The Hidden Cost of "Good Vibes Only"

Relentless positivity isn’t just tiring, it’s a form of emotional bypass. When we invalidate our real feelings, our bodies pay the price through tension, fatigue, and a sense that joy is always out of reach. I’ve seen countless clients, especially those in leadership roles, soldier on with a smile, only to wake up one day feeling numb, burned out, or unmotivated.

Suppressing uncomfortable emotions doesn’t make them disappear. It simply makes us less resilient in the face of real challenges. Emotional authenticity isn’t about drowning in negativity, it’s about creating space for your true experience. Only then can we process, grow, and access genuine contentment. Your feelings, yes, all of them, are signals worth listening to.

Embracing All Your Feelings: Why It Matters

If you notice yourself slipping into autopilot, performing cheer instead of truth, ask: What feeling am I really carrying right now? Giving yourself permission to feel is powerful. Here’s what emotional authenticity can unlock:

• Release the pressure to "keep it together" 24/7
• Restore your natural energy instead of forcing positivity
• Deepen your connections with family, colleagues, and yourself
• Cultivate real resilience because you’ve faced your full experience, not hidden from it

Ready to Practice Emotional Authenticity?

In my Wellness Consultations, we focus on the radical act of feeling fully—without judgment, guilt, or explanation. We combine somatic healing, mindful reflection, and new daily rituals to help you move from pretending positivity to living authentically. Learn more about how the journey can support you.

And if you’re craving a safe space to start, you can always schedule a call with me to reclaim your joy. Together, we’ll navigate what’s real without bypassing or minimizing and create your map back to clarity and peace.

Reflection Prompt: This week, gently notice when you feel pressure to "stay positive" instead of being honest. Ask yourself: what would it look like to trust your authentic feelings as wise messengers, not problems to fix?

Choose joy and pleasure so that you savor your life.

Cordelia Gaffar

The Ultimate Joy Goddess

Visit https://cordeliagaffar.com/ to connect with her.

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In this episode of Reclaiming Your Joy and Your Humanity, I open up about how easily we lose sight of real happiness in a society obsessed with buying and achieving more. We’re surrounded by messages that say joy comes from possessions—but what if genuine fulfillment is found in the stillness of connection, love, and self-acceptance?

The heart of my work is listening to your body, and nurturing emotional health so that you reconnect to what truly matters. I introduce you to small but radical ways to reject artificial joy and rediscover peace and purpose through presence, nature, and mindful living.

Let’s challenge those old narratives and reclaim our joy from within.

Reclaiming your joy is about shifting your focus from artificial happiness to authentic fulfillment. By acknowledging your body’s needs, embracing indigenous practices, and fostering genuine relationships, you can lead a more joyful and peaceful life.

What does it mean to reclaim your joy?

Reclaiming your joy involves shifting your focus from material possessions to emotional and spiritual well-being. It’s about finding happiness within rather than seeking it from external sources.

How can I start focusing on emotional health?

You can start by practicing self-awareness, engaging in mindfulness, and seeking support from professionals or community resources that prioritize emotional well-being.

What’s your experience with this?

**Call to Action:** Want to learn more about how to reclaim your joy? Book your Wellness Consultation [here].

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Through personal stories, reflections on divine connection, and practical tools for emotional detox, this episode invites you to reconnect with your truth, reclaim your emotional agency, and shift from surviving to savoring life. Rage is not your enemy—it's your sacred messenger, calling you home to yourself.

About my Guest

6x #1 Amazon Music 🎶 Bestselling Artist, 📚14x #1 Global Best Selling Author, Forbes, GQ, ABC, CBS, MTV, XXL, Broadway World, Entrepreneur, Maxwell Speaker, Coach,

We wander from psilocybin to breathwork, into the wild, shimmering reality of what Kundalini activation actually feels like, and why true leadership means giving power back to the people, not hoarding it. You’ll hear the story of a Kundalini awakening that changed everything and get a taste of the upcoming Embodied training and free March 5 workshop designed for those ready to live their spirituality through their bodies, not just their minds.

Come listen if you’re craving a conversation that’s part altar, part call-out, and part activation — the kind that leaves your nervous system softer, your vision clearer, and your creativity turned all the way on.

About my Guest

Jameelah is an Integrative Somatic Specialist, a multi-certified Energy worker specializing in Kundalini Activation, Sat Nam Rasayan and Transcendental Meditation. She has sat with Aboriginal energy workers from West African Yoruba culture, and Traditional Ngangkari Healers.

Jameelah holds certifications in healing Intergenerational and Racial Trauma through Therapeutic & Ecstatic Breathwork; her background also includes extensive training in Mindfulness and Shamonic Meditations. She’s received her certification in Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Training and Polyvagal Theory - helping her clients transmute heavy emotions.

Along with kundalini life force, Jameelah also anchors the most native state of non-dual awareness which cultivates a deep experience of oneness with all things. Jameelah's unique background in the Performing Arts, Sat Nam Rasayan, Breathwork, Trauma Healing, and West African Yoruba Spirituality - blends to create a powerful alchemy of grounding and healing energy - this connects her clients to their innate divinity, inner wisdom, and profound intuition.

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Jameelah travels internationally creating spaces for people to remember their own innate healing capacity. For the past five years, she's lived on the Caribbean coast of Costa Rica, where she tends to the land, communes with nature, and dabbles in herbalism & crafting chocolate delicacies.

Your link to March 5th

For twenty years, I navigated a tumultuous, emotionally abusive marriage. The practice of Ramadan—fasting, reflection, and surrender—became the lifeline that helped me regulate my limbic system, reclaim my body, and rebuild my sense of self. That journey is what ultimately shaped my work as a Somatic Holistic Healer and the creation of my Four Mind Alignment™ methodology and my self‑guided course, Feel Safe to Lead.

What Most People Miss About Ramadan

Beyond food and drink, Ramadan can be a powerful somatic and leadership reset—even if you are not Muslim.

Consider fasting from:

• Self‑sabotage and negative self‑talk
• Low‑vibration people and draining environments
• Refined sugar, processed and GMO foods, caffeine, and heavy proteins that stress your body
• Social media and “energy vampires” that deplete your focus and confidence

When you treat fasting as spiritual, behavioral, and emotional forgiveness, you create space to:

• Hear your own intuition more clearly
• Release survival patterns that keep you small
• Reconnect to a felt sense of safety in your body

This is the inner work most leadership trainings skip—and the work that makes sustainable leadership possible.

Why “Feeling Safe” Is a Leadership Skill

My Four Mind Alignment™ methodology is designed to help you regulate and stay centered in your body so you can lead from resonance, not reactivity.

When you feel safe to lead:

• You stop outsourcing your worth to titles, metrics, or other people’s approval
• You can set boundaries without shutting down or exploding
• You access clarity and courage in moments that used to trigger anxiety, people‑pleasing, or freeze

Ramadan gave me a yearly structure to practice this: pausing, observing my patterns, and consciously choosing who I wanted to be on the other side of the fast. That same structure is built into Feel Safe to Lead.

This Week on “What People Miss”

In this week’s episode, “Rise, It’s Ramadan: Benefits and Tips for Non‑Muslims,” I share:

• How fasting can become a portal to emotional regulation and inner safety
• Practical ways non‑Muslims can engage with Ramadan as a 360° reset
• An excerpt on spiritual warfare and how it relates to the Four Mind Alignment™
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Introspect on where you can forgive yourself.

See yourself in your greatest power

Commit to being that version of yourself

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Every January for the past four years The Wholeness Center has offered The Visioning Retreat virtually and in person. This year I was one of the facilitators.

This episode is both a recap of this years' event from the perspective of each facilitator/ participant and one participant and an invitation to view visioning differently. 

Bemene Piaro, the Founder of Wholeness Center and ICF certified transformational coach, defines "vision board" and the process utilized in her unique embodied visioning.

Madala Machini, a certified Yoga Instructor and Acupuncturist and herbalist in training, share her experience and contribution.

Robyn Shahda, an ICF certified Life Coach, shares her experience as a repeat annual participant as well as quarterly participant and where her vision has come to fruition.

I also share vulnerably about vision boarding and what this event has shifted in my life, my body somatically and world.

Whether you are new to vision boarding or embodiment practices, this episode will be eye opening for you.

Reserve your spot for the 2027 Visioning Retreat Joining the list ensures you receive details and priority access as soon as registration opens.

In-Person:

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About Cordelia Gaffar

Cordelia Gaffar, known as The Ultimate Joy Goddess, is the CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc., an award-winning podcast host, author, and embodiment guide. She helps professionally successful, socially respected men—especially corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgment, or emotional overwhelm.

This podcast is your sacred space to practice self-nurturing as a radical act, and to remember that you are allowed to choose joy and pleasure, even in seasons of grief, transition, and rage. 

Connect and explore

Learn more, explore current offerings, and join Cordelia’s joy-centered communities at:

https://www.cordeliagaffar.com

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For many successful men, it’s the quiet exhaustion that comes from constantly managing how others see you.

In boardrooms, at home, and even in friendships—you’ve learned how to be “palatable.”

 Charming. Strategic. Controlled.

But behind that mastery lies a truth: being endlessly adaptable is slowly draining the very energy you need to live fully.

When you spend years being "selectively you," your nervous system stays in a loop of performance—reading the room instead of resting in your body. Your limbic system, designed to protect you, becomes hypersensitive. That’s when anxiety, irritability, and emotional numbness begin to take over.

This isn't a weakness—it’s a wiring issue.

My work helps you reset your limbic system so you can reconnect to your inner power—the kind that doesn’t need permission.

The kind of confidence that comes from embodiment, not performance.

The truth is, being palatable keeps you safe—but it also keeps you small.

Let’s wake up your body’s intelligence so you can reclaim your strength, assert your boundaries, and lead with grounded confidence.

You deserve to rest in the full weight of who you are.

→ Join my new self-guided experience The Ultimate Confidence Guide for Men Over 50!

