In Part 2 of Finding the Good When Life's Been Shit, we're talking about why gratitude journaling doesn't always feel helpful, especially when life is already difficult.

I'll introduce you to glimmer hunting — a much gentler way of noticing those tiny moments of comfort, pleasure or relief, without forcing yourself to feel happy or grateful.

Because you don't have to pretend everything's wonderful to start noticing the little things that aren't so bad.

Follow Up A Notch for Part 3, where we'll explore how these small moments can help us feel calmer and gradually change what our brains pay attention to.

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The Glimmer Hunting Challenge

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There's a reason your brain does that!

In Part 1 of Finding the Good When Life's Been Shit, we're looking at why our brains naturally focus on the negative, why difficult relationships and prolonged stress can make this worse, and how we can begin to change what we notice.

Because finding the good doesn't mean ignoring the bad.

Follow Up A Notch for Part 2, where we'll start exploring glimmer hunting.

Find out more:

https://www.lifeaftertraumatherapy.com

My books on Amazon:

How to Get Over a Cockwomble Quicker

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0HGTXD4PB

The Glimmer Hunting Challenge

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0HGNQ4TDB

So I thought it was about time we started putting some of that into practice!

This gentle guided body scan is the first of some simple exercises I'll be sharing to help you slow down, reconnect with the present and give your mind a bit of breathing space.

No pressure, no expectations and nothing to get right. Just a few minutes for you.

🎧 Find somewhere comfortable, but please don't listen while driving.

If focusing on your body feels uncomfortable, it's absolutely fine to stop.

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In Part 2, we're getting practical! Simple techniques to improve everyday remembering, reduce mental overload and give your brain some breathing space.

We'll also look at why therapy, nervous system regulation and getting the basics right can make a difference.

Sometimes helping your brain isn't about doing more. It's about giving it less to do.

🎧 Give one technique a go this week, and share this episode with someone who needs it.

Memory problems can have other causes, so please get checked by your GP.

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Prolonged stress and trauma can affect concentration, working memory and your ability to retain information.

In Part 1, we explore what's happening in your brain, why it happens and why it can continue long after the trauma has ended.

🎧 Press Follow so you don't miss Part 2, where we'll look at what you can do about it.

Memory problems can have other causes, so please get checked by your GP.

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In this Pod Shot, we're looking at why guilt doesn't always mean you've done something wrong, how years of people-pleasing can leave you feeling responsible for everybody else's happiness, and why learning to tolerate a little discomfort is part of changing those patterns.

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In this Pod Shot, we're talking about why anger can seem to come out of nowhere, what happens when you've spent years swallowing your feelings, and how all those unexpressed emotions can leave you ready to explode over the smallest thing.

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In this Pod Shot, we're talking about the difference between understanding someone's behaviour and making excuses for it, why empathy can sometimes leave us putting our own needs last, and why someone else's trauma isn't yours to fix.

Hit a nerve? Maybe it's time to start giving yourself some of that understanding and compassion you've been giving everybody else.

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In this Pod Shot, we're talking about why we overlook red flags, how to start recognising unhealthy patterns, and why it's time to stop worrying so much about whether they like you and start asking whether you actually like them.

Sound familiar? Maybe it's time to start trusting your own judgement.

In this Pod Shot, we're looking at why we sometimes repeat relationship patterns, what influences our choices, and why ending up with an arsehole doesn't automatically mean you're the problem.

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In this Pod Shot, we’re looking at why the effects of a shitty or harmful relationship don’t necessarily disappear just because the person did, and why your brain and body might still be reacting long after it ended.

Before you decide there’s something wrong with you, have a listen.

If this one hits home, follow Up a Notch for more straight-talking Pod Shots.

In this very short introduction, I’ll tell you who I am, why I created Up a Notch, and who these Pod Shots are for.

If you’ve got out of a sh!tty or harmful relationship but you’re still dealing with the aftermath, you’re in the right place.

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