<![CDATA[While Doing Laundry]]>Fri, 16 Jul 2021 09:00:04 +0000Captivate.fmthegoodbirthco@gmail.com (Emily Edwards RN)https://artwork.captivate.fm/154aac3c-a895-4b3c-b000-a1c068d9b5f3/acitjynsg1bygg-fjoxzytau.jpgWhile Doing LaundryEmily Edwards RNthegoodbirthco@gmail.comEmily Edwards RNA podcast about the tough topics in parenthood no one else is talking about. Using a trauma-informed, person-centred approach to explore ethical complexities of being a parent in about 30 minutes. Just enough time to do a load of laundry. Join the community of radical parents asking questions and making change, while doing laundry too. www.thegoodbirthco.com www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco www.facebook.com/thegoodbirthcohttps://www.thegoodbirthco.comyesepisodicSelf Reflection for Birth Workers: An interview with Cheyenne ScarlettSelf Reflection for Birth Workers: An interview with Cheyenne ScarlettI am so so excited to welcome Cheyenne Scarlet to the podcast&nbsp; She has a particular interest on how childbirth affects the mental health of parents, and in turn their relationships with their children Let’s talk about Baby Planner&nbsp; Baby Planner came about after doing my master's research and realizing that there's a lot of gaps, some of them being on the part of the healthcare providers, and some of them being on the part of the parent There's a go with the flow attitude towards birth, which it's good to be flexible But often, when people say go with the flow, that means I'm not going to do any research, I'm not going to learn anything about birth, I'm just going to show up and see what happens. And I feel like that approach is particularly dangerous. We do know that making a plan and sort of having an idea of what you want, maybe not even a strict rigid plan, but sort of preferences or an outline of what you would like, you know, can help you reach that or help you have a more positive experience I can support pregnant people and parents.&nbsp; But that is just me, you know, saying, here's the tools to protect yourself from the fire without actually putting out the fire And at the end of the day, it is not the responsibility of the person giving birth to stand there and like, protect themselves and like be fighting off interventions and things that they don't want I am also working with the people that are perpetuating this thing My book for healthcare workers is called My Deep Dive: a self reflective workbook for birth workers It was honestly created out of a place of frustration, mostly surrounding the use of inclusive language I was really frustrated that people are feeling offended by using the term birthing people birthing person, rather than mother I, as a black woman, belong to two groups of people who had to quite literally fight in court to prove that they were a person and should be valued in society and should have rights and should be able to vote&nbsp; The workbook itself is 10 chapters. And only two of them are actually about birth, like one is your beliefs about birth, and the second one is your practice as a birth worker But all the other eight chapters are about how you live in the world, how you feel about the world, how you learn things about the world It's great for anyone that works with anyone who has experienced reproduction in any capacity - a lot of things are applicable for, like childcare workers or, or people who are working with young families in general, &nbsp;I'll give you an example from https://www.babyplanner.ca/about (my study): a black mom had a really, really difficult birth. And the nurse asked her, Hey, do you want me to take your baby to the nursery, so you can take a nap? And her immediate thought was, Oh, my God, I can't say yes because she's going to think that I'm incapable that I'm a bad mom, you know, she's gonna want to call CPS because I am not capable of caring for my baby. And that might be if you don't know the history, in Canada, with, with cis, taking black and indigenous children more frequently than anybody else, you might think that's totally irrational, but it actually is totally rational for black woman to think that way. And if she had, you know, gotten defensive, the nurse would be like, Oh my god, this is just a difficult patient, right? And not recognizing that connection. So it's not even always about you and what you are doing, it's about the person that you're working with and how they are viewing your interaction. It’s not your fault if you hold stereotypes or bias towards a certain group of people But it is now your responsibility to address those things and to change them Guest Bio: Cheyenne (she/her) is a researcher, educator and advocate. Cheyenne has an education background in child development and has a particular interest in how childbirth affects the mental health of parents and intern their relationships with their...
  • I am so so excited to welcome Cheyenne Scarlet to the podcast 
  • She has a particular interest on how childbirth affects the mental health of parents, and in turn their relationships with their children
  • Let’s talk about Baby Planner 
  • Baby Planner came about after doing my master's research and realizing that there's a lot of gaps, some of them being on the part of the healthcare providers, and some of them being on the part of the parent
  • There's a go with the flow attitude towards birth, which it's good to be flexible
  • But often, when people say go with the flow, that means I'm not going to do any research, I'm not going to learn anything about birth, I'm just going to show up and see what happens. And I feel like that approach is particularly dangerous.
  • We do know that making a plan and sort of having an idea of what you want, maybe not even a strict rigid plan, but sort of preferences or an outline of what you would like, you know, can help you reach that or help you have a more positive experience
  • I can support pregnant people and parents. 
  • But that is just me, you know, saying, here's the tools to protect yourself from the fire without actually putting out the fire
  • And at the end of the day, it is not the responsibility of the person giving birth to stand there and like, protect themselves and like be fighting off interventions and things that they don't want
  • I am also working with the people that are perpetuating this thing
  • My book for healthcare workers is called My Deep Dive: a self reflective workbook for birth workers
  • It was honestly created out of a place of frustration, mostly surrounding the use of inclusive language
  • I was really frustrated that people are feeling offended by using the term birthing people birthing person, rather than mother
  • I, as a black woman, belong to two groups of people who had to quite literally fight in court to prove that they were a person and should be valued in society and should have rights and should be able to vote 
  • The workbook itself is 10 chapters. And only two of them are actually about birth, like one is your beliefs about birth, and the second one is your practice as a birth worker
  • But all the other eight chapters are about how you live in the world, how you feel about the world, how you learn things about the world
  • It's great for anyone that works with anyone who has experienced reproduction in any capacity - a lot of things are applicable for, like childcare workers or, or people who are working with young families in general,
  •  I'll give you an example from my study: a black mom had a really, really difficult birth. And the nurse asked her, Hey, do you want me to take your baby to the nursery, so you can take a nap? And her immediate thought was, Oh, my God, I can't say yes because she's going to think that I'm incapable that I'm a bad mom, you know, she's gonna want to call CPS because I am not capable of caring for my baby. And that might be if you don't know the history, in Canada, with, with cis, taking black and indigenous children more frequently than anybody else, you might think that's totally irrational, but it actually is totally rational for black woman to think that way. And if she had, you know, gotten defensive, the nurse would be like, Oh my god, this is just a difficult patient, right? And not recognizing that connection. So it's not even always about you and what you are doing, it's about the person that you're working with and how they are viewing your interaction.
  • It’s not your fault if you hold stereotypes or bias towards a certain group of people
  • But it is now your responsibility to address those things and to change them

    • Guest Bio:

    Cheyenne (she/her) is a researcher, educator and advocate. Cheyenne has an education background in child development and has a particular interest in how childbirth affects the mental health of parents and intern their relationships with their children. For her master's thesis, Cheyenne conducted a research project on the childbirth experiences of Black women in the GTA and has since been advocating for better perinatal health care on social media. Cheyenne is a trained childbirth educator and doula and she works with both parents and healthcare providers to improve birth for all people. Cheyenne is a mother to 2 biological children, 1 step-child and is currently expecting again

    Buy Cheyenne’s journal My Deep Dive: A self reflection workbook for birth workers here.

    Digital and hard copies available for order.

    If you sign up for the mailing list at babyplanner.ca then you'll get a $5 off coupon for My Deep Dive Journal

    Follow her on Instagram @motherofscarletts

    Make sure that you go and check out all of those links to get to know Cheyenne better, to find a copy of the journal for yourself or just to follow along on the conversation over on Instagram.

    I will catch you next week!

    ]]>    dbad25d3-dce3-48a0-81ff-f9be36e1ca19Fri, 16 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -040001:00:23yesfull13I am so so excited to welcome Cheyenne Scarlet to the podcast She has a particular interest on how childbirth affects the mental health of parents, and in turn their relationships with their children Let’s talk about Baby Planner Baby Planner came about after doing my master's research and realizing that there's a lot of gaps, some of them being on the part of the healthcare providers, and some of them being on the part of the parent There's a go with the flow attitude towards birth, which it's good to be flexible But often, when people say go with the flow, that means I'm not going to do any research, I'm not going to learn anything about birth, I'm just going to show up and see what happens. And I feel like that approach is particularly dangerous. We do know that making a plan and sort of having an idea of what you want, maybe not even a strict rigid plan, but sort of preferences or an outline of what you would like, you know, can help you reach that or help you have a more positive experience I can support pregnant people and parents. But that is just me, you know, saying, here's the tools to protect yourself from the fire without actually putting out the fire And at the end of the day, it is not the responsibility of the person giving birth to stand there and like, protect themselves and like be fighting off interventions and things that they don't want I am also working with the people that are perpetuating this thing My book for healthcare workers is called My Deep Dive: a self reflective workbook for birth workers It was honestly created out of a place of frustration, mostly surrounding the use of inclusive language I was really frustrated that people are feeling offended by using the term birthing people birthing person, rather than mother I, as a black woman, belong to two groups of people who had to quite literally fight in court to prove that they were a person and should be valued in society and should have rights and should be able to vote The workbook itself is 10 chapters. And only two of them are actually about birth, like one is your beliefs about birth, and the second one is your practice as a birth worker But all the other eight chapters are about how you live in the world, how you feel about the world, how you learn things about the world It's great for anyone that works with anyone who has experienced reproduction in any capacity - a lot of things are applicable for, like childcare workers or, or people who are working with young families in general, I'll give you an example from https://www.babyplanner.ca/about (my study): a black mom had a really, really difficult birth. And the nurse asked her, Hey, do you want me to take your baby to the nursery, so you can take a nap? And her immediate thought was, Oh, my God, I can't say yes because she's going to think that I'm incapable that I'm a bad mom, you know, she's gonna want to call CPS because I am not capable of caring for my baby. And that might be if you don't know the history, in Canada, with, with cis, taking black and indigenous children more frequently than anybody else, you might think that's totally irrational, but it actually is totally rational for black woman to think that way. And if she had, you know, gotten defensive, the nurse would be like, Oh my god, this is just a difficult patient, right? And not recognizing that connection. So it's not even always about you and what you are doing, it's about the person that you're working with and how they are viewing your interaction. It’s not your fault if you hold stereotypes or bias towards a certain group of people But it is now your responsibility to address those things and to change them Guest Bio: Cheyenne (she/her) is a researcher, educator and advocate. Cheyenne has an education background in child development and has a particular interest in how childbirth affects the mental health of parents and intern their relationships with their children. For her...Emily Edwards RN    Care Expectations Series: The Therapeutic Nurse-Client RelationshipCare Expectations Series: The Therapeutic Nurse-Client RelationshipThis series is focused on the practice standards of nursing staff. Particularly, we will be focusing on the College of Nurses of Ontario practice standards. Download a copy to review https://www.cno.org/globalassets/docs/prac/41033_therapeutic.pdf (here). And today's episode, we'll be diving into the core standard of therapeutic nurse client relationship, which is the document that covers the heavy hitting foundational expectations that your nursing staff are already held to.&nbsp; These standards are not unique to any particular area of nursing The standards cover anyone who is a registered nurse - that includes registered practical nurses as well as registered nurses, advanced practice nurses, nurse practitioners, etc. As I mentioned, this series will cover the practice standards and other guiding documents that are behind nursing practice, particularly in Ontario &nbsp;With the very specific geographical context, keep in mind all of these documents and these governing bodies exist for your area Nursing standards are expectations that contribute to public protection They inform nurses of their accountabilities and the public of what to expect of nurses standards apply to all nurses regardless of their role, job description or area of practice At the core of nursing is the therapeutic nurse client relationship - the nurse establishes and maintains this key relationship by using nursing knowledge and skills, as well as applying caring attitudes and behaviors The nurse client relationship contains five core elements: trust, respect, professional intimacy, empathy, and power Trust is critical, because as the client or the patient, regardless of the setting, but particularly when giving birth, you are extremely vulnerable That is why trust tops the list, and it is important that your care providers establish this piece above all else Respect is the recognition of the inherent dignity, worth and uniqueness of individuals Regardless of any reason that exists that another person may judge them So this in particular calls on nurses to address their own internal biases around any number of ways that they could be discriminating against clients, without even knowing it, as well as actively participating in damaging disrespectful actions Professional intimacy is a concept that you may not have heard of before You can understand and appreciate the physical closeness that nursing staff have when it comes to birth Professional intimacy also includes the psychological aspects, spiritual and the social pieces that are part of the plan of care&nbsp; Having access to such intimate information, the secrets and the darkness that people carry, comes with great responsibility Empathy is the expression of understanding that goes a long way to validate a patient's experience&nbsp; Birth is a triumphant experience - if the people around you are not treating it as such, it's going to be very difficult for you to engage with it as a triumphant experience Nurses are the people who keep others safe - with that power comes the ability to harm them too&nbsp; We need to recognize from the get go that this relationship is always one of unequal power, and that power imbalance has so many implications We don't even collect race specific data in Canada, let alone have discussions over how we treat black indigenous people of color in this country We can look at the data in the states and know that there are alarming discrepancies between the death rate of white and black birthing people&nbsp; This is not new information - we need to start talking about it because there are rules in place to prevent this from happening, and no one's doing anything about it This is what the care expectation series is highlighting that there are ways for you to enforce and reinforce your needs being met, and then hold people accountable for not reading that There's no more second guessing whether or not the way you were treated was okay or not We have...This series is focused on the practice standards of nursing staff. Particularly, we will be focusing on the College of Nurses of Ontario practice standards. Download a copy to review here. And today's episode, we'll be diving into the core standard of therapeutic nurse client relationship, which is the document that covers the heavy hitting foundational expectations that your nursing staff are already held to. 