 Cordelia Gaffar, known as The Ultimate Joy Goddess, is the CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc., an award-winning podcast host, best-selling author, and embodiment guide who helps professionally successful, socially respected men—particularly corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted to regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgement, or emotional overwhelm.

Episode overview

In this solo episode, The Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia Gaffar, unpacks the difference between inner joy that nourishes the nervous system and performative joy that keeps you on an endless treadmill of proving, pleasing, and performing. You will explore how childhood conditioning, corporate culture, and social media norms train you to prioritize looking happy over being deeply well.

Cordelia guides you to notice where you are still “performing joy” in your relationships, leadership, and daily life, and how that performance quietly drains your body, focus, and self-respect. Then she offers embodied questions and gentle reframes to help you begin sourcing joy from within, even if you are physically and mentally exhausted.

Who this is for

Corporate leaders and founders who look successful on paper but feel numb, burnt out, or disconnected inside.

High-achieving men who are praised for their performance yet rarely feel safe enough to rest, feel, or receive.

Anyone ready to move from surviving, proving, and performing into savoring life on their own terms.

About Cordelia Gaffar

Cordelia Gaffar, known as The Ultimate Joy Goddess, is the CEO of Workout Around My Day Inc., an award-winning podcast host, author, and embodiment guide. She helps professionally successful, socially respected men—especially corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgment, or emotional overwhelm.

This podcast is your sacred space to practice self-nurturing as a radical act, and to remember that you are allowed to choose joy and pleasure, even in seasons of grief, transition, and rage.

Connect and explore

Learn more, explore current offerings, and join Cordelia’s joy-centered communities at:

https://www.cordeliagaffar.com

#InnerJoy #PerformativeJoy #WhatPeopleMiss #TheUltimateJoyGoddess #SelfNurturing #EmbodiedLeadership #MenAndMentalHealth #BurnoutRecovery #JoyOverPerformance #SavorYourLife

Savoring life through color with Inna Korbokina

Savoring life through color, embodiment, and presence, this conversation with producer, host, and author Inna Korobkina invites you to see your everyday world as a living canvas for joy and self-expression. Together, we explore how what you wear, how you move, and how you see color can become a pathway out of survival mode and into a more intentional, pleasure-filled life.

What this episode is about

• How color influences your mood, nervous system, and sense of possibility—and how to consciously curate your visual world for more grounded joy.
• The way style, fashion, and image become a language of personal branding, embodiment, and self-respect, not performance or perfectionism.
• Practical ways to “rise and thrive” in your daily rituals so you feel more at home in your body, your story, and your presence in every room you enter.

Who is Inna Korobkina

Inna Korobkina is an actress (Dawn of the Dead, Transformers, Far Cry 6) Creative Director of Jewel Branding Studios, host of The Tapestry Podcast, and an indie film producer, who is using her skills as a storyteller to push forward the idea that developing a unique personal style is intimately tied to developing a strong character in life. As an author she created the audio-visual fashion journal “My Style Journey Guide” a tool for fashion education and style inspiration that helps the user build a strong identity rooted in authenticity and courageous self-expression.

Why you will love this

• You are ready to move from performing for the world to savoring your life, one intentional choice—one color, one breath, one outfit—at a time.
• You want a gentle but powerful reframe of style, visibility, and self-expression that honors your nervous system, your history, and your desires.

Tune in to remember that your wardrobe, your environment, and your presence are all part of your self-nurturing practice—and that you are allowed to feel good in your own skin, today.

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What this episode explores

In this powerful episode, Cordelia opens the new solar year by inviting you to create from a place of savoring life instead of repeating old patterns of burnout, silence, and self-abandonment. She shares how her Replenish Me process evolved into Four Mind Alignment—honoring the body, belly, heart, and brain—so you can move from survival mode into continuous moments of joy and pleasure.paste.txt​

A story of grief, rage, and rebirth

Cordelia is joined by her longtime friend and client Maritza, a home‑educating mother of six and blues singer whose life was shattered when her husband was killed in a sudden, preventable accident. Maritza vulnerably describes how grief destroyed her from the inside out—stealing her voice, her music, and her sense of self—until somatic practices, community, and “sweet talk” helped her reclaim wholeness.

Embodiment, hips, and healing

Rooted in Afro‑Latina and Caribbean traditions, Cordelia and Maritza share how moving their hips, somatic breathwork, and kundalini‑based practices became portals for healing rage, grief, and exhaustion stored in the body. Cordelia weaves in her training in somatic movement, Tantra, and somatic sexology to show how sensation, breath, and rhythm can restore your nervous system and even transform your relationship with your own aging body.

Voice, rage, and the throat chakra

This episode dives into what people miss about the throat chakra, especially for Black and Brown women who are taught to fear the “angry Black woman” stereotype. You will hear how singing pulled rage out of Maritza’s locked throat, how redirected rage became art and therapy, and why refusing to hold emotions to make others comfortable is a radical act of self‑nurturing.

Why you should listen

If you have ever lost a partner, a role, your voice, or your sense of who you are, this conversation offers a living example of moving from shattered to stage—literally—from a grieving widow who is now performing at the International Blues Challenge. You will walk away with a felt sense of what it means to prioritize yourself, honor your emotions, and choose joy and pleasure without pretending your pain does not exist.

Tune in if you are ready to reclaim your body, your voice, and your life—and to discover what you have been missing about truly savoring your existence.

To work with Cordelia go to https://cordeliagaffar.com

In this episode, we pull back the curtain on respectability politics—how they are shaped by colonization, religion, and the longing to belong—and what it costs us to keep performing “acceptable” instead of being fully alive. The conversation traces how compliance often grows from a desire for safety and community, not weakness, and why justice can never be one-size-fits-all when every story and body is different.

Together, we explore how curiosity can soften defensiveness, how discomfort becomes a portal to growth and resilience, and how emotional maturity asks us to seek understanding rather than assume, even when we disagree. You will hear how personal politics of respectability vary widely, how joy can be experienced as a frequency that transcends culture, and why incremental growth matters for those living with expansion anxiety.

This episode is an invitation to notice where you are still shrinking to fit, where your nervous system is clinging to compliance as protection, and where your heart is ready to take one more brave, small step toward authentic self-expression. Tune in if you are ready to hold both your need for safety and your longing for liberation, and to practice a politics of respectability that honors your actual humanity rather than someone else’s script.

When was the last time you felt truly safe to choose pleasure, not just power?

In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess and Guide for Intimacy Intelligence, invites you to step out of survival mode and into a life you can actually savor. Through stories, somatic reflections, and courageous truth-telling, you will explore what it means to self-nurture in a world that profits from your exhaustion.

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You will hear how healing your relationship with your body, emotions, and boundaries can:

• Rewire your nervous system from hypervigilance to ease
• Transform leadership from performance to intimacy
• Turn everyday moments into rituals of joy-bonding™ with yourself and others
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This conversation is for high-achieving women, exhausted leaders, and secretly tender powerhouses who are ready to detach from expectations, reclaim their joy, and lead from a deeply replenished heart. Press play if you’re ready to move from “holding it all together” to being free to be fully, unapologetically you.

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Call to action:

If this episode speaks to you, share it with one woman who looks powerful on the outside but feels invisible on the inside, and tag Cordelia on LinkedIn or Instagram so your breakthrough can ripple through your community.

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In part two of our series on respectability politics, host Cordelia Gaffar and guest Dr. Chris N. Smith go deeper into the emotional and embodied cost of constantly performing for acceptance. Together, they explore how conformity drains our energy, suppresses joy, and subtly distorts our sense of success and self-worth.

This conversation invites you to reclaim self-nurturing as an act of resistance and liberation—choosing pleasure, presence, and savoring life instead of living for external validation. Cordelia and Dr. Smith unpack how societal pressures shape our relationships, often pulling us away from healthy love, authentic emotional connection, and the kind of conflict resolution that leads to true personal growth rather than more self-abandonment.

You’ll hear a powerful reframe of conflict as a catalyst for healing, not something to avoid to keep the peace. They also explore the importance of physical touch, safety, and nervous system regulation in building relationships rooted in mutual respect, independence, and genuine intimacy. This episode is an invitation to choose joy on purpose, honor your body’s needs, and redefine success on your own terms.

If you’ve ever felt exhausted by “being respectable,” this conversation will help you step out of performance and into a deeper, more self-nurturing relationship with yourself and others.

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About your host: Cordelia Gaffar

Cordelia Gaffar is an award-winning podcast host, Intimacy Intelligence Embodiment Coach, and author of Detached Love. As a guide for women and leaders on the journey from surviving to savoring life, she helps people feel safe enough in their bodies to choose joy, pleasure, and authentic expression. Through her coaching, speaking, and writing, Cordelia centers self-nurturing, emotional regulation, and embodied practices as pathways to healthy love, inner freedom, and sustainable success.

About today’s guest: Dr. Chris N. Smith

Dr. Chris N. Smith is a researcher, educator, and practitioner committed to helping individuals and communities heal from the psychological and relational impact of societal pressures and oppression. With a focus on emotional health, relational dynamics, and community care, Dr. Smith supports people in cultivating emotional connection, navigating conflict with integrity, and redefining success beyond respectability and performance. His work bridges theory and lived experience, offering grounded, compassionate insight into how we can all move toward more liberated, joyful ways of being together.

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• #ChooseJoy
• #RedefiningSuccess
• #SavoringLife
• #HealthyLove
• #EmotionalConnection

We dive into how silence, avoidance, and emotional abuse are often symptoms of deeper systemic bias, not individual weakness, and why self-advocacy is essential for mental and physical health. We look at how cultural norms influence body autonomy, consent, and the ways different communities express joy and safety—and how joy itself becomes a radical form of resistance in oppressive systems. At the heart of the episode we make a clear invitation: to treat self-nurturing not as a reward after surviving harm, but as a revolutionary act that helps you reclaim your voice, your body, and your story.​

About my guest:

Dr. Christopher N. Smith (They/Them) is a queer, non-binary, and non-monogamous scholar whose academic work centers BIPOC intellectual traditions while addressing systemic marginalization and intragroup discrimination in education, religion, sexuality, gender, and society. They have worked extensively with public and private organizations to implement and enhance JEDI measures in emergency management, human capital, risk management, contracting, and workforce development. Additionally, they lead SuciaBMORE, an intentional decolonized play and networking community focused on transformative justice, harm reduction, intersectional safety, and BIPOC unity in Baltimore, Maryland.

