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That’s a Wrap on the Longest Podcast Season There Ever Was!

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 10 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0400

Friends, what a beautiful and exciting journey it has been! As we take a much-needed break to recharge our batteries, frolic in the sunshine, enjoy time with our loved ones and align ourselves with whatever our next adventure will be, we want to thank every single one of you in our season finale episode. Keep in touch on our socials, like and review our 150 episodes, find us on werenotfine.com and send us love notes, sign up for our stack newsletters, just stay in touch. It’s not over yet! We love each and every one of you and could not be more grateful for all of your support along the way! 🩷 Until next time!

Chat GPT Does Therapy Too… How Does it Compare to the Real Deal?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 03 Jun 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on a write-in that asked ChatGPT to give advice on a long-standing issue he and his wife had been having for years. We HAD to jump right in and do a side-by-side response. DOUG & Talia vs Chat GPT. Winner takes all!

The Science Behind Self-Esteem

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 27 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400

This conversation delves into the complexities of self-esteem, exploring its roots, the impact of external influences such as social media, and practical strategies for improvement. The hosts discuss the importance of self-worth, the effects of negative self-talk, and the role of assertiveness in building confidence. They emphasize the need for self-care and the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive individuals to foster a healthier self-image.

How Soon Should You Disclose your Invisible Disabilities in Dating?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 20 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia discuss the importance of timing in disclosing your invisible disabilities in dating. Do you have ADHD or OCD? Are you someone with a chronic health condition? A mental illness? Are you on the spectrum? Do you lead with it or wait for the right moment? Tune in to find out!

She Loves Me. She Loves Me Not. Attachment Issues or Relationship OCD

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 13 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this Mailbag, Dr Talia and Doug play around with a few differential diagnoses. Anxious disorganized attachment, relationship OCD, or is it just not the right fit? Tune in!

I’m Jealous of the Affection my Girlfriend Gives her Dog”. Avoidant Attachment or...

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 06 May 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this Mailbag Episode; Dr. Talia and Doug tease out whether the writer’s girlfriend is pouring her love and affection into her dog while avoiding our writer because of an avoidant attachment style, or… is she just not that into him? Tune in to find out!

Shout out to @igototherapy for the Avoidant-Anxious dynamic reference.

Were you the Golden Child or the Scapegoat in your Family of Origin?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug take on the idea that having been either the Golden Child or Scapegoat in your family of origin had a lasting impact on you and is most certainly showing up in adulthood and in your romantic relationships. Both roles are toxic and either cursed you with a pressure to perform and please or an assumption that you can never do anything right. Tune in and weigh in, we want to hear from you!

You Think You Might be a Tad Defensive?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 22 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on “defensiveness” as the most common maladaptive self-protective coping strategy in relationships. As you all know, that doesn’t tend to go well. We feel attacked, defend ourselves, or maybe we roll our eyes, sigh heavily and tell our partner they misunderstood or they are too sensitive. We might not realize that we are creating a rupture by not validating their experience in that moment, but we are. Tune in to learn practical strategies to take that crucial momentary pause and learn to respond differently in those moments. Your partner will thank you!

My boyfriend has no ambition. So what?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400

Can differing ambition levels tank a relationship? When can it work and when is it a crack in the pavement? She loves him. He is happy to be who he is where he is, and there is no stopping her ambitious career path. An amazing mailbag episode honoring love from all walks of life.

I’m in Love with an Addict

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 08 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this poignant and emotional mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia touch on the painful realities of being in love with with a partner who is deep in addiction and not taking ownership of the issues or making efforts towards healing and changing. How much can a partner put up with? Can you force them to go to treatment? When do you leave? What if they are the love of your life?

How Big is your Age Gap? And Does it Matter?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 01 Apr 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug look at the pros and cons of a significant age gap in relationships. What matters most is emotional maturity, communication style and the ability to appreciate each others special contributions of wisdom or playfulness. But what about bridging the gap? What about social perception? Tune in and find out how to navigate these complex and often wonderful relationships!

Why Can't We Shake off the Memory of Our First Love? A WNF Mailbag Episode

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode we address a listener's concern that he can't stop fixating on his first love, even though he is happy in his relationship and his ex is married with children. Doug and Dr Talia look at the power of first love from many angles. Are we obsessing or just nostalgic? How can we make our warm memories fuel a warmer current relationship? How can we reclaim the parts of us we have lost that were merely highlighted in those early relationships? And is there a pattern in when we feel that longing? Could it be when we feel disconnected in our current relationship? Tune in and find out!

Can a Relationship Thrive with No Shared Interests?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this mailbag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug take on a really important couples’ question;“how important are shared interests in a relationship?” It turns out they’re not necessary for the survival of a relationship, but it is undeniable that it can do wonders in creating connection and joy when a couple shares new adventures and memories. It’s also crucial to have your own individual interests that light you up whether you are alone or with friends, and of course a balance of both is ideal for a happy partnership and life satisfaction. Tune in!

"My Close Relationship with My Work Spouse has Created a Marriage Nightmare For Me” a WNF Mailbag Episode

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Talia discuss the complexities of workplace friendships, particularly those involving the opposite sex, and the impact these relationships can have on romantic partnerships. They explore themes of jealousy, trust, and communication, emphasizing the importance of transparency and emotional intimacy in relationships. The conversation also touches on the role of couples therapy in addressing insecurities and fostering healthier dynamics between partners. The hosts provide insights into navigating these challenges while maintaining fulfilling friendships and relationships.

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00:00 Navigating Workplace Friendships

02:51 Understanding Jealousy and Trust in Relationships

05:48 The Role of Couples Therapy

09:08 Men and Women: Different Perspectives on Friendships

11:56 Emotional Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

14:47 Signs of a Healthy Work-Spouse Relationship

17:59 Balancing Work and Home Life

20:49 Final Thoughts on Friendship and Trust

What S*x Therapists Want You to Know

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 04 Mar 2025 04:00:00 -0400

This great New York Times article “What Sex Therapists Wish We Knew” really sparked some heated conversations and Doug and Dr. Talia wanted to share all of them with you. We talk about comparison being the thief of sexual joy, updating your definition of sex, and the different types of desire. You will definitely want to listen to this one. And don’t forget to share it with all of your lovers!

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Can Better Relationship Skills Save Your Incompatible Relationship?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0400

Sometimes incompatibility is a death sentence for a relationship, and other times it becomes clear that the way you are communicating your expectations is a bigger problem than incompatibility. This episode will help you determine whether upleveled relationship skills are what you need, or if your issues are truly dealbreakers threatening your longevity.

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The Jealousy Scale; from OK to No Way, a We’re Not Fine & Top Self Collaboration

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 18 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia, Doug and Shanenn Bryant, the host of the Top Self Podcast respond to jealousy provoking scenarios, and test out the Jealousy Scale. Would you be okay if your partner kept a minor infidelity from you? Would you be upset if your partner showed you cute people they are following online or would it more upsetting to see their likes behind closed doors? We’d love to hear from you!

How Love Addiction Actually Feels

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 11 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0400

Love Addiction, do you feel constant stress about what your partner is up to, if they’re thinking about you, why they’re not checking in with you, if their feelings have changed? You might have a love addiction. Do you feel like you are not whole without a partner? Are you constantly seeking your other half? Do you feel like you must become exactly what others are looking for to be loved and accepted? You might have love addiction. Tune in to Doug and Dr. Talia as they do a quick deep dive!

Keywords

love addiction, attachment theory, relationships, communication, self-love, emotional dependency, anxiety, conflict resolution, personal growth, mental health

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Dating while Good Looking and Successful? Beware of “Throning

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 04 Feb 2025 04:00:00 -0400

10 signs that you are getting “Throned”. Basically, Gen Z rebranded social climbing, and we love it. Throning is dating someone mainly to enhance your own reputation and boost your ego and credentials by association. Tune into this fun episode to determine if there’s any of this going on in your life! And if so, what to do about it.

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Why Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics May Be Following You

WNF Media LLC — Fri, 31 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0400

A few episodes ago Doug and Dr. Talia dove into signs you may have had an emotionally immature or abusive parent. If you are finding yourself in relationships that have unhealthy power dynamics or communication patterns, those original emotionally immature/abusive family relationships could be the reason. If you blame yourself for other people’s bad behavior, exhibit self-destructive behavior, fear others’ reactions, long for their approval, or if you bend over backwards to manage or “fix” your partner’s emotions to feel less disregulated, you will find your answers here, along with suggestions for continued healing. We’ve got your back, friends.

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Is Your Cell Phone Getting More FaceTime than Your Partner?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 21 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0400

Is your phone the silent intimacy killer in your relationship? If it is your phone addiction that is the problem, you would be the last to know. If it is your partner's mind numbing phone use on the other hand, it is probably all you notice. Doug and Dr Talia discuss how our screen use could be negatively impacting our intimate relationships, and offer baby steps we can take to be intentional with our attention again.

