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In this solo episode, Kate shares what she can feel falling away in her life—and what she’s consciously choosing to embrace instead.

Inspired by a meditation on the goddess Kali from the work of Meggan Watterson and the spiritual teaching of choosing love over fear from A Course in Miracles, Kate reflects on the identities, beliefs, and systems she’s outgrowing.

From recovery dogma and online hustle culture to “good girl” conditioning, this episode explores what it looks like to stop shrinking—and start living with honesty, courage, creativity, and unapologetic feminist energy.

Kate reflects on a powerful question that emerged during a meditation inspired by the work of Meggan Watterson and her Divine Feminine oracle deck.

The card of the goddess Kali invites a confronting but liberating intention:

release all that doesn’t serve you and become the truth of who you are.

This episode explores what it means to consciously choose love over fear, a concept also central to the teachings of A Course in Miracles.

Kate shares several areas of life where she can feel old identities, beliefs, and structures naturally falling away—and what she is embracing instead.

This conversation is about honesty, growth, and the courage to outgrow what once felt necessary.

In this episode, Kate talks about:

• Shedding the pressure of the online business “hustle culture” model and embracing authentic connection with real communities of women in recovery

• Letting go of recovery dogma, fear-based thinking, and outdated rhetoric while embracing neuroscience, feminism, soul work, and self-trust

• Releasing the “good girl” conditioning that keeps women quiet about politics, injustice, and women’s rights—and finding the courage to speak honestly

• Redefining fashion and creativity as personal expression rather than trend-chasing or external validation

• The spiritual practice of allowing old identities to fall away so a more authentic life can emerge

This episode is an invitation to ask yourself:

What in my life is an old skin?

What am I holding onto out of fear?

And what might happen if I chose love instead?

In this solo episode, Kate Vitela, RN, takes a no-nonsense, honest look at early sobriety—what’s actually happening in your brain, why emotions feel so intense, and why this phase can feel both awkward and transformative at the same time.

Kate breaks down the real challenges people face after quitting alcohol, from the neurological recalibration happening in your brain to the emotional and identity shifts that often follow. She also shares practical ways to stabilize your nervous system, rebuild routines, and navigate the messy middle of sobriety without shame.

This conversation is especially relevant for midlife women who have spent years carrying responsibilities, performing strength, and using alcohol as a socially acceptable coping tool. When alcohol leaves the picture, many women begin reclaiming clarity, boundaries, creativity, and self-trust.

Early sobriety may feel uncomfortable at times—but it’s also where something powerful begins. It’s where you start rebuilding a life that no longer revolves around coping.

If you’re newly sober or questioning your relationship with alcohol, this episode offers a grounded reminder: nothing is wrong with you. Your brain and nervous system are recalibrating, and with time, support, and honesty, a new kind of confidence and clarity can emerge.

In This Episode

• Why early sobriety can feel emotionally intense and disorienting
• What’s actually happening in your brain after you stop drinking
• The emotional whiplash many people experience in the early stages of sobriety
• Why boredom is one of the most common and surprising challenges
• How sobriety can shift relationships and social dynamics
• The identity questions that often arise after alcohol is removed
• Practical strategies that help stabilize the nervous system during early recovery
• Why midlife sobriety can become a powerful turning point for women
• How rebuilding self-trust becomes one of the biggest rewards of sobriety

Things That Actually Help in Early Sobriety

• Creating structure through sleep, meals, and daily routines
• Moving your body to regulate stress and restore dopamine balance
• Stabilizing blood sugar with consistent nutrition
• Building new rituals to replace drinking habits
• Learning emotional literacy and how to name what you’re feeling
• Reducing unnecessary chaos and protecting your energy
• Staying curious about your experience instead of judging it
• Finding honest conversations and supportive connection

Key Takeaway

Early sobriety isn’t just about removing alcohol. It’s about rebuilding your nervous system, your identity, and your life. The process can feel awkward and uncomfortable at times—but on the other side of that rebuild is something many people never experienced while drinking: real clarity, self-trust, and freedom.

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If you’re a midlife woman questioning your relationship with alcohol or figuring out what comes next in sobriety, I’ve created resources to help you move forward with clarity and confidence.

Nurses spend their careers taking care of everyone else. But what happens when the caregiver is the one who needs help?

In this episode, Kate sits down with Stephanie, an ICU nurse with 26 years of experience, a mother of three, and a powerful advocate for honesty and compassion in the conversation around addiction and recovery in healthcare.

Stephanie brings both clinical insight and lived experience to a topic that many nurses know exists—but rarely talk about openly: monitoring programs for healthcare professionals struggling with substance use.

After Kate came across one of Stephanie’s social media posts about receiving a random UA, it sparked a deeper conversation about the realities many nurses face behind the scenes. It also brought Kate back to the origin of her own podcast journey—when the show was first called “You’ve Been Selected,” a phrase that captures what it can feel like to suddenly find yourself navigating recovery systems you never expected to enter.

Together they explore the complex intersection of burnout, stigma, accountability, recovery, and motherhood, and ask a bigger question about healthcare culture:

Are the systems designed to help struggling professionals actually supporting healing—or simply monitoring behavior?

This conversation is not about avoiding responsibility. Patient safety and accountability matter. But so does compassion for the caregivers working in one of the most demanding professions on the planet.

This episode opens an honest discussion about what it looks like to fall, take responsibility, rebuild trust, and find your way forward as both a nurse and a human being.

In this episode we discuss:

• The intense pressures nurses face in high-acuity environments like the ICU

• The connection between burnout, substance use, and mental health in healthcare

• What it’s really like to enter a professional monitoring program

• The fear and stigma many nurses face when asking for help

• Accountability, recovery, and rebuilding a career after crisis

• Navigating motherhood and professional identity during recovery

• How healthcare systems can better support nurses before things reach a breaking point

If you’re a nurse—or anyone working in a high-pressure helping profession—this conversation offers an honest look at the human side of healthcare.

You are not the only one who has struggled, and there is a path forward.

Listen, reflect, and share this episode with a nurse who might need to hear it.

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Guest Info: Stephanie Kelley https://www.instagram.com/sober_steph_mom_nurse/

SHE RECOVERS is a global nonprofit dedicated to making recovery accessible, inclusive, and empowering for all women—not just those recovering from substance use, but women healing from mental health challenges, trauma, eating disorders, burnout, and the many ways life impacts the nervous system.

In this powerful conversation, Dawn shares:

1. Why SHE RECOVERS was created as a nonprofit focused on accessible recovery for women
2. How an intersectional approach honors race, LGBTQ+ identities, lived experience, and cultural context
3. Why “we are all recovering from something” is more than a slogan—it’s a truth rooted in women’s biology and social conditioning
4. The importance of allowing the whole woman into recovery spaces, without fragmenting her experiences
5. Dawn’s personal journey with workaholism and how socially acceptable addictions often go unnamed
6. Why traditional recovery models that insist on “no outside issues” often fail women

This episode challenges the idea that women must separate their struggles into neat categories to deserve support. Instead, it offers a model of recovery that understands trauma, mental health, substance use, overwork, and identity as interconnected—not competing narratives.

If you’ve ever felt like traditional recovery spaces didn’t fully see you, this conversation will resonate deeply.

Because healing doesn’t happen in pieces.

And women don’t recover in isolation

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Websites: https://dawnnickel.com/ and https://sherecovers.org/

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In this episode, we explore the double standard women face around drinking, addiction, and recovery, including how stigma, biology, trauma, and social expectations intersect to create unique challenges for women.

You’ll learn why women often develop alcohol problems faster, why shame and secrecy delay treatment, and how cultural pressures — including work, caregiving, and societal expectations — contribute to rising alcohol use among women.

We also talk about the concept of being “gaslit” by cultural narratives that frame women’s struggles as moral failure instead of understandable responses to stress and life circumstances.

Most importantly, this episode highlights treatment approaches and recovery pathways that actually support women — including trauma-informed care, nervous system regulation, connection-based healing, and women-centered recovery communities.

If you’ve ever wondered why drinking became a coping tool, or why recovery has felt complicated, this conversation will help you understand the bigger picture — and remind you that change is possible.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

1. The double standard society applies to women who drink
2. How stigma and shame impact women differently than men
3. The biology of alcohol and why women develop dependence faster (telescoping effect)
4. Hormones, stress, and nervous system regulation in addiction
5. Trauma exposure and psychological risk factors unique to women
6. The cultural shift: work, caregiving, and the modern “double burden”
7. Why alcohol marketing targets overwhelmed women
8. How social and environmental stress affects substance use patterns
9. Treatment approaches that work well for women
10. The importance of safe spaces and women-centered recovery
11. Radical self-love, healing, and hope in sobriety

Key Takeaways

Women are not broken.

Women are responding to pressure — biological, psychological, and social.

Understanding context reduces shame.

And reduced shame increases the likelihood of recovery.

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In this episode, Kate sits down with Kirsten — known online as @sobrietybestie and host of the Sobriety Bestie podcast — to explore what it looks like to question Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) after years of participation.

Kirsten spent 10 years in AA and has now been out for 5. Together, they discuss the complex reality that AA can be helpful for many people — while also examining how dogma, identity labels, and recovery folklore can become limiting or even harmful over time.

This conversation explores topics rarely discussed openly, including:

1. How experiences like trauma, neurodivergence, and mental health challenges are sometimes pathologized as “alcoholism”
2. The psychological impact of labels like “dry drunk,” “defects,” and “restless, irritable, discontent”
3. When recovery culture shifts from supportive to rigid or dogmatic
4. AA folklore versus science-based understanding of behavior and change
5. Myths surrounding Bill Wilson and the founding narratives of AA
6. Why questioning recovery systems can provoke strong reactions — including backlash and hostility
7. The fear many people feel when considering leaving a recovery community
8. Rebuilding self-trust after years of outsourcing authority
9. Whether AA meets criteria associated with high-control groups — and why that question matters
10. What real freedom in recovery can look like outside traditional frameworks

Kate also shares her own experience: AA was helpful early in sobriety, but over time began to feel increasingly rigid and disconnected from her evolving understanding of neuroscience, psychology, and emotional health.

This is not an anti-recovery episode.

It’s a conversation about autonomy, critical thinking, and honoring the complexity of healing.

Because two things can be true at once:

A system can help you survive — and you can still outgrow it.

Mentioned In This Episode:

1. Pathologizing normal human experience as alcoholism
2. Trauma, neurodivergence, and mental health in recovery spaces
3. Big Book culture and “Big Book thumpers”
4. Bill Wilson, AA history, and founder mythology
5. Recovery folklore vs neuroscience and psychology
6. Fear-based messaging in sobriety culture
7. Dogma, identity, and belonging
8. Is AA a cult? Examining the question thoughtfully
9. Backlash, hate mail, and stigma around questioning AA
10. Reclaiming inner authority and sovereignty in recovery

Kirsten, known online as @sobrietybestie, is a recovery advocate and host of the Sobriety Bestie podcast. Her platform focuses on helping people deprogram from Alcoholics Anonymous culture and reclaim their identity, autonomy, and lives after leaving 12-step environments.