About your host:

Cordelia Gaffar is “The Ultimate Joy Goddess,” a self-nurturing and intimacy intelligence embodiment coach, award-winning podcast host of From Surviving to Savoring Life, and author of Detached Love. She guides high-achieving, mission-driven women to move from survival mode into embodied joy, pleasure, and safety by redefining success on their own terms.

Learn more, explore current offerings, and connect with Cordelia at:

https://www.cordeliagaffar.com

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Madala shares her transformative journey into energy healing, including a pivotal trip to India that opened her path, and how teaching yoga and offering energetic support became her way of giving back to her community. The episode moves through themes of self-nurturing as self-love, the courage it takes to challenge yourself in your growth, and the power of visioning retreats to help you name and manifest what you truly desire.​

Throughout the conversation, Cordelia and Madala emphasize the importance of creating safe spaces where vulnerability is welcomed, where “every day is a second chance,” and where it is never too late to begin your health journey. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how energy work can hold physical and emotional discomfort, and with practical inspiration to see your own self-nurturing as sacred, courageous, and completely available to you now.

Madala Machini is a 500-hour certified yoga instructor, energy healer, and masters student of acupuncture and herbs whose work bridges ancient wisdom and modern mindfulness. She is known for her calm, grounding presence and her ability to create a safe, nurturing space for self-awareness and healing.

In-Person Visioning Retreat

• January 10, 2026 | 10:00 AM

  at Tuft n' Up Studio & Social

• Early Bird Rate: $175 until Dec. 15

• General Admission: $250

• Reserve your place: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-visioning-retreat-pause-reflect-realign-tickets-1965651488516?aff=oddtdtcreator

Grateful to our venue partner @tuftnupstudio.social.

Virtual Visioning Retreat• January 11, 2026 | 10:00 AM

• Early Bird Rate: $125 until Dec. 15

• General Admission: $200

• Reserve your virtual seat: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-virtual-visioning-retreat-tickets-1970033518285?aff=oddtdtcreator

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In our latest podcast episode, we dive into the importance of self-intimacy and being present with our bodies, especially when life gets challenging. 

Feeling disconnected? Remember, it’s okay to acknowledge your needs!  

How do you stay connected with yourself during tough times? In Tantra, we keep our eyes open because inside outside same. 

So how does that look in real life? I interviewed one of my classmates at The Amina Institute to see how somatic sexologist and tantra help her in real life.

In this episode, I catch up with Abeo Noel, a previous guest post knee surgery. She shares about how it affected her intimacy in her marriage. Listen to what she discovered about the importance of maintaining it even with injury.

Visit her website https://www.diagnosis2desires.com/

She is an  Intimacy Coach who brings 24 years at NYU Langone Health as a Nurse Practitioner. She has identified a significant gap in the integration of sex education and pleasure into treatment plans. Recognizing this need, her work takes proactive steps to address it.

​Her personal and professional journey is enriched by her upbringing in Trinidad and Tobago and the USA, bringing a unique and valuable perspective to my practice.

As an Erosomatic Touch Practitioner and Sex Doula, she is uniquely positioned to offer holistic care that addresses physical, emotional, and sexual well-being. Her commitment to integrating sex education and pleasure into treatment plans underscores her deep understanding of their importance to overall health and happiness.

​Her background in medicine, combined with her personal experiences and cultural influences, equips her with a distinctive perspective and sensitivity to the needs of her clients. By prioritizing family, community, happiness, peace, pleasure, and loyalty, she strives to enrich not only her own life but also the lives of her clients.

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The Whole Tantrum Party on Dec 27, 2025

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The Wholeness Visioning Retreat on January 10, 2026

 If you’ve been moving fast, making decisions on the fly, or feeling stretched thin, clarity might be exactly what your mind and body are craving.

And clarity doesn’t simply appear — it emerges when you slow down long enough to hear yourself again.

 That’s why we’re gathering for the Visioning Retreat on January 10 & 11 —

a guided space to pause, breathe, reset, and design 2026 with intention, not pressure.

You’ll walk away with a clearer vision, grounded priorities, and a renewed sense of direction for the year ahead.

 This Black Friday, choose the investment that truly transforms your year.

With our early-bird Black Friday discount, you can save up to $75 — or as much as 30% off.

✨ Grab this incredible offer through the link in the caption and join us for a visioning retreat designed to support the version of you you're becoming.

In-Person Visioning Retreat

• January 10, 2026 | 10:00 AM

  at Tuft n' Up Studio & Social

• Early Bird Rate: $175 until Dec. 15

• General Admission: $250

• Reserve your place: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-visioning-retreat-pause-reflect-realign-tickets-1965651488516?aff=oddtdtcreator

Grateful to our venue partner @tuftnupstudio.social.

Virtual Visioning Retreat• January 11, 2026 | 10:00 AM

• Early Bird Rate: $125 until Dec. 15

• General Admission: $200

• Reserve your virtual seat: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-wholeness-center-2026-virtual-visioning-retreat-tickets-1970033518285?aff=oddtdtcreator

#TheWholenessCenter #VisioningRetreat #Mindfullness #visionboard #MindfulnessRetreat #Manifestation #BIPOCWellness #BIPOCWomenLead #PurposefulLiving #Goals #EmpoweredWomen #PersonalGrowthJourney #EntrepreneurMindset 

Bemene Piaro is trained in the pure coaching approach, which places you, the client, in the driver’s seat of your coaching experience. Bemene completed her coach training at International Coach Academy (ICA) which is accredited with the International Coaching Federation (ICF). She also holds a master’s in public health from Georgia State University. Her coaching is neither mentoring nor directing but is a true accompaniment which supports and holds space for you to find your way on your journey. 

She is a mindfulness practitioner and has been practicing meditation for six years, particularly in the Vipassana and Plum Village traditions. She believes that being exposed to alternative perspectives and cultures widens a person’s understanding and their ability to communicate and empathize with all sorts of people. 

As a third culture kid, originally born in a village in Nigeria, Bemene loves to travel.  She has traveled to 18 countries and hopes to visit every country in the world in her lifetime. 

As your coach, Bemene brings a wealth of empathy and understanding of how the experience of living and working in inequitable systems can impact our ability to envision and embrace the life goals we truly desire and deserve. Are you ready to move forward in your life?  Bemene is ready and able to accompany you on your journey.

For so many of us—especially women—we were taught to give, give, give.

To self-deprive.

To silence our desires.

To see ourselves only in relation to someone else, especially a man.

But what happens when we consciously choose to break those patterns?

This episode explores the courageous act of rebelling against what is expected and accepted, and choosing instead to build a life rooted in self-nurturing. I share how experimenting with small acts of care—receiving kindness, speaking gently to yourself, doing things simply because they feel good—begins to reprogram the negative thought cycles at the core of self-sacrifice.

Together, we look at how to:

✨ Stop centering your worth around others’ needs

✨ Interrupt the patterns of self-deprivation you were taught

✨ Reclaim the right to receive without guilt

✨ Speak to yourself with softness, generosity, and truth

✨ Choose new desires—ones that come from your body, your spirit, and your joy

This is your reminder that you are allowed to choose yourself.

That you are allowed to want.

And that you can rewrite the script of your life—one act of self-nurturing at a time.

Tune in for a conversation that feels like a deep breath, a warm embrace, and a radical permission slip to center your own joy again.

For resources join The Ultimate Joy Goddess Community

Who is the Ultimate Joy Goddess?

Cordelia Gaffar is a transformational leader guiding individuals and organizations to embody joy, deep healing, and authentic connection. 

As the founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. and a private healing practice, she integrates somatic movement, intimacy coaching, and corporate consulting to foster self-mastery and well-being. 

Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation.

A two-time award-winning podcast host, she currently leads What People Miss and previously hosted The Free To Be Show, amplifying conversations on self-discovery and emotional intelligence. 

As a retreat facilitator and best-selling author of eight books, Cordelia curates transformative experiences and thought-provoking insights on pleasure, empowerment, and self-love.

Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation. With a B.S. in Accounting from Strayer University, she transitioned from corporate finance to become a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, movement facilitator, and Authentic Consent practitioner. 

She has spent eight years as an emotional wellness coach and three years in intimacy and corporate consulting certifications from The Amina Institute of Somatic Sexology, The College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah Creates.

A veteran homeschooling mother of 20+ years, she infuses her deep knowledge of human development, brain function, and self-nurturing into her work. Globally recognized for her transformational impact, Cordelia helps people reclaim their pleasure, power, and purpose.

Featured In

 Radio 786 South Africa – Emotional Wellness & Self-Nurturing using food as medicine

 WNBC Radio – Dating after Divorce

 Fox News – Self-Nurturing, Leadership & Women’s Wellness

 Powerhouse Global Magazine – 2019, 2020, 2024 Global Woman of Impact

 Podcast Host of the Year (2020, 2022)

 Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019)

I share my personal reflections on accountability, the complicated layers of family dynamics, and how self-awareness invites us to show up differently. And yet—when we do show up differently, not everyone applauds. Sometimes, honesty feels like an attack. Sometimes, growth threatens the familiar. But life is wise. It circles us back to the conversations we avoided, the wounds we hid from, and the lessons we weren’t ready to learn—until now.

This episode is an invitation to stand in your emotional truth with compassion. To remember that conflict is not failure—it’s a doorway to deeper intimacy. And to trust that the discomfort of communication can be the very thing that allows us to move forward with greater understanding, maturity, and love.