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Surprising Signs You May Have Had an Emotionally Abusive Parent

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 14 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0400

In this Episode Doug and Dr Talia discuss the signs you might not have recognized as a child that your parent was emotionally immature at best, and emotionally abusive at worst. Were they overly moody? Constantly negative and critical of you? Did they invalidate your emotions? Give you the silent treatment? You’re in the right place. Let us walk you through it, and you might decide it is time to talk to someone. You can finally be free of the negative impacts of the emotional abuse.

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Hey, Couples Sleeping in Separate Rooms, How’s That Going?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 07 Jan 2025 04:00:00 -0400

Did you know one in four couples sleep separately? You will be amazed by how these couples describe the experience of intimacy in their relationship. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug discuss the pros and cons of couples sleeping in separate rooms. Great for sleep, terrible for your sex life? Or does the great sleep translate into better intimacy? Tune in to hear what couples are saying!

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Need a New Year’s resolution? Save your relationship by learning how to “Fight Fair”

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 31 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia ask some tough love questions about the way you fight. Are you fighting to win? Do you bring up the past? Do you get defensive and shut down? Take a listen and see if there are some ways you can level up the way you fight to strengthen your relationship instead of damage it.

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Are we more Honest when we are Drunk? A Holiday PSA!

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 24 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug agree partially but not totally on whether we are more honest when we are drunk. Are we feeling our deepest darkest repressed resentment but unfiltered enough to finally say something? Well, that never turns out well. Are we no longer able to hide our longing and lust for a coworker at a Holiday Party? The question is whether our frontal lobe turning to mush for the evening helps us unleash our truth, or if what we are unleashing is an immature and distorted exaggeration of the truth and that is why we feel regret in the morning.

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How Fine Are We with our Partner Liking their Ex’s Stuff Online?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 17 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this Mailbag Episode, Doug and Dr Talia take on the many angles, caveats and exceptions to whether liking and commenting on your ex’s posts online is actually OK when you’re in a committed relationship. We’d love to hear your take!

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Mama’s Boy; Hot or Not?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 10 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this mailbag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug are faced with one woman’s disgust with her boyfriend’s all too close and dependent relationship with his doting mother. On the one hand, how wonderful that he can connect so deeply, that could only be a great sign for your relationship… Right? On the other hand, if he is not capable of fully taking care of himself, are you even dating an adult? Will he be able to take care of you? Or will you be taking his mother’s place?

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Doug & Dr Talia’s Top 5 Questions for Assessing Your Best Dating Fit vs. Best Marriage Fit

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 03 Dec 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug & Dr Talia chose their top 5 favorite questions to ask a potential partner! Some of the answers will tell you if you would be a good fit for a strong and healthy dating relationship, and other questions might help you determine if your personalities, lifestyles and dreams of your future won’t be compatible long-term.

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Just replace 2023 COVID with the 2024 Election and you will have the same Thanksgiving you had last year! Cheers!

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 26 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Happy Thanksgiving WNF Family! We got great feedback about this Turkey Day episode from last year, so we are airing it again. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some very relatable Thanksgiving mail bags. Then we tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We also offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you, or dread, loneliness and obligation, we embrace you and want to share it with you. Gobble Gobble!

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How Chronic Pain Affects our Mental Health and Relationships; LIVE Episode featuring Rhianna Gawrys, CYT, Somatic Yoga Therapist and Pain Specialist, Part 2

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 19 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In the second half of this amazing LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into how Rhianna’s history of chronic pain might still be affecting her, and she shares with us the professional knowledge she has gained from both her pain journey and her education. She teaches us about Somatic yoga therapy, and takes us through a powerful exercise in awareness. She gives us tips, tricks & strategies to live a more pain-free life.

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How Chronic Pain Affects our Mental Health and Relationships; LIVE Episode featuring Rhianna Gawrys, CYT, Somatic Yoga Therapist and Pain Specialist, Part 1

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 12 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In the first half of this amazing LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into Rhianna’s personal story of battling excruciating and debilitating back pain at the age of 25. She shares with us how her unexplainable chronic pain affected her mental health and her romantic, family and friend relationships, as well as how she advocated for herself in the health care system. In the second half, dropping next week, we ask Rhianna how the trauma and grief associated with her chronic pain might still be affecting her, and she shares with us the professional knowledge she has gained from both her pain journey and her education. She teaches us about Somatic yoga therapy, and gives us tips, tricks & strategies live a more pain-free life.

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My girlfriend has conflicts with so many important people in her life, but insists it is not her

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 05 Nov 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this mailbag, Doug and Dr Talia respond to our listener “Giuseppe”, who is in love with his girlfriend and wants desperately to be supportive of her, but can’t help but notice that she has conflict with so many people in her life. She insists she is not the problem. People either can’t stand her, or have cut her off and she will tell me that she has spent years putting up with their behavior and has finally created boundaries for herself and will no longer accept their disrespect. Who do I believe? How do I support her if I don’t like the drama that follows her everywhere? Help!

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Anxiety or Intuition? Why is my Aura Gray? And F*%# Pants! Our favorite Psychic Kaya is Back!

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 29 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400

For the third Halloween in a row, our favorite Mystic, Medium, Psychic and Healer Kaya Jelani returns to answer all of our questions! How can we tell the difference between intuition and our own anxiety? How do we know if something isn’t a hell yes and then what do we do about it? How do we know when it’s time to leave a relationship? How do we tune into alignment and misalignment? Can you read someone’s aura? How do you tell your partner they need to evolve or evacuate?

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"They're way out of my league, and no one understands why we are together. Are we doomed?"

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 22 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this mail bag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to a self-conscious 31 year old man who says that his fiancé is way out of his league, like traffic accident causing and heart stoppingly beautiful. He says he’s just an average guy, and was mostly feeling comfortable until the barrage of questions and criticism from her friends and family started and never stopped. They can not understand why she would be with him when she could do so much better. Needless to say, this poor couple is suffering from a bad case of self doubt that is like a crack in the pavement, as it will keep growing under any further stress. Are they doomed?

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The Dying Teach Us How to Live featuring Kelly Grosklags, LICSW; live at the Rogue Buddha Gallery

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Nothing makes our intentions to grow and change, to start a good habit, stop a bad one, feel more poignant and urgent than sitting at the bedside of the dying. We think we have problems? We probably don't even notice the petty things we complain about, the ways we feel sorry for ourselves, or the things we take for granted. In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have the honor of speaking with Kelly Grosklags, LICSW, Grief Therapist, Podcaster (See My Grief) and author of "A Comforted Heart" and "When Love Meets Grief" about her 30 years of experience sitting with the dying and their families. We ask her what she has found are the most common themes of what we should not spend another second worrying about, we dive into peoples' near-death experiences and related epiphanies, why some find comfort in religion and spirituality, how to be a compassionate witness and support person for the dying and their family, and differentiate between grief and depression. It was an incredible episode if we may say so ourselves!

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Apologize Well Once, or Apologize Badly for the Rest of your Life

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 08 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this final sixth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to apologize so well, you will not need to continue apologizing. In order to resolve conflicts in relationships, we encourage you to use 'I feel' statements and take responsibility for your behavior and its impact on others. Easier said than done. Sincere apologies are those that acknowledge the other person's experience and commit to making changes. To be heard is to be healed, and apologies without behavior change are just manipulation. BAM.

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Your partner is not psychic, so you do need to tell them what you need.

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 01 Oct 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this fifth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to disappointment-proof yourself and accept the truth that your needs are not as obvious as you think they are. And your partner is not psychic, as much as you wish they were. And even though you might be better than your average bear at anticipating and fulfilling the needs of others, there are a host of reasons why your partner might not be beating you to the punch in meeting your needs. When you say “ I shouldn’t have to tell them” or “they should already know “, you are in fact setting yourself up for a world of resentment, frustration and disappointment. Doug and Dr. Talia are encouraging you to own your needs and lovingly make them clear, even if you have to repeat them. We are rooting for you!

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Give your Partner the Benefit of the Doubt, or Pigeon Hole them into the Role you least Want Them

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 24 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this fourth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about “giving the benefit of the doubt” even if it’s hard. Yes Yes, the best predictor of future behavior might be past behavior, but giving the benefit of the doubt allows your relationship and your partner to grow. Don’t pigeon hole them and jump to dark conclusions, you will perpetuate a reactive relationship dynamic in which neither of you see each other accurately and with love. We hope you enjoy this mini-sode!

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“Harmony” or “Authenticity”? What makes you feel most connected in your love relationship?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 17 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this third of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about where each of us lies on the continuum of authenticity vs harmony in our love relationships. We tend to give our partner what we most desire. Those valuing “authenticity” (sometimes at the cost of harmony) feel most connected to their partner through honesty, sharing their thoughts, feelings, observations, and are more free to share constructive feedback and state their needs with their partners, hoping for a reciprocation in effort. On the other hand, those valuing “harmony” (also often at the cost of authenticity) value a general feeling of calm, ease, positivity, joy, and hope for a reciprocal “going with the flow for the greater good” in their interactions with their partner. Both ways of being in the world are often in reaction to family of origin patterns that we are either seeking to recreate, healthy or not, because the interactions feel like home to us, or to regulate our fried nervous systems, or hopefully to create a connection that feels healthier and stronger than the one we grew up in. Which is superior? A balance is what we seek, but what we do know is that you can have authenticity without harmony (not an enjoyable relationship perhaps), but you cannot have true harmony without authenticity. Enjoy!