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Together they unpack the idea that our internal world — our thoughts, expectations, emotions, and self-concept — shapes the life we experience. Simmy shares her step-by-step approach to manifestation, including the role of visualization, emotional embodiment, spiritual connection, and becoming the kind of person who expects good things to happen.

Rather than framing manifestation as “wishful thinking,” this conversation explores how transformation happens when someone begins to see themselves differently, feel differently, and live from a new internal identity.

Topics covered include:

1. How thoughts and self-concept shape lived experience
2. Visualization as a tool for identity and behavior change
3. Why embodiment matters more than positive thinking
4. Becoming the version of yourself who expects expansion
5. Energy, frequency, and the idea of alignment
6. The role of spirituality and connection to something greater
7. What it means to “match the energy” of the life you want
8. Manifesting health, confidence, change, and personal growth
9. Why real change requires internal coherence, not just external effort

This episode bridges spirituality, identity work, and personal development for anyone interested in how inner change creates outer transformation — whether you call that manifestation, mindset, embodiment, or becoming.

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Guest Info: Simmy is a content creator and manifestation coach. She has been a management consultant for over a decade and is now following her passion of impacting and elevating lives through the power of manifestation. She runs the Miracle Makers_1111 page on Instagram. She explains manifestation from the lens of Neuroscience and Psychology. Her work centers on moving people out of limitation and into self-trust. She supports her clients through belief-rewiring tools, subconscious reprogramming and embodiment practices.

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In this episode, Kate sits down with former Sociology Professor turned Burnout Coach Dr. Jen Costanza for a refreshingly honest conversation about what it actually means to live in today’s world as a woman, a professional, and a human being with a nervous system.

Together, they unpack how modern culture pressures women to perform wellness instead of experience it, why “having it all together” is often a lie, and how burnout is frequently a rational response to unrealistic expectations—not a personal failure.

Dr. Jen shares openly about navigating imposter syndrome despite holding a PhD from Ivy League institution Brown University, and how even highly educated, accomplished women still struggle with self-doubt—especially when showing up online as coaches, educators, and thought leaders.

This conversation is grounding, intelligent, funny, and deeply validating—especially for high-functioning women who are tired of trying to optimize themselves into worthiness.

In this episode, we explore:

1. Why burnout is both a nervous system issue and a societal issue
2. The cultural pressure for women to perform wellness instead of practicing it
3. How “wine culture” became a socially acceptable coping mechanism for overwhelmed women
4. The invisible emotional labor women carry—and its impact on the body
5. Imposter syndrome, even with elite credentials and years of experience
6. What it’s really like to show up on social media as a coach, educator, or professional
7. Owning your voice and expertise without needing to over-prove yourself
8. Why sustainable healing doesn’t require a complex or expensive wellness strategy
9. The overlooked power of foundational practices:
10. Sleep
11. Nutrition
12. Purposeful movement
13. Nervous system regulation
14. How breathwork supports emotional regulation, safety in the body, and burnout recovery
15. Remembering joy, play, and pleasure as essential—not optional—parts of healing

The takeaway:

You don’t need a perfect morning routine.

You don’t need to buy your way into healing.

And you’re not behind—you’re likely just burned out.

Sometimes the most powerful path forward is the simplest one:

tending to your body, telling the truth, resting without guilt, and remembering that you are already enough.

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About Dr. Jen Costanza

Dr. Jen Costanza is a former sociology professor turned burnout coach, and breathwork facilitator who studies the intersection of identity, culture, performance, and wellbeing. Her work centers around helping people move out of survival mode and reconnect with sustainable ways of living—without the pressure to constantly self-optimize.

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Website: https://www.rooted.life

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Kate explores how sobriety reshaped everything: how she dresses, how she speaks up, how she chooses relationships, how she handles discomfort, and how she trusts herself more deeply than ever before. From tattoos and style as self-expression (not performance), to perfectionism, late blooming, public growth, financial stability, emotional resilience, and spiritual curiosity — this episode is about becoming more yourself with every year sober.

If you’ve ever wondered who you’re becoming after you quit drinking, this one’s for you.

In This Episode, Kate Talks About:

• Celebrating 8 years sober in NYC during her annual Fashion Week trip

• Self-trust as the real transformation of sobriety

• Style, tattoos, and identity (no longer performing for approval)

• Dressing for yourself, not the male gaze

• Radical honesty and the peace of having nothing to hide

• Realizing nobody is watching you as closely as you think

• Building a sober life with structure, routines, and real energy

• Outgrowing people, places, and identities naturally

• Boundaries without guilt: “If it’s not fun sober, it’s not fun”

• Emotional resilience and sitting with discomfort instead of numbing

• Being wrong, evolving, and changing your mind publicly

• Feminism, social awareness, and seeing the world more clearly in sobriety

• Exploring spirituality without shame or self-abandonment

• The concept of being both fully human and fully divine

• Grieving the moments alcohol stole (vacations, concerts, presence)

• Perfectionism, repression, and why rebellion softens when you choose yourself

• Major life stressors navigated sober: loss, illness, financial strain, career upheaval

• Building a bold, creative life after alcohol (business, podcast, public voice)

• Late blooming, divine timing, and trusting your life’s unfolding

• The financial clarity sobriety actually creates

• Standing up for yourself professionally

• Holding paradox: two things can be true at the same time

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For years, Kate approached recovery through neuroscience alone — partly out of rebellion against rigid dogma and hierarchical systems that taught her she was broken, powerless, or unable to trust herself. But over time, both her own healing and her work with hundreds of women revealed something deeper:

Many women aren’t just healing from alcohol.

They’re healing from self-abandonment.

From spiritual disconnection.

From being taught not to trust themselves.

This episode explores the powerful overlap between:

1. Religious conditioning
2. Patriarchal structures
3. Recovery dogma
4. Nervous system dysregulation
5. Shame, perfectionism, and people-pleasing

Kate shares how discovering feminist theology — particularly the work of Meggan Watterson — helped repair deep spiritual and identity-level wounds. Through this lens, God is not an external authority or judging figure, but what Watterson calls “the Good” — love, wisdom, presence — something we are already connected to, not something we must earn.

You’ll also hear Kate reflect on the reclamation of Mary Magdalene as a teacher, mystic, and leader rather than the distorted trope of a “fallen woman,” and how reconnecting with the divine feminine strengthened her confidence, softened her nervous system, and deepened her self-trust.

At the heart of this episode is a redefinition of soul work — not as religion, but as:

The practice of learning how to listen to your own inner knowing

Rebuilding trust in yourself after years of override

Connecting with love rather than fear

Coming home to yourself

Kate also unpacks how healing requires both science and soul, including:

1. How the brain rewires after alcohol
2. Why emotions feel louder in early sobriety
3. How stress, habit loops, and nervous system dysregulation drive behavior
4. Why willpower burns people out
5. Why lasting change comes from safety + repetition
6. Why healing must also include grief, identity work, emotional honesty, and self-trust

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered:

1. Why they struggle to trust themselves
2. Why traditional recovery spaces felt shaming or disempowering
3. Why spirituality felt wounding instead of supportive
4. Whether you can believe in neuroscience, intuition, feminism, and God all at once
5. Whether you’re allowed to be both grounded and messy, logical and emotional, human and sacred

Kate’s answer is clear:

You don’t have to choose one version of yourself.

You’re allowed to hold the paradox.

You’re allowed to be whole.

Key Themes in This Episode

1. Religious wounding and its impact on women’s self-trust
2. The overlap between patriarchal spirituality and recovery dogma
3. Feminist theology and the work of Meggan Watterson
4. Mary Magdalene reclaimed as teacher, mystic, and leader
5. Rebuilding inner authority after years of self-override
6. The connection between nervous system healing and self-trust
7. Redefining soul work as intuition, love, and embodied truth
8. Being fully human and fully divine
9. Healing as integration, not perfection

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This is a bonus episode about staying sober in a world that feels like it’s on fire.

I talk about capacity — not as a moral issue, but as a real limit — and why newly sober people do not owe the world constant engagement, takes, or emotional mastery.

We cover:

1. Why sobriety doesn’t mean being “above it”
2. How self-abandonment masquerades as responsibility
3. The difference between caring and burning yourself down
4. Why staying sober right now is infrastructure, not avoidance
5. When silence is regulation, not complicity
6. Journaling as record-keeping, not self-help

This episode is for anyone who is heartbroken, angry, overwhelmed — and still choosing to stay upright.

No platitudes.

No spiritual bypassing.

Just honesty about what it takes to remain sober and intact when the world is heavy.

Bookmark what you can’t hold yet.

You’ll come back when you have the capacity.

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In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Tara Grace the host of the Recovery Rebellion podcast, who openly identifies as a “12-step dogma survivor” and advocates for a more nuanced, compassionate, and person-centered approach to recovery.

We explore the darker side of the recovery world that many people are afraid to name out loud — including rigid ideology, shame-based messaging, and the ways people are often discouraged from trusting their own intuition.

This episode is not about tearing down what helps people. It’s about expanding the conversation to include the many people who felt harmed, silenced, or dismissed within traditional recovery systems.

In this episode, we discuss:

1. The recovery industrial complex and how “heads in the beds” can sometimes matter more than individualized care
2. What people mean when they talk about surviving 12-step dogma
3. How rigid recovery models can become authoritarian, condescending, and psychologically unsafe
4. The problem with fear-based messaging like “you’ll die if you leave”
5. How the disease model of addiction can be both helpful and limiting — and why it doesn’t tell the whole story
6. Why many people experience real healing through natural recovery (without formal programs)
7. The difference between support vs. control, accountability vs. compliance
8. Why harm reduction is often misunderstood — and who it actually serves
9. The emotional impact of being told your thinking is defective, your intuition is dangerous, or your questioning is “denial”
10. How recovery can (and should) support self-trust, autonomy, and nervous system safety
11. Why leaving AA or structured recovery spaces does not equal failure
12. What compassionate, flexible, modern recovery could look like instead

This episode is for you if:

1. You’ve ever felt shamed, silenced, or patronized in recovery spaces
2. You’ve been told you were “in denial” simply for asking questions
3. You were warned you would die if you left AA and felt terrified but also constrained
4. You’re sober curious and hesitant to engage with traditional programs
5. You believe healing should feel empowering, not diminishing
6. You want a more expansive conversation about addiction recovery, neuroscience, agency, and choice

This is a conversation about rethinking recovery, honoring lived experience, and creating space for people to heal without having to surrender their voice, identity, or autonomy.

Because recovery should be about becoming more yourself — not less.

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In this episode, Kate explores why that definition — while historically important — often falls short, especially for women who don’t experience their relationship with alcohol as a lifelong disease state.

This conversation isn’t anti-recovery or anti-help.

It’s about discernment, nuance, and intellectual honesty.