What You’ll Hear:

• Why avoiding communication ultimately holds us back
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• The moment honesty shifts family dynamics
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• How accountability transforms relationships
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• The emotional intelligence required for difficult conversations
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• Life lessons that return until we are ready to face them
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Whether you’re navigating the holiday season, healing generational patterns, or reclaiming your voice—this conversation is for you.

Sandy B Limiting ourselves

Sandra Barker-McIntosh, widely known as Coach SandyB, is an accountability coach, podcaster, speaker, and author with over five years of experience in coaching and podcasting, as well as more than twenty years in corporate accounting and finance. She combines her sharp analytical background with her ability to motivate high-achieving professionals to follow through, stay focused, and execute their goals with confidence.

As the creator and host of the 90 Day Wins Podcast, Coach SandyB guides listeners through practical strategies rooted in her signature 90 Day Wins methodology. Her framework helps individuals and organizations build momentum, overcome procrastination, and stay committed to meaningful goals. Through insightful solo episodes and powerful interviews with thought leaders, she offers listeners a blueprint for personal and professional growth.

As an accountability coach, she has supported entrepreneurs, creatives, and corporate professionals in turning vision into action. Her coaching goes beyond surface-level motivation. Coach SandyB is known for helping clients achieve clarity, organization, and consistent, aligned action that leads to real results.

On stages, she speaks with energy, authenticity, and real-world wisdom, inspiring audiences to reset limiting beliefs, build self-trust, and create a plan they will actually follow. Her approach is rooted in clarity, accountability, and bold confidence.

Sandra is also a wife, mother, and adventurer at heart. Whether she’s completing 5K mud runs or road-tripping with her family, she believes in living fully and enjoying the journey.

Guided by Proverbs 21:5, “Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity,” she continues to champion the mission of helping people win daily through planning, disciplined execution, and unwavering faith

Connect with her at https://90daywins.com/

#communication #honesty #accountability #family dynamics #personalgrowth #relationships #self-awareness #emotional intelligence #conflict resolution #life lessons

In this episode, I open a heartfelt conversation about respectability politics and the myth of imposter syndrome. We’ve been told that imposter syndrome is something we must “fix” within ourselves—especially if we are women, mothers, creatives, or leaders who dare to do life differently. But what if the real issue is not within us at all?

I explore how the world we move through was not designed with all of our identities, expressions, or cultural truths in mind—and how the pressure to “perform” acceptance, professionalism, or palatability can make us feel like we don’t belong in our own bodies.

This is not about striving to fit in.

This is about coming home to yourself.

Together, we examine:

• How respectability politics show up in our daily choices—from how we speak to how we love ourselves.
• Why imposter syndrome is not a personal flaw but often a symptom of environments that do not know how to receive us.
• The radical power of nurturing your identity as sacred—your culture, your sensuality, your joy, your voice.
• What it looks like to honor yourself as the authority of your life, rather than seeking permission to be.

This episode is an invitation to soften the edges you’ve sharpened to survive, to breathe into your individuality, and to remember that you are not here to prove yourself—you are here to embody yourself.

May this conversation support you in reclaiming your wholeness, in public and in private.

Let’s talk about it. Let’s remember ourselves.

If this resonates, join the Ultimate Joy Goddess Community

Love isn’t something we chase—it’s something we remember.

In this soul-stirring conversation, I sit down with Renee Miller, Founder of The Love Camp and my co-creator of the Love Awakened Retreat for Women, to explore the invisible barriers that keep us from experiencing the fullness of love. We unpack how trauma, self-protection, and cultural conditioning can quietly shape the way we give, receive, and even define love.

Set against the lush, transformative backdrop of Bali, we reflect on the deep emotional labor that unfolds when women reclaim their softness, learn to trust again, and choose joy as a conscious act of healing. From self-awareness to self-respect, from boundaries to belonging—this episode is a sacred invitation to remember that the journey back to love always begins within.

✨ You’ll discover:

• How identifying your love blockages opens the door to real growth
• Why trauma and conditioning can distort your relationship with love
• The role of self-love as the foundation for every connection
• How emotional labor and vulnerability build authentic intimacy
• The transformative power of healing in community

💫 Your seasons of love are sacred. Which one are you in?

Ready to join us in Bali next year? Join our waitlist https://join.thelovecamp.co/page/black-women-retreat-waiting-list

#LoveAwakened #UltimateJoyGoddess #SeasonsOfLove #FromSurvivingToSavoring #PleasureIsHealing #BodySoulShift #EmotionalFreedom #FeminineRebirth #SacredJoy #SelfNurturingSunday

In this conversation, Zaha Aljabri and James Faghmous discuss the various factors that rob people of their joy, particularly focusing on capitalism and its associated beliefs. They explore the importance of recognizing one's true nature and spiritual intelligence as a means to reconnect with joy. The discussion also touches on parenting in a capitalistic society, cultural expectations, and the role of joy in spirituality. Ultimately, they emphasize the need to reclaim joy amidst chaos and the importance of community and connection.

Zahra is an author, award-winning entrepreneur, lawyer, and life coach who helps Muslim professionals unlock their highest potential—spiritually and strategically. As the former Founder & CEO of Mode-sty, the world’s first multi-brand modest fashion platform, Zahra’s work has been featured in Forbes, Vogue Arabia, MPR News, and USA Today.

She now coaches her clients to overcome self-doubt and lean fully into divine support, showing that success in business and deen can go hand in hand. You can follow her on Instagram @practicalmuslim 

James H. Faghmous, Ph.D. is the trusted advisor to world-class Executives, top CEOs & public figures who want to amplify wealth in all areas of life, on their terms.

As an entrepreneur, author, 2X Most Influential Muslim Award Recipient, former CTO of a $30M company and pioneer behind one of the first AI consultancy businesses, I've walked the path from technical excellence to transformational leadership. My greatest breakthrough came when I realized the key to sustainable success was through becoming Spiritually Intelligent - where more life meant more faith (not more work, more skills, or more degrees).

The executives and public figures I advise crave more meaning, not more money. They understand that when you align your success with your deepest values, you don't just build a business; you build a movement.

Limitless Life is the exclusive advisory program for top executives, CEOs, public figures, and world-class founders who refuse to settle for excellent when limitless is within reach. This is the only life transformation system you need to go from excellent to limitless, so you can amplify wealth in all areas of life, on your terms.

The private mastery & expansion circle has already reshaped 1000+ of the most powerful Muslims globally, helping them create lives that honor their faith while expanding their influence, impact, and legacy beyond what they thought possible.

Takeaways

Capitalism instills false beliefs that rob joy.

Recognizing our true nature is essential for joy.

Spiritual intelligence helps transition from doing to being.

Parenting in a capitalistic world creates cognitive dissonance.

Cultural expectations can diminish self-worth.

Joy is a spiritual practice and connection to God.

AI cannot replace the inherent value of humans.

Finding joy is a revolutionary act against capitalism.

Community and connection are vital for joy.

We must challenge the systems that rob us of joy.

joy, capitalism, spiritual intelligence, self-worth, parenting, cultural expectations, AI, community, spirituality, connection

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Joy and Capitalism

02:48 The Impact of Capitalism on Joy

05:56 Understanding Our True Nature

08:45 Spiritual Intelligence and Self-Recognition

11:28 Parenting in a Capitalistic World

14:22 Cultural Expectations and Self-Worth

17:26 The Role of Joy in Spirituality

20:42 Navigating Capitalism with Joy

23:23 The Illusion of AI and Human Value

26:15 The Future of Humanity and Capitalism

29:15 Finding Joy Amidst Chaos

32:27 The Importance of Connection and Community

35:06 Joy as a Spiritual Practice

38:06 The Challenge of Embracing Joy

41:02 Conclusion: Reclaiming Our Joy

How do you do that in these times?

Are there practices that you are missing or could deepen?

You will enjoy this riveting exchanges between mature believers of different dogma choosing the joy of spirituality as a role model of what is possible.

Write me at hello@cordeliagaffar.com and let me know what is robbing you of your pleasure? And what you are doing to change that?

Choose joy and pleasure. When you do you become upstoppable.

#pleasure,#joy, #awareness, #detachment, #gratitude, #fulfillment, #

spiritual growth, #innerpeace, #self-awareness, #responsibility

In this opening season episode, I outline reasons to have a whole tantrum. You may think that is not very mature or sensible and I beg to differ. Listen to the six reasons you need to have a whole tantrum and my further invitation to experience that with me. 

This episode also serves as the guide for season 2 and the conversations you will hear with varying spiritual and religious filters. Feel into your body as you listen. Do you feel ease, release, constriction, increased or decreased heart rate? This is somatic practice in words.

I am always curious to hear your heart so please feel free to schedule time with me https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess

Cordelia Gaffar is a powerhouse of transformation, guiding individuals and organizations toward deep healing, embodied joy, and authentic connection. She is the founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. and runs a thriving private healing practice. A passionate healer and thought leader, she seamlessly integrates her expertise as a somatic movement facilitator, intimacy coach, corporate consultant, and philosopher to help people unlock their fullest potential.

A two-time award-winning podcast host, she currently leads What People Miss and previously hosted The Free To Be Show, a platform where she amplifies profound conversations on self-discovery, emotional mastery, and human connection. 

Her corporate work brings Intimacy Intelligence and Joy-Bonding™ into leadership, helping teams cultivate deeper connections and innovation. With a B.S. in Accounting from Strayer University, she transitioned from corporate finance to become a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, movement facilitator, and Authentic Consent practitioner. She has spent eight years as an emotional wellness coach and three years in intimacy and corporate consulting certifications from The Amina Institute of Somatic Sexology, The College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah Creates.

A veteran homeschooling mother of 20+ years, she infuses her deep knowledge of human development, brain function, and self-nurturing into her work. Globally recognized for her transformational impact, Cordelia helps people reclaim their pleasure, power, and purpose.

Keywords

tantrum, joy, peace, self-regulation, inner child, emotional health, personal growth, surrender, pleasure, curiosity

This episode is about extreme feelings that are available to open you up to your core for your ultimate joy. How are you using your rage? Are you using it?