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Don’t Drop the Rope! How to Love Better Ep.2

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this second of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we urge you to stay in the discomfort of having a loving but tough conversation with your partner. “Don’t Drop the Rope” speaks to the idea that when our nervous system is short-circuiting in a trauma response; fight, flight or freeze, let’s try to stick with it if we can, or at least acknowledge their bid for partnership along with our need to calm down, and reassure our partner we will circle back to resolve it as soon as we are regulated.

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If You Don’t Do Your Work, Everyone Around You Will Have To | How to Love Better Ep.1

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 03 Sep 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this first of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we focus on “If you don’t do your your work, everyone around you will have to”. The idea is that the benefit of doing your work, owning your past, your trauma, your triggers, your unmet needs, is so great. You will be changing dysfunctional and toxic relationship patterns, you will be empowered to communicate your thoughts, feelings, needs and boundaries, you will stop feeling victimized by others’ bad behavior and you will find more fulfillment and joy in your relationship life. On the flip-side, we argue the cost of not doing your work is too damaging. You will be perpetuating unhealthy patterns and continue to think others are the problem. You might even blame them for disregulating you rather than feel responsible for your own reaction, communication, and triggers. To “own” your triggers is to be freed from the unconscious toxic relationship patterns that are no longer serving you. We encourage you to level up in your precious relationship skills.

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A Couple’s Bumpy Journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/Psychosis and now Menopause, Pt 2 of 2. LIVE recording at the Rogue Buddha Gallery

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 27 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 2 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you’re welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.

Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris’s perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How’s it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.

In this week's episode, our couple shares how they reconnected after years of sadness, loneliness and solo journeys through their own busy lives and bumpy mental health. Gaby finally shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years. And stay tuned for our BONUS guest the last 25 minutes. Meet Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jenikka Tomashek, NP.

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A Couple’s Bumpy Journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/Psychosis and now Menopause, Pt 1 of 2. LIVE recording at the Rogue Buddha Gallery

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 20 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 1 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you’re welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris’s perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How’s it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.Part two next week includes our couple sharing how they reconnected as Gaby shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years, as well as a segment with our bonus guest, Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jennika Tomashek, NP. You will come out of this episode feeling warm & hopeful, with a suitcase full of strategies for improved partnership around the hormonal struggles, as well as increased insight into the medical angle of what’s happening, lifestyles suggestions and potential treatment options.SEND THIS EPISODE TO YOUR HUSBANDS, WIVES, PARTNERS, SISTERS, FRIENDS, MOMS, FRIENDS’ MOMS & MOM’S FRIENDS... anyone you think would benefit from this conversation! Like, subscribe and follow for more!

Divorced? It’s never too late to find the next love of your life!

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 13 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Divorce is not the end, and it definitely does not need to be a black ominous mark in your life story. In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into Love After Divorce! Many of us get married young in our 20s with hearts full of hope and sporting a fresh pair of rose colored glasses. We live footloose and fancy free, no responsibilities, no real problems, and then a myriad of changes happen during those next two decades that can challenge and change us to our core. Sometimes the external strains of real married life; unsupportive in-laws, purchasing a house, financial trouble, having children and all of the complications co-parenting can bring, or even something innocuous like finding a new community, hobby, or religion and growing passionately in that direction, but not with your partner. Maybe one of the partner’s develops mental illness or chemical dependency, maybe they have an affair, maybe you do. We are all human; not everyone has done their work, is an amazing communicator, or is willing to be self reflective and own their behaviors that are straining the relationship.

In which case, let’s talk about Love After Divorce. Tune in for some truly beautiful stories!

00:00 Introduction: Falling in Love After Divorce

14:59 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Relationships

17:23 Chemistry and Attraction: Essential Elements in a Relationship

21:57 Communication and Growth: Keys to Long-Term Relationships

25:41 Soulmates and Compatible Partners: Are There Multiple?

26:38 The Impact of Life Stages on Relationships

29:47 Reconnecting with High School Friends

35:15 The Importance of Emotional and Physical Intimacy

45:37 Finding Multiple Loves in One's Life

50:10 Recovering from Abusive Relationships

51:55 The Journey of Self-Growth and Self-Awareness

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What you don't realize about ADHD in relationships - featuring executive ADHD Coach Elle O’Flaherty

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 06 Aug 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Dear WNF listener, if you have listened to our show, you will know that ADHD is a topic so near to our hearts we wanted to find just the right person with just the right knowledge base and approach to do this complex and relevant topic justice. In this episode, we hear from federal attorney and trade negotiator turned founder of Interlace Solutions, a coaching firm helping professionals and executives to fulfill their potential. Elle O'Flaherty coaches both individuals with ADHD and couples who would like to partner better around ADHD. If you or your loved one has ADHD, this episode will really speak to you. We cover how to determine the difference between unfocused, burnt out, unmotivated and actual diagnosable ADHD, most common ADHD related issues for the ADHD-er, and then we dive into the impact of ADHD on a relationship. And most importantly, this episode is packed full of apps, resources, strategies for better mutual understanding and partnership around ADHD. Prepare to feel so much love and compassion of all those involved.

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00:00 Introduction and Excitement for the Topic

01:23 Overview of the Podcast and Topic

03:11 Personal Stories and Examples of ADHD Challenges

05:38 ADHD Brain Traits and Accommodations

08:20 Understanding ADHD as a Strength

10:05 Managing ADHD Symptoms and Challenges

16:06 Elle O'Flaherty's Background and Interest in ADHD

22:31 Increase in ADHD Diagnoses in Women

24:48 Stigma and Disclosure of ADHD

28:48 Talking About ADHD in the Workplace and Relationships

32:03 Motivating Individuals with ADHD

36:10 Reframing and Adding Interest to Tasks

40:43 ADHD and OCD Overlap

42:08 The Overlap Between ADHD, Trauma, and Autism Spectrum Disorders

43:05 The Lack of Training and Understanding Among Healthcare Professionals

45:23 The Challenges of the DSM-5 Definition of ADHD

46:17 Medication and ADHD Coaching as Treatment Options

50:27 Strategies for Managing ADHD Symptoms

53:45 Externalizing Memory and Accommodating ADHD in Daily Life

56:02 Creating Routines and Accommodating ADHD in Relationships

01:06:21 Understanding Time Blindness and Hyperfocus in ADHD

01:13:19 The Benefits of Having an ADHD Partner or Co-worker

01:14:43 Accommodating and Supporting Individuals with ADHD in Relationships

01:19:20 Strategies for Navigating ADHD in Relationships

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Platonic Relationships are a Fantasy

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 30 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Are there scenarios in which a potential love or sex interest could be a platonic friend? Mayyyyyyyyyybe, but unlikely. In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia look at this question from many angles, and we want our listeners to chime in! Do you agree that it is nearly impossible? Have you had experiences of successful platonic relationships that have remained uncomplicated with exes, friends of the opposite sex if you are straight or bi, and friends of the same sex if you are gay or bi? We discuss sexuality, attraction, communication, and a fascinating research study of the American Scientific Journal. Tune in!

00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer

02:39 Can You Have Platonic Relationships with Attraction?

15:39 Differences in Perception Between Men and Women

20:12 The Impact of Socialization and Stereotypes

28:01 Debating the Feasibility of Platonic Relationships

34:33 Navigating Platonic Relationships with Attraction

39:46 The Challenges of Maintaining Platonic Relationships

45:58 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Ultimatum Mailbag Episode - We're Not Fine Podcast

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 23 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this classic Mailbag Episode Dr Talia and Doug tackle two tough but relatable relationship issues. In the first, Amy gives Jake an ultimatum; either he quits his dangerous air courier job in Alaska after he lost two of his best friends doing the same dangerous job, or she leaves. But this career is his soul filling passion. What to do? And in the second mailbag Jess messed up with her serious long distance boyfriend of 6 months when she started up a “platonic” in-person friendship with her ex lover. She has been incredibly transparent and has done everything to honor her boyfriend’s feelings short of ending the friendship. Dan says he has had enough. What to do? Can these couples be saved? Tune in to find out!