Kate unpacks how the disease model became the dominant narrative, why it’s convenient for institutions, and how questioning it is often framed — particularly in 12-step spaces — as a symptom rather than a legitimate inquiry.

In this episode, we cover:

1. Why the “chronic, relapsing brain disease” definition became the gold standard
2. How medical and treatment systems benefit from a single, fixed narrative
3. The difference between reducing shame and reinforcing permanent pathology
4. How disagreement with the disease model is often labeled as “denial”
5. Why pathologizing questions can shut down curiosity, autonomy, and growth
6. The psychological impact of being told your insight is evidence you’re sick
7. Why many women don’t see themselves reflected in traditional recovery explanations
8. How authority-based recovery models discourage nuance and self-trust

Kate also discusses the cultural dynamics inside recovery spaces where questioning foundational beliefs can be interpreted as resistance, ego, or lack of willingness — rather than a thoughtful response to lived experience.

The core message:

Questioning a model is not denial.

It’s discernment.

Recovery should expand self-trust — not require surrendering your ability to think critically about your own experience.

This episode is for women who:

1. Feel uneasy with being labeled “chronically ill”
2. Have been told their doubts are symptoms
3. Want recovery without losing their voice
4. Are seeking a more nuanced, adult conversation about addiction

You’re allowed to ask questions.

And asking them doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

In this episode, I’m joined by Casey Davidson, host of the Hello Someday Podcast—one of today’s top mental health podcasts—and a nationally recognized voice in the sober-curious space who’s been featured across major media outlets.

Together, we have a real, funny, unfiltered conversation about sobriety curiosity, consistency, and what actually helps people change—without dieting, white-knuckling, or pretending willpower is the solution.

We talk about why most people abandon their New Year’s resolutions (spoiler: it’s not a discipline problem), how habit change really works, and why stacking consistent sober days matters far more than dabbling in on-again/off-again drinking.

Casey also shares why she intentionally extends Dry January into a 100-day New Year program—because 30 days is often just enough time to start feeling better, but not long enough to truly feel the difference of life without alcohol. We explore what happens when people give themselves enough time to stabilize, build momentum, and experience the mental clarity, emotional steadiness, and confidence that only come with sustained time alcohol-free.

This isn’t a Dry January hype episode.

And it’s definitely not a “fix your life in 30 days” pitch.

It’s an honest conversation between two coaches who approach this work differently—but agree on what actually supports sustainable change. We also unpack the quiet pressure of January: the urge to reset everything at once, optimize your life, and emerge transformed by February—and why that mindset often backfires when alcohol is involved.

Expect laughter, nuance, and the kind of conversation you only get when two women trust each other enough to tell the truth.

In This Episode, We Cover:

1. Why New Year’s resolutions fail (and what actually helps habits stick)
2. The difference between dabbling in sobriety and building real momentum
3. Why consistent sober days matter more than “just cutting back”
4. Why 30 days can feel good—but 100 days can feel transformative
5. How diet culture sneaks into early sobriety—and how to opt out
6. What Dry January can be when framed as curiosity instead of punishment
7. How two coaches with different styles still land on the same fundamentals

About the Guest

Casey Davidson is the host of the Hello Someday Podcast, one of the top mental health podcasts today, and a leading voice in the sober-curious movement. Her work has been featured in major national media outlets, and she’s known for helping high-achieving women rethink their relationship with alcohol in a way that’s practical, compassionate, and grounded in real life. She’s also the creator of a 100-day New Year program designed to help people move beyond short-term challenges and into lasting change.

Who This Episode Is For

1. Anyone who’s tried Dry January—or quitting—more than once
2. People who are sober-curious and tired of starting over
3. High-functioning adults who want a smarter, steadier approach to change
4. Listeners who want honesty, humor, and zero preaching

Final Word

If Dry January has ever felt like pressure, a test, or something you somehow “failed,” this episode is a reminder that real habit change doesn’t come from rushing the process. It comes from consistency, curiosity, and giving yourself enough time to actually feel what life is like without alcohol.

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In this episode of Rewired Sober, Kate explores one of the most misunderstood parts of sobriety: liminal spaces — the in-between seasons where the old way no longer fits, but the new way hasn’t fully formed yet.

These are the moments when you know you made the right choice…

but your nervous system still craves the relief of certainty.

Using both neuroscience and lived experience, Kate unpacks why the brain prefers the “devil we know” — familiar patterns, predictable outcomes, even familiar pain — over the uncertainty that comes with real change.

This episode also includes a live teaching pulled directly from Kate’s Rewired Sober group, where she speaks candidly about:

1. wanting to want sobriety
2. why early sobriety can feel strangely effortful
3. and why feeling unsettled doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong

If you’ve ever thought “Why does this still feel weird?” — this conversation will land.

This episode is for you if:

1. You’re outgrowing alcohol but don’t feel fully at home without it yet
2. You find yourself wanting answers instead of wanting to sit in the unknown
3. You feel frustrated that sobriety still requires intention
4. You’re in a transition season and questioning whether you’re “behind”

In this episode, Kate explores:

1. What liminal spaces are and why they’re unavoidable in sobriety
2. Why the nervous system values predictability over freedom
3. How familiar habits create a false sense of safety
4. The urge to rush certainty — and why it’s a stress response
5. Why repetition, regulation, and time are what actually rewire the brain
6. How staying in the middle is not weakness, but integration

Key takeaway:

Transformation doesn’t happen in the decision.

It happens in the middle.

You don’t rush liminal spaces. You listen in them.

They are where your nervous system learns how to live in truth — without anesthesia.

If sobriety feels right and unfamiliar at the same time, this episode will help you understand why — and remind you that this phase isn’t something to escape. It’s something to move through.

About Rewired Sober:

Rewired Sober is a science- and soul-based recovery space for women who are ready to understand their brain, trust themselves, and build a sober life that actually fits.

Learn more about Kate’s group coaching, courses, and resources at the links in the show notes.

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I break down how Sophie Gilbert’s Girl on Girl exposes the pressure cooker women have lived in for the last 20 years — the beauty standards, the public scrutiny, the Kardashian-era body illusions, the return of heroin-chic, the Jessica Simpson mom-jean debacle — and how all of it shaped not just how women see themselves… but how women cope.

Then I bring in Caroline Knapp’s Appetites and her concept of “the real hungers” — the soul-level needs women are taught to starve. Not food. Not jeans sizes. But belonging, rest, connection, desire, meaning, permission to take up space. We talk about what happens when those needs get rerouted into dieting, perfectionism, and eventually, drinking.

We get honest about drunkorexia — the collision between diet culture and drinking culture — and why it’s not a quirky college fad, but a symptom of patriarchy’s oldest trick: keep women underfed, self-conscious, tipsy, ashamed, and too exhausted to revolt.

We cover:

• How pop culture trained women to hate their bodies
• Why women’s binge drinking nearly doubled in the last two decades
• How shame becomes internalized and fuels the drinking loop
• Why wine culture and diet culture are sisters
• The neuroscience behind hungry brains + alcohol
• How patriarchy profits when women are distracted by self-maintenance
• And why sobriety is, at its core, a feminist act of resistance

If you’ve ever felt like you had to be thin, quiet, good, small, or “fine”… this episode will hit you right in the truth.

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire:

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The Overachiever Wound.

If you grew up being compared, dismissed, or made to feel less-than… your nervous system learned that safety comes from performance.

So you overachieved, excelled, got the degrees, the gold stars, the promotions, the “good girl” identity — all because your body believed: “If I achieve, I’m safe. If I slow down, I’m exposed.”

Kate breaks down why high-achieving women struggle to rest, why the goalpost keeps moving, and why no amount of success ever feels like enough. Spoiler: it’s not because you’re broken — it’s because your brain is still protecting a younger version of you.

Inside this episode:

• The exact childhood moment most women learn to prove their worth
• Why your brain ties safety to doing
• The feminist and generational conditioning behind female overachievement
• Why rest feels terrifying for women who have been performing their whole lives
• What you are really avoiding by staying busy
• The neuroscience of "being seen" by other women
• How to start unwinding the proving pattern without burning down your life

This episode is messy, vulnerable, unfiltered… and exactly the medicine so many women need.

If you’re tired of hustling for your existence — this one’s for you.

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire:

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This episode challenges patriarchy, recovery dogma, spiritual gatekeeping, and the idea that women need to humble themselves even more than they already have.

In this episode, Kate dives into:

• Why women drink to numb the emotional and labor load they were never meant to carry
• How sobriety leads to boundaries, agency, and personal freedom
• The ways alcohol has been marketed to women as empowerment and reward
• Why women metabolize alcohol differently and get sicker faster
• How midlife hormones intensify alcohol’s impact on women
• Why sobriety often awakens feminist consciousness
• The truth about AA being written by men, for men, and why that matters for women
• How humility and ego language gets weaponized against women in recovery
• Why women rarely drink because of ego and more often drink from exhaustion and self abandonment
• The difference between intellectual knowing and soul knowing
• Why trusting your intuition is radical and necessary
• How sobriety restores spiritual authority, voice, and self trust

Women do not drink because they are broken. They drink because they were taught to silence themselves. Sobriety is the moment when a woman stops being manageable and becomes sovereign.

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Space Is Now Open: Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance designed for women in sobriety. You’ll get instant access to the full program, plus weekly live coaching sessions to help you rewire your brain, heal old patterns, and stay consistent. Enroll here: https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

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Amy opens up about her moment of reckoning, her early sober days, and the emotional unraveling that came when she finally stopped drinking and had to face herself honestly for the first time in years. Together, she and Kate talk about the messy middle of sobriety, the awakening that happens in midlife, and how Amy rebuilt her sense of identity from the ground up.

If you have ever wondered where your spark went or felt like everyone else in your life came first, this episode will hit you right in the heart.

Kate and Amy discuss:

• The moment she admitted she could not keep going the way she was
• Why early sobriety felt both freeing and terrifying
• Returning to your body after decades of running from yourself
• Midlife shifts and why so many women wake up to their truth at forty
• Motherhood, resentment, and the unspoken fears women carry
• How Amy rebuilt her confidence, community, and identity
• What she teaches now inside her recovery work with women

Amy reminds us that sobriety is not about losing something. It is about remembering who you were before the world convinced you to shrink. Her story is a powerful invitation to come home to yourself, trust your intuition, and start building a life that feels aligned at every level.

Amy Liz Harrison is a memoir coach, author of 20+ books, and the CEO of A-Team Press, where she helps people in sobriety write and publish their stories with clarity, courage, and zero shame. A proudly sober mom of eight, Amy brings big-heart energy, irreverent Gen Z humor, and deep compassion to her work. She's the host of Eternally Amy, where she holds space for the messy, the meaningful, and the magical parts of recovery—and reminds us that telling the truth is the most healing thing we can do.

Connect with Amy:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amylizharrison/

Website: https://www.amylizharrison.com/

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Kate breaks it all down with her signature mix of neuroscience, honesty, and unapologetic feminist fire.