    • These standards are not unique to any particular area of nursing
    • The standards cover anyone who is a registered nurse - that includes registered practical nurses as well as registered nurses, advanced practice nurses, nurse practitioners, etc.
    • As I mentioned, this series will cover the practice standards and other guiding documents that are behind nursing practice, particularly in Ontario
    •  With the very specific geographical context, keep in mind all of these documents and these governing bodies exist for your area
    • Nursing standards are expectations that contribute to public protection
    • They inform nurses of their accountabilities and the public of what to expect of nurses standards apply to all nurses regardless of their role, job description or area of practice
    • At the core of nursing is the therapeutic nurse client relationship - the nurse establishes and maintains this key relationship by using nursing knowledge and skills, as well as applying caring attitudes and behaviors
    • The nurse client relationship contains five core elements: trust, respect, professional intimacy, empathy, and power
    • Trust is critical, because as the client or the patient, regardless of the setting, but particularly when giving birth, you are extremely vulnerable
    • That is why trust tops the list, and it is important that your care providers establish this piece above all else
    • Respect is the recognition of the inherent dignity, worth and uniqueness of individuals
    • Regardless of any reason that exists that another person may judge them
    • So this in particular calls on nurses to address their own internal biases around any number of ways that they could be discriminating against clients, without even knowing it, as well as actively participating in damaging disrespectful actions
    • Professional intimacy is a concept that you may not have heard of before
    • You can understand and appreciate the physical closeness that nursing staff have when it comes to birth
    • Professional intimacy also includes the psychological aspects, spiritual and the social pieces that are part of the plan of care 
    • Having access to such intimate information, the secrets and the darkness that people carry, comes with great responsibility
    • Empathy is the expression of understanding that goes a long way to validate a patient's experience 
    • Birth is a triumphant experience - if the people around you are not treating it as such, it's going to be very difficult for you to engage with it as a triumphant experience
    • Nurses are the people who keep others safe - with that power comes the ability to harm them too 
    • We need to recognize from the get go that this relationship is always one of unequal power, and that power imbalance has so many implications
    • We don't even collect race specific data in Canada, let alone have discussions over how we treat black indigenous people of color in this country
    • We can look at the data in the states and know that there are alarming discrepancies between the death rate of white and black birthing people 
    • This is not new information - we need to start talking about it because there are rules in place to prevent this from happening, and no one's doing anything about it
    • This is what the care expectation series is highlighting that there are ways for you to enforce and reinforce your needs being met, and then hold people accountable for not reading that
    • There's no more second guessing whether or not the way you were treated was okay or not
    • We have ways to figure that out now and you have support to bring your concerns so that they will be heard
    • I’m going to quickly summarize the rest of of the nurse-client relationship practice standard for you
    • Therapeutic communication: nurses use a wide range of effective communication strategies and interpersonal skills to appropriately establish, maintain, re-establish and terminate the nurse-client relationship
    • Client-centred care: nurses work with the client to ensure that all professional behaviours and actions meet the therapeutic needs of the client
    • Maintaining boundaries: nurses are responsible for effectively establishing and maintaining the limits or boundaries in the therapeutic nurse-client relationship
    • Protecting the client from abuse: nurses protect the client from harm by ensuring that abuse is prevented, or stopped and reported
    • This will be an episode all on its own - I'm going to specifically read out the indicators of this standard that often are violated within the labor and delivery or perinatal health space
    • If you're a care provider, if you're a nurse listening, if you're a doula, I want you to listen to this episode, it will be out next week on Wednesday, and really listen and reflect on your own practice
    • It can feel really hard to reflect especially around patient abuse and whether or not you have been a perpetrator of such but if we don't take the time to really listen to what that is and truly look at our practice against that description we're going to continue to hurt people and/or we are going to continue to allow hurt and harm to occur

    This is going to get deep and for those of you listening who are pregnant and wanting to create a birth experience where your care expectations are met and exceeded and respected, make sure that you reach out. 

    The care expectations template is a tool that I've created for people who are wanting to identify what their own expectations are, but also create a clear way to communicate it to everyone around them. It’s a combination of saying, “This is what I know is possible. This is what I know you are expected to do. And this is how you're going to treat me.” Click here to download your free template.

    You do not want to miss an episode! Subscribe and make sure that you tune in next week at this time with a big old pile of laundry. Because we are getting down to it!

    ]]>    b56c4c2e-be3e-4830-84fd-2240eada8cb4Wed, 07 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -040027:10yesfull12This series is focused on the practice standards of nursing staff. Particularly, we will be focusing on the College of Nurses of Ontario practice standards. Download a copy to review https://www.cno.org/globalassets/docs/prac/41033_therapeutic.pdf (here). And today's episode, we'll be diving into the core standard of therapeutic nurse client relationship, which is the document that covers the heavy hitting foundational expectations that your nursing staff are already held to. These standards are not unique to any particular area of nursing The standards cover anyone who is a registered nurse - that includes registered practical nurses as well as registered nurses, advanced practice nurses, nurse practitioners, etc. As I mentioned, this series will cover the practice standards and other guiding documents that are behind nursing practice, particularly in Ontario With the very specific geographical context, keep in mind all of these documents and these governing bodies exist for your area Nursing standards are expectations that contribute to public protection They inform nurses of their accountabilities and the public of what to expect of nurses standards apply to all nurses regardless of their role, job description or area of practice At the core of nursing is the therapeutic nurse client relationship - the nurse establishes and maintains this key relationship by using nursing knowledge and skills, as well as applying caring attitudes and behaviors The nurse client relationship contains five core elements: trust, respect, professional intimacy, empathy, and power Trust is critical, because as the client or the patient, regardless of the setting, but particularly when giving birth, you are extremely vulnerable That is why trust tops the list, and it is important that your care providers establish this piece above all else Respect is the recognition of the inherent dignity, worth and uniqueness of individuals Regardless of any reason that exists that another person may judge them So this in particular calls on nurses to address their own internal biases around any number of ways that they could be discriminating against clients, without even knowing it, as well as actively participating in damaging disrespectful actions Professional intimacy is a concept that you may not have heard of before You can understand and appreciate the physical closeness that nursing staff have when it comes to birth Professional intimacy also includes the psychological aspects, spiritual and the social pieces that are part of the plan of care Having access to such intimate information, the secrets and the darkness that people carry, comes with great responsibility Empathy is the expression of understanding that goes a long way to validate a patient's experience Birth is a triumphant experience - if the people around you are not treating it as such, it's going to be very difficult for you to engage with it as a triumphant experience Nurses are the people who keep others safe - with that power comes the ability to harm them too We need to recognize from the get go that this relationship is always one of unequal power, and that power imbalance has so many implications We don't even collect race specific data in Canada, let alone have discussions over how we treat black indigenous people of color in this country We can look at the data in the states and know that there are alarming discrepancies between the death rate of white and black birthing people This is not new information - we need to start talking about it because there are rules in place to prevent this from happening, and no one's doing anything about it This is what the care expectation series is highlighting that there are ways for you to enforce and reinforce your needs being met, and then hold people accountable for not reading that There's no more second guessing whether or not the way you were treated was okay or not We have ways to figure that out now...Emily Edwards RN    Am I allowed to do that in birth?Am I allowed to do that in birth?Let’s talk about care expectations! You can set your own care expectations regardless of where you are on your health journey: whether you are pregnant, post-partum, planning on pregnancy or addressing any other health concern. Knowing that you have the right to set care expectations is a real game changer, so let’s dive right in! Imagine you have spent the last several months planning a huge party&nbsp; You have planned out every detail right down to your favourite restaurant and your perfect hair and shoes You arrive at your party, and your friends and family are there, and then this person you have never met takes over everything This person tells you “we’re not ready for you” and tells you to go “wait over there” Next, this person tells you there is nothing left for you to eat or drink Your friends and family are there but nobody knows what to do so you just go along with whatever is happening You are defeated Obviously this scenario would never be ok in the hospitality industry Why do we not hold our birth experience to the same standard? The profession of nursing is built on the therapeutic nurse-client relationship The therapeutic relationship must include trust and understanding, unbiased support, belief in the individual's autonomy and providing informed options for that client to make their own decisions.&nbsp; Somehow along the way, we mixed it up and in labor and delivery - the job and core value focuses on the baby instead of the birthing person Why is the client not treated as the expert of knowledge and keeper of the answers when it comes to pregnancy and birth?&nbsp; As the client going in there to give birth, you have every right to set clear expectations about how you want to be treated and how your nursing staff and the rest of the care team is to treat you based on their own practice guidelines You are not being difficult, you are not asking for too much, you are simply highlighting that you are aware of what their professional responsibilities are It’s not your fault that the system is broken&nbsp; Establishing care expectations with the background knowledge of what your nurses should be doing creates a powerful tool to be heard and to be treated the way you deserve to be treated during your birthing journey.&nbsp; Download your FREE Care Expectations PDF https://thegoodbirthco.com/careexpectations/ (here). If you're interested in learning more about how to define your care expectations and have them met, don't miss next week's episode. I will be diving into the top three ways to ask for what you need. See you then!&nbsp; Let’s talk about care expectations! You can set your own care expectations regardless of where you are on your health journey: whether you are pregnant, post-partum, planning on pregnancy or addressing any other health concern. Knowing that you have the right to set care expectations is a real game changer, so let’s dive right in!