00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer

01:20 Recap of Previous Episode and Live Event

10:19 Introduction to Mailbag Episode

11:43 Jake's Dilemma: Convincing Girlfriend About Job Safety

18:12 Navigating the Balance Between Passion and Relationship

23:42 Understanding Different Tolerances for Risk in Relationships

25:55 Addressing Anxiety and Fear of Abandonment in Relationships

26:51 The Importance of Open Communication and Compromise

28:17 Accepting the Inherent Risks in Certain Professions

31:59 The Importance of Transparency and Trust in Relationships

34:19 Learning from Past Mistakes

37:26 Navigating Long-Distance Relationships

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Finding Your Way after Catastrophic Loss featuring Dr Kim Harms

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 16 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia have a conversation with Kim Harms, DDS about her journey through multiple catastrophic losses in her life; the resilience and grace with which she came out of the darkest grief pit, as well as the incredible wisdom and advice she gives to other survivors of painful losses of loved ones. She lost both her mother and her 19 year old son to suicide, and her husband from what she is certain was a broken heart. This episode will give you such compassion for yourself and empathy for others in similar painful circumstances. We also hope you will be inspired to fight your way back to yourself, as Dr Kim says, and fight your way back to your remaining loved ones.

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Book #2: Are You Ready? How to Build a Legacy to Die For also coming out now, more information on her website!

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00:00 Introduction and Welcome

03:18 The Importance of Finding Joy in the Present Moment

06:40 Dr. Harms' Personal Experience with Suicide and Mental Illness

09:26 The Tragic Loss of Dr. Harms' Son

12:20 Finding Meaning and Beliefs About the Afterlife

17:01 Family History of Suicidal Depression

19:50 The Loss of Dr. Harms' Husband

23:03 Navigating Loss and Making Alternative Plans

25:20 The Power of Revenge and Fighting the Grief Pit

27:17 Understanding the Phases of Grief

30:07 Navigating the Stages of Grief and Healing

32:03 Finding a Safe Place and Conquering Fear and Loneliness

33:02 Updating Identity and Finding Purpose and Joy

35:20 Navigating Relationships and Love After Loss

39:34 Overcoming Obstacles to Healing

45:00 Planning for the End of Life

01:00:00 Conversations about Death and Downsizing

01:01:28 Planning Ahead and Choosing Where to Go

01:03:12 The Challenge of Downsizing and Feeling Clean

01:05:05 Leaving a Positive Legacy

01:08:50 Finding Purpose Within and Living a Joyful Life

01:09:46 Seeking Professional Help and Fighting for Well-being

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Want to be less angry at your loved ones? Boundaries 101

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 09 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk boundaries with Dr Catherine Cleveland. Boundaries really get a bad rap. We think of them as entitled, cold, rejecting, and whiny. Well, the joke is on us. The fewer boundaries we have with our loved ones, the more those relationships are fraught with irritation, resentment and even bubbling rage. "They should already know they are asking too much", we say to ourselves. "They should intuit that I hate when they drone on about my day." "Can't they see I am overwhelmed and can't take another thing on?" And then we say "go on", "sure, honey", "no problem", and then guess what? We add to our pile of resentment towards someone we care about that ultimately ends up leaking out of us with sarcasm, eye rolls and passive-aggressive snarkiness. What is the antidote? Boundaries! Let's rebrand this bad boy. If we understand our own values and communicate them clearly and lovingly, we eliminate over 50% of our interpersonal frustration. The other 50% of our frustration is most likely that we are not being honest with ourselves about our own needs and preferences. Well, we will help you with that! Meet our guest Dr Catherine Cleveland. She is a PhD-trained licensed mental health counselor who is deeply passionate about assisting individuals in rural and local communities with their personal challenges. She founded Cleveland Emotional Health, LLC, and developed The Cleveland Emotional Health Residency Program for master’s and PhD-level graduates, dedicated to promoting distinguished mental health counseling. She also wrote the Book The Four Essential Pillars of Boundary Setting: A practice-informed guide to Elevate your Empowerment, Authenticity and Self-Worth.

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Fireworks and Family: Quick Holiday Update

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 02 Jul 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Hey listeners, this is We're Not Fine with a quick update. We're taking a break this week to celebrate the holiday. We'll be back next week with more great content. Enjoy your holiday, and thanks for understanding!

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WE DID IT! Our 100th Episode Reflections and Team Secrets

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 25 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0400

WNF Family, we did it! And we couldn’t have done it without you! Our 100th episode marks two years of growth, amazing connections, brilliant guests, so many great topics hi-lighting the interplay between mental health and relationships, new learnings and much wisdom imparted. Join us as we reflect on our 2 years, share BTS drama, bumps and bruises along the way, and honor our beloved team Alex, Geoff, Jon and Digg as we ask them their secrets to a healthy relationship and their greatest insights about relationships. You don’t want to miss this one!

00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer

02:43 The Impact of Mental Health on Relationships

04:09 Reflecting on the Journey: Challenges and Growth

09:07 Building a Supportive Community

23:57 Excitement for Future Episodes and Live Events

36:39 The Power of Honesty, Communication, and Empathy

37:05 Assuming Nothing and Listening

38:01 Being Considerate and Setting Boundaries

40:24 Self-Love and Not Compromising

54:25 Don't Be a Dick and Empathize

57:13 Continual Learning in Relationships

01:00:52 You Can't Beg Someone to Love You

01:06:23 Differentiating Between Healthy and Enmeshed Relationships

01:08:24 Self-Love and Confidence in Pursuing Personal Goals

01:11:34 Gratitude for Team Members and the Opportunity to Create

Alex's Chocolate chip cookie recipe

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230g Cake Flour

27g AP Flour

5g Kosher Salt

8g Corn Starch

6g Baking Soda

1.25 cups (2.5 sticks) Unsalted Butter

285g Brown Sugar

115g White Sugar

2 Eggs

3 Egg Yolks

100g Walnuts

450g chopped chocolate bars (mix of milk chocolate and dark)

Mix wet, mix dry, combine together, add chocolate and walnuts, refrigerate overnight. Preheat oven for 375F. Bake 6oz cookie balls on sheet tray for 23 minutes sprinkling generously with flake salt halfway through.

I've also been experimenting with creating Nutella "wafers" in the freezer to bake sandwiched inside the cookie dough. I press a bit of Nutella between two sheets of Parchment paper, then freeze until solid. Cut cookie dough in half and insert Nutella wafer before baking.

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The 5 Traits of Personality

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 18 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen discuss the five main personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. The characteristics of each trait and how they manifest in individuals are explored. The hosts emphasize that these traits exist on a continuum and that there is no good or bad trait. The importance of understanding and accepting different personality traits in ourselves and others is also discussed. The conversation covers how different personality traits can impact relationships, mentioning specific disorders such as generalized anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder, dysthymic disorder, borderline personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. The Big Five personality traits are revisited, and the concept of agreeableness is examined, particularly in relation to valuing harmony and cooperation. Positive and negative personality traits are discussed, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance. The episode concludes with 11 practical ways to give yourself a personality makeover.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Overview

09:12 Exploring Openness

13:32 Understanding Conscientiousness

23:24 Navigating Introversion and Extroversion

26:39 Understanding Neuroticism

28:15 Exploring Personality Traits and Disorders

29:04 The Big Five: Understanding the Core Traits

29:31 Agreeableness: Harmony vs Authenticity

30:27 Positive and Negative Personality Traits

36:57 11 Ways to Give Yourself a Personality Makeover

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Dating with Daddy Issues feat. Matchmaker Melissa Rogers

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 11 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Today’s topic is Dating with Daddy Issues in honor of Father’s Day. Here’s to all of the amazing dad’s out there who are showing up for their children with interest, affection, tenderness and consistency. You are changing worlds and preventing attachment issues. We applaud you! Today’s episode focuses on the wounds we carry with us when we have unmet needs from our own fathers’ rejection, disinterest, criticism, infidelity, disappearance… All of these unmet needs affect our adult relationships and influence who we are attracted to. The first part of this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk about the attachment issues that can arise from our father wounds. Then we invite Melissa Rogers, expert matchmaker from our most listened to episode from last June 2023, Let’s F#*%ing Date, into our conversation. She shares her experience as expert and dater. What are daddy issues? How do we know if we have them? How do our unresolved issues affect us in dating? What are the different wounding father archetypes and how do they affect our attachment style?

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How Facing His Anxiety & OCD Ultimately Set News Anchor Bryan Piatt Free

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 04 Jun 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have a chance to talk to the beloved former news anchor on KARE 11 Sunrise, Bryan Piatt. He started experiencing symptoms of Anxiety and OCD from an early age with no understanding of what was happening to him. The disparity between his perfect external presentation and his quiet internal suffering grew until he could take it no more. He chose to stop running and hiding from his mental illness, and instead integrated the diagnoses into his life, ultimately setting him free and starting him on a healing journey that turned into becoming a therapist specializing in OCD and Anxiety. Please join us for this powerful conversation and get ready to fall in love.

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Mismatched Libido; Can't meet your partner's needs?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 28 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia respond to real life couples struggling with mismatched libidos that are negatively impacting their relationships . One writer is breaking off an eight year relationship because they can’t meet their partner’s sexual needs and feels insecure and constantly pressured to give more than they are able to give & in the second couple, the writer has a much higher sex drive than her boyfriend and can’t help but feel undesirable and rejected whenever she initiates and he’s not in the mood. To get to the meat of the episode, skip ahead to the 25 minute mark as Dr Talia and Doug catch up and banter for the first part of every episode!