She dives into:

• Why ADHD in women has exploded in awareness and why it is not a trend.
• How ADHD presents internally for women and why that led to decades of misdiagnosis.
• The neuroscience behind dopamine, executive function, and why alcohol felt like magic until it wasn’t.
• The overlap between ADHD symptoms and drinking behavior.
• How masking, perfectionism, and people pleasing become survival strategies for neurodivergent girls.
• Why midlife, perimenopause, and sobriety unmask symptoms women have been carrying since childhood.
• How cultural expectations and patriarchy keep women invisible in diagnostic spaces.
• Why many sober women finally receive an ADHD diagnosis.
• The impact of estrogen, dopamine and hormonal changes on ADHD symptoms.
• What ADHD women actually need instead of shame.
• How recovery tools like structure, community support and nervous system regulation help you rewire.

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Space Is Now Open: Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance designed for women in sobriety. You’ll get instant access to the full program, plus weekly live coaching sessions to help you rewire your brain, heal old patterns, and stay consistent. Enroll here: https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

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In this powerful episode, Kate sits down with Dr. Sarah Michaud, clinical psychologist, author of Co-Crazy, and more than four decades sober, for a brutally honest conversation about the invisible emotional patterns that quietly drive addiction. Together, they explore the fears, childhood wounds, and survival strategies that keep women trapped in the cycle of pleasing, fawning, shutting down, and drinking to cope.

Dr. Sarah brings compassion, science, and humor to this massive topic, breaking down why codependency isn’t what you think it is and why it shows up even for women with long-term sobriety and successful careers. This episode is a masterclass in emotional literacy, nervous system regulation, and taking your power back.

In this episode, they discuss:

• The real definition of codependency
• Why women are conditioned to people please and fear disappointing others
• How childhood dynamics shape adult relationships
• The link between codependency, resentment, and drinking
• The shutdown, fawn, and freeze responses
• How to recognize your interpersonal fears in real time
• Why identifying your needs feels impossible for so many women
• How to get back into your body during conflict
• Practical steps for speaking up, setting boundaries, and choosing yourself
• Why anger can be a healthy and necessary part of recovery

Dr. Sarah’s wisdom reminds us that recovery starts long before the drink and continues long after. The work is learning to come home to yourself.

Her Bio:

Dr. Sarah Michaud is a clinical psychologist, author, and co-host of Leaving CrazyTown. For more than thirty years, she has worked in the field of addiction and codependency recovery, blending professional expertise with the hard-earned lessons of her own journey. Sober from alcohol and cocaine since 1984, she knows firsthand the pain of addiction—and the freedom that comes with recovery.

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Space Is Now Open: Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance designed for women in sobriety. You’ll get instant access to the full program, plus weekly live coaching sessions to help you rewire your brain, heal old patterns, and stay consistent. Enroll here: https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

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In this vulnerable and insight-packed guest episode, Kate sits down with Jennifer Mathieu, award-winning author of Moxie and The Faculty Lounge, longtime educator, and sober mom. Jennifer opens up about her ten-year spiral into “problematic drinking,” how alcohol became her nightly form of fake self-care, and the moment she became more curious than afraid about getting sober.

Drawing parallels between teaching and nursing, Kate and Jennifer explore the emotional weight of public-facing professions, the pressure to perform, and the resentment cycle that leads so many women to drink in secret. Jennifer shares how sobriety reshaped her identity as a teacher, a writer, a mom, and a woman who finally learned to stop setting herself on fire to keep everyone else warm.

In this episode, Kate and Jennifer talk about:

• What it feels like to live a double life in a public-facing career
• The ten-year buildup to Jennifer’s sobriety
• Why breaking a promise to her husband was the turning point
• The sneaky ways alcohol hides inside burnout, resentment, and people pleasing
• How alcohol became her nightly coping tool after motherhood
• The power of seeing sober women thriving on social media
• Learning to set real boundaries at work and at home
• Reclaiming identity outside of teaching, writing, and caregiving
• Sobriety as a “power boost” to years of therapy and personal work
• Why midlife is often the breaking point and the breakthrough

Referenced in this episode:

• Jennifer’s novels including Moxie (now a Netflix film) and The Faculty Lounge
• Sober Mom Collective meetings, where Jennifer is a weekly group leader

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Space Is Now Open: Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance designed for women in sobriety. You’ll get instant access to the full program, plus weekly live coaching sessions to help you rewire your brain, heal old patterns, and stay consistent. Enroll here: https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

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Together, they unpack what really happens inside the brain and body after trauma, how hypervigilance, anxiety, and moral conflict can take root long after the uniform or scrubs come off, and why alcohol often becomes the coping tool of choice for soldiers, nurses, and first responders alike.

Blending lived experience with neuroscience, Kate and Phillip explore what healing looks like for both veterans and civilians: self-compassion, connection, movement, and sobriety. This episode is both a love letter to those who serve and a reminder that trauma recovery isn’t about being broken, it’s about learning to rewire your nervous system and reclaim your life.

In this episode, they talk about:

• What PTSD really is (and what it isn’t)
• The concept of moral injury and why it hits soldiers, nurses, and first responders so deeply
• How trauma rewires the brain and how sobriety helps rewire it back
• The reality of institutional betrayal in military and healthcare systems
• The connection between trauma, alcohol, and survival mechanisms
• How they each healed through therapy, connection, and movement
• Why sobriety is the foundation of their recovery and marriage

Referenced in this episode:

• The Mankind Project (for men’s emotional healing and connection): mankindproject.org

Whether you’ve served, supported someone who has, or just know what it’s like to live with unhealed trauma, this episode offers compassion, education, and hope.

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Space Is Now Open: Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance designed for women in sobriety. You’ll get instant access to the full program, plus weekly live coaching sessions to help you rewire your brain, heal old patterns, and stay consistent. Enroll here: https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

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In this refreshingly honest solo episode, Kate dives into one of recovery’s least talked about stages: boredom. Through personal stories, neuroscience, and real talk, she explores why life can feel flat in early sobriety and how that “blah” feeling isn’t failure—it’s your brain and nervous system recalibrating after years of artificial stimulation.

Kate shares what happens when dopamine levels drop, why we confuse stillness for boredom, and how to rebuild a sense of excitement, identity, and curiosity without reaching for the old quick hits. With humor and heart, she reminds us that sometimes healing looks like sitting in your messy diaper—the unglamorous, in-between stage where growth quietly begins.

In this episode, Kate dives into:

• Why boredom in sobriety is actually your brain healing
• Dopamine depletion and the science of “recalibration”
• The identity gap between who you were and who you’re becoming
• How to rediscover curiosity and joy in everyday life
• Building real friendships and connection in recovery
• Why stillness isn’t punishment

Kate closes the episode by reminding listeners that sobriety doesn’t take away your joy—it just gives you access to the real kind. And sometimes, the most powerful transformation starts in the stillness.

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire:

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In this raw and deeply personal solo episode, Kate opens up about one of the most controversial topics in recovery: why she no longer calls herself an alcoholic. After years in 12-step rooms and studying addiction as a psychiatric nurse, she’s unpacked what this label means medically, psychologically, and spiritually, and why it no longer reflects who she is today.

Kate explores the evolution of her own recovery, the science behind addiction and neuroplasticity, and how healing changes not just your habits but your identity. This episode challenges old narratives while holding space for every path that keeps people sober, reminding listeners that recovery is personal and growth means you get to change your mind.

In this episode, Kate talks about:

• Why she no longer identifies with the word alcoholic
• What neuroscience reveals about addiction and recovery
• How sobriety evolves from survival to self-trust
• The role of language and identity in long-term healing
• Why we must respect all recovery paths, even when they differ from our own

Kate reminds us that sobriety isn’t about the label you wear. It’s about the life you build beyond it.

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire:

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In this episode, Kate sits down with Rachel Mack Martin, author of Functional: A High Performer’s Guide to Freedom from Alcohol, to talk about what it really means to look like you “have it all together” while quietly struggling with alcohol.

Rachel, a director in financial services with an MBA and a life that appeared picture-perfect from the outside, opens up about how intelligence, success, and achievement can become tools of denial. Together, she and Kate unpack the hidden costs of being “functional,” why rock bottoms are overrated, and how letting go of perfection makes room for healing.

In this episode, Kate and Rachel talk about:

• What it means to be a “functional drinker”
• Why intelligence can keep us stuck in denial
• The myth of moderation and why it’s so seductive
• How Rachel’s 30-day break turned into 7 years of freedom
• Navigating relationships and social circles after quitting
• Finding support outside of traditional recovery paths
• The unexpected gifts of living alcohol-free

Rachel’s story is proof that you don’t need to lose everything to change everything — and that being smart isn’t what saves you from addiction, it’s what helps you rewrite your story once you’re ready to see it clearly.

Rachel Mack Martin is a director in financial services and holds an MBA, bringing an inquisitive mind to everything she does, including writing. Rachel lives in Minnesota with her husband and their three unpredictable cats. When not working or writing, you can find her drinking a strong cup of black coffee with at least one feline on her lap. Functional is her first book.

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire:

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Connect with Today's Guest: Rachel Mack Martin

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In this solo episode, Kate unpacks what really goes down when you walk into family gatherings clear-headed for the first time. From side-eyes at the dinner table to Aunt Linda clutching her Riesling like an emotional support animal, Kate blends humor, compassion, and psychology to help you understand why your family reacts the way they do, and how to stay grounded through it.

She explores family systems theory, the emotional minefield of the holidays, and how to set boundaries without losing your sense of self. Whether you’re one month or eight years sober, this conversation will help you find peace (and maybe a laugh) in the chaos.

In this episode, Kate dives into:

• Why your sobriety “threatens” the family system
• How to handle guilt trips, silence, and side comments
• Why anger is information, not failure
• The power of self-compassion in healing family wounds
• How to create your own grounded rituals during the holidays
• Why your sobriety will always ripple farther than you realize

Sobriety doesn’t just change you. It changes the whole dance. And even if your family never claps for you, you’re already rewriting the story.

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire:

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In this episode, Kate sits down with Kathryn Sabella, a divorced mom of two, recovery leader, and co-facilitator of The Sober Mom Collective. Kathryn shares how removing alcohol brought not only clarity but the courage to face the truth about her marriage and herself. Together, they unpack what it means to trust your intuition, navigate change, and choose self-love even when it disrupts everything around you.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How sobriety gave Kathryn the clarity to confront hard truths about her marriage
• Why intuition and self-trust become louder when alcohol is gone
• How motherhood and people-pleasing can keep women stuck in “good enough” relationships
• The difference between doing the next right thing and the next loving thing
• What it means to make peace with divorce and create two happy homes
• Why giving up alcohol might be the first true act of self-love

Kathryn’s story is a reminder that sobriety doesn’t cause change, it reveals what’s been waiting for you all along. When the numbing stops, your truth has space to rise.