I also wrote more about this in my substack. Subscribe, comment and enjoy!

https://open.substack.com/pub/cordeliagaffar/p/why-rage-is-required?r=1z8t8j&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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• Rage and Joy: The concept of rage as a necessary emotion for ultimate joy, and how to liberate and redirect it through practices like belly dance and somatic movement.
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Sometimes life can be infuriating. You want to throw rocks, scream to the top of your lungs, smash stuff, and all the ways you can possibly express rage. 

But why don’t you?

#rage #joy #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #community #emotional abuse #emotional wellness #sexuality #sensuality #somatichealing #healing #selfnurturing #detachedlove

In this powerful and soul-nourishing conversation, I sit down with Lucy Devi Hall, a visibility and public speaking coach who helps entrepreneurs fall in love with how they show up. Lucy’s unique approach blends emotional strategy, embodied confidence, and parts work, guiding leaders to be seen without shrinking or shape-shifting to fit expectations.

But Lucy’s story is more than professional expertise—it’s deeply personal. From surviving childhood sexual abuse, losing her parents, navigating eating disorders, and experiencing racism, Lucy learned to hide as a survival strategy. Now, she teaches us that true visibility isn’t just about showing up—it’s about reclaiming your freedom to be who you were born to be.

We talk about:

✨ Why visibility is personal, political, and profoundly liberating

✨ Healing the parts of you that feel too “much” or “not enough”

✨ Shifting from performing for approval to embodying your truth

✨ How to fall in love with your presence—on stage, on camera, and in life

Lucy is also a published author, vegan, animal lover, and music enthusiast who’s sung on three albums—proof that visibility can be both deeply healing and joyfully creative.

If you’ve ever felt invisible or struggled to share your brilliance with the world, this episode is your invitation to step into the light, exactly as you are.

📲 Connect with Lucy Devi Hall:

Instagram: @lucydevihall

Facebook: Lucy Devi Hall

https://lucydevihall.com/ 

🎙️ **"Thank you for listening to What People Miss. If this conversation inspired you to savor your life a little more, I invite you to continue the journey with me.

Visit CordeliaGaffar.com to explore more ways to reclaim your joy and confidence. And if you’re ready to go deeper, join us in the Ultimate Joy Goddess Community—where we practice radical self-nurturing, pleasure, and presence together.

Because you deserve to live free, liberated, and fully alive. I’ll see you there."**

In this week’s What People Miss, we’re talking about how to live joyfully, intentionally, and in alignment with your true self. My guest Richard Noel — sound therapist, musician, and joy advocate — reveals how:

✔ Incantations reprogram your mind faster than affirmations

✔ Your mood is your Wi-Fi (it affects every connection you have)

✔ Emotional baggage blocks your natural state of happiness

✔ Worrying is a form of negative meditation you can stop today

This is more than a conversation — it’s an invitation to choose joy daily, manage your vibration, and give yourself permission to live blissfully.

🎧 Listen now, and then ask yourself: What joy practices can I start today?

 joy, harmony, lifestyle, emotional well-being, personal growth, self-care, mental health

Cordelia Gaffar

The Ultimate Joy Goddess

Who am I?

Cordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.

Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment.

Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts and mentee of Jameelah, Somatic K.A.P. Facilitator.

 Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim their power through radical pleasure, joy-bonding, and deep self-connection.

 Visit https://cordeliagaffar.com/

In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I sit down with Bernard to reflect on my guest-hosting experience at King’s Corner—the virtual sanctuary created by Black Men Heal in Philadelphia. Together, we open the door to raw, liberating dialogue on what it truly means for Black men to feel safe in their bodies, reclaim their dignity, and allow themselves to heal. 💔💫

🛑 We challenge the grind.

🌀 We redefine productivity.

💗 We honor rest, emotional safety, and radical self-care.

💬 We say: "You deserve to be your full self."

This is not just a conversation—it’s a movement toward collective healing. We speak on receiving as sacred, vulnerability as strength, and how community can be the container for transformation.

🎧 Tune in to hear:

👉 “We have to fight for our dignity.”

👉 “We can catch this healing.”

👉 What emotional intimacy, self-love, and reparenting look like in real time.

This is for the brothers walking their path, and for those who love them.

#PersonalGrowth #SelfCare #HealthyMasculinity #VulnerabilityIsStrength #ConsciousRelationships #EmotionalHealing #RedefineProductivity #BlackMenHeal #IntimacyMatters #CommunityCare #MentalHealthAwareness #MenAndEmotions #WholenessJourney

About my guest:

Bernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.

To learn more about his work visit https://transformandthrivesolutions.com

We unravel the myth that worthiness is something to be earned, instead affirming that self-worth is a radical choice—one Black women must prioritize unapologetically. Our dialogue weaves in the tender integration of grief as a sacred portal to joy, the spiritual practice of multi-orgasmic living, and the beautiful dance of duality in self-compassion.

This episode invites you to release societal distortions, embrace your desires, and remember that your liberation is your birthright. Whether you’re beginning this journey or deep in the work, you’ll walk away feeling seen, supported, and empowered to live fully, sensually, and authentically.

✨ Key Takeaways:

• Sexual liberation is essential at every age.
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• Healing thrives in community and co-regulation.
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• Colorism shapes self-perception and desirability.
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• Self-worth is a choice that fuels empowerment.
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• Grief and joy are both necessary companions.
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• Multi-orgasmic living is a path to spiritual wholeness.
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• Duality in self-compassion is where true growth begins.
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• Social media can distort your sense of self—reclaim it.
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• Your desires are sacred; honoring them is revolutionary.
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• Wholeness is not a destination—it’s a lifelong journey.
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🌸 This episode is a love note to Black women over 50: You are worthy, desirable, and whole—right now.

Chapters

00:00 Celebrating Liberation and Wholeness

05:44 Community and Co-Regulation in Healing

10:12 Navigating Colorism and Self-Identity

18:18 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Desirability

24:26 The Journey of Choice and Emotional Labor

28:50 Navigating Grief and Breath Work

31:41 The Journey Through Discomfort

33:49 Multi-Orgasmic Living and Spiritual Wealth

36:42 Reconnecting to Wholeness

39:23 Embracing Dualities and Shadow Work

42:38 Reclaiming Power and Sexual Agency

46:29 Living in Liberation and Joy

#Blackwomen, #sexualliberation, #community, #self-worth, #colorism, #healing, #empowerment, #spirituality, #joy, #wholeness

Cordelia Gaffar — a powerhouse of wisdom, embodiment, and transformation. She is a best-selling author of eight books, award-winning host of What People Miss and The Free to Be Show, and founder of Workout Around My Day Inc. Known globally as the Ultimate Joy Goddess, Cordelia guides women from burnout to bliss by helping them rewire their bodies for pleasure, emotional freedom, and Multi-Orgasmic Living.

Her journey began over two decades ago, transitioning from her role as a corporate CFO to becoming a homeschooling mother and deep student of self-nurturing, somatic movement, and holistic healing. Since then, Cordelia has become an international speaker and leader in intimacy intelligence, tantra, and Somatic embodiment.

Her work has earned her numerous accolades, including Sexy Brilliant Leader (2019), Podcast Host of the Year (2020 and 2022), and Powerhouse Global Woman (2023) and certifications: Authentic Consent with The Amina Institute, Somatic Movement with NoMad Collective, Sports Nutrition, and Holistic Healing with the College of Medicine and Healing Arts.

 Cordelia’s unique approach blends science, soul, and sensuality — inviting women to reclaim their power through radical pleasure, joy-bonding, and deep self-connection.

Choose joy and always pleasure!

 Visit my website to learn about my programs.

This episode dives into how emotional and erotic intelligence shape our ability to experience pleasure, self-trust, and authentic connection. Cordelia and Queen examine how religious conditioning, societal norms, and the politics of desirability have limited sexual expression, especially within Black bodies. They illuminate the path of co-regulation, discipline, and the ongoing work of decolonizing sexuality.

At its core, this conversation is a loving invitation to return to your body, embrace pleasure as a form of resistance, and reclaim your erotic self as a vital aspect of Black liberation.

Key Takeaways:

• The personal always informs professional healing.
• Erotic intelligence guides us through chaos toward clarity.
• Sex, sexuality, and sexual liberation are distinct, vital layers.
• Liberation requires intentional discipline and deep understanding.
• Pleasure is not optional—it is essential for healing and joy.
• Religion often restricts full sexual expression.
• Emotional intelligence and co-regulation are the foundations of healthy relationships.
• Desirability politics deeply shape our experiences of freedom.
• Decolonizing sexuality is a lifelong practice of liberation.

About Mx. Queen:

Mx. Queen (they/Queen) is a licensed somatic sex therapist, certified hypnotherapist, energy worker, and breathwork facilitator. As an erotic liberation author and healing guide, they center Black sexual liberation through their signature program, Healing The Erotic Self (HTES), and the Erospirituality Centre. Their work helps people cultivate embodied safety, self-trust, and intuitive lovership.

Learn more about Queen’s masterclasses and healing experiences at Erospirituality.com.

#WhatsPeopleMissPodcast

#ConsciousConversations

#LiberationTalks

#HealingDialogues #SacredStories

#BlackJoy

#BlackLiberation

#BlackHealing

#QueerHealing #SexPositive

Coach E. shares his lived experience as a Black man navigating discrimination, and how those encounters leave an imprint—not just on the mind, but deep within the muscles, breath, and posture. We explore how trauma and emotional stress manifest physically, particularly in the shoulders, chest, and gut, and how mindful breathing, nourishing food, and intentional movement can offer profound relief.

This episode is a call to action: to slow down, tune in, and honor what’s still alive in your body. Your healing begins with presence.

🎧 Listen in and savor your return to wholeness.