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Is your sex drive disparity causing problems in your relationship?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 21 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug tackle one of the most common relationship problems; mismatched sex drives. In many couples, there is one individual with a more robust libido, who feels enough burning desire for intimacy that they are the default initiator, often creating a pursuer and distancer dynamic, leaving one member of the couple feeling undesirable and rejected and the other member of the couple feeling overwhelmed, maybe even avoidant, and generally terrible that they are not able to satisfy their partner. We share 12 great conversations starters to connect with your partner around libido compatibility and sexual desires, and we go over many potential causes of the libido mismatch. Tune in to your one stop shop relationship meets mental health podcast, and thank you for tuning in every week!!

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Couple’s Therapy 101: Divorce! Couples’ Therapists look for these 11 signs...

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 14 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia share their 50 years of combined experience in the couples’ therapy room. Being married is hard, even if you’re married to someone fabulous. What are the signs that there are some dealbreaker red flags brewing in your marriage? Resentments building that can’t be undone, trusts broken that can’t be repaired, differences in values and dreams that can’t align without one of the partners feeling stifled. Tune in! We answer all of the questions you might be asking yourself!

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Healing the Mother Wound; A We’re Not Fine Mother’s Day Episode with Gao Motsemme

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 07 May 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Meet Gao Motsemme, a Botswana born current resident of Germany, and mother of three from a long ancestral lineage of gifted intuitive healers. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug sit with Gao as she takes us on her complex and unexpected mothering journey while needing to face her own mother wounds. “Why doesn’t my mother love me?” and “What is a mother without her children” are a few of the questions echoing throughout this episode. Every one of us can see ourselves in this episode, honoring the mother shaped hole, the insecurities and attachment issues that can arise in the wake of a primary caregiver that can not or will not meet your basic needs for love and belonging.

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Too early for divorce? Too late for therapy? Where is the line?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 30 Apr 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this mailbag episode, Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two people completely fed up with their spouse and ready for a divorce, but we feel that their decisions might be premature! We share the ingredients necessary to determine whether or not it’s time to throw in the towel. Is there willingness on both sides to work through this issue? If so, divorce might be further down the list of solutions than you think.

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Bad Dates, Red Flags, and other Cautionary Tales

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 23 Apr 2024 04:00:00 -0400

You know the saying that when you wear rose colored glasses, red flags just look like flags? Well, in this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to listener voice notes about first date horror stories. These stories are full of cringe, red flags, and lewd tales of hook-ups and dates that have gone horribly wrong. Prepare yourself with a bowl of popcorn because you will be screaming NO! Run for the hills! Don’t do it! Enjoy at your own risk and not with your children or your grandma!

Give up the ghost. The reason they ghosted you is...

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 16 Apr 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia respond to two mailbags, both from people that explain why they have ghosted someone they cared about. And once you get inside the minds of the ghoster, you will see why they are disappearing, even if you could have sworn there was a connection and chemistry. Why oh why didn’t they just tell you the truth? It will all make sense, tune in!

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Your friend hurt you, is your friendship salvageable or do you need to move on?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 09 Apr 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk to Minneapolis based, friendship-focused writer and podcaster, Nina Badzin. Your friend hurt you badly. Until now you have never needed to have a difficult conversation about your friendship, but if you don’t, the friendship won’t survive. What do you do? To determine whether your friendship is salvageable, think about these three things. How meaningful is this relationship to you, was the deep cut a sign of the person’s character or an off day, and how are they responding to you sharing your hurt? Romantic relationship betrayals are more obvious, and so are the dealbreakers. But when you can have many friends and don’t have to choose only one, we want to help you determine whether this friendship will continue to elevate your life or continue to hurt you. We know you have all experienced a painful rift in a friendship, let us help you navigate!

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My late wife’s sister tried sleeping with me...

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 02 Apr 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode Dr Talia and Doug look at two very relatable issues. In the first mailbag, a young father grieves his wife while his wife’s sister, who has been the greatest supporter to him and his kids, tried to sleep with him a month after his wife’s passing. And he hates the way he reacted. And in the second mailbag, a young man says he’s incredibly uncomfortable with the way his girlfriend presents herself on social media; bikini pictures that give thirsty and single. Can we help them address these delicate issues? Of course we can!

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Mailbag episode! “I gave myself a total makeover with zero results in the dating department.”

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 26 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia tackle two heartfelt mailbags. In the first letter, a gentleman who has had no luck with women feels he did everything he could to revamp his look; fitness, wardrobe and haircut, check… but is still having no luck in the dating department. All of his friends tell him he just hasn’t met the right person but he is losing hope fast that he is anyone’s type. In the second mailbag, a young mother is struggling with resentment and anger towards her fiancé for wanting to help his sons’ mother financially. Is she being unreasonable?

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Not the Man I Used to Be; Getting to Know Yourself Again After a Brain Aneurism with Guest Andrew Davie

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 19 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Andrew Davie, a true Renaissance man. He is an author of crime fiction novellas, short stories and memoirs about dating, managing OCD and recovering from his brain aneurysm. He is also a fellow podcaster as the cohost of happy hour with Heather. Join us for this fascinating conversation as Andrew shares his experience of surviving a ruptured brain aneurysm and subarachnoid hemorrhage in 2018. He was trying so hard to get back to himself and the future on which he needed to press pause that it took him quite some time to realize who he was post aneurysm, and that what he now wanted for his life was completely different.

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Loneliness is the Silent Killer and the here is the Antidote; LIVE episode with guest Anna Bonavita

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 12 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Loneliness is a global health crisis. In this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a moving conversation with Anna Bonavita, a former physicist with a passion for culture, cuisine, and the natural environment. While grieving her beloved husband, and in the depths of loneliness and despair, she found comfort and community at a communal table in Italy and has brought this healing opportunity to one of the loneliest cities in the US. Listen to her story.

Born in a small Bulgarian village, educated in Russia, and a long-time resident of both Italy and the United States, she claims several countries as the source of her cultural identity. Bonavita is the founder and former president of the Italian Cultural Center as well as the Italian Film Festival of Minneapolis/St. Paul.

In 2018 she started Esperienza, an organization which celebrates and preserves culture in small Italian villages and towns through authentic immersion opportunities. She believes that away from the fast speed and superficiality of mass tourism, we can still unhurriedly appreciate the pleasures of the palate and the joy of Italian culture while giving back to local economies.

Her latest creation, the Communal Table, was recently featured in the Minneapolis Star Tribune, is a place where social connection is always possible amidst honest food, good company, and local creative talents.

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Hook Up Horror Stories & Deviant Diaries with guest Demi Wylde

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 05 Mar 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to author and sex educator, Demi Wilde about hook up horror stories (Talia won worst story! Woot woot!) We discuss stigma, down low online exploration of sexuality, which apps produce which kind of connections, all the kinks and fetishes, and pitfalls and dangers of modern dating! As you can imagine, the middle aged straight lady asks a lot of embarrassing questions and the two gay men humor her while also sharing a lot of awkward pauses and nervous laughter, it was the absolute best! Join us!

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When I’m Sorry isn't enough; 5 ways to deepen your apology after an affair with guest Dr. Deb Miller

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 27 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug have a lively conversation with Dr. Deb about how to deepen your apology after an affair. We explore the lack of resources available to the cheater, as most therapy, books and videos are geared towards helping the betrayed heal. Dr. Deb Miller's book More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity helps those that have cheated to take an honest look at themselves, their relationship, own their choices and start their journey of insight and willingness to do their work. It's a must listen! Share this episode with a friend that needs to listen and read Dr Deb's book!

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Where did your joy and passion go? What to do when apathy overcomes you

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 20 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode Doug and Dr Talia tackle the scariest of all emotions; the contagious, heavy, and unmotivated wave of apathy. How to know if it’s a bad day or a bad decade, and how to infuse joy, motivation and passion back into your life. We’ve got your back!

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Tantric Loving in the Suburbs with our guest Hannah Spanke; Somatic, Sexology, and Tantra Coach

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 13 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug speak with the enigmatic Hannah Spanke, who shares with us her rocky road from a toxic family into stripping and sex work by the age of 16. She wanted agency over her sexuality and thought of pursuing sex work as a sexual entrepreneur but ended up in a dark scary place ready to face her truth. And here she is, a truly enlightened young woman turning her pain to purpose and not only does she share her understanding of life’s purpose and sexuality as the portal to the divine, but she also teaches Doug and Dr Talia how to incorporate Tantra into their busy middle aged lifestyles! Need we say more?

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Anger gets a bad rap; how to manage, regulate and express your anger in an adaptive way

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 06 Feb 2024 04:00:00 -0400

Fight, flight or freeze; what is your go to coping strategy? In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle Anger vs Rage. We talk about our family of origin as the source of how we learn to regulate and express our emotions, and we teach you practical tips to express yourself without pushing people away. Don’t swallow it down, because rage turned inward becomes depression. Tune in to this week's episode to learn a different way of being in relation to your negative emotions!