    • Imagine you have spent the last several months planning a huge party 
    • You have planned out every detail right down to your favourite restaurant and your perfect hair and shoes
    • You arrive at your party, and your friends and family are there, and then this person you have never met takes over everything
    • This person tells you “we’re not ready for you” and tells you to go “wait over there”
    • Next, this person tells you there is nothing left for you to eat or drink
    • Your friends and family are there but nobody knows what to do so you just go along with whatever is happening
    • You are defeated
    • Obviously this scenario would never be ok in the hospitality industry
    • Why do we not hold our birth experience to the same standard?
    • The profession of nursing is built on the therapeutic nurse-client relationship
    • The therapeutic relationship must include trust and understanding, unbiased support, belief in the individual's autonomy and providing informed options for that client to make their own decisions. 
    • Somehow along the way, we mixed it up and in labor and delivery - the job and core value focuses on the baby instead of the birthing person
    • Why is the client not treated as the expert of knowledge and keeper of the answers when it comes to pregnancy and birth? 
    • As the client going in there to give birth, you have every right to set clear expectations about how you want to be treated and how your nursing staff and the rest of the care team is to treat you based on their own practice guidelines
    • You are not being difficult, you are not asking for too much, you are simply highlighting that you are aware of what their professional responsibilities are
    • It’s not your fault that the system is broken 

    Establishing care expectations with the background knowledge of what your nurses should be doing creates a powerful tool to be heard and to be treated the way you deserve to be treated during your birthing journey. 

    Download your FREE Care Expectations PDF here.

    If you're interested in learning more about how to define your care expectations and have them met, don't miss next week's episode. I will be diving into the top three ways to ask for what you need. See you then! 


    ]]>    f9a90df5-ced4-4ecd-816f-e39fcad4572bWed, 30 Jun 2021 16:00:00 -040012:24yesfull11Let’s talk about care expectations! You can set your own care expectations regardless of where you are on your health journey: whether you are pregnant, post-partum, planning on pregnancy or addressing any other health concern. Knowing that you have the right to set care expectations is a real game changer, so let’s dive right in! Imagine you have spent the last several months planning a huge party You have planned out every detail right down to your favourite restaurant and your perfect hair and shoes You arrive at your party, and your friends and family are there, and then this person you have never met takes over everything This person tells you “we’re not ready for you” and tells you to go “wait over there” Next, this person tells you there is nothing left for you to eat or drink Your friends and family are there but nobody knows what to do so you just go along with whatever is happening You are defeated Obviously this scenario would never be ok in the hospitality industry Why do we not hold our birth experience to the same standard? The profession of nursing is built on the therapeutic nurse-client relationship The therapeutic relationship must include trust and understanding, unbiased support, belief in the individual's autonomy and providing informed options for that client to make their own decisions. Somehow along the way, we mixed it up and in labor and delivery - the job and core value focuses on the baby instead of the birthing person Why is the client not treated as the expert of knowledge and keeper of the answers when it comes to pregnancy and birth? As the client going in there to give birth, you have every right to set clear expectations about how you want to be treated and how your nursing staff and the rest of the care team is to treat you based on their own practice guidelines You are not being difficult, you are not asking for too much, you are simply highlighting that you are aware of what their professional responsibilities are It’s not your fault that the system is broken Establishing care expectations with the background knowledge of what your nurses should be doing creates a powerful tool to be heard and to be treated the way you deserve to be treated during your birthing journey. Download your FREE Care Expectations PDF https://thegoodbirthco.com/careexpectations/ (here). If you're interested in learning more about how to define your care expectations and have them met, don't miss next week's episode. I will be diving into the top three ways to ask for what you need. See you then! Emily Edwards RN    PTSD from ChildbirthPTSD from ChildbirthWelcome back to While Doing Laundry! Today we are going to talk about what birth trauma really is, and why many people have it but don’t even realize it. This may be a very emotional conversation for you, but listen to your body, trust your emotions, and see what comes to mind for you. I’m always here if you need me.&nbsp; -If you Google birth trauma, you will likely find references to physical birth trauma -Emotional and mental birth trauma is often overlooked -The Birth Trauma Association in the UK is closer to the mark -They define birth trauma as a post-traumatic disorder (PTSD) following birth -I use the term PTSD with caution, as many new parents feel like their symptoms are not “bad enough” to be classified as PTSD -If you broaden your definition of PTSD, it is simply a traumatic event or events where an individual feels their life is being threatened, or someone else around them is in danger, or if there is a threat to their dignity or person&nbsp;&nbsp; -My point is that even if you don’t have diagnosed PTSD after birth, you still may be suffering from birth trauma -I approach birth trauma as an overarching umbrella term that can capture anything as minute as disappointments, or mild frustration -In your experience, it could be as simple as a beautiful birth experience with one tiny, nagging memory that just doesn't sit well with you -That falls under this umbrella, just as much as the stereotypical very dramatic, traumatic life or death situation that some people bring with their stories that some people have shared -These stories carry as much value as do the stories of absolute heartbreak and stereotypical drama, and excitement, and overwhelm that come with many other birth stories -The common thread of birth trauma is the sensation, the experience of being silenced, and ignored even though you are the person who should be at the center of every decision, when you are pushed to the side, or whether you're just ignored and denied completely -When we enter the healthcare system, we want support, we want guidance, and we want to be led to good outcomes -Just the same as presenting to the ER with a broken ankle, we hope that would lead to a treatment plan that fits our needs&nbsp; -Diagnosis, treatment, and recovery are all key when repairing a broken ankle -Health care providers need to know about your life, your needs and how to help you get back to that -They need to be able to treat your ankle so you can get back to running up and down the stairs with a basket of laundry with a baby on your back -Childbirth should be the same, it should be based around the needs of the individual -Many healthcare providers don’t acknowledge the complex needs of birthing mothers -Birthing mothers exit the system traumatized and without any words to explain what they went through any without means of healing -This creates isolation for new parents and rifts in families -Many women feel forced to swallow their indignation and to “just keep smiling” as society dictates -You have a newborn baby, you don't want to miss out on making memories, dammit, put on some mascara, and force a smile for those newborn pictures -Condense that horrific story you just endured to the version that everyone else feels comfortable with - Because you get tired of hearing the people you trust and expect to keep you safe telling you just to be happy with your healthy baby.&nbsp; -They don't understand or don't have the skill set to support you with the trauma you experienced -Trauma does not go anywhere and it prevents you from transitioning into the next phase of life -If you don't work through what happens, you cannot bury a traumatic birth experience and expect to move through parenthood with joy and with absolute ownership The healthcare system doesn’t want to touch this topic because it would mean acknowledging the fact that these traumatic birth experiences happen at the hands of medical professionals. They happen...Welcome back to While Doing Laundry! Today we are going to talk about what birth trauma really is, and why many people have it but don’t even realize it. This may be a very emotional conversation for you, but listen to your body, trust your emotions, and see what comes to mind for you. I’m always here if you need me. 

    -If you Google birth trauma, you will likely find references to physical birth trauma

    -Emotional and mental birth trauma is often overlooked

    -The Birth Trauma Association in the UK is closer to the mark

    -They define birth trauma as a post-traumatic disorder (PTSD) following birth

    -I use the term PTSD with caution, as many new parents feel like their symptoms are not “bad enough” to be classified as PTSD

    -If you broaden your definition of PTSD, it is simply a traumatic event or events where an individual feels their life is being threatened, or someone else around them is in danger, or if there is a threat to their dignity or person  

    -My point is that even if you don’t have diagnosed PTSD after birth, you still may be suffering from birth trauma

    -I approach birth trauma as an overarching umbrella term that can capture anything as minute as disappointments, or mild frustration

    -In your experience, it could be as simple as a beautiful birth experience with one tiny, nagging memory that just doesn't sit well with you

    -That falls under this umbrella, just as much as the stereotypical very dramatic, traumatic life or death situation that some people bring with their stories that some people have shared

    -These stories carry as much value as do the stories of absolute heartbreak and stereotypical drama, and excitement, and overwhelm that come with many other birth stories

    -The common thread of birth trauma is the sensation, the experience of being silenced, and ignored even though you are the person who should be at the center of every decision, when you are pushed to the side, or whether you're just ignored and denied completely

    -When we enter the healthcare system, we want support, we want guidance, and we want to be led to good outcomes

    -Just the same as presenting to the ER with a broken ankle, we hope that would lead to a treatment plan that fits our needs 

    -Diagnosis, treatment, and recovery are all key when repairing a broken ankle

    -Health care providers need to know about your life, your needs and how to help you get back to that

    -They need to be able to treat your ankle so you can get back to running up and down the stairs with a basket of laundry with a baby on your back

    -Childbirth should be the same, it should be based around the needs of the individual

    -Many healthcare providers don’t acknowledge the complex needs of birthing mothers

    -Birthing mothers exit the system traumatized and without any words to explain what they went through any without means of healing

    -This creates isolation for new parents and rifts in families

    -Many women feel forced to swallow their indignation and to “just keep smiling” as society dictates

    -You have a newborn baby, you don't want to miss out on making memories, dammit, put on some mascara, and force a smile for those newborn pictures

    -Condense that horrific story you just endured to the version that everyone else feels comfortable with

    - Because you get tired of hearing the people you trust and expect to keep you safe telling you just to be happy with your healthy baby. 

    -They don't understand or don't have the skill set to support you with the trauma you experienced

    -Trauma does not go anywhere and it prevents you from transitioning into the next phase of life

    -If you don't work through what happens, you cannot bury a traumatic birth experience and expect to move through parenthood with joy and with absolute ownership


    The healthcare system doesn’t want to touch this topic because it would mean acknowledging the fact that these traumatic birth experiences happen at the hands of medical professionals. They happen within spaces that we assume to be safe. They happen within leading institutions across the world. Birth trauma doesn't just happen in isolated situations.


    If this is your story, I am so sorry. You deserved better. I am here for you if you need to talk, and I would love to help you work through your birth trauma. 


    Contact me for more information. Click here to book a 1:1 call with me to learn more.