🌐 Learn more: ElevationHealthErgo.com

✨ Key Takeaways:

• Functional movement is a medicine for the nervous system
• Racism and emotional labor create chronic stress in the body
• Pain is the body’s last language
• Presence, breath, and community are healing tools
• Women often carry invisible emotional loads

Nourishment and movement support emotional freedom

#JewelsOfJuneteenth #LeadershipInWellness #FunctionalHealth #TraumaInformedLeadership #MindfulMovement #EmotionalWellness #RacismAndHealth #HealingThroughPresence #BodyWisdom #Empowerment

Whilst everyone is up in arms about the future of DEI, we ask a challenging and thought-provoking question: Are we missing the gifts of segregation—the ability to empower ourselves, heal our communities, and align with our divine purpose? Could we pull from history and see what we created on the heels of Emancipation to move forward today in a more purposeful and unified way?

E. Bernard brings a rich blend of expertise and lived experience to this conversation. As a transformational health and wellness professional, counselor, coach, actor, and creative, Bernard highlights the necessity of shifting from a framework of mere “equality” toward true “equity”— honoring the unique roles we all have in rebuilding strong, thriving communities.

Together we explore:

➥ Why we’ve gotten it backwards by focusing on separation instead of unity

➥ How understanding our divine rights can empower us to create lasting change

➥ The roles men and women can play in strengthening their communities

➥ The power of dialogue, understanding, and collaboration across genders

➥ Why local economics and community solidarity matter more than we realize

➥ The importance of transformation, self-discovery, and honoring a higher purpose

Bernard’s rich background in health, wellness, education, and the arts underscores the creativity and depth we need in this moment of renewal. His expertise shows us that we can be set apart for a purpose — not divided — and we can leverage our unique roles to empower ourselves and future generations.

About My Guest:

E. Bernard Alexander is a transformational health and wellness professional specializing in trauma healing, holistic wellness, and empowering individuals and communities to achieve lasting growth. His expertise is grounded in a unique blend of cognitive, behavioral, and spiritual perspectives, supported by his education (Temple University and Biblical Theological Seminary) and lived experience.

Bernard is not just a healer; he’s a storyteller, actor, musician, and former celebrity barber — a creative soul who advocates for unity, transformation, and communal rebirth.

Keywords:

#segregation #equity #divinerights #community #transformation #localeconomies #empowerment #gendercohesion #dialogue #healing

In this interview, I am interviewing Tiffany Wright, the Founder of BOBC, Blacked Owned Business Community.

Highlights:

Why is there a need for BOBC?

How does the Black business community compare to 100 years ago?

What are some of the challenges?

Juneteenth Gala origins

Black Excellence

About my Guest:

Tiffany Wright is the founder of BOBC and Beyond Measure, a non profit for adults with learning difficulties. She is a New Jersey native who moved to the Eastern Panhandle of West Virginia in 2020. Currently located in Hagerstown, MD she is boots on the ground in the origin area of black excellence and booming businesses post JIm Crow.

Get your tickets and join BOBC https://bobcwvmarketing.wixsite.com/bobcevents

Here’s the truth: It is your birthright to choose. To savor—not just survive. To feel—not just function. To rise—not only react.

As we welcome June and prepare to honor Juneteenth, let’s recognize this holiday for more than a moment in time. Let’s use it as a mirror and a map—revealing where we’ve been and where we still must go, especially within.

What People Miss About Juneteenth

Juneteenth is not just about the freeing of enslaved people—it’s about the delay of freedom. It marks the moment in 1865 when those in Galveston, Texas finally learned of the Emancipation Proclamation—two and a half years after it was signed.

That delay? It mirrors the emotional delay many of us live with every day. Long after the trauma ends, the nervous system still doesn’t know it’s free. Long after the gaslighting, the heartbreak, the isolation, our bodies still flinch. Our spirits still whisper, “Am I safe yet?”

So, what do we do?

We don’t wait for someone else to give us permission to be free. We choose to be free.

Emotional Freedom Is Our New Emancipation

Juneteenth teaches us that truth and freedom are not always delivered—they’re discovered. They’re embodied.

This June, I invite you to explore the Jewels of Juneteenth—lessons hidden inside hardship. Jewels are those moments or memories that once tried to crush us, yet became catalysts for our transformation. That’s what emotional healing is: the art of flipping pain into power.

In this episode, I talk about the history of Juneteenth and connect the dots between emotional healing, wholeness and historical events.

The Emancipation Proclamation

The Reconstruction Era

Harlem Renaissance/ Jim Crow

Self-nurturing

Invitations

Free Experiences

Retreat

And that’s the theme not only for the month of June, but for my podcast What People Miss, and my movement: From Surviving to Savoring.

From Surviving to Savoring: A Radical Reclamation

This isn’t a cute quote or another checklist. This is a somatic shift. This is about activating the parts of you that forgot how to feel good… and reminding them: Pleasure is not a reward. It’s a right.

Starting Tuesday, June 3 at 7 PM ET, I’m leading a 3-day virtual retreat called:

From Surviving to Savoring: How to Rewire Your Body for Pleasure and Emotional Freedom

This is your sacred space to:

🌿 Let your nervous system finally exhale

🌿 Use your emotions as a map, not a mess

🌿 Reconnect your body to joy and truth

🌿 Remember the woman you were before the world told you otherwise

This is the real work. This is the work that ends emotional abuse—not only in your partnerships or past, but in how you treat yourself.

This is your Juneteenth of the soul.

So, how will you walk into this week?

Will you wear your crown?

Will you meet your requirements instead of waiting for crumbs?

Will you transmute pain into purpose?

Because the other side of this work is joy. It’s embodiment. It’s multi-orgasmic living—not just sexually, but spiritually. Orgasm is the electric spark of life from your core, radiating out through every choice, word, and breath.

Let June be different this year. Let it be your liberation.

💫 You get to reclaim your joy.

💫 You get to savor your life.

💫 You get to become the woman you were always meant to be.

🔗 Register Now for the 3-day virtual retreat:

https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndA

Let’s walk through the Jewels of Juneteenth together.

#sweetwalk #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #emotionalfreedom #jewels #multiorgasmicliving #pleasure

We also discuss different forms of retreats:

• Virtual
• Hybrid
• Within
• Domestic
• International

My next virtual retreat From Surviving to Savoring June 3-5 register here https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/UPcNX0GISWCgjP-oEnNndA

Takeaways

• Self-care is essential for emotional well-being.
• Women often lose themselves in relationships and need to reclaim their identity.
• Taking time for self-care is not selfish; it's necessary.
• Retreats can provide valuable space for self-reflection and growth.
• Listening to the body's signals is crucial for self-care.
• Self-care practices can be simple and accessible.
• Cultural perspectives shape our understanding of self-care.
• Self-pleasure is an important aspect of self-care.
• Carving out time for self-care is vital in a busy life.
• Self-care should be a natural part of daily living.

About My Guest:

https://www.diagnosis2desires.com/

Abeo Noel, The Intimacy Coach

With 24 years of experience as a Nurse Practitioner at NYU Langone Health, Abeo Noel has identified a crucial gap in healthcare: the lack of integration of sex education and pleasure into treatment plans. Driven to bridge this divide, she has expanded her practice to include holistic and pleasure-centered care.

Originally from Trinidad and Tobago and raised between there and the U.S., Abeo brings a rich cultural perspective that deeply informs her work. As an Erosomatic Touch Practitioner and Sex Doula, she offers a unique blend of clinical expertise and somatic healing, addressing the full spectrum of physical, emotional, and sexual well-being.

Her work is rooted in the values of family, community, happiness, peace, pleasure, and loyalty. With a deep understanding of how these elements contribute to holistic health, she empowers her clients to embrace pleasure as a vital part of their healing and overall happiness.

#self-care #emotionalawareness #relationships #retreats #wellness #health #pleasure #culturalperspectives #mindfulness #personalgrowth

You get to hear our thoughts and the psychology behind why beautiful women choose ugly men. That means behavior as well as looks. I am bringing levity to mental health awareness whether you are a beautiful woman or ugly man join us 😂🥰🎉

According to Zai Miztiq, it is an A.R.T. Watch and find out how to magnetize the higher version of yourself!

#romance #relationships #mentalhealthawareness 

She is the Founder of Step Up Journey and author, Speaker and coach living in Dubai.

In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar discusses the often-overlooked challenges that mothers face in balancing work and family life. She highlights the emotional labor involved, the impact on self-worth, and offers practical solutions for reclaiming joy and nurturing oneself amidst the chaos of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care, breathing techniques, and the need for mothers to honor themselves and their contributions.

Takeaways

• Mothers face unique work stress that is often overlooked.
• Emotional labor significantly impacts a mother's mental and physical health.
• Self-worth can be diminished by workplace expectations and judgments.
• Mothers should not be penalized for being late due to family responsibilities.
• Overachieving in the workplace can lead to physical stress and anxiety.
• Breathing techniques can help mothers reclaim their joy and reduce stress.
• Delegating tasks at home and work is essential for self-care.
• Mothers should prioritize their own needs and desires.
• Choosing joy and pleasure is vital for mental well-being.
• Every day should be a celebration of motherhood.

If you would like support with your work stress and need a safe space to reclaim your joy, connect with me by scheduling here.

This week let’s be honest about Mothers and Divorce.

Some women don’t want it.

Some women do want it.

Both groups sometimes stay bondage to the emotions of their decision and the circumstances which created it for years.

What if you could not only be free of it but use the emotions as the fuel for liberation?

What if you could be divorced and free of attachment?

1 - Choosing Cartwheels over hurtle

2 - Get Comfortable with being curious (wonder and wander)

3 - Co-parenting with Ex

4 - Somatic Healing

If my words resonate, let's talk https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess/apply-for-reveal-your-erotic-self-clone

#hashtagshortsfeed #theultimatejoygoddess #divorcedmoms #cordeliagaffar #mscorporateamerica #play

Takeaways

If people came from a place of love, we would see more integral energy.

Integral love keeps you accountable and honors others.

We don't want to be honest about our contributions to the world's issues.

