its content are not intended to replace one-on-one therapy for any viewer, interviewee, guest host, in-person guest, or call-in guest or participant. This podcast offers general educational content to enhance, inform, improve, and repair personal and interpersonal interactions. If you find value in the information shared here, apply it as you see fit. If you don’t find value in the content, we invite you to seek value elsewhere.

In addition, neither by attending nor by participating, does Dr. Bowles, Ms. Newell, or any other presenter become your therapist or your coach. One-on-one therapy and coaching are distinctly different from each other and from this setting.

This session is not intended to provide mental health treatment and again, does not constitute a client/therapist relationship, which would only be established following an initial consultation and by reading, understanding, and signing an Informed Consent and a Consent to Treat form. We do not provide diagnosis via this interaction. The information provided here is not a replacement for the therapeutic relationship in psychotherapy or a coaching relationship. The information on this website is not intended to replace medical advice as neither of us is a Medical Provider (Physician, Psychiatrist, Nurse Practitioner, etc.).

By continuing beyond this disclaimer, you acknowledge and accept that we are not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. The information provided in or through this podcast pertaining to your health or wellness, exercise, relationships, business/career choices, finances, or any other aspect of your life is not intended to be a substitute for the professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider.

Also, by continuing beyond this disclaimer, you acknowledge and accept that if impacted by this podcast, you will seek the advice of your own Medical Provider and/or Mental Health Provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your specific health or any medications, herbs or supplements you are currently taking and before implementing any recommendations or suggestions from this podcast. Do not disregard medical advice or delay seeking medical advice because of information you have heard or read in this session or on the MindWise Institute website. Do not start or stop taking any medications without speaking to your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider. If you have or suspect that you have a medical or mental health problem, contact your own Medical Provider or Mental Health Provider promptly. The information contained on this session or on the website has not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration.

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Ep 8 - How about Alex Honnald?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Fri, 17 Jan 2025 06:00:00 -0500

In this episode we discuss world renowned rock climber Alex Honnold and the research that indicated he doesn't experience the typical brain response to fear. We also discuss the relationships shown in the movies and video series about him (and others).

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Ep 7 - Who is Dr. Mary?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Learn about Dr. Mary and some of what she is passionate about in her work.

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Ep 6 - Who is Jen?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Mon, 09 Dec 2024 13:00:00 -0500

Get to know Jen and what her professional passions are and why!

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Ep 5 - What are the Characteristics of Healthy Parenting?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 06 Nov 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Today we talk about what some of the behaviors are that demonstrate characteristics of healthy parenting.

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Ep 4 - Qualities of Healthy Relationships

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 23 Oct 2024 10:00:00 -0500

This episode we share our perspective on the qualities that exist in healthy relationships.

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Ep 3 - Addressing Alternative Lifestyles

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 16 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0500

This episode addresses what's different and the same for each of us when we are working with alternative lifestyles.

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Ep. 2 - WTF is Marriage and Family Therapy?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Wed, 09 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Today we discuss what Marriage and Family Therapy is and how it's different from typical mental health treatments.

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Ep 1 - WTF are we?

Dr. Mary Bowles — Tue, 01 Oct 2024 09:00:00 -0500

Join in our maiden voyage in this episode where we discuss who we are as therapists, share a little bit of how we approach therapy, and discuss how we become who we are (as therapists and you as listeners).

Mary’s Bio

Dr. Mary Bowles is a Psychologist, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist licensed in Colorado, Texas, and Florida (USA), and a life, relationship, parenting, and trauma coach. Mary received her bachelor’s degree from Colorado Mesa University, her master’s degree from Touro University, and her doctorate degree (PsyD) from California Southern University. She has been in practice since 2012 and works with couples, families, and individuals of all ages. She is a Supervisor and former board member for the International Association of Applied Neuroscience (IAAN), has completed Level 3 Gottman Method for therapy with couples, and holds certifications in multiple rapid treatment protocols, including Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT) and Reconsolidation of Traumatic Memories (RTM). Dr. Bowles is a parenting expert and trainer, high conflict divorce co-parenting expert, a speaker, author, relationship mediator, and an applied neuroscience researcher. She also specializes in the treatment of first responders and veterans. Dr. Bowles’ primary research focus is on the application of Memory Reconsolidation techniques for rapid trauma and anxiety treatment protocols. Specifically, she links current neuroscience research and historical psychotherapeutic evidence with the goal of informing the most efficacious treatment options, especially those that avoid, both, patients having to relive or experience repeated or prolonged exposure to their traumatic and distressing experiences and patients having to experience the stigmatic pathologizing that often occurs in the current mental health field. The result is multiple highly effective and rapid treatment protocols that align with the Dr. Bowles guiding treatment principles. As an interpersonal neurobiologically focused provider, Dr. Bowles has two main guides that influence her approach and her work; “normalize before we pathologize” and “work with the brain, not against it”. These guidelines ensure compassion in all intrapersonal and interpersonal work. With so many treatment options, Dr. Bowles is always concerned with differentiating what works from what does not work in psychotherapeutic settings, she advocates for the cultivation of equal-value approaches to working with all humans in all areas of life, and for reducing stigma in mental health by making science accessible through the interpretation of scientific and psychological language to the public.

Jen’s Bio

Jennifer Newell is a Marriage and Family Therapist, licensed in both Hawaii and Colorado, a registered play therapist, and a certified trauma professional with over 20 years of experience working with children/adolescents, families, couples and individuals. She utilizes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Family Systems, Solution Focused, Dialetic Behavior Therapy, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Psychodynamic, and Client Centered modalities. She earned a master’s degree in counseling psychology with an emphasis in marriage and family therapy from Chaminade University. She is also a Certified Trauma Professional and EMDR trained. She is a Registered Play Therapist and has extensive experience working with children of all ages who have social/emotional or behavioral problems in community mental health, school and residential treatment settings. She also has extensive experience in treating adult couples, individuals, and families, including military service members and veterans. Being a veteran, military spouse, and with her work as a military family life counselor, she is well versed and has specialized understanding of the unique stressors faced by the nation’s warriors and their families. She has helped clients address a wide variety of mental health concerns and psychological trauma. Jennifer provides evidence-based therapy that can help patients to overcome relationship issues, parenting concerns, stress and anger management, mood and anxiety disturbances, life transitions, ADHD and a wide variety of other counseling issues. She believes the most effective way to assist clients is by creating a supportive, understanding, non-judgmental environment in which clients can gain insight, communicate effectively, and learn coping skills to promote positive change in all aspects of their lives.