    ]]>    cfe1df16-75b8-40bd-ad17-a20e47b22afeWed, 23 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -040024:01yesfull10Welcome back to While Doing Laundry! Today we are going to talk about what birth trauma really is, and why many people have it but don’t even realize it. This may be a very emotional conversation for you, but listen to your body, trust your emotions, and see what comes to mind for you. I’m always here if you need me. -If you Google birth trauma, you will likely find references to physical birth trauma -Emotional and mental birth trauma is often overlooked -The Birth Trauma Association in the UK is closer to the mark -They define birth trauma as a post-traumatic disorder (PTSD) following birth -I use the term PTSD with caution, as many new parents feel like their symptoms are not “bad enough” to be classified as PTSD -If you broaden your definition of PTSD, it is simply a traumatic event or events where an individual feels their life is being threatened, or someone else around them is in danger, or if there is a threat to their dignity or person -My point is that even if you don’t have diagnosed PTSD after birth, you still may be suffering from birth trauma -I approach birth trauma as an overarching umbrella term that can capture anything as minute as disappointments, or mild frustration -In your experience, it could be as simple as a beautiful birth experience with one tiny, nagging memory that just doesn't sit well with you -That falls under this umbrella, just as much as the stereotypical very dramatic, traumatic life or death situation that some people bring with their stories that some people have shared -These stories carry as much value as do the stories of absolute heartbreak and stereotypical drama, and excitement, and overwhelm that come with many other birth stories -The common thread of birth trauma is the sensation, the experience of being silenced, and ignored even though you are the person who should be at the center of every decision, when you are pushed to the side, or whether you're just ignored and denied completely -When we enter the healthcare system, we want support, we want guidance, and we want to be led to good outcomes -Just the same as presenting to the ER with a broken ankle, we hope that would lead to a treatment plan that fits our needs -Diagnosis, treatment, and recovery are all key when repairing a broken ankle -Health care providers need to know about your life, your needs and how to help you get back to that -They need to be able to treat your ankle so you can get back to running up and down the stairs with a basket of laundry with a baby on your back -Childbirth should be the same, it should be based around the needs of the individual -Many healthcare providers don’t acknowledge the complex needs of birthing mothers -Birthing mothers exit the system traumatized and without any words to explain what they went through any without means of healing -This creates isolation for new parents and rifts in families -Many women feel forced to swallow their indignation and to “just keep smiling” as society dictates -You have a newborn baby, you don't want to miss out on making memories, dammit, put on some mascara, and force a smile for those newborn pictures -Condense that horrific story you just endured to the version that everyone else feels comfortable with - Because you get tired of hearing the people you trust and expect to keep you safe telling you just to be happy with your healthy baby. -They don't understand or don't have the skill set to support you with the trauma you experienced -Trauma does not go anywhere and it prevents you from transitioning into the next phase of life -If you don't work through what happens, you cannot bury a traumatic birth experience and expect to move through parenthood with joy and with absolute ownership The healthcare system doesn’t want to touch this topic because it would mean acknowledging the fact that these traumatic birth experiences happen at the hands of medical professionals. They happen within spaces that we assumeEmily Edwards RN    What is birth trauma?What is birth trauma?Did your birth mess you up?&nbsp; If you feel like answering yes, then I would consider that to be some sort of birth trauma. Birth trauma is under-reported and when it is reported, it is often not taken seriously.&nbsp;&nbsp; Trauma changes us forever. In order to move on in your life, your trauma needs to be acknowledged and addressed.&nbsp; In today’s episode, we are looking at an overview of birth trauma and touching on some key points.&nbsp; When I worked in long-term care, I became familiar with a term called lived experience This is a term that describes an individual’s take on their own life story Their lived experience includes their profession, their habits, but most importantly their trauma, since trauma changes how we evolve as human beings As a care provider, you can ALWAYS benefit from knowing the lived experience of the individuals in your care So why in long-term care, but not in perinatal care? The perinatal period (the time around pregnancy, birth and babyhood) has a profound experience on us as individuals Lived experience needs to be applied to the birth experience, especially when trauma is involved 25-34% of women report birth trauma, but there are many more women who do not report their trauma Birth trauma doesn’t have to be physical Any threat to your emotional integrity in the birthing process is also birth trauma Common examples: care providers teasing you, mocking you, rolling their eyes, or pressuring you into choosing birthing interventions such as inductions or requiring certain birthing positions Birthing women often feel out of control and lost, and health care providers may take advantage of that Health care providers tend to focus on routine policies and procedures You are allowed to redefine the procedure by coming in with very clear expectations You will need to lead your healthcare providers instead of being led by them There are many transitions in birth: the labour process itself, from one environment to another and from one healthcare provider to another The transitions are the places where trauma is more likely to occur In order to get through those transitions safely, you need to have a plan Healthcare providers can and should help you through the transitions by understanding your lived experience and by giving you the space to do your thing while advocating for your plan Your birth experience really happened. And it was a really big deal.&nbsp; I see you fighting back tears when you hear a good birth story or passionately protecting others on any social media thread you can.&nbsp; I get it. The guilt and a sense of failures still grips you. And very your birth is here to make you feel radically seen and invalidate your birth experience.&nbsp; And I've got. you the signature Unbury Your Birth process frees you from the heaviness that you may not even know exists, that is preventing you from enjoying parenthood fully.&nbsp; You can really unbury your birth and take back the power you deserve. You may not know where to begin, but I do. I've developed a clear simple, repeatable process to deconstruct your birth story and give you back the power hidden within it.&nbsp; Join me for a transformative six week program designed to give you the clarity, validation and freedom from the day you gave birth, to be able to move on to the rest of your life. Unbury Your Birth was created just for you.&nbsp; If you've ever felt: like you did something wrong&nbsp; angry about something that happened to you that day as if you didn't do your best&nbsp; isolated because you tried to seek help, but felt like no one actually gets it Your birth story is worthy of being heard. Join a group of people just like you to process and redefine your birth experience. Unbury Your Birth is currently open for enrollment. We get started on June 17 at 12:30pm. So make sure that you book your enrolling call now. Space is limited.&nbsp; If you...Did your birth mess you up? 

    If you feel like answering yes, then I would consider that to be some sort of birth trauma. Birth trauma is under-reported and when it is reported, it is often not taken seriously.  


    Trauma changes us forever. In order to move on in your life, your trauma needs to be acknowledged and addressed. 


    In today’s episode, we are looking at an overview of birth trauma and touching on some key points. 


    • When I worked in long-term care, I became familiar with a term called lived experience
    • This is a term that describes an individual’s take on their own life story
    • Their lived experience includes their profession, their habits, but most importantly their trauma, since trauma changes how we evolve as human beings
    • As a care provider, you can ALWAYS benefit from knowing the lived experience of the individuals in your care
    • So why in long-term care, but not in perinatal care?
    • The perinatal period (the time around pregnancy, birth and babyhood) has a profound experience on us as individuals
    • Lived experience needs to be applied to the birth experience, especially when trauma is involved
    • 25-34% of women report birth trauma, but there are many more women who do not report their trauma
    • Birth trauma doesn’t have to be physical
    • Any threat to your emotional integrity in the birthing process is also birth trauma
    • Common examples: care providers teasing you, mocking you, rolling their eyes, or pressuring you into choosing birthing interventions such as inductions or requiring certain birthing positions
    • Birthing women often feel out of control and lost, and health care providers may take advantage of that
    • Health care providers tend to focus on routine policies and procedures
    • You are allowed to redefine the procedure by coming in with very clear expectations
    • You will need to lead your healthcare providers instead of being led by them
    • There are many transitions in birth: the labour process itself, from one environment to another and from one healthcare provider to another
    • The transitions are the places where trauma is more likely to occur
    • In order to get through those transitions safely, you need to have a plan
    • Healthcare providers can and should help you through the transitions by understanding your lived experience and by giving you the space to do your thing while advocating for your plan

    Your birth experience really happened. And it was a really big deal. 


    I see you fighting back tears when you hear a good birth story or passionately protecting others on any social media thread you can. 


    I get it. The guilt and a sense of failures still grips you. And very your birth is here to make you feel radically seen and invalidate your birth experience. 


    And I've got. you the signature Unbury Your Birth process frees you from the heaviness that you may not even know exists, that is preventing you from enjoying parenthood fully. 


    You can really unbury your birth and take back the power you deserve. You may not know where to begin, but I do. I've developed a clear simple, repeatable process to deconstruct your birth story and give you back the power hidden within it. 


    Join me for a transformative six week program designed to give you the clarity, validation and freedom from the day you gave birth, to be able to move on to the rest of your life. Unbury Your Birth was created just for you. 


    If you've ever felt:

    • like you did something wrong 
    • angry about something that happened to you that day
    • as if you didn't do your best 
    • isolated because you tried to seek help, but felt like no one actually gets it


    Your birth story is worthy of being heard. Join a group of people just like you to process and redefine your birth experience. Unbury Your Birth is currently open for enrollment. We get started on June 17 at 12:30pm. So make sure that you book your enrolling call now. Space is limited. 


    If you want to get in on this experience, it’s six weeks to process your birth for parents feeling let down by their birth experience. You absolutely want to head to this scheduling link to book an enrollment call now. Book a time to chat with me one on one and discover if it really is time to unbury your birth. 


    Remember, you didn't fail. You were failed. 


    And this is the way to move on. Are you ready to explore your lived experience surrounding birth?

    Hit me up today and we can book a consultation. Click this link to find a time that works best for you.



    ]]>    0bbc226c-fe5c-4d03-a664-702f4b59436fWed, 16 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -040026:34yesfull9Did your birth mess you up? If you feel like answering yes, then I would consider that to be some sort of birth trauma. Birth trauma is under-reported and when it is reported, it is often not taken seriously. Trauma changes us forever. In order to move on in your life, your trauma needs to be acknowledged and addressed. In today’s episode, we are looking at an overview of birth trauma and touching on some key points. When I worked in long-term care, I became familiar with a term called lived experience This is a term that describes an individual’s take on their own life story Their lived experience includes their profession, their habits, but most importantly their trauma, since trauma changes how we evolve as human beings As a care provider, you can ALWAYS benefit from knowing the lived experience of the individuals in your care So why in long-term care, but not in perinatal care? The perinatal period (the time around pregnancy, birth and babyhood) has a profound experience on us as individuals Lived experience needs to be applied to the birth experience, especially when trauma is involved 25-34% of women report birth trauma, but there are many more women who do not report their trauma Birth trauma doesn’t have to be physical Any threat to your emotional integrity in the birthing process is also birth trauma Common examples: care providers teasing you, mocking you, rolling their eyes, or pressuring you into choosing birthing interventions such as inductions or requiring certain birthing positions Birthing women often feel out of control and lost, and health care providers may take advantage of that Health care providers tend to focus on routine policies and procedures You are allowed to redefine the procedure by coming in with very clear expectations You will need to lead your healthcare providers instead of being led by them There are many transitions in birth: the labour process itself, from one environment to another and from one healthcare provider to another The transitions are the places where trauma is more likely to occur In order to get through those transitions safely, you need to have a plan Healthcare providers can and should help you through the transitions by understanding your lived experience and by giving you the space to do your thing while advocating for your plan Your birth experience really happened. And it was a really big deal. I see you fighting back tears when you hear a good birth story or passionately protecting others on any social media thread you can. I get it. The guilt and a sense of failures still grips you. And very your birth is here to make you feel radically seen and invalidate your birth experience. And I've got. you the signature Unbury Your Birth process frees you from the heaviness that you may not even know exists, that is preventing you from enjoying parenthood fully. You can really unbury your birth and take back the power you deserve. You may not know where to begin, but I do. I've developed a clear simple, repeatable process to deconstruct your birth story and give you back the power hidden within it. Join me for a transformative six week program designed to give you the clarity, validation and freedom from the day you gave birth, to be able to move on to the rest of your life. Unbury Your Birth was created just for you. If you've ever felt: like you did something wrong angry about something that happened to you that day as if you didn't do your best isolated because you tried to seek help, but felt like no one actually gets it Your birth story is worthy of being heard. Join a group of people just like you to process and redefine your birth experience. Unbury Your Birth is currently open for enrollment. We get started on June 17 at 12:30pm. So make sure that you book your enrolling call now. Space is limited. If you want to get in on this experience, it’s six weeks to process your birthEmily Edwards RN    Was your birth a letdown?Was your birth a letdown?Pregnancy and birth is an exciting time... ...but sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive birth experience. Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories. It’s time to remedy that. If you were broken by your birth experience: I am sorry. Your story deserves to be told. You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth. That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault. Are you ready to start healing the trauma of your birth story?&nbsp; Come and join me on this week's episode of While Doing Laundry. Pregnancy is an exciting time Sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive pregnancy/birth experience Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories It’s time to remedy that This is why and how I developed my birth processing approach Caveat: I am not a counselor or therapist, so my approach may not be for everyone I want to address the fact that sometimes birth trauma is completely dismissed by other mental health professions Birth processing is here to show you that you did not fail - you were failed.&nbsp; Birth processing replaces the rhetoric of “You have a healthy baby, you SHOULD be happy about that” Mothers are not given the opportunity to ask the question, “What about me?” No one wants to talk about this - family members often do not know how to help and care providers quickly dismiss concerns about birthing interventions and trauma Mothers are made to feel out of line for questioning anything And so mothers bury their pain and trauma - but their bodies do not forget - and the trauma continues to have power over their minds, emotions and tasks of daily living If you were broken by your birth experience - I am sorry Your story deserves to be told You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth I remember being completely oblivious to how damaging my birth experience was. For years. I was treated for serious mental health conditions. I was advised that if I lost weight, maybe I would feel better about things. &nbsp;I stayed angry and my attachment and bonding experience as a new parent was severely stunted by the trauma that happened to me and the inability to articulate or identify it. It wasn't until I met some very, very, very passionate people who challenged me on every aspect of my birth that I thought I knew that I began to see that it wasn't my fault. That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault. I take you through a very, very structured approach We start with an objective bird's eye view of what happened&nbsp; We then move from uncovering and unburying your feelings and emotions regarding that day to understanding what actually happened and what should have actually happened Finally, we redefine that story - that is when the whole entire experience comes together That story is yours to keep forever It may be a bulleted list, a beautiful narrative, or just a small phrase that you repeat to yourself whenever you think of that day Birth processing is here to free you from the guilt, the shame, the hurt, that happened the day you gave birth Pregnancy and birth is an exciting time...