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Birth, Death and Everything in Between with Sister Doulas Sarah Longacre and Wendy Longacre-Brown

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this second live recording of our We’re Not Fine, Dr Talia and Doug dive deep into the experience of letting others in to the most vulnerable moments in our lives with Birth Doula Sarah Longacre and End of Life Doula Wendy Longacre-Brown. What if we did birth and death differently? What if we invited in skilled and compassionate navigators to be by our sides in these unfamiliar lands so the unknown doesn’t paralyze us with fear? What if instead of “I’m sorry for your loss” we said “I hope they lived a kick ass life”? Wendy and Sarah share with us their incredible experience sitting by their mother’s side as she voluntarily chose to stop eating and drinking (VSED) to hasten her dying process after a brutal Alzheimer’s diagnosis.

We invite you into this moving conversation about the circle of life, the heightened stress and magical beauty of bringing a new life into the world, of dying and sitting with the dying, of existential fear, of choices we have in hospice, loss, grief, death journals and death cafes.

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Jealousy is not a good look for you

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia talk to Shanenn Bryant, host of the podcast Top Self, Jealousy and Insecurity expert and coach, and leader of the Facebook group Jealousy Junkies. We dive into how insecure attachment develops into unhealthy behavior patterns that threaten to destroy your relationships. Shanenn shares with us how to differentiate between trusting your gut versus acting out old trauma and creating the abandonment or betrayal you fear the most. Tune in to find out how to take back control over the insecurity and jealousy that might be hijacking the trust in your relationship.

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Division of labor; the most relatable relationship woe of our modern day.

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 16 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug take on a listener mailbag about division of labor in a household. Who does more? Why are they resentful? What exactly is invisible labor? Why does one person naturally step up while the other waits for the “honey-do” list? Inquiring minds want to know! We have so much to say, per usual, and let us give you the tips and tricks to manage your household with equality and love!

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Becoming Kiki; The Freedom of Being Who You Are & The Power of Making Meaning of Your Pain

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 09 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Kiki Joy Latham shares with us her incredible journey through physical and emotional abuse in her family of origin, betrayal after betrayal, from abandonment and heartbreak to the most profound love story. Not just with her partner, Jodi, but with herself. Kiki found herself/himself, and loves herself/himself with not just acceptance but with a deep appreciation of all of the intricacies. We talk sexuality, gender identity, and what it really takes to be at peace and love after abuse. As you can imagine, this vulnerable content might be disturbing to those of our viewers that have experienced similar trauma and abuse, we urge you to listen with your wellness in mind.

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Slow Productivity is this New Year’s Revolutionary Approach to Success with guest Dr Kate Henry

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 02 Jan 2024 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode Doug and Dr Talia speak with Dr Kate Henry about Slow Productivity; a holistic, sustainable and well-being oriented approach to success. Who knew that was even possible? WNF family, this approach is for you if you are burnt out, exhausted, think of yourself as unmotivated, lazy, or if you struggle with chronic health issues. This approach is also for you if you are a workaholic and subscribe to the unwritten rules of capitalism and productivity culture, and would like to learn a more mindful way to keep pursuing your goals. If you want to be successful on your own terms and enjoy the beautiful life you are creating, tune in!

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Why oh why do my New Year’s Resolutions Fizzle Out? Strategies for outsmarting the hidden obstacles

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 26 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia take on New Year’s Resolutions. Why do so many of us struggle to keep our commitments to ourselves? Why is will power not enough? We tell you all the secrets to setting yourselves up for success and teach you science backed strategies to make your resolutions stick!

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What is happiness and where can you find some?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 19 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia Jackson discuss the concept of happiness; the hedonic treadmill, dopamine chasing, whether it is an absence of pain or existence of fulfillment, and we answer the question you have asked yourself “Can money buy happiness?”

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Narcissism and the Enneagram With guest Dr Sterlin Mosley

WNF Media LLC — Thu, 14 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this bonus episode, Dr Talia Jackson and Dr Sterlin Mosley talk about narcissism as it relates to the enneagram.

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Two Parts! Dr Talia on Boosting Emotional Intelligence & Doug's Complicated Familial Grief

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 12 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In Part One of our Two Part Guest Spot episode, Dr Talia shares her Summit from the Unlock Your Child’s Full Potential podcast with Billy Ivanova, and breaks down how to foster an emotionally intelligent home. Dr Talia also gives practical tips about boosting your own emotional intelligence and that of your children.

In Part Two of this episode, Doug shares his amazing conversation with Kelly Grosklags on her podcast, See My Grief. Doug opens up about his experience of complicated grief when his mother passed. We hope you find both of these episodes to be interesting and valuable! Another amazing BONUS episode dropping Thursday and Doug and Dr Talia are back next Tuesday with fresh content!! Happy holidays, WNF Family!

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Deep Dive into Narcissism With guest Dr Sterlin Mosley- Bread Crumbing, Love Bombing and Gaslighting

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 05 Dec 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug can’t get enough of Professor and Narcissism researcher and author, Dr Sterlin Mosley. Be enlightened, shocked and validate. You will not believe all of the nooks and crannies of the narcissistic experience, nature vs nurture, and that’s not all… learn to spot signature narcissist moves you might not have recognized until now.

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Managing Holiday Stress even if your family is perfect, you have lots of money, and live in sunshine

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 28 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. HAPPY HOLIDAYS, WNF Family!

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A Turkey Day PSA; To Accept That You Are a Disappointment is the first step towards Thanksgiving Joy

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 21 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some Thanksgiving mail bags. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you , or dread, loneliness and obligation, we embrace you and want to share it with you. Gobble Gobble, WNF Family!

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Truth Empowered Relationships with guests Heather and Marshall

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 14 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode Dr Talia and Doug have a conversation with Heather and Marshall, a couple that met in an unexpected online connection and show us how they are working on their individual traumas together in real time. Discussion of abuse from about the 10 to 20 minute mark for those that want to skip. They touch on imposter syndrome, parenting, intimacy, and how they show up with honesty and benevolence in their interactions. Listen to a couple doing their work!

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Whose fault is this break up? It’s yours.

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 07 Nov 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia ask the controversial question “Does it always take two to tango” in every relationship, every problem, every fight, every break up? And the answer is a resounding YES… but with one big caveat. Tune in to hear our mail bag episode and if you are watching on YouTube, check out our new lighting. We are feeling ourselves!

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Challenging the stigma of mental health in the skilled trades with Lia Lamella on The Sparky Life

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 31 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, we speak with Lia Lamella, previous guest (see our 07/25/23 episode), talented electrician and thought leader, who is single handedly changing the culture in and around the skilled trades. In this collaborative episode we elevate the conversation around the stigma of mental health, the narratives around the stereotypes both genders have to battle in the industry, as well as creating empowered narratives in any field that impact our identities, sense of pride, self esteem and relationships.

Psychic Secrets: Navigating the Universe and Occasional Plant Slaying with guest Kaya J

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 24 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug have another mind blowing conversation with their favorite psychic and medium, Kaya Jelani. She answers more of their thousands of questions; what actually is our purpose on this planet, what is deja vous, how do you manifest your next great thing, what do full body chills mean, do your pets find you in the afterlife, and learn a shocking truth about how the universe tells you to keep going or pivot.

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How to Cope and Comfort when the World is Too Much

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 17 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In today’s episode, Doug and Dr. Talia acknowledge the traumatic stress impacting all of us after the terrorist attack on Israel and the cascade of horror that has unfolded since. Global crises cause peripheral traumatic stress to those directly affected, of course, as well as those at every level of caring. We talk about the symptoms of traumatic stress, we give you strategies to care for yourself and comfort others, (diagram of of the concentric circles of caring below).

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Haunting beauty comes from grief; artist Nick Harper shares his experience as a creative

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 03 Oct 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Nick shares how his experience of grief and feeling like an outsider has in fact been a gift of heightened observation, a unique perspective, and an unmistakable style of magical realism. We talk introversion, creativity, relationships, finding inner peace. Prepare to be blown away.

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Let’s Talk about Sex & Intimacy; Conversations with Dr. April

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 26 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Dr April Brown about intimacy; why it is crucial and how to improve it in all areas of our lives to enrich our experience, and not just in the bedroom!

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How to Break Toxic Transgenerational Patterns with Susan Gold

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 19 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia talk to Susan Gold, endurance athlete, A-List Talent Agent, and Author of Toxic Family: Transforming Childhood Trauma into Adult Freedom. As Susan shares her journey through childhood abuse, navigating a marriage and divorce from a narcissist, as well as deep diving into her own healing work and leaning in to a brutally honest life, we offer a trigger warning. Listener discretion is advised. Her wisdom will astound you and her narrative will inspire.