We have more power than we think in creating change.

The beauty of life comes from having integral love with ourselves first.

Practicing self-love can transform our relationships with others.

We are all connected, and our actions impact those around us.

The power of choice is essential in overcoming victim mentality.

Aiming for the frequency of joy can change our perspective on life.

We need love at the cornerstone of everything we do.

Connect with Renee @thelovecampofficial and https://www.thelovecamp.co/

Connect with Cordelia @cordeliagaffar and https://cordeliagaffar.com/

#beauty of life #integral love #accountability #self-love #choice #humanity #emotional connection #personal growth #love energy #empowerment

#love #relationships #shadow work #communication #compassion #leadership #emotionalintelligence #joy #loveblockages #personalgrowth

About my guest:

Meet Renee Miller, the Founder of the Love Camp, best selling author and creator of the 7 Steps of Compassionate Leadership and Unblock Your Love as well as podcast host of Love Notes with Renee Miller.

https://www.thelovecamp.co/

Takeaways

• Menopause can be a time of joy and self-discovery.
• Perimenopause can start as early as 35 years old.
• Women often lack information about menopause from healthcare providers.
• Fibroids are influenced by estrogen and can improve during menopause.
• Menopause can lead to a sexual awakening for some women.
• Community support is crucial for women navigating menopause.
• Confidence often increases during menopause as women prioritize their needs.
• Self-care practices are essential for managing menopause symptoms.
• Exploring new friendships can enrich life during menopause.
• Women should seek alternative therapies for managing fibroids. 

Sound Bites

"Fibroids are fed by estrogen."

"Menopause is great for fibroids!"

"You need to be a part of something."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Menopause and Joy

07:41 Understanding Perimenopause and Menopause

08:59 The Role of Healthcare Providers

13:31 Exploring Alternatives to Hysterectomy

21:38 Impact of Fibroids on Women's Health

25:17 Understanding Menopause and Fibroids

27:48 The Transition to Menopause

30:58 Embracing Change and Confidence

32:57 Creating Community and Support

35:58 Exploring New Friendships and Opportunities

38:50 The Importance of Self-Care and Nurturing

43:37 Curiosity and Exploration in Midlife

45:42 Outro.mp4

About My Guest:

Dr. Neema Tillery Moore is a dynamic Chiropractor, Amazon best-selling author of the empowering book "Confidence NOW!", and a business owner. With a fervent dedication to championing professional women, she is deeply committed to helping them cultivate confidence, enhance their well-being, and step into their full potential. Dr. Moore's educational background includes degrees in Biology Secondary Education and a Doctor of Chiropractic from the esteemed Palmer College of Chiropractic.

Through her multifaceted approach encompassing Chiropractic, Functional Medicine, Global health initiatives, and luxurious wellness retreats, Dr. Moore provides women with transformative experiences to reconnect, prioritize self-care, and manifest their dream lives. Engage with her across various platforms by connecting @drneemadc

In this conversation, Cordelia Gaffar explores the critical differences between equity and equality, emphasizing the importance of focusing on equity to achieve fairness and justice. She discusses cultural transformation, the need to value all forms of work, the significance of financial inclusion for women, and the empowerment that comes from self-care and joy. Gaffar encourages listeners to recognize their own worth and the worth of others, advocating for a shift in perspective that prioritizes equity over equality.

Takeaways

Equity focuses on fairness and justice, while equality means providing the same to all.

Cultural transformation is essential for changing perceptions of women.

Valuing all forms of work is crucial for achieving equity.

Financial inclusion must be accessible and educational for women.

Women need to prioritize their own desires and well-being.

Self-care and joy are forms of empowerment.

Emotions are guides to understanding justice and fairness.

Recognizing systemic barriers is key to achieving equity.

The way we talk about ourselves influences our self-worth.

Focusing on solutions rather than problems leads to progress.

Sound Bites

"Focus on equity, not equality."

"Women have to want for themselves."

"Equity focuses on the solution."

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Equity vs. Equality

05:27 Cultural Transformation and Its Importance

13:48 Valuing All Forms of Work

16:50 Financial Inclusion for Women

20:36 Empowerment Through Self-Awareness and Pleasure

28:01 Outro.mp4

Have you questioned your looks? Felt judged for them? Or even avoided discussing them for fear of (fill in the blank)? Let's talk about what beauty is and is not.

self awareness, 

self love, 

rediscovery and 

the importance of recognizing the beauty within us.

Introducing Dr. Chi Quita Mack, MSW: distinguished social worker, accomplished author, and revered healing coach. Driven by an unyielding commitment to excellence, she stands as a beacon of inspiration and empowerment to all who cross her path.

With a profound dedication to knowledge and service, Dr. Chi Quita Mack holds the highest academic accolades, including a Doctor of Philosophy in Entrepreneurship & Business Administration, a Master of Social Work, and a Bachelor of Science in Biology with a minor in Military Science. Her academic prowess is matched only by her unwavering determination to effect positive change in the lives of others.

As the visionary owner and founder of The Chi Quita Mack, LLC and the owner and Founder of the non-profit Rediscovery, Dr. Mack has crafted a sanctuary for women, a haven where healing thrives, inspiration ignites, and the resounding echo of resilience reverberates. Her mission is clear: to remind every woman of her inherent strength, to guide her towards rediscovery, and to empower her to reclaim her essence.

Dr. Chi Quita Mack's transformative journey commenced in the hills of West Virginia, where she navigated early motherhood at the tender age of 21. Confronted with profound challenges, she grappled with the elusive pursuit of purpose, happiness, and peace. It was amidst this crucible of self-discovery that she unearthed the profound depths of self-love and the transformative power of introspection. In her quest to illuminate the path to healing, Dr. Mack authored "The Beauty in You" Workbook, a seminal guide designed to usher women through the seven realms of rediscovery: from self-love to goal setting, each step a testament to the resilience of the human spirit.

An impassioned advocate for women's empowerment, Dr. Mack lends her voice to "The Beauty in You Podcast," where she amplifies the narratives of women worldwide as they navigate their own journeys of rediscovery. 

With a multitude of certifications as a Certified Life, Mindfulness, Business, and Entrepreneurship Coach, Dr. Chi Quita Mack embodies the essence of resilience, compassion, and unwavering determination. Her roots may lie in Columbus, GA, but her indomitable spirit knows no bounds, touching lives and igniting transformation in the hallowed halls of Washington DC and beyond. Dr. Chi Quita Mack stands as a testament to the boundless potential that resides within each of us a luminous force of inspiration, empowerment, and unyielding grace.

According to https://www.womenslaw.org/👍

Emotional abuse is defined as “...mostly non-physical behaviors that the abuser uses to control, isolate, or frighten you. Often, the abuser uses it to break down your self-esteem and self-worth in order to create a psychological dependency on him/her.”

During our discussion we will identify the symptoms and share our stories of how we have moved on and you can too. You will want to be there for MOving Beyond Emotional Abuse with Dr. Marcea Whitaker.

Does emotional abuse happen only in the home or can it occur at work and other places?

What was your experience of emotional abuse? When did you realize it was happening?

How did you miss it?

How did you move beyond it?

What do you offer to someone who may be currently experiencing it?

You may also watch the full episode with the behind the scenes extras.

About my guest:

Dr. Marcea Whitaker is an award-winning international keynote speaker, physician, master destiny life & business coach, Barnes & Noble bestselling author, and radio personality. As CEO of In Full Bloom Health and Life Coaching, she empowers professional women to break free from their personal prisons and achieve their destinies through Girl Boss Life Academy. Her follow-on program, Life Coaching for Business Builders, is powerful tool helping women reach their business destiny.  Dr. Marcea has been named International Woman of the Year for two consecutive years and featured in Forbes and major media platforms like ABC, NBC, FOX, CBS, CEO Weekly, and USA Today, Dr. Marcea has hosts the Boss Business Strategies podcast and guest hosts on SiriusXM. 

#EmotionalAbuse #HealingJourney #WomensEmpowerment #MoveBeyondAbuse #BreakTheSilence #TraumaRecovery #SelfWorth #HealingIsPossible #WomenSupportingWomen #EmotionalWellness #YouAreNotAlone #PersonalGrowth #HealingTogether #BossWomen #LifeCoaching #DestinyAwaits #MentalHealthMatters #SelfLoveJourney #EmpoweredWomen #AuthenticLiving

Today I will present what care looks like in all areas of life:

1. Business
2. Career
3. Home life
4. Intimate relationships

The distinction between business and career is one you are a business owner and the other you are an employee even if you are in the C suite.

The distinction between home life and intimate relationships is that home life is the business of running a home and intimate relationships are the individual relationship with the people in the home.

Let’s see what people miss about care!

Take notes and if my philosophy resonates connect with me at hello@cordeliagaffar.com

Cordelia Gaffar  is the founder of the Workout Around My Day Inc  and has a private healing practice. She is also the two time award winning host of the What People Miss and previously The Free To Be Show Podcast, a retreat facilitator, passionate healer, intimacy coach, somatic movement facilitator, retreat facilitator, corporate consultant, philosopher, and best selling author of eight books. A recovering accountant and former CFO of an IT firm, she is certified in sports nutrition, holistic healing, somatic movement, Authentic Consent, worked as an emotional wellness coach for 8 years, intimacy and corporate consulting for the past 3 years, veteran homeschooling mom for 20 years and counting.

Starting April 14th I am offering a small group of women a six week experience called Revealing Your Erotic Self. The goal is for you to embody your emotions in a way that reveals and explores the depth of your being as fuel and ignites your passion for life.

Are you open to that?

It begins April 14th email me at hello@cordeliagaffar.com for details.

Today we are talking about the Joy of Vision with Bemene Piaro. We discuss:

What is Visioning

What do people miss about visioning

Sneak peak at our event on March 29th https://www.eventbrite.com/e/womens-self-nurturing-and-networking-day-tickets-1227639315239?aff=oddtdtcreator

About my guest:

Bemene Piaro is a certified life coach and the founder of The Wholeness Center. Born in Nigeria and raised in the US, she has traveled to more than 20 countries, deepening her understanding of diverse cultures and perspectives. She holds a Master’s in Public Health and certifications from the International Coach Academy and the International Coaching Federation.