    ...but sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive birth experience.

    Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories.

    It’s time to remedy that.


    If you were broken by your birth experience: I am sorry.

    Your story deserves to be told.


    You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth.


    That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault.


    Are you ready to start healing the trauma of your birth story? 


    Come and join me on this week's episode of While Doing Laundry.

    • Pregnancy is an exciting time
    • Sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive pregnancy/birth experience
    • Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories
    • It’s time to remedy that
    • This is why and how I developed my birth processing approach
    • Caveat: I am not a counselor or therapist, so my approach may not be for everyone
    • I want to address the fact that sometimes birth trauma is completely dismissed by other mental health professions
    • Birth processing is here to show you that you did not fail - you were failed. 
    • Birth processing replaces the rhetoric of “You have a healthy baby, you SHOULD be happy about that”
    • Mothers are not given the opportunity to ask the question, “What about me?”
    • No one wants to talk about this - family members often do not know how to help and care providers quickly dismiss concerns about birthing interventions and trauma
    • Mothers are made to feel out of line for questioning anything
    • And so mothers bury their pain and trauma - but their bodies do not forget - and the trauma continues to have power over their minds, emotions and tasks of daily living
    • If you were broken by your birth experience - I am sorry
    • Your story deserves to be told
    • You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth
    • I remember being completely oblivious to how damaging my birth experience was. For years. I was treated for serious mental health conditions. I was advised that if I lost weight, maybe I would feel better about things.
    •  I stayed angry and my attachment and bonding experience as a new parent was severely stunted by the trauma that happened to me and the inability to articulate or identify it.
    • It wasn't until I met some very, very, very passionate people who challenged me on every aspect of my birth that I thought I knew that I began to see that it wasn't my fault.
    • That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault.
    • I take you through a very, very structured approach
    • We start with an objective bird's eye view of what happened 
    • We then move from uncovering and unburying your feelings and emotions regarding that day to understanding what actually happened and what should have actually happened
    • Finally, we redefine that story - that is when the whole entire experience comes together
    • That story is yours to keep forever
    • It may be a bulleted list, a beautiful narrative, or just a small phrase that you repeat to yourself whenever you think of that day
    • Birth processing is here to free you from the guilt, the shame, the hurt, that happened the day you gave birth
    ]]>    892231ce-9821-42b0-a9f6-3baefb51cb6dWed, 09 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -040025:33yesfull8Pregnancy and birth is an exciting time... ...but sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive birth experience. Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories. It’s time to remedy that. If you were broken by your birth experience: I am sorry. Your story deserves to be told. You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth. That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault. Are you ready to start healing the trauma of your birth story? Come and join me on this week's episode of While Doing Laundry. Pregnancy is an exciting time Sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive pregnancy/birth experience Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories It’s time to remedy that This is why and how I developed my birth processing approach Caveat: I am not a counselor or therapist, so my approach may not be for everyone I want to address the fact that sometimes birth trauma is completely dismissed by other mental health professions Birth processing is here to show you that you did not fail - you were failed. Birth processing replaces the rhetoric of “You have a healthy baby, you SHOULD be happy about that” Mothers are not given the opportunity to ask the question, “What about me?” No one wants to talk about this - family members often do not know how to help and care providers quickly dismiss concerns about birthing interventions and trauma Mothers are made to feel out of line for questioning anything And so mothers bury their pain and trauma - but their bodies do not forget - and the trauma continues to have power over their minds, emotions and tasks of daily living If you were broken by your birth experience - I am sorry Your story deserves to be told You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth I remember being completely oblivious to how damaging my birth experience was. For years. I was treated for serious mental health conditions. I was advised that if I lost weight, maybe I would feel better about things. I stayed angry and my attachment and bonding experience as a new parent was severely stunted by the trauma that happened to me and the inability to articulate or identify it. It wasn't until I met some very, very, very passionate people who challenged me on every aspect of my birth that I thought I knew that I began to see that it wasn't my fault. That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault. I take you through a very, very structured approach We start with an objective bird's eye view of what happened We then move from uncovering and unburying your feelings and emotions regarding that day to understanding what actually happened and what should have actually happened Finally, we redefine that story - that is when the whole entire experience comes together That story is yours to keep forever It may be a bulleted list, a beautiful narrative, or just a small phrase that you repeat to yourself whenever you think of that day Birth processing is here to free you from the guilt, the shame, the hurt, that happened the day you gave birthEmily Edwards RN    Pregnancy Discrimination in Nursing EducationPregnancy Discrimination in Nursing EducationThis week, I’m talking nursing culture: the good, the bad, and the difference it can make in your care.&nbsp;Specifically: the role of the nursing profession is to promote the health of women and newborns - but what about when the nurse is pregnant? I am going to share with you my experience of being pregnant while being a nursing student in Canada. I will read a paper that I wrote in my fourth year of university for a course called Current Trends and Issues in Nursing I wrote a paper called “An Unwanted Pregnancy: the discrimination of child-bearing and rearing women in nursing education”&nbsp; Background: The role of the nursing profession promotes the health of women and newborns The ideal of preservation of dignity amongst childbearing women is in stark contrast to the actual practice of nursing schools The history of educating nurses is a rich with restrictions upon women and their sexuality Horizontal violence is peer to peer harassment or violence In this case, horizontal violence amongst nurses, including nursing instructors and nursing students, in the form of alienation and discrimination against childbearing nursing students The CNO clearly outlines the role of a nursing leader within their professional standards document placing importance on role modeling for new nurses and instilling confidence in student abilities Substantial information regarding policy and requirements for the treatment of pregnant women is available to nursing leaders However, nursing leaders - those who are masters and doctorate prepared nurses in the administrative roles within nursing education programs - are the perpetrators of the discrimination The peers of the affected students are negatively impacted because they witnessed the bullying, but they feel unable to advocate for injustices inflicted upon their peers because of the power imbalance between themselves and the administrative departments causing the stresses Those power imbalances and those feelings of being unable to advocate for your peers do not disappear when you graduate Like all nursing issues, patients are impacted by the conflict between other nurses It is well documented that good patient outcomes are increased when nurses are experiencing low job related stress Historical analysis: nursing's origin lies with Florence Nightingale, her dedication to the profession, cultivation of knowledge and immense impact on nursing education in the mid 1800s Although some of her teachings are still important, some are certainly irrelevant today During the time when Nightingale was practicing, being married was the only socially acceptable way to bear children After marriage and children, nurses would not continue working, so there were no pregnant nurses or nursing students As a celibate professional woman, Nightingale’s teachings explicitly opposed pursuit of both profession and family Today, social attitudes towards childbearing have changed to incorporate equality among men and women but Nightingale's teaching still permeate current nursing education administration As a result, there is no effort made to accommodate pregnant nursing students who will require support to maintain their full-time status In the United States, there are institutional policies in place to outline pregnant students rights for administrative staff, educators, and students: the document states that students are entitled to protection from being forced to drop out, being excused from academic responsibilities, without penalty for pregnancy related reasons. Workplace stress is documented to contribute to negative outcomes, such as preterm labor, low birth weight, and postpartum depression and university students already report&nbsp; higher levels of stress than the general public Efforts should be made by faculty to reduce or eliminate any additional sources of stress to promote a healthy pregnancy process The profession of nursing can no longer afford to discriminate based on...This week, I’m talking nursing culture: the good, the bad, and the difference it can make in your care. Specifically: the role of the nursing profession is to promote the health of women and newborns - but what about when the nurse is pregnant?

    I am going to share with you my experience of being pregnant while being a nursing student in Canada.

    • I will read a paper that I wrote in my fourth year of university for a course called Current Trends and Issues in Nursing

    I wrote a paper called “An Unwanted Pregnancy: the discrimination of child-bearing and rearing women in nursing education” 

    Background: The role of the nursing profession promotes the health of women and newborns

    • The ideal of preservation of dignity amongst childbearing women is in stark contrast to the actual practice of nursing schools
    • The history of educating nurses is a rich with restrictions upon women and their sexuality
    • Horizontal violence is peer to peer harassment or violence
    • In this case, horizontal violence amongst nurses, including nursing instructors and nursing students, in the form of alienation and discrimination against childbearing nursing students
    • The CNO clearly outlines the role of a nursing leader within their professional standards document placing importance on role modeling for new nurses and instilling confidence in student abilities
    • Substantial information regarding policy and requirements for the treatment of pregnant women is available to nursing leaders
    • However, nursing leaders - those who are masters and doctorate prepared nurses in the administrative roles within nursing education programs - are the perpetrators of the discrimination
    • The peers of the affected students are negatively impacted because they witnessed the bullying, but they feel unable to advocate for injustices inflicted upon their peers because of the power imbalance between themselves and the administrative departments causing the stresses
    • Those power imbalances and those feelings of being unable to advocate for your peers do not disappear when you graduate
    • Like all nursing issues, patients are impacted by the conflict between other nurses
    • It is well documented that good patient outcomes are increased when nurses are experiencing low job related stress

    Historical analysis: nursing's origin lies with Florence Nightingale, her dedication to the profession, cultivation of knowledge and immense impact on nursing education in the mid 1800s

    • Although some of her teachings are still important, some are certainly irrelevant today
    • During the time when Nightingale was practicing, being married was the only socially acceptable way to bear children
    • After marriage and children, nurses would not continue working, so there were no pregnant nurses or nursing students
    • As a celibate professional woman, Nightingale’s teachings explicitly opposed pursuit of both profession and family
    • Today, social attitudes towards childbearing have changed to incorporate equality among men and women but Nightingale's teaching still permeate current nursing education administration
    • As a result, there is no effort made to accommodate pregnant nursing students who will require support to maintain their full-time status
    • In the United States, there are institutional policies in place to outline pregnant students rights for administrative staff, educators, and students: the document states that students are entitled to protection from being forced to drop out, being excused from academic responsibilities, without penalty for pregnancy related reasons.
    • Workplace stress is documented to contribute to negative outcomes, such as preterm labor, low birth weight, and postpartum depression and university students already report  higher levels of stress than the general public
    • Efforts should be made by faculty to reduce or eliminate any additional sources of stress to promote a healthy pregnancy process
    • The profession of nursing can no longer afford to discriminate based on tradition
    • Pregnant people, regardless if they consider themselves a biological birth parent or an active mother, bring a unique quality to their practice that their peers can not

    My personal battle began October 23rd, 2011 when I first contacted the nursing faculty department with my concerns regarding my due date and goal of graduating with my classmates in 2013

    • Their response gave me the impression that there would be a simple solution to accommodate my needs. I discovered there was no simple solution. 
    • Three months later, when after contacting the chairperson of the department with three well-thought-out solutions, I was refused
    • At that point, I chose to document all communications I had with any member of the faculty by pregnancy progression and my own mental health
    • Instead of supporting me to take a lighter workload, they required me to complete double the amount of work
    • No overtime or safer and lighter duties as suggested by the human rights commission best practices
    • I was given the ultimatum to accept the offer or risk placing myself a year behind in my studies.
    • In the end, I had a traumatic surgical birth
    • Postpartum depression quickly set in, impacted the bonding experience with my son, the relationship with my spouse and my view of myself as a mother, 
    • I often wonder what it would have been like if I had given myself time to relax physically, mentally, and emotionally, prior to my labor and delivery

    What I experienced during my pregnancy as a nursing student at Brock University made one thing clear: I will not accept the tradition of horizontal violence as the norm within our profession

    Did you have a similar experience? Share your story with me!