Kathryn is a divorced mother of two girls and has been living an alcohol-free life since September 26, 2019. Kathryn works a 12 step recovery program but also frequents several online sober communities and is one of the leaders of the Sober Mom Collective, an online space designed by moms for moms navigating sobriety. Based on her lived experience, she is most passionate about helping women navigate relationship changes in sobriety, including divorce.  

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Space Is Now Open: Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance designed for women in sobriety. You’ll get instant access to the full program, plus weekly live coaching sessions to help you rewire your brain, heal old patterns, and stay consistent. Enroll here: https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

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From fashion blogger to sobriety advocate, Suzanne Warye is challenging mommy wine culture, dismantling the myth of moderation, and showing women that sobriety is not deprivation but transformation. In this conversation, she and Kate dive into motherhood, identity, personal style, and what it really means to create The Sober Shift.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why Suzanne doesn’t use labels like “alcoholic” or “in recovery”
• How she built The Sober Mom Life podcast and community
• The subtle ways alcohol steals from women’s lives
• How fashion and self-expression became part of her sober rediscovery
• What to expect from her new book The Sober Shift

Suzanne’s story is proof that sobriety is about shifting perspective, owning your truth, and building a life that feels like home.

Rewired Sober 1:1 Coaching Spots Are Open (But Fill Up Fast) Start anytime and get 3 months of guidance from Kate designed for women in sobriety. Book a discovery call to inquire:

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Connect with Today's Guest Suzanne Warye:

• Instagram: @suzannewarye
• Podcast: The Sober Mom Life
• Website & book tour: www.suzannewarye.com
• Book: The Sober Shift (available now)

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Now two years sober, Melissa is a coach, podcaster, and speaker helping women “try sobriety on for size” because sometimes what doesn’t fit at first becomes the thing you never want to take off.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How Melissa went from sober curious to fully committed
• The moment her lab results forced her to get honest about her drinking
• Why community was the missing piece that kept her sober this time
• How New York City became brand new again through sober eyes
• The power of retreats, groups, and podcasts in building lasting recovery
• Why “trying sobriety on for size” can transform your entire life

Melissa’s story is a reminder that sobriety is not deprivation. It is expansion. When alcohol goes, everything else you have been longing for finally has space to move in.

Melissa McGovern | The Sober New Yorker

Coach. Speaker. Storyteller. No-BS Guide to Alcohol-Free Living.

Melissa McGovern, known as The Sober New Yorker, is a speaker, podcast host, and alcohol-free coach who helps professional women change their relationship with alcohol so they can live longer, healthier, more present lives. With humor, heart, and zero shame, Melissa invites women to try sobriety on for size — not because they hit rock bottom, but because they’re ready for more.

After taking her own 90-day break that turned into a permanent, powerful lifestyle change, Melissa now leads group coaching programs, hosts raw and real conversations on The Sober New Yorker podcast, and speaks at women's retreats about reinvention, presence, and pushing past limiting beliefs. Her work is rooted in truth-telling, compassion, and a fierce belief that you don’t have to settle for a life half-lived.

When she’s not coaching or behind the mic, Melissa is often off exploring the world — one sober adventure at a time. Sober travel is one of her greatest joys, and she’s on a mission to show women that life without alcohol is anything but boring.

She’s here to help women live big, bold, beautiful, badass lives — fully awake, fully present, and completely free.

Connect with Melissa McGovern:

• Instagram: @thesobernewyorker
• Podcast: The Sober New Yorker
• Website: www.thesobernewyorker.com

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Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

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In this episode, Kate sits down with Kim Bellas, founder of Sober Is the New Cool and the White Heart Initiative, to explore how motherhood, resilience, and a little white heart turned into a global recovery movement. Inspired by her son’s epilepsy diagnosis, Kim ditched alcohol “for three months”, and never went back. Now 12 years sober, she’s built a worldwide community dedicated to smashing stigma, creating connection, and showing that sobriety isn’t boring—it’s powerful.

Kim shares how she reinvented herself in midlife, used hypnotherapy as a surprising tool to quit drinking, and why she believes we’re all recovering from something. From New York’s annual White Party to International Recovery Walks spanning 30 countries, her mission is clear: no one should feel alone.

In this conversation, you’ll hear:

• How her son’s epilepsy diagnosis became the catalyst for her sobriety
• Why hypnotherapy helped her rewire habits and cravings
• The birth of Sober Is the New Cool
• What the White Heart Initiative means and the powerful stories behind it
• How the sober community is rewriting stigma through fashion, events, and laughter
• The gift of never missing another memory

Kim’s story is proof that sobriety isn’t just about quitting alcohol, it’s about choosing a bigger, brighter, more connected life.

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You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

With over 12 years of sobriety, Jessica opens up about why she chose fiction over memoir, how writing became both a refuge and a mirror, and what happens when you say the scary things out loud. Together, Kate and Jessica dive into the intersections of motherhood, identity, secrecy and the profound relief that comes when you finally stop hiding.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why fiction can feel safer—and more powerful—than memoir for exploring addiction
• The “phantom life” so many women carry alongside motherhood and marriage
• Jessica’s near-fatal return to substances during the pandemic and how she found her way back
• The role of family systems, comparison, and people-pleasing in fueling addiction
• The healing power of telling the truth on the page, and in real life
• A sneak peek into Jessica’s next book Both Can Be True (coming 2026!)

Whether you’re sober, sober-curious, or simply human, Jessica’s story is a reminder that addiction isn’t about weakness—it’s about suffering in silence. And recovery? It’s about finding your voice, telling your truth, and living unapologetically as yourself.

About Jessica:

Originally from the Bay Area, Jessica lives in Davis, California with her husband and three daughters. She has a background in special education but left the field to pursue her passion for writing and to raise her girls. Jessica Guerrieri is a vocal advocate for recovery with over 12 years of sobriety. Her debut literary book club fiction novel, Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea, won the Maurice Prize for Fiction from her alma mater, UC Davis.

Follow and connect with Jessica:

Website: www.jessicaguerrieri.net

Instagram: @jessicaguerrieriauthor

TikTok: @jessstayssober

Access the AB Process Course

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

In this episode, I cover:

• Confidence + Compassion — Why practicing self-compassion (instead of shame) is essential for resilience, and how confidence grows when we let ourselves be human.

Journal Prompt: Where in my recovery can I replace shame with compassion? How would I speak to myself if I were encouraging a friend?

• Humor as a tool — How laughter literally rewires the brain, releases dopamine, and helps us loosen the grip of shame and rigidity.

Journal Prompt: When was the last time I laughed in sobriety? How can I intentionally add more humor into my daily life?

• Creativity in recovery — Why engaging your creative side (writing, painting, music, even fashion) builds identity, provides healthy dopamine, and becomes a powerful tool for self-regulation.

Journal Prompt: What creative outlet feels exciting or nourishing to me right now? How can I make space for it this week?

• Emotional literacy + triggers — Learning to name and understand our emotions so they stop hijacking behavior, and how building emotional granularity keeps us from reaching for alcohol.

Journal Prompt: What emotion do I tend to avoid the most? How does it show up in my body, and what can I do to sit with it rather than numb it?

• Rewriting your story — The most powerful part of neuroplasticity: our identity is malleable. Every sober choice is a micro-edit to the story we tell ourselves, and we get to choose the ending.

Journal Prompt: If I were writing the next chapter of my story, what do I want it to sound like? What identity am I choosing today with my actions?

When you take these tools into real life, you don’t just stay sober—you rewire your brain for long-term freedom.

Access the AB Process Course

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

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In this solo episode of Rewired Sober, I’m walking you through the first four practices in what I call Kate’s 8—the eight core ways we actually rewire our brains in recovery.

Thanks to the science of neuroplasticity, we know that real change is possible—and I’ll show you how it happens.

In this episode, I cover:

• Interrupting old loops — How to identify the destructive thought-behavior cycles that used to end in drinking, and replace them with more empowering choices.
• Verbal processing — Why saying things out loud in a safe space helps build metacognition (the ability to think about your thinking) and shift from autopilot to conscious choice.
• Moving from reaction to reflection — Learning to create space between emotion and response so you can choose your actions instead of being ruled by impulsivity.
• Relational safety — How healing, trust, and new neural pathways are built through safe, compassionate connections with others (and why your brain can’t rewire in isolation).

Each practice comes with a simple journal prompt you can use to dig deeper and apply these tools in real time.

This is part one of a two-part series, so stay tuned for the next episode where I’ll unpack the second half of Kate’s 8.

Access the AB Process Course

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

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Michelle shares her personal journey with alcohol, from corporate entertaining and pandemic drinking to her realization that moderation wasn’t serving her anymore. Together, we dive into the intersection of sobriety, menopause, and midlife health—and the empowering freedom that comes when women take the reins on their wellbeing.

In this conversation, we explore:

• Michelle’s honest story of how her relationship with alcohol shifted during the pandemic.
• Why midlife is often the breaking point where women realize alcohol is not their friend.
• The science behind how alcohol impacts hormones, sleep, mood, and weight gain in perimenopause and menopause.
• The myth of moderation and why it doesn’t work for everyone.
• The often-ignored role of sleep, hydration, protein, and strength training in women’s midlife health.
• How conversations around alcohol and menopause are finally becoming less taboo—and why that matters.

Michelle’s work is all about helping women stop settling and start showing up for themselves. This episode is packed with real talk, science, and encouragement for anyone navigating sobriety and the massive physical changes of midlife.

Connect with Michelle:

Instagram: @askingforafriend_pod

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

In this episode, I unpack the six key reasons why procrastination shows up during sobriety and how we can gently work through it:

Six Reasons We Procrastinate in Recovery:

1) Low Dopamine Tolerance

Our brains are used to quick dopamine hits from alcohol. Without that, even basic tasks feel boring and unrewarding. I share ways to build motivation through small wins and habit stacking.

2) Nervous System Dysregulation

Sobriety means feeling everything again. Overwhelm can trigger a freeze response, making even simple tasks feel impossible. I talk about how to regulate your body and borrow safety from others.

3) Learned Helplessness

After repeated failures, we start believing we can’t succeed. I dive into how this mindset forms and how to break the cycle with messy action and micro wins.

4) Fear of Failure

Trying and failing feels unbearable, so we avoid trying at all. I share how to reframe failure as data and growth, not proof that we’re broken.

5) Fear of Success

Success means change, and change can feel threatening. I explore how fear of growth can lead to self-sabotage and how to embrace expansion safely.

6) Inner Critic Paralysis

That voice in your head telling you you’re not good enough? It’s trying to protect you—but it’s keeping you stuck. I offer ways to quiet the critic and take imperfect action.