Bemene specializes in coaching women of color to overcome challenges posed by inequitable systems and self-limiting beliefs, empowering them to create the lives they desire by reconnecting with their innate courage, agency, and freedom. She has led multiple visioning workshops and provides group and one-on-one coaching to clients across the US.

Beyond her coaching practice, Bemene partners with organizations like the CoachMe program and One to One: Women Coaching Women to offer pro bono coaching for those in need. With a unique blend of mindfulness, practical strategies, and compassionate support, she helps individuals and couples reflect, manifest, and embody wholeness.

Connect with her https://wholenesscenterva.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/bemenepiaro/

If you’ve ever felt boxed in or pressured to shrink yourself, this episode is your permission slip to break free. My next guest is the embodiment of living all that she is, and she’s here to inspire you to do the same.

In this soul-nourishing conversation, we explore the beauty, power, and freedom that comes from embracing your full Self — no edits, no apologies. Together, we reflect on what the world misses out on when we dim our light, and how honoring your truth is the ultimate abundance.

I had the honor of meeting her recently when we collaborated on The Renaissance, a powerful stage play where I starred as Angel and she shined as the co-producer and co-writer. She’s also the visionary behind the documentary 10:22, which we’ll dive into during this episode — along with the transformational concept of the “abundance economy.”

✨ Tune in for a deep and joyful conversation about creativity, courage, and the audacity to BE all that you ARE!

Ericka S. Black is a storyteller, mother, wife, top DC realtor, developer, and creative visionary. As the co-producer and co-writer of The Renaissance, she pours her love for the arts into crafting stories that reflect culture, struggles, and triumphs in fresh and exciting ways.

A Black woman navigating both business and creativity, Ericka understands the power of storytelling—not just in entertainment, but in everyday life. Whether she’s helping a family find their perfect home as one of DC’s top realtors with Coldwell Banker, raising her son, or bringing bold new narratives to the stage, she moves with intention and passion.

With The Renaissance, Ericka is helping create something more than just a show—it’s a celebration of resilience, artistry, and reinvention. Set to be a night of culture, community, and creativity, The Renaissance invites audiences to experience a story that speaks to who we are and where we’re going.

#TooMuchTooMagical

#PermissionToShine

#BeAllOfYou

#BreakTheBox

#NoMoreShrinking

#WomenWhoCreate

#VisibilityMatters

#AuthenticExpression

#CreativeFreedom

#AudacityToBe

Tomorrow, I’m thrilled to host a new episode of my podcast, "What People Miss," featuring the incredible Sophia Lewis. We’ll dive deep into the power of telling our trauma stories and how they can serve as valuable lessons in both our personal and professional lives.

Sharing our experiences can be a powerful tool for connection. It not only helps us process our own journeys but also allows others to see the strength in vulnerability.

Sophia and I will explore how these narratives can foster resilience, empathy, and even innovation in the workplace. After all, when we understand the challenges others have faced, we can create a more supportive and inclusive environment.

I’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you think sharing personal stories can impact our professional relationships?

Join us for this insightful conversation and let’s spark a discussion about the lessons we can learn from our experiences.

And if you find value in this topic, give this post a like or drop a comment below.

#podcast

#WhatPeopleMiss

#trauma

#lessons

Sophia Lewis is the Founder and Lead Consultant of ICAN Personal Development, where she specialises in designing impactful, employer-focussed training programmes that equip individuals with the skills and confidence to succeed. With a passion for lifelong learning and professional development, she collaborates with organisations to create meaningful training solutions that align with workforce needs.

In addition to her work in education and skills training, Sophia is the Producer and Host of the Long Story Short Podcast, a platform dedicated to sharing powerful stories of resilience from people across the globe. Through engaging conversations, she highlights personal and professional journeys, offering listeners inspiration and practical insights to navigate challenges and embrace growth.

With expertise in training consultancy, adult education and content creation, Sophia is committed to empowering individuals and communities through knowledge, storytelling and skill development.

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Hi I am your host Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess inviting you to choose joy and pleasure so that you love your life. I do that with my 13 week experience called Let’s Play with Intimacy. You will be in the noticing of who you truly are so that you can reveal that to the ones you love.

The next cohort begins April 7th email me at hello@cordeliagaffar.com for details.

This episode begins with is the continuation of my conversation with Lisa N. Alexander and continues with overlapping conversations with the following:

8:00 AM ET - Maternal Health with Christiana T. Johnson

February is Black History Month in the U.S., making it the perfect time to address the ongoing disparities in Black maternal health. Christiana T. Johnson, a trained lawyer turned Antenatal and Postnatal Fitness and Nutrition Coach, brings her expertise and personal experience to this discussion.

Having endured the trauma of three miscarriages, Christiana’s journey has given her a profound understanding of the emotional, physical, and spiritual impact of baby loss. As a Miscarriage and Baby Loss Coach, she is dedicated to supporting women and couples in navigating their grief and finding clarity to move forward.

She also raises awareness about the disproportionate rates of miscarriage and maternal health issues among Black women, advocating for systemic changes and emotional wellness support.

#babyloss #miscarriage #BlackMaternalHealth #Justice

9:00 AM ET - Emotional Wellness with Tiffany Hunter

Entrepreneurship and emotional wellness go hand in hand. Tiffany Hunter, host of The Healthy Entrepreneur under the Every.Black Entrepreneur Podcast Network, is here to help us understand how protecting our emotional health is the key to sustainable success.

With a background in psychology, Montessori education, and holistic healing, Tiffany offers insights into spiritual and natural approaches to maintaining balance. She shares practical strategies for entrepreneurs to nurture their well-being while growing their businesses, ensuring they don’t sacrifice themselves in pursuit of success.

#emotionalwellness #entrepreneur #holistichealth

10:00 am Wellness for Women Over 40 with Sherry Burden

After facing personal hardships in her 40s—divorce, separation from family, and rebuilding her life—Sherry Burden, known as ‘Your Creative Health Coach’ and ‘QueenShe,’ found her true purpose: guiding women toward holistic wellness and self-empowerment.

A 30-year IT professional, advocate for youth and mental health, and creative health coach, Sherry uses multiple media platforms to teach the benefits of decluttering, embracing creativity, and living a holistic lifestyle. Through her workshops and 1:1 coaching programs, she helps women over 40 reclaim their confidence and joy.

Her mantra: Believe It + See It = Created.

#QueenShe #WomenOver40 #HolisticLiving

This episode is a tribute to the resilience, wisdom, and brilliance of Black women. It’s time we celebrate and uplift each other—because when we thrive, the world thrives.

✨ Tune in and join the conversation! ✨

#WhatPeopleMiss #Podcast #BlackWomen #SelfCare #Healing #Empowerment

She so graciously stepped in for my mother guest who had to attend to her child.

During our time together, we discussed luxuriating in pause, the importance of listening to your body, a new perspective on your husband resting and a little on maternal health and fibroids.

Listen for what you may be missing about your wellness, health and intimacy practices.

Hi I am your host Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess inviting you to choose joy and pleasure so that you love your life. I do that with my 13 week experience called Let’s Play with Intimacy. You will be in the noticing of who you truly are all the way to your core, The next cohort begins April 7th email me at hello@cordeliagaffar.com for details.

To subscribe to my newsletter visit my website https://letsplay.now.site/home

7:00 AM ET - Unpaid Emotional Labor and Forgiveness with Lisa N. Alexander

Lisa N. Alexander, founder of This Woman Knows (https://thiswomanknows.com/), delves into the complexities of emotional labor and forgiveness. Should forgiveness always be given, or is it sometimes a burden imposed on Black women? Lisa explores how the expectation of forced forgiveness mirrors historical systems of unpaid labor and how choosing peace over emotional labor can be an act of liberation.

#forgiveness #BlackMentalHealth #EmotionalLabor #Boundaries

If you would like to reclaim your joy and experiment with joy drive, schedule a call with me https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess/reclaiming-your-joy-chat

She is the founder of the Workout Around My Day Inc. and has a private healing practice. She is also the two time award winning host of the What People Miss and previously The Free To Be Show Podcast, a retreat facilitator, passionate healer, intimacy coach, somatic movement facilitator, philosopher, and best selling author. A graduate of Strayer University (B.S. Accounting), she is a certified sports nutritionist, holistic healer, certified movement facilitator, worked as an emotional wellness coach for 3 years, veteran homeschooling mom for 20 years and counting.

https://youtu.be/Z8nZ_-kFjSw

I have really been enjoying being in the subtle noticing of my ways of being. This deeper level of self-awareness is so very enriching and kind! It is intriguing how I am becoming a vortex for healing and wholeness…not just for me but for those who are drawn to me. And those who are drawn to me are the me I was six years ago deep in trauma drive. Like the things my previous mentors told would happen is starting to happen.

You may be thinking what is trauma drive? It is that unkind cycle of noticing what you didn’t do or who kept you from “being great” or I should have done…sound familiar? How did you create that? It is NOT your fault that these are your default choices. It is:

👉🏾One part what is etched ion your DNA

👉🏾One part what you observed or experienced in your environment (home, school, work, etc.)

👉🏾One part as a result as part one and two, your body has become accustomed to that way of being

👉🏾One part as a result of your muscle memory, your nervous system protects you by programming your brain to create patterns of fear, worry, and to protect your ego

Basically what people autopilot is trauma drive. 

My invitation is to Joy Drive!

I have graduated from THAT! And I still question whether I am a good Mom…simultaneously releasing that way of being. The kindness I am experiencing is so profound and is my new form of emotional splatter. Yes, that can be a term used for good:)

Are you ready to graduate from trauma drive? Let’s talk. Simply reply scheduling a complimentary call with me here https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess/reclaiming-your-joy-chat