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Money Memories and Financial Infidelity; Have the Tough Conversations with Jennifer Rogers Markwell

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 12 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Why is talking about money so terrifying to most people? Emmy nominated TV journalist and President of Platinum Wealth Management, Jennifer Rogers Markwell, teaches us about the connection between our money memories and our unresolved issues around money as adults. She walks us through a mindset shift around facing our own finances and how to have these once fraught conversations with our partners with honesty and compassion. Jennifer replaces all of the shame and avoidance around our money mindset and replaces it with curiosity and reconnecting with your individual and couples’ money goals.

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Opposites Attract, but Only Some Last and We Tell You Why

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 05 Sep 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug look at all angles of the theory that opposites attract but don't last. Some qualities need to be aligned, or at least complimentary, for a couple to thrive and not wear on each other’s last nerve. And they might not be what you think!

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The Spark Is Gone; Practical Tips for Reigniting and Spicing up Any Relationship

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 29 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia take on a mail-bag from a young man who has found that the change to domestic life and adulting together has sucked all of the sexiness and spark from their three year relationship. We share the tricks of the trade to reigniting interest in each other, spicing up your conversations, turning up the spark in the bedroom and reconnecting to your initial reasons for falling in love.

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My Story May Begin in a Cult, but I Decide How the Narrative Continues, With Guest Shana Francesca

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 22 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Ethical leadership coach and public speaker, Shana Francesca, shares her powerful story of growing up in an alt right Evangelical Christian cult, in an abusive family and an abusive community. She opens up about using her inner resources of curiosity and creativity to take ownership of her life and create an empowered narrative. Be amazed and inspired with us as Shana tells us about her lived experience, her discovery of her own neurodivergence, and how she has created a very unique path for herself. Trigger warning: honor your own trauma and tender spots by skipping as much of this episode as you need if the pain points hit too close to home.

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Your friend wonders why they are still single. Do you tell them?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 15 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

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In this week’s episode, Dr. Talia and Doug cut to the chase with a handful of mailbags from friends who know exactly why their friends are still single but don’t know how to break it to them. We can all learn from these cautionary tales and course correct before our best friend tells us their opinion of our toxic traits. There is nothing better than the type of self-awareness that comes from other peoples’ lack thereof! Enjoy!

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Having Trouble Bouncing Back? Boost Your Resilience with Holistic Psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 08 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

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In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug talk to Dr. Henry Emmons, a Holistic Psychiatrist blending soul with science, about how to boost your resilience, become more disappointment proof and learn to sit with your internal chaos long enough to make a more mindful next step.

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You Hate Your Friend’s Partner; To Tell or Not to Tell?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 04:00:00 -0400

You hate your friend’s partner or even worse, your friends hate your partner!

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia help a few listeners navigate this treacherous situation as the hater, the hated, or as the one in the middle. Tune in to weigh all of your options, ask yourself some challenging questions, and show up in ways that feel good to you regardless of the role you might be playing in this dilemma.

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Never Give Up Your Light, With Lia Lamela; Hear Her Powerful Story of Escaping Domestic Violence

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 25 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug talk to Lia Lamela, a spunky and incredibly resilient woman who shares with them her harrowing story of falling in love and having the illusion of a loving marriage chipped away day by day until it became a matter of life and death. Hear how she turned her fear into urgent action even when there seemed to be no way out. We’re Not Fine Family, we want you to be aware of the intensity of this episode and give you a trigger warning. If domestic violence is a trauma that hits too close to home, please take care of yourselves and listen only as you see fit. There are such hopeful, beautiful and useful words of wisdom in this episode, but we do not want anyone feeling triggered without having a safe place to process. Thank you all.

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📚 Becoming Bulletproof: Protect Yourself, Read People, Influence Situations, and Live Fearlessly by Evy Poumpouras

📞 The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1.800.799.SAFE (7233)

💻 OASH Office on Women’s Health https://tinyurl.com/3x49ttxp

⚡Free People Skills for the Skilled Trades: https://mailchi.mp/4e0b9492a43f/the-sparky-life-landingpage

Anniversary disappointments; are your expectations too high or was the effort too low?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 18 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode Doug and Dr. Talia hear from two different people who have had opposite but equally miserable anniversaries. One is hurt by his girlfriend’s lack of effort, and the other is devastated that her boyfriend is disappointed in her gift. Who needs to step up? This episode tackles how to deal with disappointment, how to level set your expectations and clearly communicate them, and how to be a more thoughtful gift giver.

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How to Read Their Body Language and Improve Your Own

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 11 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Talia crack each other up while taking a look at body language on dates. Are they into you? Are you accurately portraying your internal experience? Tune in to better read your date, and improve your open and friendly vibe!

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Navigate jealousy, agreements and relationship resources; ENM Part 2 with expert Angela Callais.

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 04 Jul 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode Doug, Dr. Talia and special guest Angela Callais dig in deeper to the nooks and crannies of how to manage complicated relationships, open or closed; jealousy, sharing emotional resources, and creating agreements that work.

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How to Have Open Conversations with Your Closed Off Teen with Dr. Talia Jackson and host of Your Child’s Full Potential, Billy Ivanova

WNF Media LLC — Thu, 29 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Billy Ivanova, host of the Unlock Your Child's Full Potential podcast, joins Dr. Talia to discuss how to have a healthy, loving, and lasting relationship with your teens. Hear these two certified "cool moms" discuss how you can both influence and guide your children, how to be the kind of mom that their friends seek advice from, and how to approach conversations around intimate relationships and more of the juicy stuff.

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Ethical Non-Monogamy; we know you are curious!

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 27 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Dr. Talia ask all of the questions burning holes in your brain about ethical non-monogamy; how to begin, tips and tricks for healthy boundaries and communication, and checking your jealousy. Join us behind the scenes of a whole new world of relationships with Angela Callais, a therapist and coach, as she shares her personal and professional expertise with us. Regardless of the type of relationship you are in or interested in having, this episode will bring you so much value as we examine our own fear, insecurity, jealousy, need for rules and control together.

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Let’s F*#%ing Date with Matchmaker Melissa Rogers

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 20 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Have you ever wondered about matchmaking services? Do you have app fatigue? Unrealistic expectations? Old trauma or low self-esteem getting in the way of your “yes mindset” in dating? Tune in to our conversation with Melissa Rogers, a professional Matchmaker, as she walks us through different ways to change your outlook to enhance your dating experience whether or not you choose to outsource this important part of your journey.

Dating Pet Peeves; it’s not me, it’s you

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 13 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this episode, Doug and Talia reach into the mailbag to take a look at dating behaviors that some find a red flag at best or, at worst, a deal breaker from which there is no turning back. Let’s take a look in the mirror and self asses, how stellar is your datability?

Why Can Letting Go Feel Like Letting Yourself Down?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 06 Jun 2023 04:00:00 -0400

This episode tackles a delicate and complicated story close to Doug’s heart. A story of a woman diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer whose family all but abandoned her in her time of need. How should she proceed?

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Second Chances After Addiction Featuring Erik Mortimer

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 30 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today we talk to Erik Mortimer about his long and painful journey through divorce, addiction, and how he found himself again on the other side. We address substance use, relationships, self-awareness, parenting regrets and successes, and highlight the gift of second chances!

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I Want Action Tonight, Olfactory Satisfaction All Right

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 23 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

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It's Manic Season with Gracie Canaan

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 16 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

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Ask me about the Enneagram! What is your deepest fear? Your core motivation ? Part 2

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 09 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

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The Enneagram; Your Core Wiring Revealed! Learn how to be the healthiest version of your type

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 02 May 2023 04:00:00 -0400

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Larger than Life; Welcome to Histrionic Personality Disorder

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 25 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this video, we explore part 4 of our series on Cluster B personality disorders. Whether you're dealing with this yourself, know someone who is going through it, or simply want to learn more, this video provides insight.

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The making of a sociopath; welcome to antisocial personality disorder

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 18 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this podcast, we explore part 3 of our series on Cluster B personality disorders. Whether you're dealing with this yourself, know someone who is going through it, or simply want to learn more, this podcast provides insight.

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I hate you, don't leave me; Borderline Personality Disorder Explained

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 11 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

In this podcast, we explore part 2 of our series on Cluster B personality disorders. Whether you're dealing with this yourself, know someone who is going through it, or simply want to learn more, this episode provides insight.

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I bet you think this song is about you; Welcome to Narcissistic Personality Disorder

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 04 Apr 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Through Doug and Talia's insightful conversation, they explore the

traits and behaviors associated with NPD, how it impacts individuals and

their relationships, and the challenges of finding a way forward.

Whether you're a mental health professional or someone looking to better

understand this challenging disorder, this podcast will provide

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Break Ups, Picking up the pieces and finding your silver lining

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 28 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Doug and Talia tell you what REALLY just happened in the we’re not fine

journey, and explore how to feel all the feels but not get stuck in

them, pick up the pieces with your self-esteem intact, and move forward

into greener pastures.