Access the AB Process Course

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

We unpack the real transformation: moving from people-pleasing and control to clarity and confidence. Andrea shares how she survived early sobriety while parenting teens, traveling to Italy, going to Vegas (yeah, Vegas), and hosting milestone family events—all without pouring a drink.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why you don’t need a rock bottom to choose sobriety
• How people pleasing and control masked her internal chaos
• Letting go of the fantasy of “drinking like a normal person”
• The mental torture of moderation attempts
• Rewiring her relationship with fear, self-trust, and perfectionism
• What Italy, Vegas, and gelato taught her about sober joy
• The subtle but life-altering moment when she finally felt hope again

Andrea proves you can look like you’ve got it all together and still feel lost—and that healing is possible without hitting the floor. This one’s for the high-functioning women who are done trying to function their way through despair.

Connect with Andrea: https://www.instagram.com/rewritingsober/

Links: 

Access the AB Process Course

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

In this episode I cover:

• The brain’s “AB Process” and how it wires us to crave booze and crash after
• Why the wine witch hour isn’t about willpower—it’s about biology
• GABA, glutamate, dopamine & cortisol: what’s really going on in your brain
• How tolerance and withdrawal escalate over time (and why)
• Why early sobriety feels like a hormonal rollercoaster—and how long it really lasts
• Why understanding brain science is the ultimate tool to ditch shame and build lasting sobriety

I share the moment when everything clicked (in a Safeway parking lot, of all places), and how learning the science behind addiction finally made me feel empowered—not broken.

Links: 

Access the AB Process Course

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

From mirror neurons to narrative psychology, learn why your messy truth is the medicine—and how sharing it might be the most powerful recovery tool you have.

Today I cover:

• Why “stories go where science can’t” (but neuroscience is catching up!)
• The magic and messiness of early AA storytelling circles
• How mirror neurons and narrative psychology help us change
• The link between relational safety, vulnerability, and brain rewiring
• Why your recovery story evolves—and why that matters
• How storytelling softens self-judgment and builds compassion
• The science behind why hearing one powerful story can change everything
• Why women especially thrive through shared emotional narratives

Resources Mentioned:

• Burnout by Emily & Amelia Nagoski
• We Are the Luckiest by Laura McKowen
• Research by Dan McAdams

Links: 

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Together, we unpack how the illusion of “mommy wine culture” keeps so many women stuck, and how the simple act of showing up—being seen—can be the first step toward lasting change.

In this episode we talk about:

• Leah’s story of addiction, denial, and finally surrendering to recovery
• Why she didn’t think traditional 12-step recovery was for her
• The surprising power of a phone call from another sober mom
• What it's like to recover in the middle of motherhood
• The deep shame around secrecy, lying, and trying to do it all alone
• How visibility in community changed everything for her
• Why it took 4 months to tell her husband the truth—and how he responded
• The inspiration behind creating the Sober Mom Collective

Leah is the founder and CEO of the Sober Mom Collective, a certified holistic coach specializing in recovery, a postpartum doula, and a registered nurse. She is in recovery from alcohol use, cannabis use, depression, and anxiety, and is passionate about creating safe, inclusive spaces for moms navigating both sobriety and parenting.

Links + Resources:

• Learn more about The Sober Mom Collective
• Connect with Leah on Instagram: @sobermomcollective

Connect with Kate: https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Key Takeaways:

1. Even years into sobriety, old insecurities can resurface—and that’s normal.
2. Comparison is sneaky and shows up when you least expect it.
3. Sobriety isn’t just about not drinking—it’s about learning who you are and what still needs healing.
4. You don’t have to have it all together to have a good time or be proud of your progress.
5. A gritty hotel and a fashion icon can remind you how far you’ve come.

Connect with Kate on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rewiredsober/

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Tammy reflects on the internal pain that motivated her to change, the chronic health conditions that reinforced her decision, and the role of coaching in helping her face the truth, shed the victim mindset, and commit to growth. Her honest and relatable story is a reminder that recovery isn’t linear, but it is absolutely possible—even later in life.

Key Takeaways:

• Addiction doesn’t discriminate—being in healthcare doesn’t automatically mean you understand recovery.
• Tammy’s addiction shifted forms throughout her life: from food to smoking to alcohol, always as a way to escape emotional pain.
• Emotional wounds from childhood, including body shaming and generational trauma, can fuel disordered coping habits.
• Long-term sobriety required Tammy to build accountability, especially through women's recovery groups and coaching.
• Her turning point came from emotional exhaustion and a heartbreaking comment from her husband—not a public fallout or external crisis.
• Chronic health issues like pancreatitis and liver damage later reinforced the need to stay sober, but she had already made the internal shift before diagnoses.
• Coaching, especially with someone who has lived experience, helped her unpack denial, build healthier narratives, and stop seeing herself as a victim.
• Reclaiming her life included confronting past stories, healing family wounds, and learning to finally put herself first.
• Sobriety isn’t just about not drinking—it's a commitment to becoming your authentic self, even if that means rediscovering who you are in your 50s.

Connect with Tammy:

https://www.facebook.com/tammy.pozerycki

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

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Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

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In this episode I pull back the curtain on the real reasons for the name change, what I've learned about ego, identity, and Instagram, and how getting lost in vanity metrics nearly derailed the heart of my mission — to help women recover through neuroscience, storytelling, and soul-deep honesty.

If you’re craving a sober space that’s about rewiring your brain — not reposting filtered versions of your rock bottom — you’re in the right place.

Why the Name Change Matters

• The origin story of You’ve Been Selected and why it will always matter
• The shift toward a more grounded, neuroscience-rooted message with Rewired Sober
• Creating a safe space for women in recovery, not a public catwalk
• “Making soup”: building personalized sobriety recipes based on who you are, not what works for someone else
• Honouring neurodiversity, upbringing, trauma, and identity in recovery work

Why Rewiring Is the Work

• Addiction as a well-worn neural groove — and how we form new pathways
• Recovery through verbal processing, compassion, and community
• The role of laughter, creativity, and storytelling in healing the brain
• Why neuroscience and spirituality don’t have to be at odds

Links: 

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Beate shares her journey from growing up in Germany to making a "geographic" move to the U.S., thinking a new zip code could fix her heartbreak (and her drinking). Spoiler: it didn’t. But the story didn’t end there. After years of struggle, a 20-year marriage, and a full life reset, Beate found her way into sobriety — and, unexpectedly, into a whole new career helping other women find freedom through simplicity.

In this episode, we cover:

• How Beate discovered professional organizing after getting sober (and realized it was more emotional work than she expected).
• The link between addiction, clutter, and self-worth — and why sober women often feel stuck in their homes post-recovery.
• Reclaiming your space as a sober woman and redefining comfort and safety.
• Living intentionally, consuming consciously, and learning to say “no thanks” to a bag of random hand-me-downs.
• Beate’s transition from in-home organizing to digital offers and coaching — and her dream of building an army of sober, clutter-free women.

Whether you’re clearing out your closet or cleaning up your past, this episode is a heartfelt, hilarious, and grounding reminder that letting go — of stuff, of stories, of self-doubt — is powerful as hell.

Follow her journey on Instagram @noworganizing

Links: 

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

We go deep on how style isn't about playing dress-up for the world. It's about dressing in alignment with who you actually are. Whether you're stepping into sobriety, into leadership, or just into a new era of self, your closet shouldn't be holding you hostage to an outdated version of you.

Solita shares how getting dressed during the darkest season of her life became an act of self-care—and ultimately, survival.

Together, we unpack:

• Why style is about internal transformation first, not just external polish
• The myth that shopping fixes confidence (spoiler: it doesn’t)
• The fear women have of being “too much” and why color is an act of rebellion
• How personal style can shatter conformity and unleash executive presence
• Tips for reassessing your wardrobe when your identity has shifted—hello sobriety, hello authenticity

If you’ve ever stared at your closet and thought, “Nothing in here feels like me anymore,” this episode is for you.

Solita C. Roberts is a catalyst for transformation—unlocking the confidence and authenticity of women leaders to cultivate a bold leadership image and personal brand.

As a speaker and founder of Style To Impact, Solita partners with organizations, entrepreneurs, and mid-to-C-suite executives to develop influential leaders and position top talent with strategies to show up authentically appropriate, and increase executive presence. Her work has impacted over 18,000 women leaders and earned her a LinkedIn Top Voice recognition.

Solita understands the pressure to conform to traditional corporate image standards—often at the expense of one's authentic self.

That’s why she is passionate about pushing boundaries and redefining what it means to lead with authenticity in a professional world where it’s easy to feel unseen, unheard, or undervalued.

She believes style is a tool for empowerment, self-care, and resilience—enhancing presence, influence, and career growth.

When she’s not on stage or leading workshops, Solita enjoys exploring the world of pickleball, finding inspiration in books, and cherishing quiet moments alone.

To discover how Solita can help you or your team enhance perception, performance, and power by refining their executive presence, visit styletoimpact.com/workwithme.

Together, let’s lead with purpose, style with intention, and transform how you show up in the world.

Connect with Solita:

WEBSITE: https://styletoimpact.com/

INSTAGRAM: @styletoimpact https://www.instagram.com/solitacroberts/

LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/solitacroberts/

Connect with Kate:

The Gut Check: A Private Course for Self-Inquiry

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Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Celeste shares the powerful backstory behind her book It's Not About the Wine, and what it was like navigating early recovery with a deep fear of being “found out.” From unpacking inherited narratives around addiction to co-founding the transformative Sober Mom Squad, Celeste opens up about finding her voice—and using it to help others find theirs.

If you've ever felt like recovery looked like church basements and weak coffee, this episode will reframe what’s possible.

What We Talk About in This Episode:

• Celeste’s fear of being labeled an “alcoholic"
• Breaking the cycle of addiction inherited from family
• Writing publicly about sobriety for the first time
• Founding Sober Mom Squad and the power of virtual recovery community
• Why “Mommy Wine Culture” is more dangerous than we think
• Grief, growth, and what comes after the end of a chapter
• Discovering your voice in sobriety—and how to use it

Celeste Yvonne is a writer and certified recovery coach (IAPRC) whose essays on parenting, the mental load of motherhood, and sobriety have been featured in the Washington Post, Good Morning America, Today Show, and Refinery 29, among others. Her book It's Not About the Wine: The Loaded Truth Behind Mommy Wine Culture addresses why women are drinking more than ever and how to break free. She is also a contributing writer to the Wall Street Journal and Publishers Weekly bestseller So God Made a Mother. More than seven years sober, Celeste advocates for mothers who struggle with addiction and mental health. She lives in Nevada with her husband and two children.

www.celesteyvonne.com

www.instagram.com/theultimatemomchallenge

www.facebook.com/theultimatemomchallenge

The Gut Check: A Private Course for Self-Inquiry

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Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

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This episode is an honest, wide-ranging look at the realities behind building a meaningful business, facing personal breaking points, and evolving through discomfort. Marsha and I discuss what it really means to stay in the long game, whether it's in podcasting, personal growth, or entrepreneurship—and how choosing yourself, again and again, is an essential part of the process.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The emotional toll of starting a podcast and staying consistent
• Marsha’s experience parenting through teen addiction and how it shaped her voice
• What it means to reach a breaking point—and how to rebuild from it
• The danger of building a business that doesn’t reflect your values
• Why making space (not doing more) is key to creating what you actually want
• How NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) helps uncover blind spots and reprogram your mindset
• Reframing challenges as part of your growth and legacy

Marsha Vanwynsberghe is an NLP Trainer, Author, Speaker, Podcaster, and Boutique Publisher. She is the six-time Best-Selling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why.” She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse, which is where her journey and business began. 

Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Write Your Damn Book Mastermind, Coaching Programs, and Own Your Choices Own Your Life podcast, Marsha teaches people how to reframe and reprogram their thoughts, beliefs and stories to Become OUTSPOKEN Global Thought Leaders. 

Website: https://www.marshavanw.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marshavanw/

Podcast: Own Your Choices Own Your Life: https://apple.co/3h2Jcti

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend or leave a review wherever you listen. Your support helps more listeners find these powerful conversations.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Together we share how our social life has evolved in sobriety—from bar brawls and boring nights in to a packed calendar filled with live music, fashion shows, comedy, art events, photography gigs, and spontaneous "treasure hunts" at flea markets.

Not only that, our marriage and personal interests have flourished, and being sober has enhanced our ability to enjoy and explore life. From mocktails to night drives, downtown adventures to daytime dates, we prove that a sober life doesn’t mean a boring one—it means a better one.

We talk about:

• What our social life looked like before vs. after sobriety
• How sobriety sparked new passions in fashion and photography
• Making space for joy, creativity, and meaningful connection
• Laugh-out-loud moments from comedy clubs to green rooms
• How being sober brings clarity, safety, and financial freedom

Connect with Phillip:

https://www.instagram.com/a13photography/

SMART Recovery Meeting Finder

https://smartrecovery.org/meeting

The Gut Check: A Private Course for Self-Inquiry

Register here to gain immediate access to Gut Check—your space for clarity, relief, and next steps.

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https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

https://www.katevitela.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

This episode is both a behind-the-scenes look at why The Gut Check course was created and an invitation to explore what happens when we pause before the pivot.

Whether you’re questioning your relationship with alcohol, stuck in comparison traps, or simply wondering “Is this working for me anymore?”, this episode and course are designed to meet you in that sacred space of curiosity without judgment.

In this episode I cover:

• Why The Gut Check isn’t a sobriety bootcamp or an “Am I an alcoholic?” quiz
• The power of internal consequences and invisible pain
• How fear masks itself as logic—and keeps us stuck
• Why curiosity is key, and how it opens the door to transformation
• Reframing the concept of “rock bottom” and making space for quiet truth
• Why it’s never too late to rewrite your story

The Gut Check: A Private Course for Self-Inquiry

Register here to gain immediate access to Gut Check—your space for clarity, relief, and next steps.

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/offers/2et4yoCH

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Catherine celebrates 37 years of continuous sobriety, and her life’s work is a testament to what happens when you listen to the inner whisper that says, “There’s more to life than what you’re living.” From battling meth addiction at 18 to gracing the walls of galleries in Paris, Milan, and Los Angeles, Catherine shares the raw truth of what it takes to own your space, your voice, and your art.

Catherine shares:

• The spiritual nudge that saved her life
• How creativity became a lifeline and a practice of truth
• Battling impostor syndrome (even at the top of your game)
• What it means to step into your full power — before you feel ready
• The behind-the-scenes of her recent international art exhibitions
• Using self-inquiry and awareness to quiet the inner critic
• Raising her incredible son Max, and how their collaboration redefines inclusion and love

This episode is packed with spiritual sass, real-deal honesty, and tender reflection on what it really means to be selected for something more.

Connect with Catherine:

Website: http://www.catherinejust.com

Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/cjust

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4bo0oqdchsxKMwMPC8ghBn?si=88cb4b8ce7b8439b

Free Masterclass April 16-18: https://www.catherinejust.com/courses#/deardoubt/

The Deepening : Online Creativity Mentoring Program: https://www.catherinejust.com/courses#/thedeepening/

Fine Art: https://www.catherinejust.com/art-portfolios

Photo Sessions: https://www.catherinejust.com/photo-sessions

NMFW Devotional Kits: https://catherinejust.myflodesk.com/vd8gi8o8pq

NMFW Merch: https://www.catherinejust.com/shop

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

I discuss:

• The real meaning behind “get a life” after getting sober
• How fashion helped Kate find her footing in recovery
• The identity crisis of ditching wine-soaked glam for authentic style
• From "Hollywood Kate" to conscious consumer — the evolution of a personal brand
• The cringe, the chaos, and the clarity of navigating fast fashion, designer dupes, and RealReal regrets
• How personal development and personal style are deeply connected

Links: 

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

In this episode Phillip shares:

• The night he wrecked his car—and how it saved his life
• The emotional toll of transitioning out of the military
• Binge drinking, masculinity, and cultural expectations around alcohol
• How relationships can grow together even when recovery looks different
• The stigma (and silence) around sobriety in certain families and communities and the work he gets to do now

Connect with Phillip:

https://www.instagram.com/a13photography/

SMART Recovery Meeting Finder

https://smartrecovery.org/meeting

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

For many of us, the next layer of recovery is learning how to navigate our relationships without numbing, fixing, or losing ourselves in other people.

This one is for anyone who is navigating sobriety with a partner who still drinks.

• What happens when your nervous system finally stops buzzing
• Why peace can feel threatening after a lifetime of survival mode
• The sneaky ways people-pleasing and codependency show up post-sobriety
• Setting boundaries without guilt (and why it’s so damn hard)
• Healing the real root of addiction: disconnection from self

If you’re sober (or sober curious) and finding that your relationships are now the thing taking up all your emotional bandwidth, you are so not alone.

Links: 

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

What I cover in this episode:

• The painful intersection of sobriety and bulimia: why getting sober didn’t magically “fix” everything.
• My personal wake-up call: how I finally confronted disordered eating after years of hiding it.
• The power of radical honesty — and how speaking up was the beginning of my real healing.
• Setting boundaries was so important
• Why your recovery — from anything — deserves protection, boundaries, and a whole lot of grace.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Bright Line Eating
• The Body Is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor

If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or tag me on social https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

You’re not alone — and you never have to heal in silence. 💛

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

What we cover:

• Our honest, unfiltered truth about love, recovery, and the hidden battles that we both faced throughout the years
• Phillip openly shares how he felt during my rock-bottom moments
• Philip shares his own struggles, the myths he believed about addiction, and the hard-earned lessons he learned
• Where we are today and how through our experiences we can show up to help others who are navigating a similar path

Connect With Kate

https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

https://www.katevitela.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

What We Cover:

• Dr. Kelly’s personal struggle – Losing custody of his children to addiction and fighting his way back.
• Building a recovery empire – How he turned his pain into a powerful business that changes lives.
• The science of rewiring the brain – Addiction isn’t a life sentence if you do the work.
• Childhood trauma: The real gateway drug – Why past wounds fuel addiction and how to heal them.
• Breaking the “I’m not enough” myth – The limiting belief that keeps people stuck, and how Dr. Kelly shatters it in his unconventional way.
• Uncover, Discover, Discard – His powerful words for letting go of the past and building a new future.
• The importance of willingness – No one can want recovery for you. You have to step up.

This episode is raw, real, and in-your-face. If you’re looking for sugarcoating, this isn’t it. But if you want the hard truth about what it takes to recover and stay recovered? Press play.

Resources:

📖 Dr. Robb Kelly’s book:  Daddy, Daddy, Please Stop Drinking

https://a.co/d/d1nyj32  

🔗 Connect with Dr. Robb Kelly 

www.robbkelly.com

https://linktr.ee/drrobbkelly?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=a3a9a3a4-ee1d-463c-850d-a9c3ad956280

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

What I Share in This Episode:

• The power of experiencing NYC sober – How this city has become proof that I can do anything without alcohol.
• Break Free Fashion Show – How being part of this mental health and recovery movement made NYC even more special.
• Why you can truly do ANYTHING sober – Alcohol made me dream big but never take action. Sobriety made the impossible, possible.
• Things I’m proud of myself for – Reflecting on 7 years of growth, risks, and wins.
• Getting tattoos & being myself unapologetically – Why I no longer fear embracing who I really am.
• Meeting my fashion icon, Pat Fields – A full-circle moment that reminded me to embrace life and go with the flow

This solo episode is personal, raw, and a reminder that sobriety doesn’t limit you—it unlocks everything you thought was out of reach.

Resources & Ways to Connect:

🖤 Support Break Free (New York Fashion Week)  & their mission: 

https://www.breakfreenyfw.com/ 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Kate unpacks how gratitude, when done authentically, is less about ignoring pain and more about reframing it as an act of rebellion against a world that constantly tells us we’re not enough, don’t have enough, or need more.

Key topics in this episode:

• Why Gratitude Annoyed Her: A candid look at Kate’s resistance to cheesy gratitude sayings and toxic positivity.
• Reframing Gratitude as Rebellion: How gratitude can be a bold, intentional stand against a culture of scarcity and dissatisfaction.
• Happiness Feedback Loops and Neuroplasticity: The science behind how practicing gratitude rewires the brain, creating new patterns of happiness and contentment.
• Embodying the Infinite Game: Kate shares why she got a tattoo that says “Embody the Infinite Game” and how it reminds her to play for growth, connection, and meaning rather than winning or achieving in life.

This episode is full of humor, honesty, and practical insights, as Kate explores how gratitude isn’t about pretending everything’s fine—it’s about embracing the messy, painful, and beautiful reality of life with open arms.

Why Listen?

If you’ve ever felt like gratitude is just another thing you “should” do, this episode will change your perspective. Kate’s take is raw, relatable, and grounded in both personal experience and brain science.

Join Kate as she flips the script on gratitude and shows how it can be a rebellious, transformative tool for healing and growth. Tune in for laughs, insights, and a refreshing dose of realness.

Connect with Kate 

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

https://www.katevitela.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Throughout our conversation, we explored the misconceptions surrounding addiction, particularly the stigma that often accompanies it. Kate emphasized the importance of understanding addiction as a complex issue rooted in pain and trauma rather than a moral failing. She highlighted the need for compassion and support for those struggling with addiction and how her coaching practice aims to provide a safe space for individuals to explore their relationship with alcohol.

Connect with Marsha:

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

Download FREE “You Are Supported” Hypnosis and Subliminal Bundle HERE 

Join the next cohort of OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification (kick-off in March 2025) HERE

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Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Together, Kate and Sarah discuss the profound impact this experience had on Sarah’s mission to create a space where women feel seen, heard, and safe. This inspired her to form a women’s group centered on sisterhood, self-awareness, and emotional safety—a place where vulnerability can flourish and healing begins.