    Send me an email here.

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    ]]>    8e603b2d-7acd-4818-863c-d1d200f62a55Wed, 12 May 2021 05:00:00 -040047:46nofull7This week, I’m talking nursing culture: the good, the bad, and the difference it can make in your care. Specifically: the role of the nursing profession is to promote the health of women and newborns - but what about when the nurse is pregnant? I am going to share with you my experience of being pregnant while being a nursing student in Canada. I will read a paper that I wrote in my fourth year of university for a course called Current Trends and Issues in Nursing I wrote a paper called “An Unwanted Pregnancy: the discrimination of child-bearing and rearing women in nursing education” Background: The role of the nursing profession promotes the health of women and newborns The ideal of preservation of dignity amongst childbearing women is in stark contrast to the actual practice of nursing schools The history of educating nurses is a rich with restrictions upon women and their sexuality Horizontal violence is peer to peer harassment or violence In this case, horizontal violence amongst nurses, including nursing instructors and nursing students, in the form of alienation and discrimination against childbearing nursing students The CNO clearly outlines the role of a nursing leader within their professional standards document placing importance on role modeling for new nurses and instilling confidence in student abilities Substantial information regarding policy and requirements for the treatment of pregnant women is available to nursing leaders However, nursing leaders - those who are masters and doctorate prepared nurses in the administrative roles within nursing education programs - are the perpetrators of the discrimination The peers of the affected students are negatively impacted because they witnessed the bullying, but they feel unable to advocate for injustices inflicted upon their peers because of the power imbalance between themselves and the administrative departments causing the stresses Those power imbalances and those feelings of being unable to advocate for your peers do not disappear when you graduate Like all nursing issues, patients are impacted by the conflict between other nurses It is well documented that good patient outcomes are increased when nurses are experiencing low job related stress Historical analysis: nursing's origin lies with Florence Nightingale, her dedication to the profession, cultivation of knowledge and immense impact on nursing education in the mid 1800s Although some of her teachings are still important, some are certainly irrelevant today During the time when Nightingale was practicing, being married was the only socially acceptable way to bear children After marriage and children, nurses would not continue working, so there were no pregnant nurses or nursing students As a celibate professional woman, Nightingale’s teachings explicitly opposed pursuit of both profession and family Today, social attitudes towards childbearing have changed to incorporate equality among men and women but Nightingale's teaching still permeate current nursing education administration As a result, there is no effort made to accommodate pregnant nursing students who will require support to maintain their full-time status In the United States, there are institutional policies in place to outline pregnant students rights for administrative staff, educators, and students: the document states that students are entitled to protection from being forced to drop out, being excused from academic responsibilities, without penalty for pregnancy related reasons. Workplace stress is documented to contribute to negative outcomes, such as preterm labor, low birth weight, and postpartum depression and university students already report higher levels of stress than the general public Efforts should be made by faculty to reduce or eliminate any additional sources of stress to promote a healthy pregnancy process The profession of nursing can no longer afford to discriminate based on tradition...Emily Edwards RN    Pregnancy, Pandemic, Policy & Person-Centered CarePregnancy, Pandemic, Policy & Person-Centered CareHospitals are putting policies in place that transgress the rights of labouring/postpartum women. Join me in this week's episode for an exploration of why it is very important that you know your rights and how to stand up for them.&nbsp; I’m talking about a current example, and how you can prepare yourself to give birth during a pandemic. It’s stressful, but my goal is to make it as easy for you as possible. SHOW NOTES: Patient centered care is the main cornerstone of the Canadian healthcare system Taking a close look at a new policy in a Belleville Hospital and asking, is this patient centered care? The policy in question is the admittance of care partners for labouring/postpartum women between the hours of 6 AM and 10 PM Previously, the hours were between 8 AM and 8 PM, so it looks like this is an improvement The reality is that that regardless of the current COVID-19 situation, labouring/postpartum women should have access to a care partner 24/7 Labour and delivery/postpartum is a very low risk area for COVID-19 Having the care partner come and go actually INCREASES the risk of spreading infection instead of allowing them to stay for 24 hours The actual policy has not been publicly shared This is not acceptable, this is not patient-centered care Care partners reduce the risk of adverse birth/health outcomes, especially among POC and Indigenous populations If you are giving birth at this hospital, you need to know your rights As labouring/postpartum women at any hospital, you need to know your rights You have a right to a care partner Request a physical copy of the policy document Verbally oppose the policy “This policy is placing me in indirect harm” “I require 24 hour access to a care partner” Request to speak to the charge nurse and nurse manager Request to speak to the hospital attorney If the attorney is not available, tell them your care partner will remain until you can speak directly to leadership Needless to say, labouring/postpartum women do NOT need this stress I can connect you to a healthcare attorney who can really outline your rights and give you some peace of mind https://thegoodbirthco.hbportal.co/schedule/6080797b135eb9002aa5cc8e (Book a call) to discover how we can work together to create a birth plan for these unprecedented times. https://thegoodbirthco.hbportal.co/schedule/6080797b135eb9002aa5cc8e (Connect with me here). Further resources for issues mentioned in this episode: Number of active COVID19 cases in Hastings and Prince Edward County as of date of publish is 79. This region has a recent rate per 100,000 of 96.1 (compared to a region like Peel that has a recent rate per 100,000 of 730.1)&nbsp; This situation is always evolving and there may be a point when the risk within L&amp;D in this area is higher.&nbsp; Resource: https://www.publichealthontario.ca/en/data-and-analysis/infectious-disease/covid-19-data-surveillance/covid-19-data-tool?tab=maps (Ontario Public Health) Learn more about pregnancy and caring for a newborn during the COVID19 pandemic at the Government of Canada https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/diseases/2019-novel-coronavirus-infection/prevention-risks/pregnancy-childbirth-newborn.html (website). Hospitals are putting policies in place that transgress the rights of labouring/postpartum women.

    Join me in this week's episode for an exploration of why it is very important that you know your rights and how to stand up for them. 

    I’m talking about a current example, and how you can prepare yourself to give birth during a pandemic. It’s stressful, but my goal is to make it as easy for you as possible.

    SHOW NOTES:

    • Patient centered care is the main cornerstone of the Canadian healthcare system
    • Taking a close look at a new policy in a Belleville Hospital and asking, is this patient centered care?
    • The policy in question is the admittance of care partners for labouring/postpartum women between the hours of 6 AM and 10 PM
    • Previously, the hours were between 8 AM and 8 PM, so it looks like this is an improvement
    • The reality is that that regardless of the current COVID-19 situation, labouring/postpartum women should have access to a care partner 24/7
    • Labour and delivery/postpartum is a very low risk area for COVID-19
    • Having the care partner come and go actually INCREASES the risk of spreading infection instead of allowing them to stay for 24 hours
    • The actual policy has not been publicly shared
    • This is not acceptable, this is not patient-centered care
    • Care partners reduce the risk of adverse birth/health outcomes, especially among POC and Indigenous populations
    • If you are giving birth at this hospital, you need to know your rights
    • As labouring/postpartum women at any hospital, you need to know your rights
    • You have a right to a care partner
    • Request a physical copy of the policy document
    • Verbally oppose the policy “This policy is placing me in indirect harm” “I require 24 hour access to a care partner”
    • Request to speak to the charge nurse and nurse manager
    • Request to speak to the hospital attorney
    • If the attorney is not available, tell them your care partner will remain until you can speak directly to leadership
    • Needless to say, labouring/postpartum women do NOT need this stress
    • I can connect you to a healthcare attorney who can really outline your rights and give you some peace of mind

    Book a call to discover how we can work together to create a birth plan for these unprecedented times. Connect with me here.

    Further resources for issues mentioned in this episode:

    Number of active COVID19 cases in Hastings and Prince Edward County as of date of publish is 79. This region has a recent rate per 100,000 of 96.1 (compared to a region like Peel that has a recent rate per 100,000 of 730.1) 

    This situation is always evolving and there may be a point when the risk within L&D in this area is higher. 

    Resource: Ontario Public Health

    Learn more about pregnancy and caring for a newborn during the COVID19 pandemic at the Government of Canada website.


    ]]>    93d4b061-8dc5-45ad-b934-f0102f99b600Wed, 28 Apr 2021 14:00:00 -040018:20yesfull6Hospitals are putting policies in place that transgress the rights of labouring/postpartum women. COVID19 needs to be taken seriously and we must all work together to protect our most vulnerable. But current policies do not do that and absolutely must be questioned. Join me in this week's episode for an exploration of why it is very important that you know your rights and how to stand up for them. I’m talking about a current example, and how you can prepare yourself to give birth during a pandemic. It’s stressful, but my goal is to make it as easy for you as possible.Emily Edwards RN    The 3 books you need to read when you’re pregnantThe 3 books you need to read when you’re pregnantToday I’m sharing my top 3 books to read while pregnant I do not recommend What to Expect When You’re Expecting or other mainstream resources on pregnancy and reproductive health Mainstream maternity education or reproductive health education tends to err on side of very medical, very fear-based and often fairly inaccurate information I do suggest reading very specific things by some brilliant leaders in the space Also opening your mind up to the experience of other people who have been pregnant, who have tried to get pregnant and who have given birth in many ways. https://www.amazon.ca/Killing-Black-Body-Reproduction-Meaning/dp/0679758690/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&amp;keywords=killing+the+black+body&amp;qid=1617225010&amp;sr=8-1 (#1 Start with Killing the Black Body by Dorothy E. Roberts) This podcast is called an ethical exploration of parenthood so we need to talk about racism right at the beginning Killing the Black Body is something that will help you understand the immense privilege you have as a white person, and the far reaching effects of racism in the world of reproductive health and pregnancy https://www.amazon.ca/Ina-Mays-Guide-Childbirth-Material/dp/0553381156/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2FMP6FDXQLVHA&amp;dchild=1&amp;keywords=ina+may+gaskin+a+guide+to+childbirth&amp;qid=1617224941&amp;sprefix=ina+may+gas%2Caps%2C220&amp;sr=8-1 (#2 Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth) A cult classic if you will, amongst birth workers and natural birth movement followers The stories that are shared in this book are inspirational and full of hope We do not have to accept the status quo cascade of interventions leading to a surgical birth This is showing us that there is another path; that there are more options available The thing that I find disappointing about this book is that it's very hard to replicate the environment that the book promotes There are some really practical, tactical, strategic things that you will have to do in preparation to have an experience similar to that. &nbsp;If we're going to give birth in a hospital, we are already stepping outside of our environment and into someone else's I come in at the middle ground, I want you to have a great birth experience in the hospital or at home https://www.amazon.ca/Birth-Partner-5th-Childbirth-Companions/dp/1558329102/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2L77XX872U15B&amp;dchild=1&amp;keywords=the+birth+partner&amp;qid=1617224882&amp;sprefix=the+birth+partner%2Caps%2C201&amp;sr=8-1 (#3 Birth Partner by Penny Simkin) The best resource for birthing partners: the person who will be the primary support for the person giving birth It’s an encyclopedia of all the things you need to know&nbsp; There is a special focus on pain, coping with pain, and the unique experience of pregnancy and birth among survivors of traumatic abuse and sexual assault This book will help YOU understand how to deal with YOUR pain Pain and suffering looks different for everyone It’s not a moral issue, something we have to endure or not endure Pain is an intimate issue, which is why I don’t spend very much time speaking about pain management in general - however, I am very knowledgeable about pain and it’s management so don’t be afraid to ask me about it These are my favourite books! Let me know what your favourite are by sending me an email at emily@thegoodbirthco.com Final note: when you are reading about pregnancy and birth, don’t feel like you have to finish the book. Just pick and choose what you need! Pain Scale mentioned: Clarifying Your Feelings About Pain and Medications in Childbirth by Penny Simkin https://birthtools.org/birthtools/files/BirthToolFiles/FILENAME/000000000006/MOC-CnC-PainMgmtPreferenceScale-Simpkin.pdf How to prepare for the pregnancy of your dreams is a masterclass revealing the 4 easy steps to take you from stressed about what to expect to excited for what's about to happen. Learn the simple steps to creating the intentional + empowered pregnancy you've always dreamed of so...Today I’m sharing my top 3 books to read while pregnant

    • I do not recommend What to Expect When You’re Expecting or other mainstream resources on pregnancy and reproductive health
    • Mainstream maternity education or reproductive health education tends to err on side of very medical, very fear-based and often fairly inaccurate information
    • I do suggest reading very specific things by some brilliant leaders in the space
    • Also opening your mind up to the experience of other people who have been pregnant, who have tried to get pregnant and who have given birth in many ways.