To Tell or Not To Tell? Secrets, Lies and Affair Resolution-We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 21 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Dan cheated on his girlfriend with his best friend's sister and feels deep regret. We always talk to the cheated upon, and now we get a chance to talk to the cheater. He teaches us how to be a stand up person after a regrettable decision. And meet a guy angry at his wife for an affair she had in his dream....premonition or delusion?

Managing Mean Girls in the Office & Your Relationship to Work - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 14 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0400

How do you manage mean girls in the office and what is the most professional way to switch jobs? What do you owe your employer?

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Is it OK to Hold a Grudge or How Can I Forgive and Forget? - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 07 Mar 2023 04:00:00 -0400

How can you avoid carrying anger or rage and forgive but not forget? Is it ok to hold a grudge or is it possible to move past a grudge when you can not get an apology or closure?

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The Alphabet Mafia & When Dating is a Family Affair, the BIGGEST Debate Ever - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 28 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0400

The mailbag is back! We're responding to someone who is taking a break from a boyfriend that doesn't recognize her sexuality and have the BIGGEST debate ever on whether you can date both the mother AND her daughter and still make a relationship work.

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What's App With That? Dating Apps and Coaching

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 21 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Today we review some new up-and-coming apps as well as dating app updates (Candid, Hinge, Tinder, Ditto, IRLY, Fluid) and debate the benefits and pitfalls of dating surrogacy and coaching.

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Valentine's Day - When Is Love For The Ex Wrong & The Valentine's Breakup - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 14 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Is it wrong to still love the Ex and be there for them in their time of need? Or does a new relationship take priority? We're also responding to a Valentine's breakup. When is it time to throw in the towel and walk away? It's another mailbag episode exploring your questions!

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When Relationships Are Over & It's Time to Pivot (Office Romance) - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 07 Feb 2023 04:00:00 -0400

"I love you more than anything, but I'm thinking about my co-worker at least once an hour." When are relationships over? When is it time to Pivot? This mailbag is a heartbreaker examining the end of a relationship and the next steps beyond.

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Career Advice for Strippers on Tinder & Cheating by Sexting - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 31 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Are we cancelled yet? We tackle the important dating questions about stripping careers, determining if sexting is cheating and how horny are women in general?

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Put Yourself Out There But Don't Play Games - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 24 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Do you find "The One" by being intentional? Or does it happen when you least expect it? Should you qualify dates with tests? How do you screen people out? It's another mailbag episode exploring your questions!

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The Partner Material Girl Seeking Boyfriend Material - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 17 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Does having sex too soon ruin the dating experience? What's the difference between boyfriend material and partner material? This week's mailbag covers someone who is concerned the vibes aren't right for continuing the relationship. Did sex too early ruin it?

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We're Not Fine Dating Series - Dating Sunday - What's App With That?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Dating Apps. What's App With That? This is the first in our dating series examining the best way to use apps and uncovering why you may not be getting liked or swiped. Join us for a discussion on the best way to approach dating apps!

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Happy New Year! Time for a New Year & New You - Developing Goals that Stick (Guest Lesley Pereira)

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 03 Jan 2023 04:00:00 -0400

Should auld acquaintance be forgot and never brought to mind? Or, is it time for a new beginning. Guest Lesley Pereira joins us to discuss healthy habits and goals for a reset in 2023.

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Guest Lesley Pereira

Lesley specializes in helping people reduce stress, gain energy and develop a lifestyle they love. She’s passionate about incremental approaches to helping people heal and thrive, without overwhelm or perfection. Certifications include Masters in Public Health, Ayurveda Wellness Counselor, Yoga Teacher RYT 500 and Yoga Health Coach. She is the founder of Reclaim, a comprehensive online program for women to learn and automate healthy daily habits of nutrition, movement and mindset. She offers one-to-one coaching, group coaching and retreats.

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A-sexual problem in a Christian world - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 27 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Can a lasting relationship happen in an asexual relationship? Find out with our new Mailbag episode featuring a question about a young man who needs sex and an asexual partner who is managing trauma.

Is it OK to NOT be Ready for Marriage? - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 20 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0400

We're back unpacking the need for marriage between co-workers with one desperate to get married and the other wanting to wait and take some time.

Tell Me What You Want, What You Really, Really Want...and Need

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0400

The gang is back discussing the 4 C's of relationships and communication wants vs. needs.

Who is the Bigger Dick? - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 06 Dec 2022 04:00:00 -0400

The gang is back tackling grief of an abusive parent and how to nicely tell your boyfriend he has a small penis when he's being a dick. Oof.

Your Child is Cordially Not Invited - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 29 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0400

The gang is back tackling the sticky issue of disallowing kid at an engagement party and how to nicely tell friends their child is out of control.

Blindsided by Love & On The Prowl - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 22 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Today the crew examines an abrupt end to a relationship. Is it possible to save it? Can you convince someone to change their mind?

We're Triggered & Talking Turkey About Cancelling Thanksgiving

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 15 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Tis the season for holiday gatherings, emotional manipulation and family! The crew talks turkey about how to manage difficult conversations, encounters and family obligations during the stressful holiday season.

Why Does Dating Suck? - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 08 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Why does dating suck? The team explores the dynamics with ghosting, being vulnerable and recognizing what you need in a relationship.

Do You Hear Dead People?

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 01 Nov 2022 04:00:00 -0400

For our Halloween episode, Doug and Talia welcome Kaya, a psychic to explain what happens on the other side!

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Being Ghosted & Other Tales of Halloween - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 25 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Doug and Talia tackle questions about invitations, the changing dynamics of friend groups and trust with adults and teenagers in this special Halloween episode!

Don't Be Late to Your Funeral...Or Your Wedding - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 18 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Doug and Talia tackle questions about etiquette for attending funerals and how to manage anxiety for attending weddings.

World Mental Health Day, Origin Stories and How to Recognize Issues

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 11 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

In celebration of World Mental Health Day on October 10, Talia and Doug share their mental health origin stories and how important it is to recognize when others may need help as well as checking in on those we love. https://www.who.int/campaigns/world-mental-health-day

Red Flags, Ghosts and Disagreements - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 04 Oct 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Doug and Talia answer mailbag questions with red flags galore.

My Wife Gained Weight & Three's a Crowd - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 27 Sep 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Doug and Talia dive into more of your mailbag questions!

Good Grief! How We Grieve For Those We Love And Hate - Guest Kelly Grosklags

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 20 Sep 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Today Kelly Grosklags joins podcast! Today, Kelly joins the podcast to discuss how to handle the many facets of grief in our lives and how we all define and live through grief differently.

Speak Softly and Carry a Big Stick: Our Relationship with Politics - Guest Brian Sims

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 13 Sep 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Today Brian Sims joins the podcast! He has been a democratic member of the Pennsylvania House since 2012. He's also an attorney, an advocate for LGBT civil rights and the first openly-gay elected state legislator in Pennsylvania. Brian discusses his relationships with colleagues, his community and his family.

How Do I Know When It's Over? - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 06 Sep 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Can long distance relationships work? How do we know when it's over? Doug and Talia dive into more of your mailbag questions!

Back to School Time! - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 04:00:00 -0400

It's back to school time! 3 couples present questions to Doug and Talia about school and their relationship. Do men even have a say in having kids? Is a degree needed for a career? Is hockey important in the Winter? Tune in to find out!

An Indecent Proposal - We're Not Fine Mailbag

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 23 Aug 2022 04:00:00 -0400

When Neil finds out he's about to die, he reaches out to the love of his life to finally declare his feelings and request a night with her before he passes. The only catch is that she's married -and she's considering it! Her husband, Chuck, provides an overview and wants to know how to approach this situation. Doug and Talia dive right into yet another impossible conversation!

Having Difficult Conversations: Abortion, Religion, Politics, Race and more

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 16 Aug 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Doug and Talia tackle the big scary topics of the day: abortion, race, religion, politics and more. How do we cope with those who disagree with us on these topics? How should you approach difficult conversations with loved ones or those that hold strong opposing opinions? Is there even an answer?

It's Getting Hot: Cooking with Chemistry

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 09 Aug 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Doug and Talia break open the conversation on chemistry from new relationship energy, polyamory, penguins with beaks, bees, tight abs and more. What is chemistry and how important is it? Does it make you compatible?

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Host: Doug Jensen

Host: Dr. Talia Jackson

Co-Host & Producer: Greg Gerik

We're NOT Fine!

WNF Media LLC — Tue, 09 Aug 2022 04:00:00 -0400

Renowned relationship therapists, Doug Jensen and Dr. Talia Jackson explore the ins and outs of relationships in the new podcast, We’re Not Fine. Exploring relationship boundaries beyond dating, the podcast will also examine relationships with our community, friends, family, marriage and even within oneself. No topic is off limits and our audience is encouraged to submit their own questions to challenge the team and their guests. Join us weekly every Tuesday!

https://werenotfine.com

Host: Doug Jensen

Host: Dr. Talia Jackson

Co-Host & Producer: Greg Gerik