Key topics covered in this episode:

• Jenny’s Story: The connection between gastric bypass, addiction, and its often-overlooked risks.
• The Power of Sisterhood: Why creating spaces of safety and mutual understanding for women is essential.
• The Unsung Hero in Group Spaces: Exploring the power of the witness—how listening and holding space can be as healing as sharing.
• Feeling Seen and Heard: How group connections allow women to process pain, shed shame, and find hope—sometimes saving lives in the process.

This episode is a reminder of the profound impact of community and the ripple effect of creating spaces where women can authentically connect. Whether you’re in recovery or seeking deeper connection, this conversation will inspire you to reflect on the importance of being both seen and a witness to others.

Connect with Sarah Morgando

https://www.thejourneytc.com/

https://www.instagram.com/sarahmorgando/

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Kate explores how Sisterhood Rising creates a space where women in recovery can come together to dismantle these wounds and foster authentic connection. This concept is especially vital in female sober circles, where fears of judgment about parenting, body image, or womanhood often prevent vulnerability and connection.

Topics Covered in This Episode:

• The story behind Sisterhood Rising and its mission to honor Sarah’s sister.
• What the “sister wound” is and how it shows up in recovery and daily life.
• How judgment and comparison can isolate women, even in sober communities.
• Why healing these wounds is essential for building trust, connection, and emotional resilience.
• Practical ways women can support each other instead of competing or comparing.

Kate reflects on the courage it takes to break cycles of judgment and comparison and how groups like Sisterhood Rising create transformative spaces where women can truly rise together.

Tune in for an honest conversation about breaking barriers, building community, and fostering sisterhood in sobriety.

Follow and subscribe for more episodes on recovery, connection, and living a purpose-driven life.

Connect with Sarah Morgando

https://www.thejourneytc.com/

https://www.instagram.com/sarahmorgando/

Follow and subscribe for more honest conversations about life, recovery, and growth!

Links

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

From humble beginnings to walking the runway at NYFW, Kate and Alysse recount their adventures in NYC, their shared passion for sober creativity, and their plans to bring even more entertaining content to The Sober Curator.

Tune in for:

• The origin story of The Sober Curator.
• Kate’s unexpected journey from fashion blogging to NYFW.
• Funny stories from their escapades in NYC.
• Why the sober world needs fun, relatable media like The Sober Curator.

Get ready for laughs, inspiration, and a sneak peek at what’s next in the world of sober creativity.

Follow and subscribe for more stories, laughs, and recovery inspiration!

Connect with Alysse Bryson or The Sober Curator: 

https://www.instagram.com/alysseinthecity/

https://thesobercurator.com/

“The Shift” Group Coaching with Jessica Landon & Kate Vitela 

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/222

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Key highlights from the episode include:

• The Sober Social Media Boom: Veronica explores the positive and negative impacts of social media on the recovery community, including how it fosters connection but can also spread misinformation.
• Sober Influencers and the “Guru” Effect: Why it’s crucial for people in recovery to recognize the difference between genuine inspiration and self-appointed experts.
• Doing Your Research: Veronica stresses the importance of evaluating credentials, understanding the source of advice, and avoiding blind allegiance to influencers.
• Personal Accountability in Recovery: How to take ownership of your journey while using social media and other platforms as tools—not substitutes—for deeper work.
• The Evolving Recovery Space: Veronica’s insights on how recovery is shifting in the digital age and what the community can do to uphold integrity and authenticity.

Veronica’s wisdom and candid approach make this a must-listen for anyone navigating recovery in the social media era. She offers practical advice for cutting through the noise and staying grounded in your personal path to sobriety.

Connect with Veronica Valli:

 https://www.instagram.com/veronicajvalli/

“The Shift” Group Coaching with Jessica Landon & Kate Vitela 

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/222

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Kate explains how PAWS symptoms like mood swings, self-doubt, and emotional instability can leave you feeling frustrated and discouraged, especially if you’re navigating recovery without a supportive community. She also shares why understanding this phase of recovery is crucial for building resilience and staying on track.

Topics Covered in This Episode:

• What is PAWS, and why does it linger for months (or even years) after getting sober?
• The emotional rollercoaster: Why mood swings, irritability, and self-doubt are so common.
• How PAWS can sneak up on you and impact your motivation.
• The importance of seeking sober support through community, meetings, or coaching.
• Practical tools to stay grounded and hopeful during the PAWS phase.

Kate offers relatable insights and actionable advice to help you navigate this challenging part of recovery. With the right tools and support, PAWS doesn’t have to derail your progress—it can become an opportunity for growth and deeper healing.

Tune in to learn how to stay the course and build a strong foundation for lasting sobriety.

Follow and subscribe for more episodes on recovery, emotional resilience, and living the infinite game of life.

Connect w/Kate:

https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

https://www.katevitela.com 

“The Shift” Group Coaching with Jessica Landon & Kate Vitela 

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/222

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

• Willingness: The courage to take the first step and remain open to growth.
• Humor: Finding the light in dark moments to stay grounded and keep perspective.
• Honesty: Embracing radical truth with yourself and others, even when it’s hard.
• Humility: Recognizing your limitations and embracing the strength in asking for help.
• Abstinence: Staying committed to sobriety as the foundation of freedom.
• Consistency: Showing up for yourself every single day to build momentum and trust.

Kate unpacks how each of these faucets contributes to emotional and spiritual freedom, sharing relatable stories, actionable tips, and a healthy dose of humor to keep it real. Whether you’re in recovery, personal growth, or navigating life’s challenges, this episode provides a practical and inspiring guide to living with purpose and intention.

Tune in to discover:

• Why willingness is the key to opening every other faucet.
• How humor can shift your perspective and create space for healing.
• The power of honesty and humility in building authentic connections.
• Why consistency—not perfection—is what leads to lasting change.

Grab a notebook, open your mind, and get ready to WHAC your way to freedom!

Follow and subscribe for more episodes on recovery, personal growth, and embracing the infinite game of life.

Links: 

Connect With Kate

https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

https://www.katevitela.com 

“The Shift” Group Coaching with Jessica Landon & Kate Vitela 

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/222

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Key highlights from this episode include:

• The Early Days of Recovery: How reading a book inspired Kate to take the first brave step toward sobriety by attending recovery meetings.
• The Pandemic Shift: Navigating the closure of in-person meetings during COVID and the struggle to stay connected to her sobriety.
• Discovering Online Communities: Finding solace in groups like Sober Mom Squad and The Luckiest Club, and how these communities filled the gap when in-person meetings were no longer an option.
• Finding the Right Messaging: Why it was crucial for Kate to explore different recovery approaches and discover the messages that resonated most with her at each stage of her journey.
• Brave and Empowering Personal Discovery: How diving deep into addiction research and personal growth allowed Kate to confront her fears, challenge limiting beliefs, and step into a new, empowered version of herself.

This episode is an honest and relatable look at the twists and turns of recovery, from finding the courage to ask for help to redefining what sobriety looks like on your own terms.

Whether you’re new to sobriety or navigating your own path, this episode is a powerful reminder that recovery is a deeply personal journey—and finding what works for you is the key.

Resources for Recovery Meetings Mentioned: 

TLC https://www.theluckiestclub.com/

SMS https://www.sobermomsquad.com/

Links 

Connect With Kate

https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

https://www.katevitela.com 

“The Shift” Group Coaching with Jessica Landon & Kate Vitela 

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/222

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Key highlights from the episode include:

• Healing as a Lifelong Journey: Why Jessica embraces the idea that there is no final destination in recovery, only growth and learning.
• Spirituality as a Foundation: How connecting with a higher power and cultivating spiritual practices has anchored her recovery.
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• The Importance of a Multi-Faceted Recovery Program: Jessica emphasizes creating a recovery approach with no single point of failure, combining tools like therapy, fellowship, and self-reflection.
• Parenthood and Marriage in Sobriety: The unique challenges of maintaining sobriety while balancing the roles of partner and parent, and how she applies recovery principles to her personal relationships.

This episode is a powerful reminder that progress, not perfection, is the key to long-term sobriety and personal growth. Whether you’re newly sober, in long-term recovery, or simply looking for inspiration, Jessica’s story offers valuable insights into navigating life’s challenges with grace and resilience.

Links:

 Jessica’s Instagram 

https://www.instagram.com/jessicalandon12/

 Fight Addiction Now:  

https://www.facebook.com/fightaddictionnow.org

“The Shift” Group Coaching with Jessica Landon & Kate Vitela 

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/222

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

This episode explores:

• Why hitting rock bottom taught her everything.
• The importance of humor in facing life’s challenges.
• How adaptability and community foster resilience.
• Sisterhood as a source of strength and support.
• Feeling the emotions fully without spiritually bypassing them.
• Learning to “embrace the suck” and show up anyway. 

Kate’s candid and inspiring take on resilience will leave you feeling seen, supported, and ready to tackle life’s tough moments.

Follow and subscribe for more honest conversations about life, recovery, and growth!

Links

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

Kate recounts how the monitoring program worked, including the infamous app that would show “You Been Selected” in red letters on days she was summoned for a UA. Despite the challenges, Kate found her turning point, got sober in 2018, and began her journey back—ultimately being hired as a psychiatric nurse.

This episode dives into:

• The spiral of addiction: from personal struggles to professional consequences.
• How rock bottom became the foundation for recovery.
• The emotional journey of navigating the monitoring program.
• Finding purpose and hope as a psychiatric nurse in recovery.

Kate’s raw and inspiring story shows that even from the darkest moments, growth and transformation are possible.

Follow and subscribe for more real talk and recovery inspiration!

Links: 

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

This raw and honest conversation explores:

• Battling self-worth issues tied to body image.
• The intersection of disordered eating and control.
• How the search for validation can lead to self-destruction.
• The pivotal moment when alcohol became her escape.

This story is To Be Continued……(Hint: Check Out Episode 2)

Follow and subscribe to never miss an episode!

Links: 

You can find Kate on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katevitela/

Explore Kate’s blog: https://thesobercurator.com/category/sober-lifestyle/youve-been-selected/

Work with Kate: https://linktr.ee/KateVitela

Email Podcast: team@katevitelacoaching.com 

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program

So this podcast is about when life flipped the script on me. I went from being a nurse and what I thought was a high functioning professional to someone whose entire life revolved around alcohol.

The next thing I knew, I was in a monitoring program for nurses with substance use disorders.

I was checking this app every single day to see if I had, quote, been selected for a random ua. The letters would pop up on my screen. Bright red letters that said, you've been selected.

And one day I was looking at those and it just hit me. What if I'd been selected for more?

What if it was more than about staying sober and checking a box and getting through this program?

What if there was a purpose to all this? Like a bigger purpose? Like, I had been selected to live on purpose, to inspire, to create, to coach and mentor others through what feels like some of the worst days of your life.

And I'm ready to walk through this with you and come out on the other side. But this podcast is not just about sobriety.

It's about personal development.

It's about living on purpose.

Because when we live on purpose, we discover who we really are.

Mentioned in this episode:

Rewired Sober Group Coaching Program

https://kate-vitela.mykajabi.com/rewired-sober-coaching-program