    #1 Start with Killing the Black Body by Dorothy E. Roberts

    • This podcast is called an ethical exploration of parenthood so we need to talk about racism right at the beginning
    • Killing the Black Body is something that will help you understand the immense privilege you have as a white person, and the far reaching effects of racism in the world of reproductive health and pregnancy

    #2 Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth

    • A cult classic if you will, amongst birth workers and natural birth movement followers
    • The stories that are shared in this book are inspirational and full of hope
    • We do not have to accept the status quo cascade of interventions leading to a surgical birth
    • This is showing us that there is another path; that there are more options available
    • The thing that I find disappointing about this book is that it's very hard to replicate the environment that the book promotes
    • There are some really practical, tactical, strategic things that you will have to do in preparation to have an experience similar to that.
    •  If we're going to give birth in a hospital, we are already stepping outside of our environment and into someone else's
    • I come in at the middle ground, I want you to have a great birth experience in the hospital or at home

    #3 Birth Partner by Penny Simkin

    • The best resource for birthing partners: the person who will be the primary support for the person giving birth
    • It’s an encyclopedia of all the things you need to know 
    • There is a special focus on pain, coping with pain, and the unique experience of pregnancy and birth among survivors of traumatic abuse and sexual assault
    • This book will help YOU understand how to deal with YOUR pain
    • Pain and suffering looks different for everyone
    • It’s not a moral issue, something we have to endure or not endure
    • Pain is an intimate issue, which is why I don’t spend very much time speaking about pain management in general - however, I am very knowledgeable about pain and it’s management so don’t be afraid to ask me about it
    • These are my favourite books!

    Let me know what your favourite are by sending me an email at emily@thegoodbirthco.com

    Final note: when you are reading about pregnancy and birth, don’t feel like you have to finish the book. Just pick and choose what you need!

    Pain Scale mentioned:

    Clarifying Your Feelings About Pain and Medications in Childbirth by Penny Simkin https://birthtools.org/birthtools/files/BirthToolFiles/FILENAME/000000000006/MOC-CnC-PainMgmtPreferenceScale-Simpkin.pdf

    How to prepare for the pregnancy of your dreams is a masterclass revealing the 4 easy steps to take you from stressed about what to expect to excited for what's about to happen.

    Learn the simple steps to creating the intentional + empowered pregnancy you've always dreamed of so you can focus on celebrating the experience more than stressing about it.

    It’s happening on Tuesday, April 6th at 8pm est.

    This masterclass is something you won’t want to miss if you are pregnant. Are you ready to up-level this pregnancy experience and make sure you have a dignified birth. Sign up now by heading to thegoodbirthco.com/prenatalclass


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    ]]>    fe56308a-2fdf-4dbe-9f0e-1fc5ee76cfc3Thu, 01 Apr 2021 05:00:00 -040026:20yesfull5Today I’m sharing my top 3 books to read while pregnant I do not recommend What to Expect When You’re Expecting or other mainstream resources on pregnancy and reproductive health Mainstream maternity education or reproductive health education tends to err on side of very medical, very fear-based and often fairly inaccurate information I do suggest reading very specific things by some brilliant leaders in the space Also opening your mind up to the experience of other people who have been pregnant, who have tried to get pregnant and who have given birth in many ways. https://www.amazon.ca/Killing-Black-Body-Reproduction-Meaning/dp/0679758690/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1andkeywords=killing+the+black+bodyandqid=1617225010andsr=8-1 (#1 Start with Killing the Black Body by Dorothy E. Roberts) This podcast is called an ethical exploration of parenthood so we need to talk about racism right at the beginning Killing the Black Body is something that will help you understand the immense privilege you have as a white person, and the far reaching effects of racism in the world of reproductive health and pregnancy https://www.amazon.ca/Ina-Mays-Guide-Childbirth-Material/dp/0553381156/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2FMP6FDXQLVHAanddchild=1andkeywords=ina+may+gaskin+a+guide+to+childbirthandqid=1617224941andsprefix=ina+may+gas%2Caps%2C220andsr=8-1 (#2 Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth) A cult classic if you will, amongst birth workers and natural birth movement followers The stories that are shared in this book are inspirational and full of hope We do not have to accept the status quo cascade of interventions leading to a surgical birth This is showing us that there is another path; that there are more options available The thing that I find disappointing about this book is that it's very hard to replicate the environment that the book promotes There are some really practical, tactical, strategic things that you will have to do in preparation to have an experience similar to that. If we're going to give birth in a hospital, we are already stepping outside of our environment and into someone else's I come in at the middle ground, I want you to have a great birth experience in the hospital or at home https://www.amazon.ca/Birth-Partner-5th-Childbirth-Companions/dp/1558329102/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2L77XX872U15Banddchild=1andkeywords=the+birth+partnerandqid=1617224882andsprefix=the+birth+partner%2Caps%2C201andsr=8-1 (#3 Birth Partner by Penny Simkin) The best resource for birthing partners: the person who will be the primary support for the person giving birth It’s an encyclopedia of all the things you need to know There is a special focus on pain, coping with pain, and the unique experience of pregnancy and birth among survivors of traumatic abuse and sexual assault This book will help YOU understand how to deal with YOUR pain Pain and suffering looks different for everyone It’s not a moral issue, something we have to endure or not endure Pain is an intimate issue, which is why I don’t spend very much time speaking about pain management in general - however, I am very knowledgeable about pain and it’s management so don’t be afraid to ask me about it These are my favourite books! Let me know what your favourite are by sending me an email at emily@thegoodbirthco.com Final note: when you are reading about pregnancy and birth, don’t feel like you have to finish the book. Just pick and choose what you need! Pain Scale mentioned: Clarifying Your Feelings About Pain and Medications in Childbirth by Penny Simkin https://birthtools.org/birthtools/files/BirthToolFiles/FILENAME/000000000006/MOC-CnC-PainMgmtPreferenceScale-Simpkin.pdf How to prepare for the pregnancy of your dreams is a masterclass revealing the 4 easy steps to take you from stressed about what to expect to excited for what's about to happen. Learn the simple steps to creating the intentional + empowered pregnancy you've always dreamed of so you can focus on celebrating the...Emily Edwards RN    Racism in Canadian Doula EducationRacism in Canadian Doula EducationIn this episode, get ready to get uncomfortable. I am discussing the dangerous trend of performative allyship and marketing and how it is showing up in Canadian doula training organizations.&nbsp; In this week’s episode discover more about: Who is King Yaa + why their work important Why I’m not certified How financial support is weaponized by white-led organizations against BIPOC students How to question and not cancel to support actual change Follow King Yaa’s Story here: https://www.instagram.com/the.shine.cloth (https://www.instagram.com/)queerbirthworker Links mentioned in this episode: King Yaa’s Birthing Beyond the Binary https://kingyaa.thinkific.com/courses/birthing-beyond-the-binary (https://kingyaa.thinkific.com/courses/birthing-beyond-the-binary)&nbsp; White Feminism by Koa Beck https://www.amazon.ca/White-Feminism-Suffragettes-Influencers-Behind/dp/1982134410 (https://www.amazon.ca/White-Feminism-Suffragettes-Influencers-Behind/dp/1982134410)&nbsp; Birthing Advocacy Doula Training https://birthingadvocacy.thinkific.com/ (https://birthingadvocacy.thinkific.com/) Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. The book club is coming. Be the 1st to know how it’s going to work!&nbsp; Sign up here: https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/17 (https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/17)&nbsp; Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco (https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco)&nbsp; In this episode, get ready to get uncomfortable. I am discussing the dangerous trend of performative allyship and marketing and how it is showing up in Canadian doula training organizations. 

    In this week’s episode discover more about:

    • Who is King Yaa + why their work important
    • Why I’m not certified
    • How financial support is weaponized by white-led organizations against BIPOC students
    • How to question and not cancel to support actual change

    Follow King Yaa’s Story here: https://www.instagram.com/queerbirthworker


    Links mentioned in this episode:

    King Yaa’s Birthing Beyond the Binary

    https://kingyaa.thinkific.com/courses/birthing-beyond-the-binary 

    White Feminism by Koa Beck

    https://www.amazon.ca/White-Feminism-Suffragettes-Influencers-Behind/dp/1982134410 

    Birthing Advocacy Doula Training

    https://birthingadvocacy.thinkific.com/


    Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. The book club is coming. Be the 1st to know how it’s going to work! 

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    ]]>    f0491b19-89d3-4d46-8471-99deed9af099Wed, 24 Feb 2021 06:30:00 -040025:30yesfull4In this episode, get ready to get uncomfortable. I am discussing the dangerous trend of performative allyship and marketing and how it is showing up in Canadian doula training organizations. In this week’s episode discover more about: Who is King Yaa + why their work important Why I’m not certified How financial support is weaponized by white-led organizations against BIPOC students How to question and not cancel to support actual change Follow King Yaa’s Story here: https://www.instagram.com/the.shine.cloth (https://www.instagram.com/)queerbirthworker Links mentioned in this episode: King Yaa’s Birthing Beyond the Binary https://kingyaa.thinkific.com/courses/birthing-beyond-the-binary (https://kingyaa.thinkific.com/courses/birthing-beyond-the-binary) White Feminism by Koa Beck https://www.amazon.ca/White-Feminism-Suffragettes-Influencers-Behind/dp/1982134410 (https://www.amazon.ca/White-Feminism-Suffragettes-Influencers-Behind/dp/1982134410) Birthing Advocacy Doula Training https://birthingadvocacy.thinkific.com/ (https://birthingadvocacy.thinkific.com/) Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. The book club is coming. Be the 1st to know how it’s going to work! Sign up here: https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/17 (https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/17) Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco (https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco) Emily Edwards RN    The OG BLM Diaper with Deja AllisonThe OG BLM Diaper with Deja AllisonEpisode 03 The OG BLM Diaper with Deja Allison In this episode, join me in welcoming my first podcast guest Deja Allison, the creative maker behind The Shine Cloth and the person I credit with majorly influencing my parenting journey. Deja came into my life by way of cloth diapers but she has done so much more than simply make a high-quality cloth diaper to cover my kid’s butt. She is a force and a disruptor in the baby gear and clothing space. She is leading by example + has inspired me to do the same. In this week’s episode discover more about: How she feels about being a change agent + a parent What lead Déjà to use The Shine Cloth as a platform for political activism How you can take action to elevate + amplify Black owned business&nbsp; Links mentioned in this episode: Black Moms Do Breastfeed https://blackwomendobreastfeed.org/ (https://blackwomendobreastfeed.org/) Black Moms Do Cloth Diaper https://www.facebook.com/Blackwomendoclothdiaper/ (https://www.facebook.com/Blackwomendoclothdiaper/)&nbsp; Black Moms Blog https://www.blackmomsblog.com (https://www.blackmomsblog.com)&nbsp; Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. There is a spectacular giveaway happening later in February you won’t want to miss. Including a diaper from Deja!&nbsp; Sign up here: https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/3 (https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/3)&nbsp; Check out The Shine Cloth: https://shinecloth.com/ (https://shinecloth.com/) Follow Deja on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/the.shine.cloth (https://www.instagram.com/the.shine.cloth)&nbsp; Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco (https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco) Episode 03 The OG BLM Diaper with Deja Allison

    In this episode, join me in welcoming my first podcast guest Deja Allison, the creative maker behind The Shine Cloth and the person I credit with majorly influencing my parenting journey. Deja came into my life by way of cloth diapers but she has done so much more than simply make a high-quality cloth diaper to cover my kid’s butt. She is a force and a disruptor in the baby gear and clothing space. She is leading by example + has inspired me to do the same.


    In this week’s episode discover more about:

    How she feels about being a change agent + a parent

    • What lead Déjà to use The Shine Cloth as a platform for political activism
    • How you can take action to elevate + amplify Black owned business 


    Links mentioned in this episode:


    Black Moms Do Breastfeed

    https://blackwomendobreastfeed.org/


    Black Moms Do Cloth Diaper

    https://www.facebook.com/Blackwomendoclothdiaper/ 


    Black Moms Blog

    https://www.blackmomsblog.com 



    Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. There is a spectacular giveaway happening later in February you won’t want to miss. Including a diaper from Deja! 


    Sign up here: https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/3 


    Check out The Shine Cloth: https://shinecloth.com/

    Follow Deja on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/the.shine.cloth 


    Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco

    ]]>    eefd8c68-5d14-4de0-9286-804209825bf1Wed, 10 Feb 2021 05:00:00 -040036:01yesfull3Episode 03 The OG BLM Diaper with Deja Allison In this episode, join me in welcoming my first podcast guest Deja Allison, the creative maker behind The Shine Cloth and the person I credit with majorly influencing my parenting journey. Deja came into my life by way of cloth diapers but she has done so much more than simply make a high-quality cloth diaper to cover my kid’s butt. She is a force and a disruptor in the baby gear and clothing space. She is leading by example + has inspired me to do the same. In this week’s episode discover more about: How she feels about being a change agent + a parent What lead Déjà to use The Shine Cloth as a platform for political activism How you can take action to elevate + amplify Black owned business Links mentioned in this episode: Black Moms Do Breastfeed https://blackwomendobreastfeed.org/ (https://blackwomendobreastfeed.org/) Black Moms Do Cloth Diaper https://www.facebook.com/Blackwomendoclothdiaper/ (https://www.facebook.com/Blackwomendoclothdiaper/) Black Moms Blog https://www.blackmomsblog.com (https://www.blackmomsblog.com) Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. There is a spectacular giveaway happening later in February you won’t want to miss. Including a diaper from Deja! Sign up here: https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/3 (https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/3) Check out The Shine Cloth: https://shinecloth.com/ (https://shinecloth.com/) Follow Deja on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/the.shine.cloth (https://www.instagram.com/the.shine.cloth) Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco (https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco)Emily Edwards RN    The Origin Story: Part TwoThe Origin Story: Part TwoIn part two of my Origin Story I share my professional journey of what brought me to the work I do as a Birth Experience Expert. My education and professional experience is diverse and full of things you’d never expect. And more importantly discover the role that gave me my advocacy superpowers. This is a getting to know me episode. This podcast will be full of deep, heavy, tough topics in the future and I want you to know the person who is going to guide you through them is full of rich professional experience that informs my approach. In this week’s episode discover more about: My inspiring undergraduate nursing experience My ground-shifting Tanzania birth support experience (I attended over 70 births!) My eclectic career history that finished in a sector of healthcare on the opposite end of reproduction Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. There is a spectacular giveaway happening later in February you won’t want to miss. https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/3 (Sign up here) Follow the host of While Doing Laundry Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: @thegoodbirthco In part two of my Origin Story I share my professional journey of what brought me to the work I do as a Birth Experience Expert. My education and professional experience is diverse and full of things you’d never expect. And more importantly discover the role that gave me my advocacy superpowers. This is a getting to know me episode. This podcast will be full of deep, heavy, tough topics in the future and I want you to know the person who is going to guide you through them is full of rich professional experience that informs my approach.

    In this week’s episode discover more about:

    • My inspiring undergraduate nursing experience
    • My ground-shifting Tanzania birth support experience (I attended over 70 births!)
    • My eclectic career history that finished in a sector of healthcare on the opposite end of reproduction

    Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. There is a spectacular giveaway happening later in February you won’t want to miss. Sign up here

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    ]]>    64ffd9b0-c646-442a-ac07-6d0ed9c72b2cWed, 03 Feb 2021 05:00:00 -040036:15yesfull2In part two of my Origin Story I share my professional journey of what brought me to the work I do as a Birth Experience Expert. My education and professional experience is diverse and full of things you’d never expect. And more importantly discover the role that gave me my advocacy superpowers. This is a getting to know me episode. This podcast will be full of deep, heavy, tough topics in the future and I want you to know the person who is going to guide you through them is full of rich professional experience that informs my approach. In this week’s episode discover more about: My inspiring undergraduate nursing experience My ground-shifting Tanzania birth support experience (I attended over 70 births!) My eclectic career history that finished in a sector of healthcare on the opposite end of reproduction Don’t forget to sign up to receive a weekly episode of While Doing Laundry right in your inbox. There is a spectacular giveaway happening later in February you won’t want to miss. https://thegoodbirthco7463.activehosted.com/f/3 (Sign up here) Follow the host of While Doing Laundry Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: @thegoodbirthcoEmily Edwards RN    Welcome to While Doing LaundryWelcome to While Doing LaundryJoin me for episode one of While Doing Laundry for the introduction to the podcast, what inspired it, and what you can expect going forward.&nbsp; Who: Emily Edwards RN BScN, a mini introduction to me What: What exactly is an ethical exploration of parenthood?&nbsp; Seeing the world through a different lens after a big life transition Becoming a parent is a big life transition I talk about it through the experience of pregnancy and birth&nbsp; All families are welcome and I would be honoured to help you find the right resources for whatever you need Where: Canadian context, similar for US//UK/Aus&nbsp; When: into your ears' on Wednesdays Why: I love discussing topics that typically are taboo, underrepresented, or just plain ignored I love connecting with people with really cool stories While doing laundry is a nod to the seemingly endless hustle of raising kids, building a life, and trying to live it How: How this podcast will be delivered Short episodes, perfect length to listen to while doing a load of laundry Mix of interviews with my favourite thought leaders and my own discussion around tough topics “You know, just finding my purpose, it all really boils down to understanding how to navigate this world in a way that feels good and just, and true. And that really is the ethical exploration. It's how we explore all of our options and what we want to do and what choices we want to make to really be that person for our kids. “ - Emily Edwards Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco (@thegoodbirthco) Join me for episode one of While Doing Laundry for the introduction to the podcast, what inspired it, and what you can expect going forward. 

    Who: Emily Edwards RN BScN, a mini introduction to me

    What: What exactly is an ethical exploration of parenthood? 

    • Seeing the world through a different lens after a big life transition
    • Becoming a parent is a big life transition
    • I talk about it through the experience of pregnancy and birth 
    • All families are welcome and I would be honoured to help you find the right resources for whatever you need

    Where: Canadian context, similar for US//UK/Aus 

    When: into your ears' on Wednesdays

    Why: I love discussing topics that typically are taboo, underrepresented, or just plain ignored

    • I love connecting with people with really cool stories
    • While doing laundry is a nod to the seemingly endless hustle of raising kids, building a life, and trying to live it

    How: How this podcast will be delivered

    • Short episodes, perfect length to listen to while doing a load of laundry
    • Mix of interviews with my favourite thought leaders and my own discussion around tough topics


    “You know, just finding my purpose, it all really boils down to understanding how to navigate this world in a way that feels good and just, and true. And that really is the ethical exploration. It's how we explore all of our options and what we want to do and what choices we want to make to really be that person for our kids. “


    - Emily Edwards


    Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: @thegoodbirthco



    ]]>    9ae80d4f-e706-427d-a2dd-754a83d3051aWed, 20 Jan 2021 05:00:00 -040021:27yesfull1Join me for episode one of While Doing Laundry for the introduction to the podcast, what inspired it, and what you can expect going forward. Who: Emily Edwards RN BScN, a mini introduction to me What: What exactly is an ethical exploration of parenthood? Seeing the world through a different lens after a big life transition Becoming a parent is a big life transition I talk about it through the experience of pregnancy and birth All families are welcome and I would be honoured to help you find the right resources for whatever you need Where: Canadian context, similar for US//UK/Aus When: into your ears' on Wednesdays Why: I love discussing topics that typically are taboo, underrepresented, or just plain ignored I love connecting with people with really cool stories While doing laundry is a nod to the seemingly endless hustle of raising kids, building a life, and trying to live it How: How this podcast will be delivered Short episodes, perfect length to listen to while doing a load of laundry Mix of interviews with my favourite thought leaders and my own discussion around tough topics “You know, just finding my purpose, it all really boils down to understanding how to navigate this world in a way that feels good and just, and true. And that really is the ethical exploration. It's how we explore all of our options and what we want to do and what choices we want to make to really be that person for our kids. “ - Emily Edwards Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thegoodbirthco (@thegoodbirthco)Emily Edwards RN    The Origin Story: Part OneThe Origin Story: Part OneIn the very first episode of While Doing Laundry I share part one of my “origin story”, my personal story of what brought me to launching this podcast. Get to know about my birth experiences, my passion for social justice, learn about my family, and get a quick overview about my crazy health journey. This is a getting to know me episode. This podcast will be full of deep, heavy, tough topics in the future and I want you to know the person who is going to guide you through them. how I went from a birth ideal chaser to a birth experience creator how I learned about parenting with a disability where my deep value for radical empathy comes from “And I have the thing that stands out though, was the compassion, the respect, and the dignity that was provided to me when I had to do the most difficult thing I've ever done.” - Emily Edwards Learn more about The Good Birth Co. here Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: @thegoodbirthco In the very first episode of While Doing Laundry I share part one of my “origin story”, my personal story of what brought me to launching this podcast. Get to know about my birth experiences, my passion for social justice, learn about my family, and get a quick overview about my crazy health journey. This is a getting to know me episode. This podcast will be full of deep, heavy, tough topics in the future and I want you to know the person who is going to guide you through them.

    • how I went from a birth ideal chaser to a birth experience creator
    • how I learned about parenting with a disability
    • where my deep value for radical empathy comes from


    “And I have the thing that stands out though, was the compassion, the respect, and the dignity that was provided to me when I had to do the most difficult thing I've ever done.”

    - Emily Edwards

    Learn more about The Good Birth Co. here

    Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: @thegoodbirthco

    ]]>    1086ea7f-1dc3-4132-8fa3-9cfab5e3b952Wed, 13 Jan 2021 15:00:00 -040026:04nofullIn the very first episode of While Doing Laundry I share part one of my “origin story”, my personal story of what brought me to launching this podcast. Get to know about my birth experiences, my passion for social justice, learn about my family, and get a quick overview about my crazy health journey. This is a getting to know me episode. This podcast will be full of deep, heavy, tough topics in the future and I want you to know the person who is going to guide you through them. how I went from a birth ideal chaser to a birth experience creator how I learned about parenting with a disability where my deep value for radical empathy comes from “And I have the thing that stands out though, was the compassion, the respect, and the dignity that was provided to me when I had to do the most difficult thing I've ever done.” - Emily Edwards Learn more about The Good Birth Co. here Follow Emily Edwards RN BScN on INSTAGRAM: @thegoodbirthcoEmily Edwards RN